Posts Tagged ‘living together’
Is it wrong to share a place with a person of the opposite sex?
Question: Hello Jeffrey, I’m always so thankful to have you answering my questions biblically! Here soon I’m thinking about moving to another state. I am in need of some change. I don’t have a whole lot of money. There is a person who has offered to let me stay with him and split the bills.…
Read MoreMy boyfriend changed his mind about marrying me
Question: I’ve been with my boyfriend for several years. We have a small child together. We have bought a house together. And I love him. We have blended a family consisting of his prior child and my prior children from a previous marriage. He ask me to marry him one night about two years ago,…
Read MoreWould God bless our marriage after living together?
Question: Hello! Thank you for answering so many important questions. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we weren’t Christians when we started dating. In the last few months, our faith has shifted and we are trying to clean our lives up. We are not married, but we are living together…
Read MoreI can’t figure out if God wants me to leave my boyfriend for another man
Question: Hello, I am struggling with knowing what God’s will is for my life. I read the Bible, attend daily masses a few times a week, and pray frequently asking God to clearly show me His will for my life. I have a severe anxiety disorder called agoraphobia (fear of crowded places) and have allowed…
Read MoreAm I not married to my partner after living with her for seven years?
Question: Hello, I came across your website today and read one of your questions and answers topic and found it very interesting and comforting. I want to start by apologizing for the length of this question, but here goes: I have been studying the Bible for a long time and still thoroughly enjoy studying it…
Read MoreHas God forgiven my friend who is living with a married man?
Question: Hello, I have a close relative who is in an illegal relationship. He was married, but he knew that the marriage was already broken. He was trying to fix the situation when he realized there was no more love in his heart for his wife. He then reunited with a long-time friend via social…
Read MoreIf I don’t have sex, he refuses to support me
Question: I have been living with my children’s father for ten years. I am a stay-at-home mom in my late twenties. I was baptized at my church camp. He’s upset with me all the time — before and after I was baptized. Well, I sinned. I had sex with him two weeks ago. The reason…
Read MoreI was saved, but I still live with my boyfriend
Question: I was saved, and I believe and love God with all my heart. But I live with my boyfriend. I ask for forgiveness and I still go to church, but lately, when I walk into church I feel so ashamed. What do I do? Will God forgive me? Answer: “For this is the love…
Read MoreIs it a sin to continue having sex until we get married?
Question: I was researching the forms of fornication and how to deal with my present life. I am a 25-year-old lady with two kids from one man, but we aren’t married yet. Because I sinned, it has drawn me away from God, and I feel bad for all the wrong mistakes I have made in…
Read MoreIf we continue to live together and have sex, are we still in sin if we are planning to get married?
Question: Hi, I have a question it lies heavy on my heart, and I have talked to many people about this and I still don’t have a correct answer, since everyone’s meaning and opinion differ from one another. But I would like to have the Christian way of doing it and understanding the situation correctly.…
Read MoreWe just can’t get enough money for lobola in order to get married
Question: Good day, I have a very loving relationship with the father of my toddler. We love one another dearly, but unfortunately, we have no money. He has no money, and I cannot go on living day-to-day worried about the next meal. Our child lives at my home, where my parents cater to the child’s…
Read MoreShould I move back in with my boyfriend if we don’t have sex?
Question: Hello, I recently went through a bad breakup with my boyfriend of several years. I moved in with him, and I sinned all the time by having sex and getting drunk. When we finally parted ways, I realized that I needed to change my ways and live for God. I have been on a…
Read MoreCan I get baptized even though I’m still living with my boyfriend?
Question: I have been with my partner for 19 years, but we are not married. I started going to church three years ago, but my partner isn’t a believer. Some in the church say that in the eyes of God we are married and, therefore, I should be baptized. However, others say I should be…
Read MoreWhat do you think about my moving in with my girlfriend and her parents if I was in a separate bedroom?
Question: Hi, I have a girlfriend who lives some distance from me. She goes to a non-denominational church and I go to a church of Christ. I’m going to try to convert her and hopefully her family too to a church of Christ. We live several hours apart, but we are super close to each…
Read MoreI moved in because I thought we would get married soon
Question: I moved in with my boyfriend and his grandma. Before I moved in we had talked about marriage, so I assumed that we would marry shortly after I moved in. After a few months my boyfriend said to me, “You know, we are like husband and wife, even though we aren’t legally married.” He…
Read MoreWhat do you think about my moving to another country with my boyfriend?
Question: My boyfriend is thinking about moving abroad a few years from now. He wants me to come with him. I would have to find a job and start a new life because I don’t know anybody there. I would also want to live in separate apartments until we get married. He wants us to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend left me and his child. Any advice?
Question: I have been in a relationship for 11 years. We have a child and used to get into it about my other kids sometimes. He’s been cheating on me for over a year. I found out earlier this year, but he said he was sorry and I was the one he wanted to marry.…
Read MoreDo you think God brought us together so we can live together?
Question: I have a lot of unanswered questions. I am not at peace in my current living situation. Recently I agreed to live with a Christian man whom I’ve known for a long time, and I’ve grown very uncomfortable with the arrangements. Let me start by saying that my ex-husband and I were friends with…
Read MoreIt is complicated, but we have to live together for a while longer before we can get married
Question: Hello, Before I begin, let me get a few things straight. We (my girlfriend and I) are not Americans. We are Asians living in an Asian country, and we have been in a relationship for three years. We are both adults and in a situation where it’s rather complicated and that it requires us…
Read MoreIf I marry the man I’m living with, I’ll lose half my benefits
Question: I married at 15 to get away from an abusive father. That husband had an affair with our friend. I forgave him and took him back. He did it again. I divorced him for adultery. I later married an older man who was divorced, who committed adultery many times. I finally divorced him. Fifteen…
Read MoreI want to get baptized but my partner doesn’t want to separate from me
Question: I am a single Christian parent, but my partner (a non-Christian) never wants to separate from me. I wanted to get baptized, but he keeps coming back only to stay a few days and goes away for a while for work. During his few days with us, I pray for forgiveness. I wanted us…
Read MoreShould my girlfriend share an apartment with an unmarried guy?
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a sticky situation and I would like some godly advice on this matter. We are currently in a long-distance relationship because of our education and live a few hours apart. She lives in an apartment with a roommate of hers. Her roommate can no longer afford to pay…
Read MoreIs it wrong not to attend a family dinner hosted by a couple who are living together unmarried?
Question: Dear Jeff, Is it wrong for me to not attend a family dinner because the ones hosting it are living together unwed? They are not Christians, they are Baptist. I do not want to approve of sin be it through words or actions. Answer: “But now I have written to you not to keep…
Read MoreIs it all right to stay living with someone until we get married?
Question: Okay so on the subject of living together before marriage: I chose this before I knew God. Now, I am stuck in this situation. I have repented for having premarital sex. My boyfriend and I will be getting married soon. Will I go to hell if I die? I have nowhere else to go…
Read MoreI want to stop committing fornication, but I’ve lost control
Question: I want to stop fornicating. I have always prayed that I want to get married to the man I would be dating for the first time, and I thank God for giving me that. I have been with this guy for eight years, but my problem is that at first, he wanted sex and…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my mother trying to break up me and my girlfriend?
Question: We recently moved in with my mom. She has been trying to break me and my girlfriend up by saying things to her behind my back. I’m trying to get an apartment, but I have to wait until a month and a half from now to get it. I tell my girlfriend to be…
Read MoreShould I attend weddings of those who have been living together or had been divorced?
Question: Hello, My question is about weddings that take place after a couple has been living together for a year or two – sometimes longer. They have a child or maybe are expecting a child, then somewhere along the line decide to get married. They have a big wedding, white dress, bridesmaids all the trimmings…
Read MoreIs there anything wrong with a sister in Christ helping a fellow Christian fallen on hard times?
Question: Hi Brother Hamilton, I have a question that concerns the aiding of a brother or sister in Christ. If there is a member of the congregation who has fallen on hard times (financial chaos, or removal due to an abusive relationship), and a female member of the church has informed the church and its…
Read MoreIs it wrong for my boyfriend to stay in my room while having financial trouble?
Question: I’m in a serious relationship. My man is having some financial and accommodation issues. My parents and I decided to assist him until he can stand on his feet. We brought him in to stay with us. We sleep in the same room, but we are not having sex. I want to know if…
Read MoreShould I marry the non-Christian I’m living with?
Question: Hello, I am having a few issues. I fell in love with a non-Christian and planned to marry her. I fully believed that God would save her and she would become Christian. I love her but after my pastor kept pushing me not to marry her because she was not a Christian and we…
Read MoreMy boyfriend wants to move in before we get married
Question: Dear friend, I am super confused now, and it seems like I am in a dilemma. I do not know what I am supposed to do. Please help me. My boyfriend wants to live with me. We are going to rent a two-bedroom apartment. We are seriously in love and plan to marry later…
Read MoreA guy wants to marry me, but he wants to move in with me first. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I just left a cohabiting relationship after four years. The only good thing that came out of it was my daughter. But there is this guy who wants to marry me, but he wants to move in with me first. What should I do? I don’t want to repeat the same mistake twice.…
Read MoreWe’ve been living together for years, how can we stop committing fornication?
Question: Hello, I got pregnant at the age of 17, I am now 21 and am still with the father of my baby. I’ve always gone to church since I was young but about a few months ago I realized that I needed to take my life more serious and also realized that I’m committing…
Read MoreWe’re living together without sex, so why are brethren saying it is wrong?
Question: Hello, My fiancé and I are planning to marry in June 2014. Until that time, we have made the decision to share a home and other resources with each other. She recently moved from another country and, as young people, we do not make enough money individually to be in comfortable financial situations. Furthermore,…
Read MoreWas the church right to withdraw from a couple who lived together without being married?
Question: My husband and I are faithful members of the Lord’s church. We are active in a congregation in which a situation has occurred which has caused division in the congregation. The situation is this: a man and a woman who have been baptized and are members of the Lord’s church are not married, but…
Read MoreI’ve been living with a man while my divorce was going through, but now he is reluctant to marry me
Question: Hi, We have lived together for 7 years. We probably would’ve been married long ago, but I was going through a divorce for 6 of those years, and hospitalized due to medical illnesses for about a year or something like that, on and off. We are utterly and completely in love but don’t have…
Read MoreI moved in with another woman before my divorce is final. Am I able to marry her?
Question: Dear brother, I am a member of the church of Christ and have been almost all my life. I married when I was 19 to my high school sweetheart. We were having some problems with money because I lost my job and things got hard, so one day she decide to leave me. Well,…
Read MoreI threw out the man I lived with after 12 years. So why doesn’t God make him marry me?
Question: I was in a 12-year relationship with a man, who first of all, I now realize that we started off wrong. He had gotten a girl pregnant when I met him. His excuse was “I don’t have a girlfriend, but I’m in a situation.” He was upfront and explained that although this was the…
Read MoreWe are already living together, so what do we do until the wedding?
Question: I have enjoyed reading the information on your site. I’m having a similar situation, but I still haven’t received the answer that I’m looking for, even after reading your site. Both my fiancé and I have been living together for almost a year now, and we are getting married. We both have strong believers…
Read MoreShould I marry the Catholic woman I’m living with?
Question: Hey, I’m having a hard time getting my head around a few things. First, I was brought up in a loving Protestant Christian home and lost my way through high school. I am now in my mid-twenties and I’m engaged to a Catholic. We’ve bought a house and are living together. We’re due to…
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