I don’t think I’m ready to get married

Question: Good afternoon, sir, I have a question. Please help me. I have a girlfriend I dated for three years, and she wants me to marry her. Honestly, I love her, but I have not yet reached the decision to marry her. Somehow, I feel like I am being pushed by her into marriage because…

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Should I marry this woman?

Question: Hi, I’m a male in my late twenties. I’ve been dating my girlfriend, who is a few years older, for several years. It’s been rocky because we didn’t have God as the center of our relationship until the last few months. To make a super long story a lot shorter, there have been many…

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Should a couple marry because they will be having a child?

Question: Hello, What do you think about a couple who have been dating for five months, argue often for various reasons, and she gets pregnant? The guy is not sure she could be a good wife because he doesn’t like things about her. Do you think they should get married just because they’re having a…

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How do I move forward from a breakup?

Question: Good evening, I’m relatively new to this website, but I have found it particularly helpful for hearing Q&A’s specifically related to Christian life. I’m a freshman college student who dated a girl for around 4-5 months when college started. It has been almost three months since she broke up. I’ve been slowly getting better,…

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Looking for a Man

by Dene Ward via FlightPaths.org Sometimes, I wish we had taught classes in our churches specifically about what to look for in a mate. I have seen too many young people looking at only the outer man to decide whether he is suitable to marry. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got…

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When There Seems to Be No Fish Out in the Sea

by Orlando Gonzalez The Western World widely sees the month of February as a time for love, a significant period in the year to celebrate romance, to be more specific. Romantic relationships have become a primary focus for many (no surprise there), especially for those who are single and sincerely want to take the next…

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Who should pay for a date?

Question: I am dating my boyfriend. He always pays, and I always express how grateful I am. Last month, his card was stolen, and his bank account was frozen. During that month, I would pay for our outings. I never paid intending to have to. In my heart, I knew it was the right thing…

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Do I need to tell my parents about my sins?

Question: Hello! I’m writing out for advice on what to do. I am a female in my twenties. I have a boyfriend and we had sinned sexually previously. We felt so much guilt and knew it was wrong. We went with our pastor and he gave us advice. He told us to talk it out…

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How do I convince my girlfriend that I’m the right person for her?

Question: Good day, I’m in my mid-twenties and my girlfriend is in her early-twenties. We’ve been dating for just over a year and we love each other very deeply. We are committed to each other with the intention of being together long-term. She was having a few doubts because of our religious differences. She’s Christian…

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Is it bad to date a worldly-minded person?

Question: I hope this email finds you well! I have a question for you about relationships as a Christian. I’m a Christian and a part of a denomination. I believe that loving God and praising the Lord is universal, and universally there are things you should and shouldn’t do. I have a few questions. I…

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Is it fair that I leave her heartbroken?

Question: Praise the Lord to you all. I am writing this to you to find the answer for my situation that is according to the Bible and just, correct, right, and holy in the eyes of our God. I was born into a very respectful Christian family. My grandparents and my parents are all devoted…

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Is my fiance’s behavior a red flag?

Question: Hello, I have a question. I found out my “fiancé” was texting another woman behind my back, in secret. He claims they are only friends and have been talking for two months. He says they haven’t seen each other the two times she visited his workplace for help, which is where he met her. When…

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Would God override someone’s free will to marry me?

Question: Hi, I have a question about me personally and the desire to marry. I’m a 33-year-old,  virgin, born-again Christian. I had, years ago when I was in college, a moment with God. I asked God if this one girl I could date and I knew God spoke to me and said, “You have free…

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A Little Dating Advice for Singles

by David Maxson “Now in all Israel there was no one so much to be praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish on him”(II Samuel 14:25). How much stock do you put into appearance? To some, it’s the first…

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Would God punish someone with a life of singleness?

Question: Do you think God would punish someone to a life of singleness? I know it’s a silly question, but sometimes I get intrusive thoughts that tell me that I’m bound to be single. These thoughts make me feel very sad and uncomfortable. After I got baptized I started having OCD thoughts because I was…

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Reasonable Risks

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Reasonable-Risks.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Esther 4:7-16   I.         Increasingly I run into people who are obsessive-compulsive.             A.        It is sometimes referred to as the doubter’s disease because the sufferer is constantly plagued with uncertainty.                         1.         A person might repeatedly wash his hands because he might not have done a thorough enough cleaning earlier                         2.         Another might constantly…

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Should I marry my fiance, who is not a practicing Christian?

Question: Should I marry my fiancé? My fiancé and I have been dating for 7 years. I was 17 when I met him and living a worldly life (partying, drinking, smoking, cursing) I entered my relationship with my current fiancé because he answered this question: “Are you Christian?” and his answer was “yes.” He grew…

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I Wish Someone Had Told Me

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/I-Wish-Someone-Had-Told-Me.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Proverbs 5:7-14   I.         I ran across an article by Chuck Lawless about “Ten Conversations I Wish Someone Had with Me as a Teenager.”             A.        Hindsight generally reveals that mistakes could have been avoided             B.        I constantly get told: “I wish someone had told me just how bad this could get”             C.        And…

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Should I marry a man who is less educated than I am?

Question: Good evening, I need counsel. I am a 28-year-old African lady, a Christian with a degree in Nursing Science, and currently working as a Registered Nurse in my country. I have deliberately mentioned my African origin, education, and professional qualification because my concern is around this aspect. I was raised in a Christian home with…

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A Good Mate

A Good Mate – Part 1A Good Mate – Part 2A Good Mate – Part 3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Peter 3:1-7   I.         Introduction             A.        Many, if not most people, spend a fair chunk of their life trying to reach a decision regarding who they will marry             B.        Sadly, most leave this important choice to…

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I’m afraid of being in a relationship

Question: Good day sir, I appreciate all you do to help people. Most importantly you do this only to please God and not man. I am in my 30s and I know I should be married by now. A major factor for being unmarried yet is nuclear family financial responsibilities. The more I try to…

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My fiance’s family will never love me

Question: Dear sir, Please, I need your advice. I was dating this young guy, who I thought we would spend much time together for the rest of our lives. Instead, little did I know that he was just playing with me, after some time the communication just started breaking down. It came from nowhere. I…

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How do I convert my Hindu girlfriend?

Question: Hello sir, I have this question — it is more like a problem. I started dating this girl, but she’s of a different religion (Hindu). I am a Christian. I like this girl. What should I do? How do I convert her to Christianity? Please respond to me. Answer: Teaching anyone to become a…

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What if the man I want to marry turns out to be a polygamist?

Question: Good afternoon sir, I’m in a relationship with a guy who comes from a polygamous family I love him and want to marry him but I’m scared of the future. His mother is harsh, and although I’ve been praying about it, I am worried about the future. What if he turns out to be…

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Did God cause our break-up because of our sins?

Question: My girlfriend and I were together for just over a year. After two months of being together, we, unfortunately, committed fornication. We both know that it is wrong but we fell into the temptation countless times. There would be times that we would stop because it was bad, but we would just do it…

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Will God restore our relationship?

Question: I committed serious sexual sins with my girlfriend over the last 4 years. We broke up recently. I want to truly and deeply repent for my sexual sins. How can I be washed clean because my sins are great? I hear a call to repentance. Will God restore my broken relationship? It is my…

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I learn a ton from your writings

Question: In reference to It is getting hard not to have sex. I want to marry my boyfriend, but I don’t want to give up my independence. Can we get married so we can have sex, but still live apart? I just want to say – such good answers. Bless your heart! — for taking…

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How do I find a godly man?

Question: I Corinthians 7:9 says it’s better to marry than to burn, but what if I can’t find anyone willing to build a godly marriage and abstain from premarital sex? I’m a 26-year-old woman and I have been faithful in respecting my body and God’s commandments. I’m still a virgin and haven’t fallen prey to…

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How do I keep my virginity without him cheating on me?

Question: Good evening, I am a new member. Please, I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have a fiance who promised to marry me, He is always asking me to come to his place. Is it advisable? Answer: When I teach young people about sexual matters, I give extra emphasis to the young…

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I’m worried that I might not find a husband

Question: Good morning, I lived my life believing in God and wanting to do God’s will. I focused my studies on what I believed was God’s will for me, and in my personal life, I tried to help others when I could. I’ve tried to attend a church that focuses on following the Bible. Unfortunately,…

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Can relatives of one family marry relatives of another family?

Question: Is it morally legal for a father, brother, and son to be interested in marriage with three unrelated females that just so happen to be a mother, sister, and daughter, related to each other, but not to the men? If not, which ones and why not? Answer: Though we are not under the Old…

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I don’t want to force him, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me

Question: I’m right now in a situation in which my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me. From the beginning of our relationship, I didn’t want to force him but I wanted this relationship to end up in a marriage. From a religious point of view and I’m from an area where marriage is important before…

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Is it wrong to kiss my boyfriend?

Question: Hello, I am 21 years old and am in a relationship. Is it too early? My boyfriend confessed to me that he fornicated once with his first girlfriend, and he really regrets and feels really so bad when he remembers it. He has never shared it with anyone except me, and it really took…

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Should I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?

Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…

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How I Met And Fell In Love With Marilyn

by David Truong Sentry Magazine, December 2000 During the last few months of my brother’s life, what I feared most was how much l would miss him for the rest of my life. So in the last few seconds of his life on earth, I knelt down next to his bed and whispered these final…

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Is cheating while dating known as adultery?

Question: Is cheating while dating (as in having a boyfriend or girlfriend) known as adultery? Answer: Having sex with someone you are not married to is called “fornication.” See Notes on Sex for more information. Adultery is a type of fornication where one or both people are married, but not to each other. Dating carries no formal…

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Do I tell my boyfriend that I cheated on him?

Question: Hi, I love your articles and I am facing a problem now. Just some background about me. I am a Christian who has backslid for almost 10 years. I have a 4 years long boyfriend with me. But just last year, me being dumb and naive, a guy friend told me that I would…

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