I found out there is a lot of sexual misconduct happening among the leaders of the church I attend


Hello, Jeffrey,

I hope you're doing well.

There is a lot going on in my congregation which is given me cause for concern.

My elder brother is cohabiting with a lady who he intends to marry and the lady is not a Christian. My sister told the minister privately about this and he promised to do something about it but he just encouraged my brother to marry the lady. That's all.

A marriage committee was set up to handle certain relationships in the church including the relationship of my elder brother. The minister is part of that committee and, sadly, through their investigation, they could not find out if he was cohabiting. What a shame!

In a meeting, their report was that the church should pray for them. Knowing the situation, I had to stand up to warn them of the dangers of keeping quiet. Then the chairman of the committee denied knowledge of the cohabiting.

I talked to my brother in the past. He told me that almost all of the leaders in the church were guilty of sexual sins. He said even those who are married were sleeping around. Recently one got a lady who is not a Christian pregnant. Even the minister some time ago got a girl pregnant and that pregnancy ended in abortion. When the church found out he was having sex with a woman, he was told to get married as a requirement to be retained by the congregation. He picked a sister in the church with the church sponsoring the wedding to the last detail, so this has grossly affected the minister's discharge of duty.

I am relatively new here and it is causing me to lose interest, which is producing lukewarmness in me. Any advice?



When you have a congregation tolerating sin and its leaders caught up in sin, the best thing to do is leave and find a real church -- one that truly follows the Lord. These people only pretend to be Christians. "But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will also be false teachers among you, who will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing swift destruction upon themselves. Many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of the truth will be maligned; and in their greed they will exploit you with false words; their judgment from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep" (II Peter 2:1-3). Staying will only drag you into their sins and you will end up sharing their destruction. "Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts good morals'" (I Corinthians 15:33).

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