Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
Should I tell my ex-wife I cheated on her?
Question: I feel really bad. I’m with my ex-wife whom I was married to for over ten years. I went out with some buddies and got drunk. I made a mistake and cheated on her with a one-night stand. Does the Bible say tell the Lord and repent or does it say I have to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend committed adultery and is now divorced. Am I doomed if I marry him?
Question: This is hard for me to come out and ask this, and I need this answer because I think my salvation is very important. I’m young and I mean 21. I have not been married and met a man. We have been together for about two years. He loves me very much, and I…
Read MoreI just found out my husband committed adultery while he was overseas
Question: I’ve been married for about five years. My husband just returned from another country after being there for a year. We had rough spots, and while he was there, he started drinking and partying a lot, which he said he did to pass the time. I stayed in my country with our kids and…
Read MoreIs it wrong to divorce my wife if she moves out?
Question: I found out less than six months ago that my wife of two years was seeing another man. My wife and I had been together for over five years before I asked her to marry me. Before we were married she was in a short relationship with her boss who is married with kids. …
Read MoreAm I an exception to the rule? Has God forgiven me?
Question: I needed some guidance for a particular situation I have put myself in. To be blunt, it is on the hot topic of adultery. Now before anyone judges me for my horrible sin, let me give you some background. I have been raised in an amazing Christian family and grew up in a wonderful…
Read MoreHow could I, as a Christian, have committed adultery when I knew it was wrong?
Question: I was baptized at 18. I know I honestly wanted to live for God and to commit myself to Him. Fast forward to age 25 when I got married and only shortly after getting married I found myself actively participating in an adulterous sexual relationship. I knew it was wrong I even told the…
Read MoreMy wife divorced me after she had an affair, and I can’t help thinking it was all my fault
Question: I found your website searching online and I have a question to ask! My wife of 15 years divorced me recently. I’m just lost and devastated. From the start, I was verbally abusive and on a few occasions had pushed her. The fact is: I was abusive and that’s a fact. I hurt inside…
Read MoreI’m pregnant after committing adultery and I don’t know what to do
Question: I’m 34 years. I was recently baptized because I love Jesus and I want to live a holy life. There is this one sin that I have prayed for several times asking God to help me to walk away from this sin. I slept with a born-again guy unintentionally. It just happened because he…
Read MoreHow long do I try to make my marriage work?
Question: Hello, My husband and I have been separated off and on for over a year and a half now. We were still sexually involved, although he has been involved with other women during this time until I contracted a sexually transmitted disease from him. Each attempt to reconcile our marriage has been unsuccessful due…
Read MoreI can’t make up my mind between my husband and my lover
Question: Hi I hope you may be able to help. I’m a born-again Christian for the last 10 years. Here is my anguish: I met my husband when we were both near 20 years of age. At the time of meeting him, I was going through an awful time dealing with a nasty father and…
Read MoreThe Awful Aftermath of Adultery
by Jonathan Perz How rampant is the sin of adultery? While an exact number is hard to pinpoint, on the low end of most surveys, approximately 25% of all married individuals will commit adultery during the course of their marriage. This is not just a minor problem, it qualifies as an epidemic, and Christians are…
Read MoreDid my sins prior to my marriage cause my husband to commit adultery after our marriage?
Question: I was at church yesterday and the topic was “Root Causes of Sin.” My marriage didn’t start well. Prior to getting married, I fornicated with another man. When I found out that my ex-husband was having an affair, he said he had affairs because of what happened prior to our marriage. Now that I’ve heard a sermon on the…
Read MoreHow do we deal with our son who committed adultery?
Question: I am a Christian. I try to follow the Bible best to my ability. I am a member of a conservative church of Christ. My question is about my son. He grew up in church and was baptized before he joined the service. He is no longer faithful. He married and has a child.…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced because of adultery, can he remarry his ex-spouse?
Question: Can a spouse who has been put away for the cause of adultery, be reconciled to the innocent party if the innocent party so desires according to I Corinthians 7:11? Answer: Of course. Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:9 is an allowance, not a requirement. A person dealing with a spouse who is committing adultery…
Read MoreI knew it was wrong, but I committed adultery. Will God forgive me?
Question: Hi, I’ve been a Christian for eight years. I read my Bible and know what to do and what not to do in regards to being a Christian. Recently I committed adultery for the first time in my entire life. I’m feeling bad and guilty of such an act. Since then I have been…
Read MoreWhen my boyfriend proposed to me, he said that he had a child when he was a teenager. If I marry him, will that make me an adulteress?
Question: Hi, We are two people in love and about to marry. He proposed to me but before I gave him an answer, he said, “I have a child by my ex-girlfriend. It was a mistake. I did it when I was a teenager, but now I love you and I will never do that…
Read MoreI’ve made a mess out of my life. Can you give me some insight into straightening it out?
Question: I became a member of the church about ten years ago. I later married someone I was unequally yoked with. She had a daughter from a previous relationship. In less than six months, it became an abusive situation for me. It came to the point where I felt disgusted to lay next to her.…
Read MoreI was having an affair of the heart with a married woman. I broke it off, but later heard she committed adultery with another man. Am I guilty for causing her to sin?
Question: Hello, I had an affair with a married woman. Our affair went on for about a year. I liked her a lot. I kissed her but never had sex with her. Later I understood that I was wrong and must not do this as I knew her husband very well. So, I left the…
Read MoreMy mother told me my father has been having affairs for a long time. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I would firstly like to thank you for answering so many questions as your website has indeed helped me in many of my battles with my walk with Christ. Just a little background: I am a 20-year-old Christian who happened to stumble onto your website several years ago. It’s amazing how God could…
Read MoreI committed adultery to force my husband to admit to his adultery and then I left him. Would God forgive me of my sin and restore my marriage?
Question: Hello, I am writing to you because it’s been now several years that I sought God in regards to the restoration of my marriage. It’s really difficult to keep believing God wants the marriage restored, and in these “deserts” I feel that there’s still one missing part in my understanding of God’s Word that…
Read MoreWhy was David condemned for having sex with Bathsheba when he already had multiple women?
Question: Hello, This is a question that came to mind in response to a post about King David. King David had the daughter of Saul and also the widow of the rich man as his wives. My question is why was he only condemned for adultery after he had sex with Bathsheba? He had already…
Read MoreIf a man looks admiringly at a woman without thoughts of sex, is that adultery?
Question: If, for example, I’m married and look at a woman, married or not admire her clothes or the way she looks after herself and not thinking of taking her to bed or doing anything to her is that committing adultery? Answer: “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for…
Read MoreAffair-Proofing Your Marriage
by Mark Broyles via Biblical Insights, Vol. 7, No. 1, January 2007 The prevalence of infidelity in marriage is staggering. If it was only a problem in the lives of those apart from God it would still be discouraging, but the truth is that the amount of marriages among our brethren that have been rocked by…
Read MoreIf I divorce my husband, can I marry my lover?
Question: Hi, I’m a Christian and I’m married, but my husband doesn’t love me. He ignores me, he verbally abuses me and does not like to make love before sex, so I’m always bruised and in pain afterward. He says if he shows me love he will have to show love outside too. My guess…
Read MoreDo I need to tell my husband all the details about my past affair?
Question: I been married for about twenty years. Several years ago I had an affair with a man that went on for a few years. I gave myself to this man: mind, soul, and body. My husband found out, but I lied about the sex. He is asking me again. Should I tell him I…
Read MoreHow can I know that my husband has repented of his adulteries?
Question: Hello, I have been married for over ten years, and I just discovered last month that my husband has been visiting prostitutes and massage parlors the whole time. The news was quite devastating because I never saw it coming. I saw him as a totally different man and not able to carry out adultery…
Read MoreCan I remarry after being divorced by my wife because of my infidelities?
Question: I was married to my wife for over ten years before I finally confessed my affairs. She was devastated and divorced me. We have children whom we share equal custody of. After being divorced for a number of years, she remarried. I am happy that God blessed her with someone who wouldn’t do to…
Read MoreHow can I save my marriage?
Question: I have been with my husband for several years and we have children together. Throughout our whole relationship, it has been nothing but an extremely rocky road. I recently found an old friend and was talking to him on the phone through text messages and also on the phone. I told my husband that…
Read MoreHow can I get my mother to turn away from her sin?
Question: Hello, Your knowledge and answers to my questions have helped me so much. I can’t thank you enough, but I have another one to ask. My mother has been married and divorced five times, and I know most of them are not because of adultery. She is currently with a man who is still…
Read MoreWe have a man who is on his third wife attending services. What do we do?
Question: Hello, I have a question regarding a member of our congregation and what to do. We currently are without elders and as the men of the congregation we have to jointly make decisions. The problem at hand is we have a man who has been coming and going for many years. The reason he…
Read MoreMy wife continued to see another man while we were supposedly working on rebuilding our marriage. What do I do?
Question: I wish I had better news for you. After nearly a year of counseling, talking, and working on our marriage (so I thought), I have discovered that my wife never really gave up the other man. They began communicating only two months after the last attempt at reconciliation. Just as last time, she is…
Read MoreShould I let my mom and her boyfriend stay at my house while they are visiting?
Question: Hello, My mom and her boyfriend are coming to see me for a few days for the first time, and, although my mom says she believes, prays every night for forgiveness, and goes to church she will not take what I say seriously about she is living in sin by sleeping and living with…
Read MoreI’m committing adultery, but we are in love. I know it is wrong, but what do I do?
Question: I need your help urgently, please! I am a Christian in faith and believe and accepted the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. I’m not actively serving God although I do pray from time to time and ask His forgiveness. My problem is this: I am dating a Muslim woman in secret. She is…
Read MoreAm I forgiven after being divorced for adultery?
Question: I always thought my husband had cheated on me while we were married but could not prove it. We didn’t have a great marriage. He always treated me like he was ashamed of me. He had a good job and made comments all the time about my lack of intelligence and not being well…
Read MoreWhy would God want me to live with a man who cheats, is irresponsible, and uses weed?
Question: My husband cheats, doesn’t pay the bills, brings women into my kids and my home that I pay for, and takes the money I have left after bills for weed. If God loves me, why would He want me to live like this? I can’t even drive myself in my car to work. A…
Read MoreAm I an adulteress because I married a man who had committed adultery in his past?
Question: I recently found your site and was very confused about the topic of adultery when it applied to my current situation. I hadn’t thought that adultery would apply to me as I have never had an affair within my marriage or even had relations with anyone else besides my husband. However, an article on…
Read MoreMy husband was deported and I’ve been committing adultery with another man. What do I do?
Question: I was born in a Christian household. I am ashamed of my sin for that very same reason. My mother had me with a man I don’t even know. I found this out when I was 20 years old. I always believed the man that raised me was my biological father. My life was…
Read MoreWhat does it mean that a man is reduced to a piece of bread?
Question: In Proverbs 6:26, what does reducing a man to a piece of bread mean? Does this mean the appearance of a relationship, friendship, and love is so shallow that the reality is the man is viewed as nothing more than an object by which to make money? All thoughts of the man as a…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreWhat do you advise concerning a woman who left her husband because of his adultery, but did not divorce him, and later lived in adultery herself?
Question: Question: I have a bizarre situation. I met a woman, not a member of the church of Christ, who married an atheist when she was young at the urging of her grandmother to avoid fornication. However, she was not tutored properly about Christ’s teachings on marriage. Some years down the line she became privy…
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