Dear sir,

I must commend you for the wonderful work you are doing in assisting people with important answers using the Bible.

I have a girlfriend whom I love so much and I plan to marry. The problem I have is that she and my younger brother once dated and had oral sex before we started dating. I want to try and forget about it because everyone has their lives to live, but it’s difficult because I don’t know if this is right or wrong in the eyes of God and has caused me to think a lot.

Please I will appreciate your response and assistance in this regard.

Thank you.


There are no statements in the Bible that forbid a man from marrying a woman who had committed fornication, including if the other guilty party was his own brother.

Fornication is a sin (Hebrews 13:4), but it can be forgiven of those who turn against sin and change their lives (II Corinthians 7:10-11). If marrying a Christian woman is important to you, then assuming she has changed, there is no reason you can't marry her.

You do have to consider the potential awkwardness that results from your brother and her being intimate with each other. Hopefully, you are willing to work passed the issues that might arise from this.


Thank you, sir, for your timely response, I truly appreciate it.

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