Posts Tagged ‘engagement’
How do I handle being engaged to a member of a denomination?
Question: Hello, I need your advice on my personal life. I am a born-again, baptized Christian. But I backslid for about two years. In those years, I got engaged to an unbeliever. Now I’m trying to return to Christ, and I’m not sure what to do. She is from an Orthodox background. She is willing…
Read MoreHow do I talk to my fiance about my sin?
Question: Good day, pastor, I hope you are doing well. My fiancee and I have been engaged for almost three years now. There was a time when I was going on many business trips. During that period I met a lady and I developed feelings for her but I didn’t tell her about them. She…
Read MoreIs it fair that I leave her heartbroken?
Question: Praise the Lord to you all. I am writing this to you to find the answer for my situation that is according to the Bible and just, correct, right, and holy in the eyes of our God. I was born into a very respectful Christian family. My grandparents and my parents are all devoted…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my rising sexual tension before marriage?
Question: Hello Jeffrey, First of all, thank you for all the work and efforts you have put into the site, Growing Up in the Lord for Boys. Even though I’m in my mid to late 20s, I really appreciate the answers that you give, and how you give your answers a God-focused perspective, while also…
Read MoreIs my fiance’s behavior a red flag?
Question: Hello, I have a question. I found out my “fiancé” was texting another woman behind my back, in secret. He claims they are only friends and have been talking for two months. He says they haven’t seen each other the two times she visited his workplace for help, which is where he met her. When…
Read MoreShould I marry my fiance, who is not a practicing Christian?
Question: Should I marry my fiancé? My fiancé and I have been dating for 7 years. I was 17 when I met him and living a worldly life (partying, drinking, smoking, cursing) I entered my relationship with my current fiancé because he answered this question: “Are you Christian?” and his answer was “yes.” He grew…
Read MoreMy fiance’s family will never love me
Question: Dear sir, Please, I need your advice. I was dating this young guy, who I thought we would spend much time together for the rest of our lives. Instead, little did I know that he was just playing with me, after some time the communication just started breaking down. It came from nowhere. I…
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Question: Hello, I’m really grateful for the advice you gave to a lady battling with guilt and issues about whether to break up with her fiancé. I had the same thoughts today, even though we have been trusting God for our wedding next year. I felt the standards I had at first have diminished and from the…
Read MoreI caught my fiance lying and now I can’t trust him
Question: Hi and good day, My fiancé and I have both been Christians for some years now; however, I strongly believe that he has a problem with lying. He lies and makes others look bad, and he looks like the victim. Accidentally, I found out the truth about a matter, and only when I confronted…
Read MoreWe are having a really hard time not having sex before our wedding
Question: Hello, I have a question concerning sex before marriage. My fiancé and I are getting married in about four months, and we are having a really hard time with not having sex. Here’s why we are struggling so much. We are so ready to commit fully to each other and bring our lives together…
Read MoreI am about to marry and I love her dearly, but she constantly nags and complains
Question: Sir, I’m engaged to marry this wonderful lady in less than two months’ time, whom I have dated for about 2 years. I describe her as wonderful because she is modest, she has done a great job guiding her virginity to date, and she is over 30 years of age. I call her wonderful…
Read MoreDid I act too fast when I broke up with my fiancée because she was seeing other men?
Question: I’m in my thirties and my fiancée is in her twenties. I’ve been in a relationship for three years with her, and we got engaged. She said I was the only one she was seeing, but within that period I forgave her twice for texting and dating other men. Yesterday, I found out that…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my fiancée that I’ve been having sex with other women during our engagement?
Question: I have been into several relationships in the past, but none is as great as the one I am currently in. The problem is that I have not been able to maintain sexual purity for the past several years after I became sexually active. Currently, I am nearly 30 years old. I plan on…
Read MoreI’m engaged, but another girl seduced me and I got her pregnant. What do I do?
Question: I am in a serious relationship with the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I am faced with a serious problem right now. A girl forced herself on me, became pregnant, and had a baby by me. I accepted the baby, but I can’t marry the girl. It…
Read MoreMy girlfriend is distancing herself from me, but she says nothing is wrong
Question: What does it mean when your fiancee suddenly seems to have lost interest in you? She no longer texts as often as she used to and whenever I ask her if anything is wrong she says no. I’ve told her it’s all right if she doesn’t love me anymore, tell me, but she insists…
Read MoreHow do I get my fiance to stop breaking up with me?
Question: My fiancé recently lost his mom. We are a blended family. We got into an argument at church and left. Our children got into an argument at church and when we came back inside from having a smoke, his daughter asked to talk to him privately. When he came back to the table he…
Read MoreHow do we handle the mother of my fiancée’s former boyfriend?
Question: Hello, My fiancée and I are getting married soon. Recently, her grandfather has been going through trouble with cancer. It has brought up a few encouraging text messages. Here’s where my problem begins. One of the encouraging texts comes repetitively from the same person. That person is the mother of her ex-boyfriend. Although there…
Read MoreMaybe another man will make me happier
Question: I’m a 20 year old girl who’s engaged to a man more than 15 years older than me. He is my first boyfriend, and I’m physically and emotionally intimate with him. But I’m afraid of marriage because I have only dated him and no one else. He is a great man who is a…
Read MoreMy fiance got a girl pregnant, is on drugs, is in jail, and lies. What should I do?
Question: Hello, I need advice. My fiance and I have a son together. He went away to drug rehab but lied to people saying he was in school. He got a 17-year-old girl pregnant, but he doesn’t know that I know. He was dating her and once she told him she was pregnant he left…
Read MoreMy daughter is engaged to a man that I found out is still married. What do I do?
Question: This is a complicated situation. The information I have comes from the young man. This young man got a young girl pregnant. They were together off and on for a couple of years. They applied for a marriage license but did not follow through. They applied the second time about three months later and…
Read MoreIs an engaged couple bound to each other just as if they are married?
Question: Hi I read an article on your website that gave me the impression that you are a God-fearing man who wants to make choices based on God’s words. I am troubled with a problem, and I need advice. I got engaged some time ago, but my fiancee left me. The Bible tells that Joseph,…
Read MoreMy girlfriend won’t get married in my church and I won’t get married in her church
Question: Hello, I have a question and need further advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and have been living together for 6 years. I have recently gotten saved. I was raised Catholic but have converted to Christianity. When I had found out about sexual immorality and it not being right…
Read MoreIf my fiance doesn’t repent of his past fornication, does this mean I’ll become a fornicator if I marry him?
Question: Hello, First, I want to thank you for caring and taking the time to answer questions. My question is kind of half answered and also several in one. My fiancé and I are divided on the issue of premarital sex. We have never done it, nor have I ever been pressured for it at…
Read MoreI am concerned about whether I should marry my fiancée
Question: Good day sir, I found this address online and I wish to seek your advice toward my growing life. I use to have a fiancee. We both planned to spend the rest of our life together but I kept feeling it was not working. Why? This is simply because it is my prayer to…
Read MoreDid I cheat on my boyfriend when I had sex with two guys while drunk?
Question: I am currently engaged to the most wonderful man I have ever met. We do have a rough history, but I’m worried I may have ruined our future. We originally dated for a couple of months a few years ago but ended because I had confessed to him about seeing my ex whom I…
Read MoreWhen my fiance broke up with me, I slept with another woman. Now they are both mad at me. What do I do?
Question: Hi Jeffrey, I have a child, under the age of five. The child’s mother is my fiance. She’s currently pregnant and expecting my second child. I truly love her with all my heart but things have turned out the worst for me. We have been engaged since last year, and we’ve finalized our wedding…
Read MoreMy fiancee found out I had been on a dating site and broke up with me
Question: I messed up my relationship with the one person I love more than anything on this planet. She is one of the kindest and most generous people I’ve ever met. She treats me so well. I don’t deserve her and I know she deserves better than me, but I want to become the man…
Read MoreAm I obligated to marry my fiance?
Question: I somehow made a complete mess of my life and I am hoping to get some perspective on my situation. I am 21 years old. I have been with a man for 4 years. I love him a lot, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with him. We are engaged to be married.…
Read MoreWe just can’t agree about religion and the wedding is at the end of the year
Question: Hello, I am in a relationship. We are planning to get married. The greatest hurdle we have is that my boyfriend is Catholic. Though I was raised Catholic, I converted to a protestant church. He wants me to convert back to Catholicism for the children’s sake, which I understand as we don’t want to…
Read MoreI want to tell my fiance about something bad from my past, but I’m afraid he’ll leave me
Question: I want to tell my fiance about what has happened in my past that is bad. I am worried he will leave me. Please help me. Answer: “Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?” (Galatians 4:16). First off, the question is: Does he need to know? Reasons he might…
Read MoreA guy wants to marry me, but he wants to move in with me first. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I just left a cohabiting relationship after four years. The only good thing that came out of it was my daughter. But there is this guy who wants to marry me, but he wants to move in with me first. What should I do? I don’t want to repeat the same mistake twice.…
Read MoreShould I propose?
Question: I have read some of your answers as regards marriage and making the right choice. I have always prayed to God to give me His perfect will. I have a girl I truly love — we both love each other — and I want to get married to her by God’s grace. How do…
Read MoreSince we plan to marry, is sexual touching OK?
Question: I have a ring on my finger and me and my boyfriend plan to marry within the next 5 years. We have not had sex and do not plan to until marriage, but we have done things with our hands. We are not sure whether it was a sin it not? We plan to…
Read MoreHow can we not commit fornication again before our wedding?
Question: My fiancé and I had sex even when we agreed not to, though all necessary plans to get married are on the ground. But I feel so guilty and alone. Forgiveness is what I need from God to face life again. Actually, we had decided not to have sex again, but I have no…
Read MoreShould I stay with my fiance or go with the guy I recently met?
Question: Please bear with me as this is long. While searching for my answer I stumbled across one of your previous questions that were somewhat similar, so I decided to write you. I met my now fiance over five years ago when I was at a low point in my life. I was a drunk,…
Read MoreI have a fiance, but I committed adultery against her. What can I do?
Question: Well, where do I start? I’m 21 years old. I have a child and a girlfriend whom I love so much! But recently, I committed a sin — I committed adultery! I feel really bad, so bad I cry myself to sleep sometimes. I feel awful! I feel disgusted with myself! I can’t sleep…
Read MoreDo I tell my fiance that I had homosexual sex in my past?
Question: I need your help regarding a situation I have. I am a male in my late twenties. I am going to get married in a few months to my girlfriend of three years. I had a secret, which I am confused about if I should share it with my future wife. I was addicted…
Read MoreMy fiancee kissed another man just months before our wedding
Question: Hello sir, Let me share a great burden in my heart with you. I am only a few months away from my marriage to a lady I have known for just over a year. We have done the family introductions and have a date fixed for our wedding. She came to me last weekend…
Read MoreIs divorce only allowed during the engagement?
Question: Regarding How could a woman in an adulterous marriage have the right to remarry after a divorce? I believe there is something very important you are missing. Matthew was written to a Jewish readership, Mark and Luke were written for a Gentile readership. As you know from the nativity story, Joseph was betrothed to Mary. Their marriage had not…
Read MoreShould I end our engagement even though we’ve sinned?
Question: Hello, I am a 25 years old woman. I met my fiance about five years ago as a friend. Eventually, the friendship turned out to be a much-committed relationship. He proposed to me for marriage. We have been engaged for several years. We have been postponing marriage due to other issues with our families.…
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