I don’t think I’m ready to get married

Question:

Good afternoon, sir,

I have a question. Please help me.

I have a girlfriend I dated for three years, and she wants me to marry her. Honestly, I love her, but I have not yet reached the decision to marry her. Somehow, I feel like I am being pushed by her into marriage because she feels like she is getting older, and I have failed to tell her that I am not yet ready because I am afraid to disappoint her. I don't know what to do.

Please help me out.

Thank you.

Answer:

Three years should be more than sufficient time to decide if the woman you are dating is someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with. The purpose of dating is to locate a person to be your spouse. Thus, your delay in deciding tells your girlfriend that you don't think she is adequate to be your wife. You see it as you are not ready, but she will take it as she is not good enough.

You didn't mention why you are hesitating. If you are waiting for perfection, it won't come.

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