We just can’t get enough money for lobola in order to get married

Question: Good day, I have a very loving relationship with the father of my toddler. We love one another dearly, but unfortunately, we have no money. He has no money, and I cannot go on living day-to-day worried about the next meal. Our child lives at my home, where my parents cater to the child’s…

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Should I move back in with my boyfriend if we don’t have sex?

Question: Hello, I recently went through a bad breakup with my boyfriend of several years. I moved in with him, and I sinned all the time by having sex and getting drunk. When we finally parted ways, I realized that I needed to change my ways and live for God. I have been on a…

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Can I get baptized even though I’m still living with my boyfriend?

Question: I have been with my partner for 19 years, but we are not married.  I started going to church three years ago, but my partner isn’t a believer.  Some in the church say that in the eyes of God we are married and, therefore, I should be baptized. However, others say I should be…

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I moved in because I thought we would get married soon

Question: I moved in with my boyfriend and his grandma. Before I moved in we had talked about marriage, so I assumed that we would marry shortly after I moved in. After a few months my boyfriend said to me, “You know, we are like husband and wife, even though we aren’t legally married.” He…

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My boyfriend left me and his child. Any advice?

Question: I have been in a relationship for 11 years. We have a child and used to get into it about my other kids sometimes. He’s been cheating on me for over a year. I found out earlier this year, but he said he was sorry and I was the one he wanted to marry.…

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Do you think God brought us together so we can live together?

Question: I have a lot of unanswered questions. I am not at peace in my current living situation. Recently I agreed to live with a Christian man whom I’ve known for a long time, and I’ve grown very uncomfortable with the arrangements. Let me start by saying that my ex-husband and I were friends with…

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If I marry the man I’m living with, I’ll lose half my benefits

Question: I married at 15 to get away from an abusive father. That husband had an affair with our friend. I forgave him and took him back. He did it again. I divorced him for adultery. I later married an older man who was divorced, who committed adultery many times. I finally divorced him. Fifteen…

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