Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
Is it wrong to have a relationship when divorced?
Question: Good afternoon, I have a question. If I was married and got divorced and then started a relationship with someone who isn’t my husband, is this considered adultery? Now that I’m saved, is it still a sin to start a non-physical relationship with another saved person who is not my husband after being baptized?…
Read MoreI only suspect that my ex-husband committed adultery
Question: Hi, I married this guy 5 years ago. We both came from Christian homes, but neither of us had a real relationship with God. At first, I didn’t want to marry him. We just started dating, and we already had intimacy, but he told me that it was illegal in this country and asked…
Read MoreIs it a problem that the divorce papers don’t mention adultery?
Question: Hello sir, I have a question for you regarding my brother. Right out of high school, my brother was married at a young age, with no children for 2 years. His wife allegedly began having an affair. At the time, there were many signs of cheating but no admission from her or proof that…
Read MoreWhen the Bible Makes Us Squirm
by Zeke Flores Sometimes, the Bible makes us squirm. It can make us uncomfortable when God uses such highly sexualized language to describe His people’s unfaithfulness as He does in Ezekiel 23. I assume that’s because it’s supposed to make us uncomfortable. When God’s people, whether His Old Covenant tribes or His New Covenant saints, turn away…
Read MoreCould he marry again?
Question: If a Christian man marries a woman who divorced her husband, without it being for adultery, he lived with her for several years, then she cheated on him, so he separated from her. Is he still an adulterer? Could he remarry a free and Christian woman? Answer: “But I say to you that…
Read MoreHow could he ruin my life like this?
Question: Good, dear Minister of God. I have been married for ten years and knew my husband for about eight years before we married. One of the primary reasons I believed he was God’s will for me was that I saw him as an honest person with very high integrity. He had been a choir…
Read MoreDoes Leviticus 20:10 permit adultery with the wife of a Gentile?
Question: Maimonides says that the repeated clause in Leviticus 20:10 is written this way to permit adultery with the wife of a Gentile. Is there any truth to that? And why is it written in such an ambiguous way? Is it to reveal human evils? Answer: The text of Leviticus 20:10 literally reads: “and a…
Read MoreHow do I get over this woman?
Question: I need some guidance. I was going to church and celebrating recovery, also serving at church, but I never felt connected to people or God. I felt like a loner like every other time I attempted to go to church. I started talking to this girl, my mom’s co-worker, whom I’ve always thought was…
Read MoreShould I divorce my husband?
Question: Hello, My husband and I have recently separated. He lives in a different spot. It’s been hard for me to decide whether or not I should stand for my marriage or just file for divorce. There was infidelity on my part 7 years ago, and I had carried the guilt with me for a…
Read MoreIs “Once a cheat, always a cheat” true?
Question: I do have another question regarding infidelity. There is a phrase that goes, “Once a cheat, always a cheat”. I guess that also applies to abusers, convicts, etc. Anyway, it has been going around, and I am sure it has been for a long time. In fact, I have also seen Christians using this…
Read MoreShame on you for telling a man to leave his woman!
Question: Shame on you for telling a man to leave his woman and that he has no responsibility to her. Have you no knowledge of grace and forgiveness? We all sin and have consequences for God to judge and decide. God also forgives those who ask. It sounds like they understand what they did. Who…
Read MoreI need some advice on my position with Christ
Question: I have some questions about marriage and my position in Christ that I would like you to help me with. I was married, I believe. Although it was a Christian marriage, it was like we came together and stayed. It has been three years so far in this kind of marriage. As a couple,…
Read MoreCan I get baptized while being in a relationship?
Question: I’m a 21-year-old male. My Father is a pastor. I’m in a relationship with my sister-in-law. Now I wanted to take baptism, but I have concerns. Do we need to break our relationship in order to get baptized? She is a very good girl, and I preached the gospel to her and made her…
Read MoreDid my marriage end for the right reason?
Question: Good afternoon! I recently became aware of your ministry and have been reading your articles. I immediately loved the tone and the thoroughness of the answers to questions that people asked! I have one for you that has concerned me! I am in my fifties. I accepted Christ as my Savior decades ago. I…
Read MoreDiscussion on Pre-Marital Sex
by Osamagbe Lesley Egharevba and Jeff Hamilton
Read MoreIllogical Fixes to Problems
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Illogical-Fixes-to-Problems.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Samuel 8:1-8 I. For over 400 years, God ruled over the land of Israel. A. When the people became wicked, God sent in an enemy nation to conquer a portion of the land. B. When the people turned backed to God, he raised up a judge to lead the people…
Read MoreIf adultery dissolves a marriage, why can’t the guilty party remarry?
Question: Good afternoon, I have a question that has been on my mind for some time. I’m hoping that you can shed some light, with scripture, to help me better understand. I know where I used to stand on this subject, but then I changed my mind. I still look back and wonder, so I…
Read MoreWhat if my husband dates while we are legally separated?
Question: My husband and I separated three years ago but are legally married. If he decides to date other people is that adultery in God’s eyes? Answer: In biblical days, the idea of a legal separation did not exist. Legal separations are essentially trial divorces. The hope was that by providing some space between the…
Read MoreWhy Did the Adulterers and Homosexuals at Corinth Change?
by Terry Wane Benton Paul mentions a list of sins which included thieves, drunkards, adulterers, and homosexuals (I Corinthians 6:8-10) and said, “such were some of you”. They were washed from such sins, justified, and sanctified. What was the motivation that moved them to change? They did not argue that they were born this way…
Read MoreSex, Preachers, and the Church
“The Bible does not hide from or obscure the power of the temptation to illicit sex. In language that is refreshingly clear and direct without itself indulging in titillation, the text warns the reader of the debacle that awaits him should he succumb in this area and at the same time promises profound sexual joy…
Read MoreAm I able to remarry?
Question: Hi, I came across your church page while looking for an answer to a difficult question. I have found many different answers but as a member of the Church of Christ, I wanted to try to get a response that aligned with my religious beliefs. I read through quite a bit of the Q&A…
Read MoreHow should the adultery of a minister be handled?
Question: My Dear Brother, I would like to express my deep grief because of what’s happening in our local congregation. I am in desperate need of guidance as my heart is so much troubled. We found out that our minister of many years has been hiding a horrible sin of adultery where a child has been…
Read MoreI committed fornication. Will our marriage be pure?
Question: Please help me. I have committed fornication with my boyfriend. We want to get married. Will our marriage still be pure? The boyfriend I committed fornication with is a married man. We both love God and don’t want to depart from His ways, yet we have sinned. Currently, I am pregnant. He wants to…
Read MoreDoes it mean I’ll never marry because I have strong feelings for a married man?
Question: I have been struggling greatly recently with my feelings for a very close friend of mine. The problem is that he is married. He and I were very close to each other about five years ago. We both liked each other, but never actually dated due to long distance. We lost touch for a…
Read MoreWould I be able to remarry?
Question: Your website is wonderful and I am learning a lot! I have seen similar questions but not quite the same. I’m not sure if I was a believer at the time of my marriage or afterward. I grew up in the church and knew who God was but I did not have the Holy…
Read MoreAm I wrong for moving on while waiting for the divorce to happen?
Question: Good evening, Several years ago, my wife left me for another man. She now has a child with this man and has been living with him since then. I waited over a year, trying to reconcile with her, but my attempts failed. I have moved on and have every intention of marrying the woman…
Read MoreWhen Your Mate Has Fallen
by Jefferson David Tant An unfaithful spouse is not a new phenomenon in our generation. We can trace it as far back as David and Bathsheba in the Old Testament. But it is dealt with even before that, as the Law God gave to Israel had specific provisions concerning this sin. No other problem is…
Read MoreAm I being used by this man?
Question: I really have a feeling what all your answers are going to be. I just need to know if there is any hope for the relationship I am in. We met at work and I ended up having to spend part of the day being his monitor. So we really got to spend some…
Read MoreDid I sin by getting baptized again?
Question: Hello, I hope you are well and having a blessed day. I am writing you because I have been greatly troubled. I’ve prayed about it, and I’ve tried to get past the things I’ve done. To backtrack a little bit, I was first baptized into the church when I was thirteen. I remember sitting…
Read MoreDo I let go of my failing marriage?
Question: I’m sorry this is a bit long. My husband has cheated on me several times in our marriage. Each time, he would convince me he would change, and he would for a few years, but then it would happen again and again. I would take him back and just pray and hope he wouldn’t…
Read MoreWhy can a broken vow to God be forgiven but remarriage remains adultery?
Question: If God can forgive someone who breaks a vow to Him, although we know that vows should never be made, then why is remarriage possibly considered adultery when they’re breaking a vow of marriage? What is the difference between a vow to God and a vow made for marriage? Answer: All sins that are…
Read MoreI created a mess by withdrawing from my marriage and want to know how to fix it
Question: This is a difficult problem and I understand if there can be no definitive answer. I will try to share all details that may be pertinent. I have been married for over twenty years. Very early on in our marriage, I committed adultery. Several years later she convinced me to be a Christian. I…
Read MoreIs cheating while dating known as adultery?
Question: Is cheating while dating (as in having a boyfriend or girlfriend) known as adultery? Answer: Having sex with someone you are not married to is called “fornication.” See Notes on Sex for more information. Adultery is a type of fornication where one or both people are married, but not to each other. Dating carries no formal…
Read MoreDid my fiance have a right to divorce his first wife?
Question: Hello! I really appreciate your question and answer site. I use it regularly when studying a specific subject. I have a question, and I believe I already know the answer, but I wondered what your response to my question would be. So here it goes … I divorced a few years back due to…
Read MoreCan I still marry my girlfriend after my dad slept with her?
Question: I want to know if I can get married to my girlfriend. My dad slept with her. Is it possible for both of us to still marry? Answer: The Law of Moses, which does not apply today, stated a son could not behave sexually with his father’s wife (Leviticus 18:7) nor could a father…
Read MoreI think my husband is having a secret affair and I don’t know how to deal with it
Question: Good Day, I have been married to my husband for less than ten years. We have several children together. My husband also has even more children from before we met. I chose to forgive and accept him as he indicated that he had grown from those mistakes and wanted to start a committed life…
Read MoreHow is it good when your wife commits adultery?
Question: Romans 8:28 says everything works for good. If you were in a marriage relationship, where you did everything you possibly could for your spouse, where you sacrificed a lot for them, then they cheated on you with the possibility of leaving you with some STIs, How is that good? How does it work for…
Read MoreShould I marry a woman who had a habit of dating married men?
Question: Is it OK to marry a lady who has a past of dating married men? The majority of the men she has dated were married men. It also bothers me that she keeps her past a secret. Answer: I don’t know what kind of things you think she is keeping secret from you. Should…
Read MoreShould I acknowledge the anniversaries of couples I know are in unscriptural marriages?
Question: Hello Mr. Hamilton, I send cards for different reasons to church family members as well as loved ones all year long. About 90% of my card collection contain Scriptures and faith-based messages. But the one kind that tugs at my heart is “Happy Anniversary,” for couples I care about outside the church, including family…
Read MoreDoes past adultery prevent a person from getting married?
Question: Hello brother, I have been single for many years, and I have now found someone in the church I’m wanting to marry. But in my past, I was not very faithful to God in my daily living. In my past, I slept with someone who may have been married herself. I’m not totally for…
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