Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
How do I deal with a husband who wants a divorce just to be alone?
Question: I have a question. I have been with my husband for many years. We both believe in God, but he has not been wanting to pray with me lately. He also has been speaking about divorce. I don’t want one. I asked him why does he want a divorce and he said he just…
Read MoreWe can’t afford to get married, but would it be bad to have sex now?
Question: Hello! My boyfriend and I have been dating for over five years, not necessarily because we wanted to wait this long, but because we don’t have the money. I only recently finished college, and I didn’t want to get married until I was done with school. Well, I’ve been done with college for about…
Read MoreI want to be a Christian, but my parents are Hindus
Question: Praise the Lord. I’m Hindu, but I accepted Jesus as my God and Savior. In my family, all are unbelievers. My brother and I were baptized. I praise God for His grace upon us. My family forces us to bow before Hindu idols. It hurts a lot. When the world rejected me, Jesus loved…
Read MoreCan an unmarried adulterer marry someone else?
Question: Good day sir, I previously had sex with a married woman. I myself am not married but have found someone whom I sincerely love and would like to propose marriage to her someday. She does not know of my fornication as it happened some time ago before our relationship. My girlfriend and I are…
Read MoreMy wife is afraid to have children
Question: I would like your advice on this matter, please. My wife and I have been together for nearly ten years and married for almost five years. When we were dating, she said she never wanted kids unless it is with the right man. So apparently I was her right man and she wanted to…
Read MoreIf I had the money, I would pay the lobola
Question: Morning minister of God, I have been dating a girl from church for over five years. When it started, we agreed not to do anything that would separate us from God. We managed for several months, but before we knew it, we were sleeping together. This actually ruined our relationship with God because I cannot…
Read MoreThe Bible and the Poverty Problem
by Matthew W. Bassford In 2003, social scientists Isabell Sawhill and Ron Haskins noticed three striking differences between poor people in America and the nonpoor. First, poor people generally hadn’t completed high school; the nonpoor had. Second, nonpoor people kept a steady job; poor people didn’t. Third, nonpoor people got married before having children; poor people…
Read MoreWhat’s Down that Road?
by Warren E. Berkley The most vital consideration for every human being and certainly every Christian is the allegiance of the heart and obedience of the life to God. While we must avoid the arrogance of self-righteousness and the bondage of human creeds and traditionalism, we must determine with all our hearts to never relax…
Read MoreIs a marriage valid if it was only done to gain citizenship?
Question: If a man was married for 3 years only because he wanted to come to the USA and then divorced can he remarry? The marriage in his eyes was only for US citizenship. Answer: What is missing is a respect for the marriage covenant (Malachi 2:13-16). A covenant is a special vow before God…
Read MoreMy husband wasn’t honest with me before our marriage
Question: I married and discovered my husband was unable to perform his marital duties. He knew but did not disclose it. Further, he said he had a job but was laid off months prior. I made every attempt to live by the law. When I discovered he still wasn’t working, had emptied the 401k, and…
Read MoreShould I marry a woman who refuses to submit to me?
Question: Hi, How are you? I am a born again, 28-year-old young man. I have read many of your posts, and I find them very helpful and always in line with the word of God. I have a bit of a challenge. I have my girlfriend, who I have been in a relationship with for…
Read MoreAre all marriages spiritually binding?
Question: Hello, I attend a church of Christ, and my boyfriend of several years was baptized about a few years ago. We broke up last year for several months due to some differences but have since decided to be back together. My boyfriend is in the military and during the time we were broken up,…
Read MoreWas the Samaritan woman really married that many times?
Question: In John 4, I get confused with the issue of marriage. Christ wanted her to call her husband until she said she had none. Then Christ said she had had five husbands, except that her present man was not her husband. Was Christ trying to prove that she had never married properly? And if…
Read MoreWhen is a couple married?
Question: Hello, I found your website full of helpful questions. My question is when does God consider a couple married? Can a couple just promise to be faithful to each other before God and consider themselves to be husband and wife? My fear is that when I was with my ex-girlfriend, I got carried away…
Read MoreWhat does a wife do when she finds out her husband lied about committing adultery against his former wife?
Question: This question is in reference to a friend. She grew up in the church, and she was baptized. She entered into a marriage with someone, but her spouse committed adultery against her. My friend remarried sometime later and was under the assumption that she was entering into a scriptural marriage. Her new spouse had…
Read MoreI was pressured into adultery and gave in. Can I be forgiven?
Question: I have a few questions. I am a Christian and committed adultery. Although there was an element of consent, this occurred in a high-pressure situation where there was intense coercion. My Christian therapist (psychologist) believes my past, with its complex trauma, and mental health condition has put me in a position where I was…
Read MoreI met an old boyfriend and now I feel guilty
Question: I have been happily married for about five years now. We have a child, who is two years old. My husband takes care of me really well. I have no complaints. He has been overseas for about a year now. I had a pretty good job and recently resigned. Now I am sitting at…
Read MoreIs it right for my parents to reject my fiance?
Question: Hello Minister, I started praying to God for a wife and stated the qualities I wanted each time I prayed. My prayer used to go like this: “Dear Lord, give me a woman who has a heart for you, one who would love me and be loyal, and increase my hunger for you. Make…
Read MoreThe girl I love is being given in marriage to someone else by her family
Question: There’s this Muslim girl I love so much. While I was dating her, her parents found out and gave in her marriage to her cousin, who lives in another country. I don’t know what to do now because we still love each other so much. She has accepted Jesus as Lord of her life.…
Read MoreDid we really get married?
Question: Hello, I have an issue that has been weighing on my mind. Like many of your questions, it has to do with sexual activity. Six months ago, I met an amazing, wonderful girl whom I fell in love with. We have spent so much time with each other (after we began our relationship in…
Read MoreDo I need her mother’s permission to get married?
Question: Greetings in the name of God! I’ve read through your response to a mail from somebody whose fiancée’s parents denied them consent to become one. Mine is a bit similar, except that my fiancée’s father is deceased and the mother is insisting her daughter cannot marry me. Initially, she was in full support of our…
Read MoreIf I committed adultery in the past, does that mean I can never marry?
Question: Hello brother, After studying the Bible more, I look back on my life and feel ashamed of the sinful acts I’ve committed. I’m now at the point where I’m ready to marry, but I wonder if I scripturally can. I’ve never been married, but in my past, I have been unpure as a single…
Read MoreDo you need a sign from God before you are able to date or marry someone?
Question: Hello, I am seeking godly advice on dating, but primarily on marriage. Advice about dating; and Do you need a sign from God to be able to marry, or can you choose your spouse yourself based upon biblical guidelines alone? To a 20-year-old guy who has never been in a relationship and never asked…
Read MoreReflections on Singleness
by Jonathan T. Engel Photo by Nick Adams on Unsplash Thanks to various factors, over the past few months I have, in some respects, felt more hopeful than ever about my prospects for marriage. A huge part of this is that I finally started convincing myself of what others have told me, namely, that it’s…
Read MoreIs someone married if they give their ID to use on a marriage license?
Question: I have a question. My best friend and I had a huge argument, and I have to know if I’m doing the correct thing. Before my friend found God, he was living with a woman, so when he found God he wanted to do things right and marry her. Then he found out she…
Read MoreAm I not married to my partner after living with her for seven years?
Question: Hello, I came across your website today and read one of your questions and answers topic and found it very interesting and comforting. I want to start by apologizing for the length of this question, but here goes: I have been studying the Bible for a long time and still thoroughly enjoy studying it…
Read MoreWhy are there no laws against pedophilia in the Bible?
Question: To Whom It May Concern: Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. When I was fifteen years old, I remember independently accepting God as my Lord and Savior, but within the same year, my relationship with God ended. My falling away was caused by a conversation I had with another Christian…
Read MoreYour answer was a law school-quality dialogue
Question: I came across this exchange, Is marriage only bound after sex?, while researching the topic for personal reasons, and I had to thank somebody for publishing such a concise and information-dense exchange between these two. It really gave me the information I needed to work some things out. This was a Law-School-Quality dialogue. Answer: Thank…
Read MoreMy husband’s family is denying him a traditional marriage
Question: I have been having this dilemma and do not know how else to proceed. My fiancé and I had a civil marriage with the consent of both parents. A year later we were to have a traditional wedding (as I am African) and then a church ceremony. Long story short, my fiancé’s parents withdrew…
Read MoreWhy can’t two women or two men marry and become one flesh?
Question: Hello, I am a Christian and I struggle with homosexual feelings. One thing I’m stuck on is the statement that homosexuality is wrong because only a man and woman can become one flesh. Then I ask what is one flesh? And I get the answers… One flesh is having the same values One flesh…
Read MoreDoes marriage bring forgiveness for fornication?
Question: I have read a number of things that you have written, and I find you to be very well-spoken, and you explain points very well in an understanding way. However, I’m still a little lost. I’m trying to find out if, when two people who have committed premarital sex are married, whether or not…
Read MoreI don’t trust my boyfriend enough to marry him
Question: I grew up in a Christian family. I did choose to be baptized at age of 11 or 12, but now that I’m older I find myself reading the Bible for my understanding and find myself in a tough situation that will cause me to not inherit the kingdom of heaven. For this reason,…
Read MoreDo I have to marry him because we had sex?
Question: I am in my early twenties, a newly born-again Christian and a Protestant. I am in a relationship with a Catholic guy for over five years. We did have sex and he has been loyal to me all these years. He is also a violent and angry person. As I grew in Christ, I…
Read MoreHow do I get my wife to stop nagging?
Question: Hello, What does the Bible say about a nagging wife? She brings up legitimate concerns from time to time. We currently are having financial problems because we are having to pay for an upcoming childbirth, and we have had a lot of unexpected expenses come up this year. But she goes overboard with it…
Read MoreIs it a sin to marry without getting a license or having a witness?
Question: Is it a sin to marry without getting a license or having a witness? Can you marry someone in God’s eyes and a couple of years later, when I have the money saved up to actually have a wedding, and then get the license? My girlfriend and I don’t want to wait anymore, we…
Read MoreShould I marry someone who has not repented of the sins we committed?
Question: Is it okay to marry someone who has not fully given in to salvation and has not repented for the fornication we’ve done in the past? I have been with him for over ten years. We’ve had several breakups but we still made up. I decided to give my life to Christ two years…
Read MoreThe government won’t acknowledge we are married
Question: Good day, I have been trying to be recognized as my late spouse’s wife, as we had married each other, and promised to love each other “until death do us part,” but our plans to remarry under the law were interrupted after my husband became very ill. His family’s plan to stop us was…
Read MoreIs getting married and having children selfish?
Question: Hello! I truly appreciate your dedication to assisting people with their questions. It has been a blessing to my life. I have a few questions for you that I wasn’t able to find on your website. If you wouldn’t mind answering them, here they are: Is getting married selfish since it takes away our…
Read MoreAm I married?
Question: Hello, This is my first time asking anyone this question, but it is really heavy on my mind, and with a lot of mixed feelings about it. I just came across this site, so why not. Two years ago, I met my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I was at the lowest point in…
Read MoreI don’t think we can hold out for three years
Question: I met my girlfriend after a strong heartbreak from the previous relationship, and she helped me a lot to recover. I was a Catholic then, and I was not born again. When we met she was born again and she used to pray for me to see the truth, though I was not seeing…
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