What can I do? My ex-husband is about to marry his mistress
Question:
I need your help. My ex-husband is marrying his mistress. According to the church, they are “shacking up” and need to be right by God. They getting married is the right thing to do, according to their church. I have departed from my husband (he divorced me), hoping we someday he will see his wrong and repent. I only got a "Sorry, but ...". However, he is planning on marrying this woman he’s with. I want to send a letter to the church they attend telling them this is wrong. And that the leadership there will be accountable for this because they have taken all hope away from reconciling with my husband.
His soon-to-be wife goes on to say that “affairs are the result of a broken home.”It’s being defined that the member must do the right thing, instead of “burning in hell.” They go on to say that blended families are OK because Jesus came from a blended family. I’m so confused because I know this is not to be truth. "I charge you therefore before God and the Lord Jesus Christ, who will judge the living and the dead at His appearing and His kingdom: Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables" (II Timothy 4:1-4).
How can a church allow this to happen? What are my rights as a Christian? If I listen to these people or the megachurch, what’s the point of doing good, knowing God is going to forgive me anyway. I love my Father in heaven so much. The very thought of doing something wrong brings repentance to me. It’s been years since I’ve been touch by a man, but I refuse to lay with someone and lose my chances in heaven. Please give me guidance and encouragement. Your website helps me build my knowledge. I have moved out of the country to find some solace in my problem and reach a better relationship with God. I already know about adultery, divorce, and remarriage. I wasn’t the one that committed it. I just don’t understand what happened to me. Why am I suffering because of someone else’s sin? I believe I did everything a wife should.
Thank you in advance and for being there for us people who are hurting.
Answer:
Problems exist in the world because sin is in the world. Your husband committed adultery and continues to do so. He now plans on marrying the woman he's committing adultery with. None of this is surprising. He has found a church that supports his false views so that he can go on pretending that he is righteous. Again, this is not surprising. Nor is there anything that you can do to change your husband or the church he attends. They aren't interested in the truth. "And for this reason God will send them strong delusion, that they should believe the lie, that they all may be condemned who did not believe the truth but had pleasure in unrighteousness" (II Thessalonians 2:11-12).
God doesn't forgive sinners just because some church or its leaders claim He does. God forgives when a sinner meets His criteria. Perhaps one day your ex-husband will turn from his sins. But meanwhile, you have a life to live and a God to serve in truth. That is all you can do. "The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself" (Ezekiel 18:20).
