Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
Should I marry the woman I committed adultery with as a second wife?
Question: Dear Minister, I am a young man married to one wife for the last four years. My wife is now five months pregnant. Unfortunately, I committed adultery with another young woman and she is one month pregnant. We have made it a secret not to tell my wife until when the child is born…
Read MoreDoes a person in an adulterous marriage have to get divorced first before he can be baptized?
Question: The following scenario has been presented to me by another person for my thoughts and guidance on it: I have a tough situation. A man I’ve known most of my life was baptized the other day. This man was in adultery. The church went ahead and baptized him. I don’t know all the details…
Read MoreI told my wife I had inappropriate conversations with a woman, but I didn’t mention I had sex with her. My wife thinks I’m lying. Must I tell her everything?
Question: I’ve confessed to my wife for having inappropriate conversations with a woman in church five years ago. Now what I haven’t told her is that I had a sexual relationship with her. She has asked if I kissed or had sex with her and I chose not to answer her. I’ve asked for forgiveness…
Read MoreWhat is the difference between adultery and fornication?
Question: I was just wondering: I think that if someone sleeps with a married person but they are not married, they now to are committing adultery? And if that person, who was not married, sleeps with someone else later in life, who is not married, does that new person commit adultery too? Just wondering how…
Read MoreI committed adultery with a married man, now I feel guilty about it
Question: A couple of years ago I had sex with a married man. It lasted about two years and it was revealed to his wife that we were having a sexual affair. I’ve lied to her about what went on between us. I’m very ashamed and disgusted by what I’ve done and ask God to…
Read MoreMy husband is living with another woman, should I divorce him?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ. I am now battling with the decision to divorce my husband. I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been married for about five years. He got baptized while we dated. I was born and raised in the church, but he never…
Read MoreHow do I repent of adultery when I don’t feel sorry for doing it?
Question: I have been married for 20 years. It has not been an easy marriage in many respects, but after reading a lot of the questions and problems of other people on your web site, I realize that it could have been much worse. Anyway, I will not go into all of the problems of…
Read MoreSince my husband committed adultery in the past, can I remarry even though I’ve been sleeping with a man before I divorced my husband?
Question: I was married at 20 years old. Two months after our marriage my husband admitted to making out with another woman and asked for a divorce. I dismissed his request as being childish and continued with the marriage. After a year of marriage, he admitted to making out with another woman plus he was…
Read MoreI’ve been living with a man while my divorce was going through, but now he is reluctant to marry me
Question: Hi, We have lived together for 7 years. We probably would’ve been married long ago, but I was going through a divorce for 6 of those years, and hospitalized due to medical illnesses for about a year or something like that, on and off. We are utterly and completely in love but don’t have…
Read MoreIf we straighten out ending our past marriages, would we still be in adultery?
Question: I have seen you talking about adultery on a website answering questions. I myself have the same issue. I’m living with my boyfriend of five years, and we have a child together. He is married to another woman, but they have been separated for ten years and he has not been able to afford a…
Read MoreMy husband returned to his country and refuses to allow me to join him
Question: Hello, My husband left me a year ago. He returned to his country. He did not want me there, so he changed his mind and wanted me there. I went, spent some time with him, but I did not like it so I returned to my country. Eventually, I realized I should be obedient…
Read MoreI moved in with another woman before my divorce is final. Am I able to marry her?
Question: Dear brother, I am a member of the church of Christ and have been almost all my life. I married when I was 19 to my high school sweetheart. We were having some problems with money because I lost my job and things got hard, so one day she decide to leave me. Well,…
Read MoreI keep repeatedly committing adultery
Question: I just came back from work and decided to browse on this topic repeated sin and luckily for me, I found myself on your site. I really need your help man of God. I am the worst sinner ever — an adulterous woman. I am married with kids. I cannot explain how I found…
Read MoreAm I not able to get pregnant because I didn’t tell my husband about my adultery years ago?
Question: Hi Jeff, Stumbling on your website was nothing short of a miracle. I’ve been searching for the same set of questions over the years, but I’ve never seen your website. I’ve lost all the sense of peace I have in this world. I am heavily burdened; I can actually almost touch the burden. I…
Read MoreHow far should I go in helping a family living in sin?
Question: My father-in-law is in poor health and is moving up here with us so we can help take care of him, and he can spend some time with his grandchildren during his remaining time here. Unfortunately, he’s not a Christian. He was originally going to move in with us but then decided against it,…
Read MoreShould I leave my wife because I got her pregnant before we were married?
Question: I have a question about marriage. I’m going to start off on how my wife and I came together so you know the whole story. A small group of friends and I used to go out to eat after church on Wednesday nights. I met this one girl who went with us. For some…
Read MoreI don’t like the answers you give about sexual sins
Question: Dear Sir, I was reading on your website a letter that a young woman had written to you about feeling very guilty about going too far with her boyfriend. Being that she was away from home and at college with new friends she put God out of her life and that was how it was…
Read MoreMy husband returned to his first wife and now I’m confused
Question: Good day, I have been separated for over a year from my best friend of over 10 years and my husband for less than a year, though legally we were married for over a year. He had been married once before to a woman who continuously committed adultery with multiple people every time he…
Read MoreMy girlfriend is marrying someone she claims she is not happy with. She wants me to be her lover after she marries. I’m so confused!
Question: Hi, My life is messed up because my relationship with my girlfriend is very bad. I am suffering from epilepsy, diabetes, and I lost an eye. But all of this is fine if she is with me. I’m involved in my family’s business and belong to a very rich family. She belongs to a…
Read MoreCan a man, converting to Islam marry another wife?
Question: My friend married a Christian in a church wedding. After 20 years of marriage, her husband converted to the Muslim religion and married again to a Muslim woman. Is his marriage to a Muslim woman legal? My friend and her husband still have not separated. Thank you. Answer: “And He answered and said to…
Read MoreHow can I forgive my husband for his adultery?
Question: I have been married for almost 25 years and found out several weeks ago that my husband has had an affair. I knew something was wrong but was too blind to know what for the past two years and sought Christian counsel to help me. One person asked me if I thought he could…
Read MoreThe man I committed adultery with is trying to force me to marry him. What should I do?
Question: I have a child whom I had with a man to whom I am not married. Actually, I’m still married to another man whom I left because of physical, and mental, and emotional abuse. My child’s father has since been confirmed to the Catholic church. He calls our child a bad word for illegitimate.…
Read MoreWhy is my husband committing adultery?
Question: Hello! I was on your site and I wanted to ask a question. My husband (who was a minister when we married) started cheating on me years ago after a pastor prophesied over him the year before and told him, “Don’t ever forsake your wife or it will detrimental unto you.” Long story short,…
Read MoreNow that I realize I am in adultery, how do I fix the problem?
Question: Good morning, I’ve recently come across this site and have received much clarity through other readers’ questions. I personally have realized that I am an adulteress. I have married (my first marriage) a man who divorced his first wife. I know that the divorce was not due to any infidelity on her part, thus…
Read MoreWhat if you don’t have concrete evidence that your spouse is committing adultery?
Question: Thank you for your web site. I have a question that you sort of touched on in a post, but I wanted to confirm. What if a spouse strongly suspects infidelities but has no concrete evidence? (The post I referenced involved a husband who may have been seeing prostitutes.) My husband has had at…
Read MoreAm I gambling with my soul by living with my girlfriend while waiting for her divorce to go through?
Question: I found Christ after being lost for almost 15 years. This is a real change, it’s not like the past. I really feel like the Holy Spirit is guiding me. I’m separating myself from all that is evil driven and it’s as if I see black and white now and have dropped all my…
Read MoreWhy were the sexual laws not applied equally between men and women in the Old Testament?
Question: Why was purity asked more of women than men in the Old Testament? A woman who slept with a man before marriage was stoned, but a man who slept with an unmarried woman was not and instead had to marry her! Also, there had to be proof of a woman’s virginity but not of…
Read MoreI don’t know if I should marry the man I’ve been living with for the last six years
Question: I’m a divorced woman in my forties. I’m currently living with a man in his thirties whom I’ve been in a relationship with for six years. Of those six years, I was still married up until one year ago. During the entire time we were dating he asked me to get a divorce and…
Read MoreWe were doing well a few years ago, but I’ve slipped into sexual sins
Question: Dear Minister, I came upon your website via Google, and read a few of your articles, and found them to be interesting and very helpful, Thank you. My problem is that I became a “Born Again” Christian a few years ago when I was in my mid-thirties. My husband joined shortly thereafter. We both…
Read MoreMy husband is committing adultery but also talking about becoming a Christian
Question: My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 2. We have a 7-year-old child together. He admitted to having sexual chemistry with a colleague a few months ago and she started visiting more regularly. I became suspicious but said nothing. My husband cheated on me with her the day…
Read MoreAm I sinning by seeing a woman who still lives with her husband, though she says they are separated?
Question: I’m seeing a woman who lives with her husband but is separating and has no relationship with him. She stays together with him for the kids’ sake, but this has been going on for two years. Am I committing a sin? I honestly believe her that they are not together, but I’m confused if…
Read MoreA Tale of Two Women
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/TaleOfTwoWomen.mp3 Text: Proverbs 1:20-33 I. Solomon addresses the book of Proverbs to young men – Proverbs 1:8 A. And in the course of his advice on many subjects, he introduces us to two women: Wisdom and unnamed immoral woman B. These aren’t actual women but personifications of two ideas C. The question left hanging in the air is…
Read MoreI married a man, not realizing what he was like or what his past was. What do I do?
Question: I got married several years ago to someone that I really didn’t know. We met in the fall and married the following summer. It was one of the most foolish things that I have done, and have regretted it every single day. I believed he was a Christian. He lied about who he was…
Read MoreI just can’t understand why my husband had an affair and a child as a result
Question: My husband confessed to me a couple of months ago that he had a one-night stand while overseas. Even then I knew that couldn’t have been all to the story. With the help of members from our congregation, last week he was able to confess it all to me. He stated that he and…
Read MoreI’m heartbroken that I have to end my marriage
Question: Hello Mr. Hamilton, I wrote to you a month or so ago and you were very helpful. I wanted to thank you again. Just a refresher. I found out after my husband and I were married for less than six months that he was viewing pornography. Of course, like the world seems to view, he…
Read MoreIf both are committing adultery, could either one remarry?
Question: Hello, I was wondering if you could help me with the following: How would you respond to a man who was married, and after four years of marriage his wife committed adultery. He decided to move out. The two remained legally married for another whopping 8 years, but both ended up living with other…
Read MoreWho is responsible for a child born out of wedlock?
Question: What if a guy has a child outside of his marriage with another woman? Is he still responsible, such as for child support? What if his wife knows but disapproves of the child growing up with their children? What if he has a child that he knows is his but refuses to take care…
Read MoreHow do I let go of the guilt of having committed adultery?
Question: I was friends with a married man. It was all very innocent until one day. I met his wife and children, and they were all so lovely. He dropped me off at home, and it just happened. I can’t believe that I allowed myself to accept a married man in my bed. I am…
Read MoreWill I be condemned for running off with another man?
Question: I have been feeling very convicted. I find myself questioning my salvation. I have been married for over five years and have decided to leave my husband for a man I met playing an online game. I know I am in the wrong. I have no doubts. My husband claims he loves me, and…
Read MoreHow do I straighten out the mess I’m in?
Question: Hi, I have a big problem and I need some guidance, please. It’s a long story, so please bear with me. I grew up in a church of Christ and got baptized when I was younger. I did not really have a full understanding; I think I may need to redo it. I have…
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