Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
Can a man, converting to Islam marry another wife?
Question: My friend married a Christian in a church wedding. After 20 years of marriage, her husband converted to the Muslim religion and married again to a Muslim woman. Is his marriage to a Muslim woman legal? My friend and her husband still have not separated. Thank you. Answer: “And He answered and said to…
Read MoreHow can I forgive my husband for his adultery?
Question: I have been married for almost 25 years and found out several weeks ago that my husband has had an affair. I knew something was wrong but was too blind to know what for the past two years and sought Christian counsel to help me. One person asked me if I thought he could…
Read MoreThe man I committed adultery with is trying to force me to marry him. What should I do?
Question: I have a child whom I had with a man to whom I am not married. Actually, I’m still married to another man whom I left because of physical, and mental, and emotional abuse. My child’s father has since been confirmed to the Catholic church. He calls our child a bad word for illegitimate.…
Read MoreWhy is my husband committing adultery?
Question: Hello! I was on your site and I wanted to ask a question. My husband (who was a minister when we married) started cheating on me years ago after a pastor prophesied over him the year before and told him, “Don’t ever forsake your wife or it will detrimental unto you.” Long story short,…
Read MoreNow that I realize I am in adultery, how do I fix the problem?
Question: Good morning, I’ve recently come across this site and have received much clarity through other readers’ questions. I personally have realized that I am an adulteress. I have married (my first marriage) a man who divorced his first wife. I know that the divorce was not due to any infidelity on her part, thus…
Read MoreWhat if you don’t have concrete evidence that your spouse is committing adultery?
Question: Thank you for your web site. I have a question that you sort of touched on in a post, but I wanted to confirm. What if a spouse strongly suspects infidelities but has no concrete evidence? (The post I referenced involved a husband who may have been seeing prostitutes.) My husband has had at…
Read MoreAm I gambling with my soul by living with my girlfriend while waiting for her divorce to go through?
Question: I found Christ after being lost for almost 15 years. This is a real change, it’s not like the past. I really feel like the Holy Spirit is guiding me. I’m separating myself from all that is evil driven and it’s as if I see black and white now and have dropped all my…
Read MoreWhy were the sexual laws not applied equally between men and women in the Old Testament?
Question: Why was purity asked more of women than men in the Old Testament? A woman who slept with a man before marriage was stoned, but a man who slept with an unmarried woman was not and instead had to marry her! Also, there had to be proof of a woman’s virginity but not of…
Read MoreI don’t know if I should marry the man I’ve been living with for the last six years
Question: I’m a divorced woman in my forties. I’m currently living with a man in his thirties whom I’ve been in a relationship with for six years. Of those six years, I was still married up until one year ago. During the entire time we were dating he asked me to get a divorce and…
Read MoreWe were doing well a few years ago, but I’ve slipped into sexual sins
Question: Dear Minister, I came upon your website via Google, and read a few of your articles, and found them to be interesting and very helpful, Thank you. My problem is that I became a “Born Again” Christian a few years ago when I was in my mid-thirties. My husband joined shortly thereafter. We both…
Read MoreMy husband is committing adultery but also talking about becoming a Christian
Question: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 2. We have a 7-year-old child together. He admitted to having sexual chemistry with a colleague a few months ago and she started visiting more regularly. I became suspicious but said nothing. My husband cheated on me with her the day…
Read MoreAm I sinning by seeing a woman who still lives with her husband, though she says they are separated?
Question: I’m seeing a woman who lives with her husband but is separating and has no relationship with him. She stays together with him for the kids’ sake, but this has been going on for two years. Am I committing a sin? I honestly believe her that they are not together, but I’m confused if…
Read MoreA Tale of Two Women
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/TaleOfTwoWomen.mp3 Text: Proverbs 1:20-33 I. Solomon addresses the book of Proverbs to young men – Proverbs 1:8 A. And in the course of his advice on many subjects, he introduces us to two women: Wisdom and unnamed immoral woman B. These aren’t actual women but personifications of two ideas C. The question left hanging in the air is…
Read MoreI married a man, not realizing what he was like or what his past was. What do I do?
Question: I got married several years ago to someone that I really didn’t know. We met in the fall and married the following summer. It was one of the most foolish things that I have done, and have regretted it every single day. I believed he was a Christian. He lied about who he was…
Read MoreI just can’t understand why my husband had an affair and a child as a result
Question: My husband confessed to me a couple of months ago that he had a one-night stand while overseas. Even then I knew that couldn’t have been all to the story. With the help of members from our congregation, last week he was able to confess it all to me. He stated that he and…
Read MoreI’m heartbroken that I have to end my marriage
Question: Hello Mr. Hamilton, I wrote to you a month or so ago and you were very helpful. I wanted to thank you again. Just a refresher. I found out after my husband and I were married for less than six months that he was viewing pornography. Of course, like the world seems to view, he…
Read MoreIf both are committing adultery, could either one remarry?
Question: Hello, I was wondering if you could help me with the following: How would you respond to a man who was married, and after four years of marriage his wife committed adultery. He decided to move out. The two remained legally married for another whopping 8 years, but both ended up living with other…
Read MoreWho is responsible for a child born out of wedlock?
Question: What if a guy has a child outside of his marriage with another woman? Is he still responsible, such as for child support? What if his wife knows but disapproves of the child growing up with their children? What if he has a child that he knows is his but refuses to take care…
Read MoreHow do I let go of the guilt of having committed adultery?
Question: I was friends with a married man. It was all very innocent until one day. I met his wife and children, and they were all so lovely. He dropped me off at home, and it just happened. I can’t believe that I allowed myself to accept a married man in my bed. I am…
Read MoreWill I be condemned for running off with another man?
Question: I have been feeling very convicted. I find myself questioning my salvation. I have been married for over five years and have decided to leave my husband for a man I met playing an online game. I know I am in the wrong. I have no doubts. My husband claims he loves me, and…
Read MoreHow do I straighten out the mess I’m in?
Question: Hi, I have a big problem and I need some guidance, please. It’s a long story, so please bear with me. I grew up in a church of Christ and got baptized when I was younger. I did not really have a full understanding; I think I may need to redo it. I have…
Read MoreMy husband says he wants to divorce me in order to have a polygamous marriage. What do I do?
Question: I am a Christian. I am writing because my husband wants a divorce. He has stated to me that he believes that he should be able to have more than one wife and live under one roof with them. I really think that he doesn’t believe that, but he just wants to be able…
Read MoreCan I have sex with a woman who is willing and cannot get pregnant?
Question: I got married to an unfaithful woman. I guess having it her way counts as unfaithfulness? My dad and others where we were living did not want us together as she: Had 16 boyfriends before me Did not pay her rent or telephone bills Had a lot of medical problems that she told me…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My ex-husband is about to marry his mistress
Question: I need your help. My ex-husband is marrying his mistress. According to the church, they are “shacking up” and need to be right by God. They getting married is the right thing to do, according to their church. I have departed from my husband (he divorced me), hoping we someday he will see his…
Read MoreI repented of my adultery, but my wife is still planning to divorce me. What do I do?
Question: My wife and I had a marriage that was in shambles. Instead of turning to the Lord, we continually relied upon ourselves. Our communication was bad, our respect for each other was low, and our intimate life was terrible to non-existent. Over the years I ended up having multiple affairs. Just last month I…
Read MoreI’m trying to forgive my wife for the adultery she committed, but I’m finding it hard to forget
Question: Good evening, sir, I was told about your website and that you can help me with some questions I have about my marriage. I have been married for less than ten years. Well, last year my wife was seeing another guy from work. I found her messages when she was texting him. I confronted…
Read MoreMy friend is committing adultery. Must I say something?
Question: I need a clear answer. Did I commit sin if I have known from the beginning my friend has committed adultery and still dating someone? She still married, still living in the same house together with her husband and kids. Her husband is nice, old, and busy at work all the time. I also…
Read MoreI’ve been involved in acts of lewdness with a married man while leading a church. What do I do?
Question: I am born again and have been upholding purity and faithfulness to God. I did not have any dealings with men because I told myself I was waiting for the guy that God has destined for me. I would stick to that and really serve God to the fullest. I lead praise and worship…
Read MoreI ruined my husband’s reputation with my family. How do I repair it?
Question: Good morning my brother, I’m a believer and married. I have a problem that does not allow me to sleep. For the past three years my husband cheated on me with a woman I forgave him because I love my husband. He is a good husband apart from his mistake. I believe it happened because…
Read MoreMy husband is into porn and I suspect seeing prostitutes. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am in dire need of biblical advice concerning my marriage. I have been married for almost two years but we have been separated for most of that time. I found out that my husband was watching porn several months into our marriage. Of course, he said he had only done it a…
Read MoreEver since I committed adultery and lost my marriage, it seems like I’ve been stuck
Question: I am in my late forties. I had cheated on my ex-wife, she asked me for a divorce, and I gave it to her. I regret what I’ve done, since then nothing has gone good for me. I’ve repented and asked God for forgiveness. I have had so many jobs and can’t find a…
Read MoreI’m trying to hold my marriage together, but my wife won’t stay at home
Question: My wife has been inconsistently living at home. It’s been one excuse after the other. We have been divorced once before because she committed adultery. I fear God’s judgment on my head and know that I am no perfect person myself. Although I have never physically committed adultery, I have in my heart. I…
Read MoreI didn’t want to start the year with lies so I told my husband about my past affair. How can I save my marriage?
Question: Hello, I committed adultery a few months ago, but I just told my husband because I didn’t want to bring the new year in with lies and deceit. My question is what can I do or say to make things work? I know I was wrong, but I want my marriage. I know it…
Read MoreHow do I find peace when I’m reminded that another woman stole my husband away?
Question: Every holiday season my former spouse’s wife sends holiday greeting cards to my daughter. I don’t understand why she feels the need to send photos of my former spouse and herself (along with their toddler) to her. I put the greeting cards up and display them, for it is my daughter’s father and her…
Read MoreCan I remarry after both my husband and I have committed adultery?
Question: Hello. I need your help and guidance. I’m currently in the process of a divorce, which has been going on for two years now. My ex-husband and I were very young when we decided to live together. I was 16 and he was 17. I admit that I latched onto him because I wanted…
Read MoreNow that my husband has died, can I marry the man I committed adultery with?
Question: I have committed adultery against my husband. He has since died. If I marry the man that I committed adultery with, am I free to marry him? He is single. He knew I was married at the time this happened. Is he an adulterer? If we decide to marry will God recognize and accept…
Read MoreI encourage you to remove “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage” from your website
Question: The article by Mark Broyles, “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage,” on your website is spreading a myth – short of being able to mind-control your spouse, there is no way to prevent an affair. One’s partner can do anything they choose to do. I encourage you to remove the article. It’s poor to see shoddy theology…
Read MoreHow long does it take to get over finding out your husband committed adultery?
Question: I could use help. My husband confessed he had a one-night stand while in another country. He told me six months later after he has been back, so it’s been a month now since I’ve known and it’s been horrible. I’m trying but then I have these moments when I want questions to be…
Read MoreAdultery: An Outdated Crime?
Source: Ethan Bronner, “Adultery: Ancient crime still on many states’ books,” The New York Times, reported in the Omaha World-Herald, 15 November 2012. The core of Mr. Bronner’s article is that adultery laws are no longer enforced and have been removed from half the state’s books. The reason most other states have not removed the laws is…
Read MoreWhen a person doesn’t know the wrong you did, is confession required?
Question: I have committed adultery many times during the past 30 years of my marriage and in many instances lied to cover up my absence. During the last year or two, I have earnestly started to read the bible and now feel extremely guilty about my past poor behaviors. Since I have become more familiar…
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