Is my boyfriend using me because he doesn’t want to get married?
Question:
Good Evening!
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for four years now. I have visited this other church, and they told me I should leave my fiancé because he doesn’t want to marry and is just using me. I love him so much, and he has told me so many times. Now I am so confused, and I thought he was my soulmate. We had challenges, but we held on.
My question is: can’t I pray that my relationship can be peaceful and loving with faith? I can’t let go of him because my heart only wants him.
Answer:
What I see is a young woman who only sees what she wants to see. She puts on an act of religious devotion while living in rebellion against the Lord. She calls a man who has no intention of getting married to her "fiance," which implies a non-existent engagement to be married. You are committing fornication, so read I Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21 and tell me how you conclude that your life of sin is acceptable to the Lord.
Paul said, "But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (I Corinthians 7:9). Why do you conclude that this command doesn't apply to you?
The only reasonable conclusion is that he is using you to provide wifely services without committing himself. He wants to be able to walk away from the relationship at any time without any obligations.
Sin is not an option, so either get married or live apart and no longer have sex with this man.
