Preparation for a Lifetime
Why People Marry
by Morris Norman via Sentry Magazine, Vol. 17 No. 4, 31 December 1991 Marriage is the greatest of all human contracts, save the covenant of grace. Marriages sometimes fail because those entering them are either inadequately prepared or are not sufficiently committed to the relationship. Some of the key elements of a successful marriage are careful…
Read MoreWhat should a husband do when his wife isn’t available for sex?
Question: Hello Jeffery, My wife and I have now been married for over a year, and it has been wonderful. We have, of course, already faced life’s challenges, but I genuinely feel that we have overcome them only by the grace of God and the strength that the Lord gives us through His Word. We…
Read MoreTesting the State of Your Union
Source: Sentry Magazine, Vol. 14, No. 3, September 30, 1988. According to a recent study by the University of New York (at Stoney Brook), the following factors may be regarded as “predictors” of marital failure. If a number of these circumstances exist, then it can be assumed that the marriage will end in divorce. You…
Read MoreWhy I Believe We Should Still Marry and Bring Children into the World
by Terry Wane Benton Is having children too risky? Seeing that the majority will end up lost, I have seen a number of faithful Christians lose their children to the world. Answer: That is a pretty defeatist way of viewing things. When was it not risky? I’ve seen people, who go at it already prepared…
Read MoreDid I sin against my husband by not telling him when I was ovulating?
Question: If you feel like you may have sinned against your spouse years ago, but they don’t know about it, do you have to tell them now? I feel like I should give the backstory because no, it’s not adultery. We were going for our second baby and he wanted a boy and I wanted…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my rising sexual tension before marriage?
Question: Hello Jeffrey, First of all, thank you for all the work and efforts you have put into the site, Growing Up in the Lord for Boys. Even though I’m in my mid to late 20s, I really appreciate the answers that you give, and how you give your answers a God-focused perspective, while also…
Read MoreAre surrogacy and invitro-fertilization sinful?
Question: Good morning sir, I want to ask about the biblical principle on surrogacy and IVF. To me, since it involves the termination of an embryo, it seems wrong and more like a scientific abortion. I’ll be glad if you can shed more light on this, sir. Thank you. Answer: Like many things, surrogacy and…
Read MoreShould I stay with my husband or my children?
Question: Good morning brother Hamilton I don’t want to say I am a fan, but I learned a lot from the lessons, sermons, and questions and answers on the La Vista Church of Christ website, and I am still learning. Glory to God for such initiative. I am grateful for having such a platform where,…
Read MoreDoes impotency mean a person is not really married?
Question: I have been noticing that La Vista Church of Christ is one of the few congregations that tackle this sensitive issue. My question is in the case of the unconsummated marriage, does this indicate a de facto crisis within the marriage or is the marriage act incidental, solely the business of the husband and…
Read MoreHow can a husband’s faith grow if his wife does not submit to his authority?
Question: I want to express my appreciation for those behind this website. You are doing great work for the Lord. Now my questions: The problem of submissiveness: How can the husband grow in faith when his wife does not submit to his authority? Divorce: Does forgiveness means that we must go back to where we…
Read MoreCan a woman divorce her husband because he hid the fact that he was impotent?
Question: What can the church do in a situation where a sister says she has been deceived by a brother who is impotent? He concealed the matter until he had married the sister. Can the sister marry another person since she desires children and was misled? Answer: The short answer is, “no.” She married the…
Read MoreIs avoiding getting your wife pregnant a sin?
Question: If I am married, and I am having sex with my wife, is pulling out a sin? Judah’s son pulled out when performing his brotherly duties and was struck dead by God. I know that it was because he robbed Tamar of her right to a child, but Deuteronomy and Leviticus speak of the…
Read MoreAre condoms wrong to use because they didn’t exist in Jesus’ era?
Question: Is it lust when I get married and I use a condom or some other birth control for a while with my wife? I’m confused because my brother says yes and my friend says no. Also, condoms did not exist in the era Jesus was born in. I also heard that lust is a…
Read MoreMy husband doesn’t want children and insists that I get an abortion if I get pregnant. What do I do?
Question: Hello Jeff, I recently started studying the Bible, and I want to get baptized soon as I understand how it goes. It’s my wish to follow God’s commands, turn my life around, and be a good child. I am married to a non-Christian, and I would like your advice on how to address a…
Read MoreShould we move near each other before getting married?
Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…
Read MoreIs it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…
Read MoreWhat can a wife do to improve her marriage?
Question: I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your web site. I have read your notes on Solomon, the glue in a marriage, and lots of other things. Could I ask you to please give me some more information on how men truly desire to be treated in marriage?…
Read MoreMy husband has stopped having sex or being affectionate with me. What do I do?
Question: Good evening. My husband and I are in the Lord’s church but are suffering and I just don’t know what to do. He has a very strong addiction to his electronics, his cell phone, Xbox, and iPad. He spends all day every day on them for years now watching every sport known to man…
Read MoreWe want to marry, but we will have to live apart for the first year. How can we have a strong marriage?
Question: I am truly in love with him and he is with me. We talk about God a lot and we stay communicating at all times. He has brightened my world. He asked me to marry him, and we would have to have a long-distance marriage for now. I just wanted to know if our…
Read MoreWe never had sex in our marriage and I’m about to call it quits
Question: I need some advice. My husband and I have been married for three years. We have not had sex within our marriage. I am angry. I beg for him to love me but he won’t. He will find time to do everything under the sun but to make time for us in that way.…
Read MoreMarriages in the U.S. Continues to Decline
Source: “Cut wedding spending? Hardly,” The Los Angles Times, Omaha World-Herald, 09 July 2012. “The ConvergEx Group report “points out that the number of U.S. marriages continues to drop, to 2.06 million last year from 2.21 million in 2007. That’s due partly to sociological factors but also may reflect couples postponing the big day for…
Read MoreAffair-Proofing Your Marriage
by Mark Broyles via Biblical Insights, Vol. 7, No. 1, January 2007 The prevalence of infidelity in marriage is staggering. If it was only a problem in the lives of those apart from God it would still be discouraging, but the truth is that the amount of marriages among our brethren that have been rocked by…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a husband to ask his wife to dress up every day so he can feel sexually attracted to her?
Question: Hello, First off thank you for all the knowledge from this wonderful site. Okay, my question is it biblically wrong for a husband to say he wants his wife to dress up and wear makeup every day so he can feel sexually attracted to her, even if they are not going out of the house that day and there…
Read MoreCounting the Cost: Using Biblical Principles to Guide our Children in Spouse Finding
by Sally Ann Perz Choosing a spouse is the second biggest decision in one’s life—this is surpassed only by choosing to follow Christ. We must guide our children in this effort just as we lead them to Jesus. We often leave this important choice to them—somehow they are ‘on their own’ when it comes to…
Read MoreCan Christians practice birth control?
Question: I am pleased with the quality of the material I read here. I worship with a church of Christ. I have a question: Can Christians practice birth control? Which method do you recommend? I need urgent answers. Answer: I’m assuming you are married. If you are not the only acceptable practice is to abstain…
Read MoreMy marriage for a few months is a disaster. What should I do?
Question: Hi there. I got married several months ago. The night before my marriage was a complete disaster. My husband had too much to drink and he fought with me in front of other people. I felt humiliated but thought it was only wedding stress. Long story short, the wedding and the honeymoon were terrible…
Read MoreWhy Marriages Fail
by Jefferson David Tant via Vanguard, December 1982 The failure of marriage has become the American way of life — a significant change from former generations. In 1870, one of 34 marriages ended in divorce. By 1900, the rate had risen to one in twelve, increasing to one in five by 1940. According to an article…
Read MoreWhere does it say that a man can’t be with his wife during her monthly periods?
Question: Where in the Bible does it talk about a woman’s monthly cycle and that a man should not be with her while she is on her monthly? My man and I were having a Bible discussion yesterday and he said he read something about that in the Bible but he could not remember were. …
Read MoreHow do I handle my verbally abusive husband?
Question: I have been married for several years and about the same time, I became a member of the Lord’s church. I am in a situation where I am not sure what to do as a Christian. The whole time I have been a Christian I have fallen many times, but every time I try…
Read MoreWould masturbation be unacceptable between a husband and wife as a part of sexual intercourse?
Question: Hi, My husband and I have been married for a year now and really love God. I just wanted to find out what type of sex is acceptable in a marriage? Would masturbation be unacceptable in God’s eyes even if it was done during sexual intercourse? Hope to hear from you soon! I want…
Read MoreWhy can’t we get pregnant?
Question: I have been married for seven years, but we don’t have any children. My wife has no problem; I mean she is fine. I had my sperm tested and a doctor told me that my sperm count is 45 million and active sperm are 30%. Our sex life is good. Can you help me…
Read MoreDoes a small penis prevent pregnancy?
Question: I married four years ago. About two years ago, my wife had a miscarriage. Since then we have had no hope. I think it’s because of me. I think my penis is undersized and that is why we are not able to have children. My penis is about two and a half inches. Is…
Read MoreI have an orange crust on my pubic hairs
Question: I have an orange crust on my pubic hairs on the bottom of my ball sack. I don’t know what this is. I am a very clean person. My wife also notices an odor that was not present before. Answer: You have an infection, most likely in your hair follicles, which would be called…
Read MoreI have bumps on my genitals that are annoying
Question: I have been sexually active for 7 years now with about 11 different women. I am currently married and I stay active with my spouse. This problem slightly worries both my wife and myself. I have had this problem before I was married. I am worried about some of the growths that have formed…
Read MoreI have small colorless bumps on my scrotum. Should I be concerned?
Question: Hi. I have had small colorless bumps on my scrotum for at least four years. The bumps are anywhere from 1 mm to 3 mm in size, and they protrude anywhere from 0.5 mm to 3 mm. They are pretty hard, like soft rocks just under the skin of the scrotum. I rarely get…
Read MoreI have a bend in my penis. Will that interfere with sex?
Question: Sir, I just want to know if it is advisable to wear loose clothing or even no underwear while sleeping at night? The thing is I have just noticed my penis is bending at an angle now (I haven’t measured the bend) and I have a scar on the underside of my penis. Is the…
Read MoreIs it possible that I’m not producing semen?
Question: I have been married for two years, but in those two years, we have had no children. We had a check-up with a doctor. My erections are normal during sex. The doctor suggested that I get a semen test, but I have a feeling that I’m not producing semen. What do I do? Answer:…
Read MoreCan I conceive with only one ovary?
Question: I am 38 years old. I had one of my ovary removed shortly after I gave birth to my daughter several years ago. Since giving birth, I have had very normal menstruations each month and it varies approximately every 28 days. My last period began twelve days ago. My husband and I are trying…
Read MoreHow can I get pregnant when my husband’s sperm has low motility?
Question: It’s been almost two years since we have been married and trying to get pregnant. we have visited the gynecologist and was told that my husband has a low motility rate. Could you help me with the best ways of getting pregnant with an issue like that? We have been planning our intercourse according…
Read MoreHow long should my wife wait after we have sex before moving if we are trying to have a child?
Question: My wife and I are starting the “let’s get pregnant phase.” She went to the doctor, and everything looked good to go. My question is, when we are done having sex after I ejaculate into her, how long does she have to wait until she can get up, move around, and clean up? I…
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