Posts Tagged ‘sexual touching’
Did I marry her?
Question: Hello, pastor! I’m in my early twenties. Since last year, I’ve had a doubt that eats away at me. I dated a girl (whom I believe to be a virgin) two years ago. As the relationship progressed, we started to misbehave. More specifically, I touched her breasts with my hands and mouth, as described…
Read MoreHow do I deal with a boyfriend who won’t respect boundaries?
Question: Dear brothers in Christ, I am writing to you because I need your advice. My soul is weary, and my heart is exhausted. I am a Christian girl in my mid-twenties. I worship in a church of Christ. I grew up in a Christian family. Only one of my siblings didn’t become a Christian.…
Read MoreDo you tell others about your sins they know nothing about?
Question: Hello! I have a question, and it’s kind of been bothering me for a while. When the Bible mentions Matthew 5:23-24, “So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you,24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your…
Read MoreIf I don’t see it as sexual in any way, is it a sin?
Question: Hello. I have a few questions about things that I have committed with my partner. I am Catholic. He and I had sex, and now, officially, I failed to complete one of the commandments. Now, along the way, we have done some things like blow jobs and everything. My first question is if my…
Read MoreMy parents think it is OK to have sex outside of marriage if you are in love
Question: What should I do about my parents if they won’t admit that they sinned by having sex outside of marriage? I consistently tell them that what they did was wrong, but they just admit it reluctantly. My Dad also told me that he thinks that God said that because he and my Mom were…
Read MoreDid I defile myself by sexually touching a woman?
Question: Greetings, I just wanted to know if I sexually touched a woman with clothes on but no intercourse, did I defile myself as Revelation 14:4 says? “These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and…
Read MoreIs it normal for an eight-year-old boy to be touching himself?
Question: We have custody of an 8-year-old boy. During the first six years of his life, he was exposed to drugs, sex, filthy language, compulsive lying, and a lot of antisocial behavior from his mother and other adults in his life. He frequently puts his hands down his pants out in the open, and I…
Read MoreDiscussion on Pre-Marital Sex
by Osamagbe Lesley Egharevba and Jeff Hamilton
Read MoreIs sexual touching a public or private sin?
Question: This is a situation involving a Christian man and a woman. I have several questions. The man is married and his wife is still living. The woman’s husband has passed away. and she is now single. As friends, they became close. At times they have embraced each other. They also have touched each other…
Read MoreShould I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?
Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…
Read MoreWas it sinful to allow a guy to touch me?
Question: I am a straight guy (unmarried). When I was traveling on a bus at night, while sleeping, an old man sitting near me touched my genitals. I didn’t react to it. I pretended to be asleep. It was pleasurable to me so I didn’t react. Did I commit a sin? Answer: What if we…
Read MoreHow do I straighten myself out?
Question: Hi, I came across this website and saw how some issues about relationships have been addressed. I was actually having a headache presently about a matter, and that’s why I looking online. I hoped there would be someone I can share it with, and get the right advice. I came across my girlfriend (who…
Read MoreDo I need to confess my sin of lust before taking communion?
Question: I have a question about lust and communion. Is it a sin to have touched my boyfriend’s buttocks with our clothes on? I believe it may fall into lust, and if it does then do I have to confess this before being able to take communion? Answer: What you are describing could fall under…
Read MoreWhat is the fate of a man who was involved with a sexually immoral woman?
Question: Is it good to be in a relationship that one knows will not end up in marriage? What must a lady, who made love with many men, do to be clean? What is the sin that God will never forgive? If a man, who is clean, is in a romantic relationship that results in…
Read MoreI feel like I’m a fake Christian
Question: Good afternoon, I’m in my thirties. I have never been intimate with a man. Last month, for the first time I actually had a hard time setting boundaries and was fingered by the man I’m seeing. I’m so upset at myself because I’ve been so steadfast my entire life to do no more than…
Read MoreIs kissing wrong before marriage?
Question: Hello, I just read your answer to a question about if handjobs or fingering were a sin. I liked how you explained it, but I got confused towards the end. You explained it with an analogy that you wouldn’t want another man fingering your wife. This made me wonder about kissing. Should we wait…
Read MoreHow do I fight the temptation to commit fornication?
Question: I always told myself as I grew up that sexual immorality would never be a problem for me because the consequences scared me too much, but in recent years, the constant exposure to sex being “normal” and “acceptable” I guess have overcome me. I see so many sites that push for birth control and…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I have been falling into lewd behavior and we trying to stop it
Question: Hello. Good day to you. Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to read my email. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. He is sure of me, saying I am what he wants in a woman and in a wife. I feel the same about…
Read MoreNotes on Sex
Fornication (Greek: porneia): Porneia, typically translated as fornication, sexual immorality, or sometimes just immorality is defined as follows: “Porneia, which is relatively rare in classical Greek (Moulton-Milligan), originally stood for “prostitution” … In other, later contexts it denotes “unchasity, illicit sexual relations” of any kind (“fornication” is a somewhat archaic but common translation).” [The Complete Biblical…
Read MoreHow far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?
Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…
Read MoreIt is shameful to scare people into thinking that dry humping can lead to pregnancy
Question: I’d just like to point out that your article on dry humping was completely dishonest. It is shameful to scare people into thinking that dry humping leads to pregnancy, especially through clothes. Instilling fear in people so that they will follow your agenda is wrong, and it’s not Christian whatsoever. Answer: “Put them in fear,…
Read MoreCan I be forgiven if I sin after I was baptized?
Question: I was baptized a few months ago, and I turned myself into the name of the Lord. Everything has been going well. I feel alive and well again. I’ve been talking to a very special girl (she is baptized as well). The other day I met up with her, and we ended up kissing,…
Read MoreI feel so bad because I let a man touch me. Will God forgive me?
Question: I have a really difficult moment. I really need your help. I am 24 years old and I’m a Christian. I only had one boyfriend and with him, I had nothing more than a kiss, like a peck, and some holding hands and hugs. I was 16 years old at the time. After that,…
Read MoreMy long-time girlfriend told me she won’t be marrying me. What do I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I am 23. I met a girl about a year before we entered college. She was a believer, which was what attracted me to talk with her, as my dad was ungodly and my mom tried hard to bring me to Christ. Thus, I was never exposed to powerful messages or deeper…
Read MoreI thought I was meeting a Christian, but he touched me inappropriately
Question: I feel so terrible about this. I have strictly been focusing on Christ for over a year now. I promised myself to wait on God until I can say “yes” to the man whom God has for me. I started talking to this guy who presented himself as a God-fearing man. He had devotion…
Read MoreYou have absolutely no idea what you are talking about
Question: You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I was reading your answer to “Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?” and I have never seen such a garbage answer. You are simply throwing your own interpretation of the Bible at people as if…
Read MoreSince we plan to marry, is sexual touching OK?
Question: I have a ring on my finger and me and my boyfriend plan to marry within the next 5 years. We have not had sex and do not plan to until marriage, but we have done things with our hands. We are not sure whether it was a sin it not? We plan to…
Read MoreAm I married because I did sexual acts with my girlfriend?
Question: I am 21 years old. I have been dating a girl my same age for about 6 months. We are both baptized Christians but have made serious mistakes. About a month ago, she gave me a hand-job. This happened three times but after the third time, I felt awful about it and have told…
Read MoreHow do we avoid the temptation to have sex?
Question: I am 23 years of age and a college student. I have been in a relationship for over a year now. My motive for being in the relationship is to be with my partner now and stay with her until God blesses us to marry. My problem is how do I handle my sexual…
Read MoreAre the sexual things we do sinful if we plan on marrying?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years now, and it’s a given that we’ve faced sexual temptation. Though we have not gone “all the way” we have done mostly everything else. We’ve talked about marrying each other and think it’s a very real possibility. If this is the case, are…
Read MoreIs touching your girlfriend wrong in God’s eyes?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating each other for a while now. She’s a very serious Christian and she’s trying to keep herself as clean as possible, so every time I try to touch her she gets mad. I wonder if touching is a wrong thing in God’s eyes. Answer: You didn’t say where you…
Read MoreYour website kept me from sinning
Question: I was searching on Google and found this website. I was scared that if I did something with oral sex or that other touching stuff if I would be committing a sin. Your website gave the answer and stopped me from planning or doing that stuff before marriage. So thank you for answering my…
Read MoreWhile we haven’t had sex, we’ve been sexually involved with each other. How do we stop?
Question: My boyfriend and I are very much in love, but I am afraid to say we have had sexual contact with each other. It is very sad because we both have grown up knowing the love, power, and grace of God. I feel lost. We didn’t actually have “sex” as the world defines it,…
Read MoreCould I have gotten my girlfriend pregnant when my penis touched her vagina?
Question: Yesterday I just touch my penis against my girlfriend’s vagina. I don’t think there was any sperm out from my penis, and I did not try to put it into her vagina. So, I want to know: is there any possibility of her becoming pregnant? Answer: The problem is that when a man is…
Read MoreHave I sinned sexually by grinding with my boyfriend? Should I stop wearing my purity ring?
Question: I don’t know if I feel guilty or not. Should I be wearing my purity ring? I am dating a man quite a bit older than me. We have known each other for nearly three years but have only begun dating in the past two months. I really liked this guy for a good…
Read MoreHow do I restrain myself with my girlfriend?
Question: Hi Jeffrey, I’m in a courtship with a lady and we both promised each other never to fornicate, which we have kept for three years now. But we do kiss and romance each other since a year into our courtship. I have tried to stop it but to no avail. She has self-control over…
Read MoreWe started to have sex but didn’t complete it. How do we go back to purity in our relationship?
Question: My boyfriend and I committed a sexual activity, we started sex but didn’t complete it. We just were involved in foreplay. Anyway, I’m 19 and he’s 22. We are in a serious relationship and have been for almost three years. We met in college while taking the same program. I would say that our…
Read MoreI came close to having sex with a coworker. What do I do about the thoughts regarding what I almost did?
Question: I taught in a nearby primary school three years ago. There was this lady who also taught and is currently teaching. She one time approached me requesting my assistance in her examinations. In the course of the teaching, I began to develop a passion for her, with no intention to marry her. We never…
Read MoreWould it be wrong for my girlfriend to move in with me a few months before we get married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are engaged and about to be married in four months. We never had sex. We talked about it and the want that we have. But we have decided to live together because she turned 18 and was forced out of her house. She…
Read MoreWe’ve been involved in lewd behavior in the past, which we know is wrong. So how do we stop?
Question: Sir, We have been in a relationship since childhood. We grew up together and we both are Christians. We are now in our early twenties. We have been kissing, fondling, and touching our private parts for the past few years. But we have kept it very strongly in our minds that we will never…
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