Why I Believe We Should Still Marry and Bring Children into the World

by Terry Wane Benton Is having children too risky? Seeing that the majority will end up lost, I have seen a number of faithful Christians lose their children to the world. Answer: That is a pretty defeatist way of viewing things. When was it not risky? I’ve seen people, who go at it already prepared…

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How do I deal with my rising sexual tension before marriage?

Question: Hello Jeffrey, First of all, thank you for all the work and efforts you have put into the site, Growing Up in the Lord for Boys. Even though I’m in my mid to late 20s, I really appreciate the answers that you give, and how you give your answers a God-focused perspective, while also…

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Are surrogacy and invitro-fertilization sinful?

Question: Good morning sir, I want to ask about the biblical principle on surrogacy and IVF. To me, since it involves the termination of an embryo, it seems wrong and more like a scientific abortion. I’ll be glad if you can shed more light on this, sir. Thank you. Answer: Like many things, surrogacy and…

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Should I stay with my husband or my children?

Question: Good morning brother Hamilton I don’t want to say I am a fan, but I learned a lot from the lessons, sermons, and questions and answers on the La Vista Church of Christ website, and I am still learning. Glory to God for such initiative. I am grateful for having such a platform where,…

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Does impotency mean a person is not really married?

Question: I have been noticing that La Vista Church of Christ is one of the few congregations that tackle this sensitive issue. My question is in the case of the unconsummated marriage, does this indicate a de facto crisis within the marriage or is the marriage act incidental, solely the business of the husband and…

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Is avoiding getting your wife pregnant a sin?

Question: If I am married, and I am having sex with my wife, is pulling out a sin? Judah’s son pulled out when performing his brotherly duties and was struck dead by God. I know that it was because he robbed Tamar of her right to a child, but Deuteronomy and Leviticus speak of the…

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Should we move near each other before getting married?

Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…

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Is it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?

Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…

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What can a wife do to improve her marriage?

Question: I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your web site. I have read your notes on Solomon, the glue in a marriage, and lots of other things. Could I ask you to please give me some more information on how men truly desire to be treated in marriage?…

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Marriages in the U.S. Continues to Decline

Source: “Cut wedding spending? Hardly,” The Los Angles Times, Omaha World-Herald, 09 July 2012. “The ConvergEx Group report “points out that the number of U.S. marriages continues to drop, to 2.06 million last year from 2.21 million in 2007. That’s due partly to sociological factors but also may reflect couples postponing the big day for…

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Affair-Proofing Your Marriage

by Mark Broyles via Biblical Insights, Vol. 7, No. 1, January 2007 The prevalence of infidelity in marriage is staggering. If it was only a problem in the lives of those apart from God it would still be discouraging, but the truth is that the amount of marriages among our brethren that have been rocked by…

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Can Christians practice birth control?

Question: I am pleased with the quality of the material I read here. I worship with a church of Christ. I have a question: Can Christians practice birth control? Which method do you recommend? I need urgent answers. Answer: I’m assuming you are married. If you are not the only acceptable practice is to abstain…

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My marriage for a few months is a disaster. What should I do?

Question: Hi there. I got married several months ago. The night before my marriage was a complete disaster. My husband had too much to drink and he fought with me in front of other people. I felt humiliated but thought it was only wedding stress. Long story short, the wedding and the honeymoon were terrible…

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Why Marriages Fail

by Jefferson David Tant via Vanguard, December 1982 The failure of marriage has become the American way of life — a significant change from former generations. In 1870, one of 34 marriages ended in divorce. By 1900, the rate had risen to one in twelve, increasing to one in five by 1940. According to an article…

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How do I handle my verbally abusive husband?

Question: I have been married for several years and about the same time, I became a member of the Lord’s church. I am in a situation where I am not sure what to do as a Christian. The whole time I have been a Christian I have fallen many times, but every time I try…

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Why can’t we get pregnant?

Question: I have been married for seven years, but we don’t have any children. My wife has no problem; I mean she is fine. I had my sperm tested and a doctor told me that my sperm count is 45 million and active sperm are 30%. Our sex life is good. Can you help me…

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Does a small penis prevent pregnancy?

Question: I married four years ago. About two years ago, my wife had a miscarriage. Since then we have had no hope. I think it’s because of me. I think my penis is undersized and that is why we are not able to have children. My penis is about two and a half inches. Is…

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I have an orange crust on my pubic hairs

Question: I have an orange crust on my pubic hairs on the bottom of my ball sack. I don’t know what this is. I am a very clean person. My wife also notices an odor that was not present before. Answer: You have an infection, most likely in your hair follicles, which would be called…

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I have bumps on my genitals that are annoying

Question: I have been sexually active for 7 years now with about 11 different women.  I am currently married and I stay active with my spouse. This problem slightly worries both my wife and myself.  I have had this problem before I was married.  I am worried about some of the growths that have formed…

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I have a bend in my penis. Will that interfere with sex?

Question: Sir, I just want to know if it is advisable to wear loose clothing or even no underwear while sleeping at night? The thing is I have just noticed my penis is bending at an angle now (I haven’t measured the bend) and I have a scar on the underside of my penis. Is the…

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Is it possible that I’m not producing semen?

Question: I have been married for two years, but in those two years, we have had no children. We had a check-up with a doctor. My erections are normal during sex. The doctor suggested that I get a semen test, but I have a feeling that I’m not producing semen. What do I do? Answer:…

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Can I conceive with only one ovary?

Question: I am 38 years old. I had one of my ovary removed shortly after I gave birth to my daughter several years ago. Since giving birth, I have had very normal menstruations each month and it varies approximately every 28 days. My last period began twelve days ago. My husband and I are trying…

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How can I get pregnant when my husband’s sperm has low motility?

Question: It’s been almost two years since we have been married and trying to get pregnant. we have visited the gynecologist and was told that my husband has a low motility rate. Could you help me with the best ways of getting pregnant with an issue like that? We have been planning our intercourse according…

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Is there a problem if both my wife and I have the same blood type?

Question: I am going to be married next month. I would like to know if is there any problem if a husband and wife’s blood group are the same, as we are both A+. Answer: Blood is grouped into several types: A, B, O, and AB. These blood groups are important when transfusions are necessary.…

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Would adhesions impact fertility?

Question: Hello. I am 39 years old I have a son; he is 6 years old. My husband and I are doing our best to have another child. I have done vaginal laparoscopy and the doctor found adhesions in the uterus. My husband’s sperms are 100 million and the motility is 70%. Is it possible…

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