Do I need to break up with my boyfriend?

Question: Good day, I am writing to seek advice concerning my relationship with my boyfriend. We met two years ago and started as friends. We grew closer but made the decision not to take things further because he had the intention to relocate to the country. Unfortunately, we started having sexual relations without a label…

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We can’t afford to get married

Question: I feel awful because I was reading a post from 2010 titled, “Should we marry now or when we are in a better financial situation? I feel the same way. The thing is, we are both 20. My boyfriend doesn’t have much money, and we have been together for over two years. What’s worse…

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I don’t feel good enough to pray

Question: Hi! I got a woman I was dating pregnant. We married a few months later. We now have a son, and we love each other, but the problem is my walk with Christ. I feel spiritually down. I want to be back on my feet, but it’s hard. I love my family. I want…

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Do I need to tell my parents about my sins?

Question: Hello! I’m writing out for advice on what to do. I am a female in my twenties. I have a boyfriend and we had sinned sexually previously. We felt so much guilt and knew it was wrong. We went with our pastor and he gave us advice. He told us to talk it out…

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Is an abortion not wrong if it is done early?

Question: Dear Minister, I have a friend who is unmarried and recently found out she is expecting a child. The couple is quite scared and overwhelmed by the situation and so far I’m the only person they have shared the information with but they asked me to keep it confidential (They agreed I can reach…

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How do I talk to my fiance about my sin?

Question: Good day, pastor, I hope you are doing well. My fiancee and I have been engaged for almost three years now. There was a time when I was going on many business trips. During that period I met a lady and I developed feelings for her but I didn’t tell her about them.  She…

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Can I be redeemed after my sin?

Question: Hi, I’m not sure how to greet you. I’m full of guilt and sadness. I came across this website when I was trying to find out if I could be redeemed. I had sex with my boyfriend. I always wanted to start only after marriage but this came so unexpectedly and led to sin. I’ve…

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Is it fair that I leave her heartbroken?

Question: Praise the Lord to you all. I am writing this to you to find the answer for my situation that is according to the Bible and just, correct, right, and holy in the eyes of our God. I was born into a very respectful Christian family. My grandparents and my parents are all devoted…

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It Takes Only One Time

by David Weaks Children used to be taught by their parents that sex is reserved for marriage (Hebrew 13:4; I Corinthians 7:1-9), but this doctrine is no longer universally respected. Abstinence is ridiculed by society as archaic and unreasonable. The error of this new attitude cannot be overstated. It is just plain old foolish and…

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Can I be baptized if I had sex with my boyfriend?

Question: Hello. I’m thinking about getting baptized, but also I’ve had sex with my boyfriend many times before. I just want to know, can I still be baptized even if I’ve done so? And can I be able to continue after baptism? Answer: “I tell you, no, but unless you repent, you will all likewise…

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The Root Cause of Sexual Sins

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I’ve become fascinated by the lists presented in the Bible when I came to realize that many of them are more than a collection of related items. Permit me to illustrate this with a list that Paul gave in Colossians 3. “Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead…

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A Sense of Shame

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/A-Sense-of-Shame.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Jeremiah 6:10-17   I.         On June 18, 2008, Time released a story about 17, now 18, girls in Gloucester High School on the outskirts of Massachusetts.             A.        (Read the story)             B.        What would cause a bunch of girls to purposely set out to get pregnant?             C.        The report gave these reasons:                         1.         It’s not…

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Illogical Fixes to Problems

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Illogical-Fixes-to-Problems.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Samuel 8:1-8   I.         For over 400 years, God ruled over the land of Israel.             A.        When the people became wicked, God sent in an enemy nation to conquer a portion of the land.             B.        When the people turned backed to God, he raised up a judge to lead the people…

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Challenges for the Year

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Challenges-for-the-Year.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Romans 1:28-32   I.         Toward the end of each year, people tend to review the year and record the trends that are evident             A.        I’ve been collecting several articles in the last few months dealing with moral trends             B.        We are not of the world, but we must live in it -…

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I’ve been accused of using witchcraft

Question: I have been with my boyfriend for five years. Last Sunday he went to church and the pastor told him that I used witchcraft to bind him to me. He also said that I never loved nor respected my boyfriend. He said that I was using our daughter as a link to bond us…

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Possess Your Vessel

by Mike Thomas The Thessalonians were surrounded by immorality and ungodly influences, but those who became Christians “turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God” (I Thessalonians 1:9). In encouraging them to fulfill this commitment, Paul reminded them of the need to avoid the sexual immorality that was very common in…

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Would kissing in a play be considered fornication?

Question: You guys do a great job with your answers to some very open, graphic, and very personal questions. Keep up the great job! I’ve been a Christian for almost 40 years and I have never heard this question before, but a couple of weeks ago someone asked this in Bible study: if a married…

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Shouldn’t a public sin be publicly confessed?

Question: Hello, brother in Christ! I am writing to you as this has been bothering me for months, and I’m still wondering how I would approach this problem. We have a sister in the Church, my close friend, who suddenly got married. I knew she had a boyfriend, but being her close friend, she could’ve…

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I’m tired of this sinful life

Question: Good morning, sir, I read a page on your website and I saw your advice to a brother. My sin is worst compared to him. I have had sex with the opposite gender twice and have been masturbating for over six years. My life is a living hell. I don’t know who I will…

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I need your prayers

Question: Hello, I would first of all like to say that I was not ignorant of what I was doing. I knew what I was doing and its consequences, but I did it anyway. I know the doctrines of the church and the Bible and I knew what great promises lie ahead for the church…

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Do I need to confess my sin again?

Question: Hi, I’ve been in the church of Christ since I was a kid. I am now a young adult and not married. I struggled with sexual sins in my early 20s. One day I decided to tell my family because I felt guilty. My parents suggested that I go to the church and ask…

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I’m having trouble resisting fornication

Question: Hi, I have been involved in sexual immorality and fornication in the past, but it is coming back to me. I would like to repent, but it’s tough. I have been messing around with escorts at massage parlors all my life. I really would like to repent. Answer: Resisting temptation is always difficult. “Be…

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Thoughts on Abortion

by Jefferson David Tant The United States, and much of the world, are embroiled in a dispute over abortion — the killing of an unborn child. Since the United States Supreme Court recently ruled that the U.S. Constitution does not guarantee the right to abortion, violence has broken out in many areas, with threats, assaults,…

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Am I still a virgin?

Question: Am I still a virgin? Is God disappointed in me? Growing up as a child, I was raped when I was really little. But then Jesus found me when I became a teenager and I love him.  I forgave the person who raped me. I even hated boys at some point. Now I’m in…

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Why Did the Adulterers and Homosexuals at Corinth Change?

by Terry Wane Benton Paul mentions a list of sins which included thieves, drunkards, adulterers, and homosexuals (I Corinthians 6:8-10) and said, “such were some of you”. They were washed from such sins, justified, and sanctified. What was the motivation that moved them to change? They did not argue that they were born this way…

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Sex, Preachers, and the Church

“The Bible does not hide from or obscure the power of the temptation to illicit sex. In language that is refreshingly clear and direct without itself indulging in titillation, the text warns the reader of the debacle that awaits him should he succumb in this area and at the same time promises profound sexual joy…

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Did God cause our break-up because of our sins?

Question: My girlfriend and I were together for just over a year. After two months of being together, we, unfortunately, committed fornication. We both know that it is wrong but we fell into the temptation countless times. There would be times that we would stop because it was bad, but we would just do it…

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Will God restore our relationship?

Question: I committed serious sexual sins with my girlfriend over the last 4 years. We broke up recently. I want to truly and deeply repent for my sexual sins. How can I be washed clean because my sins are great? I hear a call to repentance. Will God restore my broken relationship? It is my…

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I’m unsure if I’m married to my ex-boyfriend

Question: Good evening! I’ve been praying, reading the Word, and reading godly people’s commentary on this topic – but I am still confused. I’m unsure if I will ever receive a definitive answer, but I would really appreciate any Scriptural knowledge you could share. I basically am just unsure if I’m technically married to my…

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My boyfriend changed his mind about marrying me

Question: I’ve been with my boyfriend for several years. We have a small child together. We have bought a house together. And I love him. We have blended a family consisting of his prior child and my prior children from a previous marriage. He ask me to marry him one night about two years ago,…

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Should we marry after committing fornication?

Question: Good morning, I have a question. I am a Christian, growing in grace, I’m 26 years of age. I met a young Christian lady during the time I was asking the Lord who will go with me on this mission as a wife. When I saw her, my spirit agreed that she was the…

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I’ll lose my health insurance if we get married

Question: Hello, My partner and I had planned on getting married soon, but due to insurance reasons, we may have to wait. We live together, have kids, and know it isn’t right. I have recent health issues that are covered by Medicaid but I will lose my benefits and the children’s benefits when we marry.…

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Can my former fiancè and I be friends after committing fornication?

Question: Hello, I am a young woman in my early twenties who has been on and off in my relationship with God. I have grown, in a sense. I’ve memorized several Scriptures, read my Bible, and involved myself in a girl’s Bible study. I’ve struggled with sexual sin most of my life. When I started…

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Should past sexual sins be discussed before marriage?

Question: Hello, I’m a 30-year-old female Christian. My boyfriend is a few years older and a Christian as well. We have been together for several months. He is a wonderful man. However, he has a sexual past that he refuses to discuss. He says that it has no benefit and will cause jealousy and insecurity…

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