I want to date a Christian boy but I’m suspect that I’m pregnant by my former boyfriend
Question:
I am 24 years old, I've slept with ten men already since I turned 20. I've never wanted to live such a life but I have let my emotions take control of me.
Presently, I'm in a critical condition. I suspect that I'm pregnant by a guy I recently met. I ended the relationship with him. I really want to turn away from sin but I keep falling into the same mess. Before meeting this boy, I had a boyfriend. We have dated for about two years, but he doesn't go to church. I broke off with him because he often claimed he was so busy that he couldn't even text or call me -- even after days. I decided to put an end to it, but after we talked I decided to accept him back while observing him.
At church, there's a Christian boy who asked me out. I accepted it just to observe him and see if we are compatible. I would love to date a Christian boy. Then we could have things in common like worshipping God. But now I'm confused.
I need help!
Answer:
There is a difference between calling yourself a Christian and being a Christian. "Christian" means to be a follower of Christ, but it appears you follow whatever makes you feel good at the moment. Thus, if you want to gain a Christian husband then you need to decide to be a Christian.
The Lord's apostles taught that having sex without being married is a sin. "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). Therefore, it doesn't matter how much you want something, you must first consider whether it is right or not.
If you are pregnant, it is not the child's fault. You made choices that led to a child being conceived, so it is your responsibility to see that the child is properly raised. If you are not able to do so, then you should consider having the child adopted.
In regards to dating, it appears to me that you are dating mostly for fun. Whether someone would make a good husband is almost an afterthought. Even then, you are not really thinking in terms of living with a man for the rest of your life as his wife. The boy who barely talks to you will not get better if you marry him. Nor is this boy going to help you raise your children as Christians.
Instead of looking for a guy who makes you feel sexy, start thinking long-term. You want a man who is faithful and consistent. You want a guy who loves God and treats you like a lady.
