Posts Tagged ‘dating’
It is hard to find a Christian to date
Question: To Whom It May Concern, I am a 27-year-old male, never married, and have no children. I’m single and am a member of a local church of Christ. My question is regarding relationships. There are no opportunities for me to date where I am a member. I want to wait on the Lord patiently…
Read MoreWhy am I forced to be single?
Question: I am 43 male Christian. I have never been married, and I am a virgin. I never chose to be single or celibate. I could never gain the interest of the opposite sex, so I have been forced to be celibate. Does being forced to be celibate and not being able to get a…
Read MoreHow do I deal with a boyfriend who won’t respect boundaries?
Question: Dear brothers in Christ, I am writing to you because I need your advice. My soul is weary, and my heart is exhausted. I am a Christian girl in my mid-twenties. I worship in a church of Christ. I grew up in a Christian family. Only one of my siblings didn’t become a Christian.…
Read MoreShould I break up with my boyfriend?
Question: I hope this message finds you well. I’m reaching out because I need guidance and advice regarding my current relationship and spiritual walk. Here’s my situation: My boyfriend and I met at university. He had set up his business there, and I was still a student. We became good friends, although he never made any…
Read MoreI fell into fornication with a man I met a few weeks ago
Questions: Hi, I am glad I found your page and was led to report this situation to a true man of God. I rededicated my life back to God last year, and for almost two years, I have been single and waiting on God. Weeks ago, I met a man who really loves me, and…
Read MoreI’m feeling guilty about cheating on my girlfriend
Question: Hello, I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for three years now. When we met, she hadn’t been with anyone before, while I had multiple past relationships. Over time, I pressured her into being intimate before marriage—something she agreed to, perhaps out of love or other reasons. Recently, I was unfaithful to her…
Read MoreI suggested a plan for overcoming sexual sin, but my girlfriend wants to take a break
Question: Hey, My girlfriend and I have been struggling with sexual sin. We’ve been praying for God to help us. I suggested a plan for us to get better: We should both ask God and each other for forgiveness individually. Read Psalm 38 together, thinking about each verse and writing down our thoughts. List all…
Read MoreWe took a break in our relationship, but I don’t know if I want to get back together
Question: Dear Mr Hamilton, I hope this finds you well. I read an article from your website titled “Can a couple who committed fornication manage to have a good marriage?” It was wonderful and answered many of my questions because my scenario is similar to the one narrated in the article. The difference is in…
Read MoreI don’t think I’m ready to get married
Question: Good afternoon, sir, I have a question. Please help me. I have a girlfriend I dated for three years, and she wants me to marry her. Honestly, I love her, but I have not yet reached the decision to marry her. Somehow, I feel like I am being pushed by her into marriage because…
Read MoreShould I marry this woman?
Question: Hi, I’m a male in my late twenties. I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who is a few years older, for several years. It’s been rocky because we didn’t have God as the center of our relationship until the last few months. To make a super long story a lot shorter, there have been many…
Read MoreShould a couple marry because they will be having a child?
Question: Hello, What do you think about a couple who have been dating for five months, argue often for various reasons, and she gets pregnant? The guy is not sure she could be a good wife because he doesn’t like things about her. Do you think they should get married just because they’re having a…
Read MoreHow do I move forward from a breakup?
Question: Good evening, I’m relatively new to this website, but I have found it particularly helpful for hearing Q&A’s specifically related to Christian life. I’m a freshman college student who dated a girl for around 4-5 months when college started. It has been almost three months since she broke up. I’ve been slowly getting better,…
Read MoreLooking for a Man
by Dene Ward via FlightPaths.org Sometimes, I wish we had taught classes in our churches specifically about what to look for in a mate. I have seen too many young people looking at only the outer man to decide whether he is suitable to marry. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got…
Read MoreWhen There Seems to Be No Fish Out in the Sea
by Orlando Gonzalez The Western World widely sees the month of February as a time for love, a significant period in the year to celebrate romance, to be more specific. Romantic relationships have become a primary focus for many (no surprise there), especially for those who are single and sincerely want to take the next…
Read MoreWho should pay for a date?
Question: I am dating my boyfriend. He always pays, and I always express how grateful I am. Last month, his card was stolen, and his bank account was frozen. During that month, I would pay for our outings. I never paid intending to have to. In my heart, I knew it was the right thing…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my parents about my sins?
Question: Hello! I’m writing out for advice on what to do. I am a female in my twenties. I have a boyfriend and we had sinned sexually previously. We felt so much guilt and knew it was wrong. We went with our pastor and he gave us advice. He told us to talk it out…
Read MoreHow do I convince my girlfriend that I’m the right person for her?
Question: Good day, I’m in my mid-twenties and my girlfriend is in her early-twenties. We’ve been dating for just over a year and we love each other very deeply. We are committed to each other with the intention of being together long-term. She was having a few doubts because of our religious differences. She’s Christian…
Read MoreIs it bad to date a worldly-minded person?
Question: I hope this email finds you well! I have a question for you about relationships as a Christian. I’m a Christian and a part of a denomination. I believe that loving God and praising the Lord is universal, and universally there are things you should and shouldn’t do. I have a few questions. I…
Read MoreIs it fair that I leave her heartbroken?
Question: Praise the Lord to you all. I am writing this to you to find the answer for my situation that is according to the Bible and just, correct, right, and holy in the eyes of our God. I was born into a very respectful Christian family. My grandparents and my parents are all devoted…
Read MoreIs my fiance’s behavior a red flag?
Question: Hello, I have a question. I found out my “fiancé” was texting another woman behind my back, in secret. He claims they are only friends and have been talking for two months. He says they haven’t seen each other the two times she visited his workplace for help, which is where he met her. When…
Read MoreWould God override someone’s free will to marry me?
Question: Hi, I have a question about me personally and the desire to marry. I’m a 33-year-old, virgin, born-again Christian. I had, years ago when I was in college, a moment with God. I asked God if this one girl I could date and I knew God spoke to me and said, “You have free…
Read MoreA Little Dating Advice for Singles
by David Maxson “Now in all Israel there was no one so much to be praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish on him”(II Samuel 14:25). How much stock do you put into appearance? To some, it’s the first…
Read MoreWould God punish someone with a life of singleness?
Question: Do you think God would punish someone to a life of singleness? I know it’s a silly question, but sometimes I get intrusive thoughts that tell me that I’m bound to be single. These thoughts make me feel very sad and uncomfortable. After I got baptized I started having OCD thoughts because I was…
Read MoreReasonable Risks
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Reasonable-Risks.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Esther 4:7-16 I. Increasingly I run into people who are obsessive-compulsive. A. It is sometimes referred to as the doubter’s disease because the sufferer is constantly plagued with uncertainty. 1. A person might repeatedly wash his hands because he might not have done a thorough enough cleaning earlier 2. Another might constantly…
Read MoreShould I marry my fiance, who is not a practicing Christian?
Question: Should I marry my fiancé? My fiancé and I have been dating for 7 years. I was 17 when I met him and living a worldly life (partying, drinking, smoking, cursing) I entered my relationship with my current fiancé because he answered this question: “Are you Christian?” and his answer was “yes.” He grew…
Read MoreI Wish Someone Had Told Me
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/I-Wish-Someone-Had-Told-Me.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Proverbs 5:7-14 I. I ran across an article by Chuck Lawless about “Ten Conversations I Wish Someone Had with Me as a Teenager.” A. Hindsight generally reveals that mistakes could have been avoided B. I constantly get told: “I wish someone had told me just how bad this could get” C. And…
Read MoreShould I marry a man who is less educated than I am?
Question: Good evening, I need counsel. I am a 28-year-old African lady, a Christian with a degree in Nursing Science, and currently working as a Registered Nurse in my country. I have deliberately mentioned my African origin, education, and professional qualification because my concern is around this aspect. I was raised in a Christian home with…
Read MoreA Good Mate
A Good Mate – Part 1A Good Mate – Part 2A Good Mate – Part 3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Peter 3:1-7 I. Introduction A. Many, if not most people, spend a fair chunk of their life trying to reach a decision regarding who they will marry B. Sadly, most leave this important choice to…
Read MoreI’m afraid of being in a relationship
Question: Good day sir, I appreciate all you do to help people. Most importantly you do this only to please God and not man. I am in my 30s and I know I should be married by now. A major factor for being unmarried yet is nuclear family financial responsibilities. The more I try to…
Read MoreMy fiance’s family will never love me
Question: Dear sir, Please, I need your advice. I was dating this young guy, who I thought we would spend much time together for the rest of our lives. Instead, little did I know that he was just playing with me, after some time the communication just started breaking down. It came from nowhere. I…
Read MoreHow do I convert my Hindu girlfriend?
Question: Hello sir, I have this question — it is more like a problem. I started dating this girl, but she’s of a different religion (Hindu). I am a Christian. I like this girl. What should I do? How do I convert her to Christianity? Please respond to me. Answer: Teaching anyone to become a…
Read MoreWhat if the man I want to marry turns out to be a polygamist?
Question: Good afternoon sir, I’m in a relationship with a guy who comes from a polygamous family I love him and want to marry him but I’m scared of the future. His mother is harsh, and although I’ve been praying about it, I am worried about the future. What if he turns out to be…
Read MoreDid God cause our break-up because of our sins?
Question: My girlfriend and I were together for just over a year. After two months of being together, we, unfortunately, committed fornication. We both know that it is wrong but we fell into the temptation countless times. There would be times that we would stop because it was bad, but we would just do it…
Read MoreI want to date a Christian boy but I’m suspect that I’m pregnant by my former boyfriend
Question: I am 24 years old, I’ve slept with ten men already since I turned 20. I’ve never wanted to live such a life but I have let my emotions take control of me. Presently, I’m in a critical condition. I suspect that I’m pregnant by a guy I recently met. I ended the relationship…
Read MoreWill God restore our relationship?
Question: I committed serious sexual sins with my girlfriend over the last 4 years. We broke up recently. I want to truly and deeply repent for my sexual sins. How can I be washed clean because my sins are great? I hear a call to repentance. Will God restore my broken relationship? It is my…
Read MoreI learn a ton from your writings
Question: In reference to It is getting hard not to have sex. I want to marry my boyfriend, but I don’t want to give up my independence. Can we get married so we can have sex, but still live apart? I just want to say – such good answers. Bless your heart! — for taking…
Read MoreHow do I find a godly man?
Question: I Corinthians 7:9 says it’s better to marry than to burn, but what if I can’t find anyone willing to build a godly marriage and abstain from premarital sex? I’m a 26-year-old woman and I have been faithful in respecting my body and God’s commandments. I’m still a virgin and haven’t fallen prey to…
Read MoreHow do I keep my virginity without him cheating on me?
Question: Good evening, I am a new member. Please, I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have a fiance who promised to marry me, He is always asking me to come to his place. Is it advisable? Answer: When I teach young people about sexual matters, I give extra emphasis to the young…
Read MoreI know God has been keeping me with my boyfriend, so am I wrong to stay?
Question: Praise the Lord, I’m an 18 years old Christian girl and am dating a Muslim boy who’s 22 years old now. We have been in a relationship for two years now. We are deeply in love and are planning to get married after two years when I am done with my college. About my…
Read MoreI’m worried that I might not find a husband
Question: Good morning, I lived my life believing in God and wanting to do God’s will. I focused my studies on what I believed was God’s will for me, and in my personal life, I tried to help others when I could. I’ve tried to attend a church that focuses on following the Bible. Unfortunately,…
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