Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
My mom is upset that I don’t spend as much time with her as my sister does
Question: Context before I ask my question: I have been married to my husband for about a year now and happily consider ourselves still very much newlyweds. The first time I moved out of my parents’ home was when I married my husband. I was in my twenties and was the last out of my…
Read MoreDo we need her father’s blessing?
Question: I bring you greetings, Please, sir, I have a pressing question that demands an urgent answer. I proposed to a girl and she accepted after praying about it. We both belong to one group in our church and according to the ethics of the group, every member of the group must attend an interview…
Read MoreIs It a Sin for Married Couples to Split the Bills?
Question: Hello sir, I know you are busy laboring for the Lord so I don’t want to take up too much of your time. I just want to thank you for your years of labor for the Lord and your website which is such a blessing to me as I study God’s word. To get…
Read MoreI don’t think I am worthy of getting married
Question: Greetings to my brother in Christ, I am grateful for the many lessons available on your website and have found guidance in many of the points and critical illumination of God’s word. I have been a member of the body of Christ from a young age. The men in my extended family for generations…
Read MoreWhere should I live?
Question: Hi, I found your question and answer page and have been reading sermons and many of the answers you have replied with. I am struggling with a problem that is weighing very heavy on my heart and mind. My husband and I currently are living in separate homes about 10 minutes apart. It has…
Read MoreIs a shotgun wedding or a wedding involving a lie valid?
Question: God bless brother. I have questions about marriage. If someone lies in order to get married does God acknowledges that marriage? A young man married a woman after three weeks of knowing each other. He has a severe ambivalent attachment disorder. She lied to him about her child from a previous relationship of being…
Read MoreI’m unsure if I’m married to my ex-boyfriend
Question: Good evening! I’ve been praying, reading the Word, and reading godly people’s commentary on this topic – but I am still confused. I’m unsure if I will ever receive a definitive answer, but I would really appreciate any Scriptural knowledge you could share. I basically am just unsure if I’m technically married to my…
Read MoreLove and Respect
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Love-and-Respect.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Ephesians 5:25-33 I. There are some topics that are joined such that you cannot have one without the other. A. Faith and obedience are two sides the same subject. 1. You can’t really have faith without obedience – James 2:14-18 2. And you can’t really have obedience without faith – Romans 4:2-5…
Read MoreShould we marry after committing fornication?
Question: Good morning, I have a question. I am a Christian, growing in grace, I’m 26 years of age. I met a young Christian lady during the time I was asking the Lord who will go with me on this mission as a wife. When I saw her, my spirit agreed that she was the…
Read MoreMy husband doesn’t want more children
Question: Hi Mr. Hamilton! My husband told me more than once that we could have another child, but then he said he can’t psychologically take on the responsibilities of having another child. I’ve openly and honestly told him why I would like another child and that it was hurtful for him to break a promise…
Read MoreMan as the Head
by Doy Moyer Let’s start with this well-known statement: “For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body” (Ephesians 5:23). The immediate thought seems to be that the man is where “the buck stops” in the home. This…
Read MoreWho gives permission to marry if your father isn’t around?
Question: Hello I’ve been having problems with what to do when it comes to my wedding next year. My parents and my fiancé’s parents have separated. According to our African customs, the father should be the one to give permission on whether we get married or not. He is also the one to receive the dowry.…
Read MoreDid the vows I made in my head marry me to someone else?
Question: Hi! Before I married the love of my life, I would read stories online where the reader would marry either a character or a real person in the stories. I cannot remember if any of these stories included vows that I may have read and given in my head as I read. I struggled…
Read MoreShould I stay with my husband or my children?
Question: Good morning brother Hamilton I don’t want to say I am a fan, but I learned a lot from the lessons, sermons, and questions and answers on the La Vista Church of Christ website, and I am still learning. Glory to God for such initiative. I am grateful for having such a platform where,…
Read MoreCan relatives of one family marry relatives of another family?
Question: Is it morally legal for a father, brother, and son to be interested in marriage with three unrelated females that just so happen to be a mother, sister, and daughter, related to each other, but not to the men? If not, which ones and why not? Answer: Though we are not under the Old…
Read MoreIf two people agree to be exclusive and committed before having sex, are they bound together for life?
Question: Is my ex married to the girl he is dating? I still love him and share a child with him. He admitted to having sexual relations with a girl. She said, before having sex with him, that she didn’t want to have sex unless they were exclusive and committed. Well, he basically agreed by…
Read MoreI don’t want to force him, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me
Question: I’m right now in a situation in which my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me. From the beginning of our relationship, I didn’t want to force him but I wanted this relationship to end up in a marriage. From a religious point of view and I’m from an area where marriage is important before…
Read MoreWill my future partner determine if I’ll make eternity?
Question: Good evening, sir. Please, I have a question that has been bothering my mind. Will my future partner determine if I’ll make eternity? Answer: Who you choose to marry can reveal your attitude toward righteousness. If you knowingly marry a sinner, then you are knowingly placing temptation before you. After all, Paul warned, “Do…
Read MoreIs it compulsory to marry and have children?
Question: Is it compulsory to marry? Is it compulsory to bear children? If you don’t bear children are you sinning against God and Genesis 1:28? Answer: “But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. … I think then that this is good in view…
Read MoreIs it a sin not to get married in a church?
Question: I am in my late twenties and my fiancee is a year younger than me. We live in an African country, and we have been engaged for several years now. We have been waiting for the approval of my fiancee’s parents. They don’t want the marriage because I am a pastor and I’m not…
Read MoreI’m worn out being a wife to my husband
Question: Good afternoon, I have been married for over ten years and have been abundantly blessed with children. These past years have been a nightmare. I cannot be married to him anymore. I just cannot do this anymore. He is a very angry man. He mismanages the finances, has made so many terrible decisions, and we are…
Read MoreDoes impotency mean a person is not really married?
Question: I have been noticing that La Vista Church of Christ is one of the few congregations that tackle this sensitive issue. My question is in the case of the unconsummated marriage, does this indicate a de facto crisis within the marriage or is the marriage act incidental, solely the business of the husband and…
Read MoreWould you marry a couple who are committing fornication?
Question: My question is: If you end up counseling someone you are considering to perform their wedding and you find out they are currently living together, what do you do? I know you will discuss that with them from the Bible no doubt. But what do you do if they do not get that right…
Read MoreIs a wedding necessary since people don’t always keep their promise?
Question: Hello. I’m new to this website and I have an important question regarding premarital sex. My best friend and I love each other to the point where we like to show affection toward each other. We are 100% sure that we will stay together forever. I’m his first partner and so is he. However,…
Read MoreAre promises the same as marriage covenant?
Question: Dear minister, I have been feeling torn, confused, really unsure of what to do at times, I have prayed, trying to trust God to help. In the context of understanding marriage, I have searched about promises compared to covenants, including some answers on your site, and from other sources. Before I became a Christian…
Read MoreMy wife doesn’t want to study the Bible
Question: Hello brother. I have a question that I would like to ask and I hope you are able to respond if you have a spare moment. I foolishly married a woman who “believes in God” and attending Sunday morning worship but that’s about it. She doesn’t think that she needs to read the Bible…
Read MoreDo you think the circumstances changed and I might marry the man I love?
Question: It has been over a year and I did take your advice in not continuing to be with this man. We recently reconnected some months ago, since the military has brought him to the city I live in and I’ve just been thinking a lot about what happened. I told him last year that…
Read MoreI can’t marry my girlfriend because we are from the same clan
Question: Hi, I am from Uganda. I have lived with my girlfriend for 8 years, but it was only a few months back that I realized we belong to the same clan. I love my girlfriend because she has been there for me, but the problem is, I need a holy marriage. This last summer…
Read MoreDoes marriage mean I lose my individuality?
Question: Does marriage mean I lose my Individuality since we will be one? Is it a sin if don’t share everything on my mind with my wife? Does it mean no privacy for me? Please note that I’m not married yet. Answer: The concept of being one is found in a number of relationships in the…
Read MoreAm I not allowed to get married because I committed fornication?
Question: Sorry about this being a tough one. As a believer, I am in a really tough spot. I firmly believe the Bible teaches that sex is a biblical marriage. Although this is not what the church or mainstream media teaches. In Scripture, any time virgins had sex it was understood to be marriage. “He…
Read MoreCan a father prevent his daughter from marrying?
Question: Good evening Jeff. I have some questions that I need Bible facts to support, so I need your help. It is whether a man can prevent his daughter from getting married? If a girl’s father doesn’t agree to her marriage, can she still be scripturally married? Does I Corintians 7:37 mean that the above…
Read MoreWhat should we do, since we do not have my father’s permission to marry?
Question: Hello, I have read something online that relates to my situation. I have a lady and we agreed to enter into a relationship that will lead to marriage. I immediately talked to her mother. She tried to claim that we are related, but she was unable to prove it. We pressed on. Later my…
Read MoreDoes past adultery prevent a person from getting married?
Question: Hello brother, I have been single for many years, and I have now found someone in the church I’m wanting to marry. But in my past, I was not very faithful to God in my daily living. In my past, I slept with someone who may have been married herself. I’m not totally for…
Read MoreHow can a young man overcome sexual sin when he is not yet financially able to get married?
Question: I am a new convert. I have read several of your articles, which have helped in building up my faith. American marriages are quite different from marriages in my country. Here the bride’s parents will give the groom-to-be a list of things to buy or pay that can add up to millions in cash…
Read MoreYour teaching has been an encouragement to me
Question: I hope everything is well with you, and I hope God is protecting the Lavista Church of Christ! I’ve been encouraged a lot with the teachings about marriage, contraception, etc. I am thankful that God helps me a lot in spiritual growth. I hope to know more about God, His church, and His Word.…
Read MoreShould newlyweds live with his parents?
Question: Good evening, My boyfriend and I are both members of the Lord’s church and both very faithful. We have been courting a number of months and have talked bout the future of marriage. I am so nervous about marriage because it is such a big decision and neither of us believes in divorce. We…
Read MoreCan I marry my brother’s ex-girlfriend?
Question: Dear sir, I must commend you for the wonderful work you are doing in assisting people with important answers using the Bible. I have a girlfriend whom I love so much and I plan to marry. The problem I have is that she and my younger brother once dated and had oral sex before…
Read MoreWhat do we do? Our wedding was delayed
Question: I have a question about getting married. My fiancé and I have been engaged for two years now. We have finally gone down to the courthouse, have filled out an application, and have obtained our marriage license. We had an appointment with the Justice of the Peace today. I have sinned with her and…
Read MoreI learned a lot about marriage from your site
Question: Good day, I just want to thank God for such great revelations and teachings about marriage, I learned a lot from this site. May the good God you serve bless you. Answer: It is good to hear that the information was useful to you.
Read MoreWhat Is This Thing Called Love?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/What-Is-this-Thing-Called-Love.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Song of Solomon 8:6-7 I. We use the word “love” freely today. Perhaps too freely. A. I love to have another piece of cake. B. Mama loves her baby. C. He fell in love with her at first sight. D. He loved her through fifty yeas of marriage. E. I love my country. II. The…
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