Posts Tagged ‘lewdness’
Did I react in the right way?
Question: Greetings! I have been reading articles on your website for some time, and I recently discovered the question-and-answer section, which encouraged me to write. I need some advice. I have been going through a tough breakup for a few weeks now. I am a Christian, and I was in a relationship with someone from…
Read MoreDid I marry her?
Question: Hello, pastor! I’m in my early twenties. Since last year, I’ve had a doubt that eats away at me. I dated a girl (whom I believe to be a virgin) two years ago. As the relationship progressed, we started to misbehave. More specifically, I touched her breasts with my hands and mouth, as described…
Read MoreHow do I deal with a boyfriend who won’t respect boundaries?
Question: Dear brothers in Christ, I am writing to you because I need your advice. My soul is weary, and my heart is exhausted. I am a Christian girl in my mid-twenties. I worship in a church of Christ. I grew up in a Christian family. Only one of my siblings didn’t become a Christian.…
Read MoreCan I get married in the church?
Question: Hello, I have a question. It happened months ago, but I want to know about this concern. I was studying doctrine. I liked a brother, and I decided to go out with him. We were like boyfriend and girlfriend but never agreed to be in a relationship. That date went so far that we…
Read MoreDoes morality change with age?
Question: I spent a lot of time looking at your answers to several sexual questions. I am fairly clear ( I think ) that intercourse is a grave sin outside of marriage. Anything that leads there is wrong. A few months ago, I reconnected with a childhood friend. I believe God set this in motion.…
Read MoreMy life is a ruin
Question: My friend, I don’t know where to begin. I have prayed to the Lord for wisdom. I don’t know where, but I’ll just begin. As a child, I grew up very lonely. I later found out I have autism, though I am high-functioning. As I got older, I had to go to preschool, where…
Read MoreHow do I move forward from a breakup?
Question: Good evening, I’m relatively new to this website, but I have found it particularly helpful for hearing Q&A’s specifically related to Christian life. I’m a freshman college student who dated a girl for around 4-5 months when college started. It has been almost three months since she broke up. I’ve been slowly getting better,…
Read MoreDid I defile myself by sexually touching a woman?
Question: Greetings, I just wanted to know if I sexually touched a woman with clothes on but no intercourse, did I defile myself as Revelation 14:4 says? “These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they remained virgins. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among mankind and…
Read MoreThe Root Cause of Sexual Sins
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I’ve become fascinated by the lists presented in the Bible when I came to realize that many of them are more than a collection of related items. Permit me to illustrate this with a list that Paul gave in Colossians 3. “Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead…
Read MoreDiscussion on Pre-Marital Sex
by Osamagbe Lesley Egharevba and Jeff Hamilton
Read MoreWould kissing in a play be considered fornication?
Question: You guys do a great job with your answers to some very open, graphic, and very personal questions. Keep up the great job! I’ve been a Christian for almost 40 years and I have never heard this question before, but a couple of weeks ago someone asked this in Bible study: if a married…
Read MoreIs sexual touching a public or private sin?
Question: This is a situation involving a Christian man and a woman. I have several questions. The man is married and his wife is still living. The woman’s husband has passed away. and she is now single. As friends, they became close. At times they have embraced each other. They also have touched each other…
Read MoreHow do you repent of childhood sins?
Question: My brother and I do not get along. When we were kids we experimented with sexual sins. It was years ago. My mother mentioned that maybe, because of the things that I confessed had happened between my brother and me, we opened some demonic portal and need to repent. How does one repent from…
Read MoreShould I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?
Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…
Read MoreI keep getting involved in lewd behavior that I know is wrong
Question: I need spiritual help, sir. I thank God for your life and ministry. Please, sir, I pray the Lord will use you to restore me to Himself permanently. Sir, I became born again several years ago. I have been growing through discipleship but for about two years my life has been fluctuating. The instrument…
Read MoreWhat is the fate of a man who was involved with a sexually immoral woman?
Question: Is it good to be in a relationship that one knows will not end up in marriage? What must a lady, who made love with many men, do to be clean? What is the sin that God will never forgive? If a man, who is clean, is in a romantic relationship that results in…
Read MoreHow do I fight the temptation to commit fornication?
Question: I always told myself as I grew up that sexual immorality would never be a problem for me because the consequences scared me too much, but in recent years, the constant exposure to sex being “normal” and “acceptable” I guess have overcome me. I see so many sites that push for birth control and…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I have been falling into lewd behavior and we trying to stop it
Question: Hello. Good day to you. Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to read my email. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. He is sure of me, saying I am what he wants in a woman and in a wife. I feel the same about…
Read MoreWhat does “uncover the nakedness” mean?
Question: In Leviticus 18:6-19, the phrase “uncover the nakedness” is used repeatedly. What is meant by this phrase? Answer: There are three sets of words in the Hebrew that are translated as naked or nakedness. The Hebrew adjective ‘arom refers to being without clothing. It can mean without any clothes or being inadequately clothed (Job 22:6).…
Read MoreNotes on Sex
Fornication (Greek: porneia): Porneia, typically translated as fornication, sexual immorality, or sometimes just immorality is defined as follows: “Porneia, which is relatively rare in classical Greek (Moulton-Milligan), originally stood for “prostitution” … In other, later contexts it denotes “unchasity, illicit sexual relations” of any kind (“fornication” is a somewhat archaic but common translation).” [The Complete Biblical…
Read MoreHow far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?
Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…
Read MoreWe are going too far sexually and can’t figure out how to stop
Question: I am 18 and I want to stop all this fooling around that my girlfriend and I keep getting sucked back into. Basically, we say, “okay, this can’t happen again so what are we going to do to keep ourselves from it?” Then we come up with things but next thing you know, the…
Read MoreIt is shameful to scare people into thinking that dry humping can lead to pregnancy
Question: I’d just like to point out that your article on dry humping was completely dishonest. It is shameful to scare people into thinking that dry humping leads to pregnancy, especially through clothes. Instilling fear in people so that they will follow your agenda is wrong, and it’s not Christian whatsoever. Answer: “Put them in fear,…
Read MoreDid I waste my time saving myself for my wife?
Question: Hi I have an issue that’s been eating me up for a while. I love my wife. She loves me. I don’t want to lose her and I’m sure she feels the same. The problem is about history. We were both virgins before we got married. However, she “did stuff.” She was involved with…
Read MoreI’m such a hypocrite. I fell into sexual immorality
Question: Hello, I really need help as I feel totally hopeless. I gave my life to Christ in college after God saved me from untimely death. I have been so hot for God, going about doing evangelism and, by the grace of God, many people have come to know Christ through me. However, recently I…
Read MoreI regret my sins, so why did my girlfriend dump me?
Question: Hello, I seem to have a very unique situation, as I cannot find anything like it other than on atheist websites and, well, that is advice I do not want. My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short amount of time (6 months) but due to my lease running up at my…
Read MoreIs my boyfriend the reason for my nightmares?
Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t believe in complete abstinence, so we have come close to having sex too many times. What do I do?
Question: Hey, I really needed to pour out my mind to someone else, and I saw people with similar problems emailing you on the Internet. I really need help. I’m at a point in my life where I long to serve God more. I want to truly be His daughter this new year. I’m 20…
Read MoreI kept my boyfriend from penetrating me, but now he won’t talk to me
Question: Hi, I am 27 years old. I’ve kept myself a virgin all these years. I recently met my long-time chase. I told him I was already in a relationship three years ago (that relationship did not work out), so we started talking again and visiting each other. The first time I visited he tried…
Read MoreI feel so bad because I let a man touch me. Will God forgive me?
Question: I have a really difficult moment. I really need your help. I am 24 years old and I’m a Christian. I only had one boyfriend and with him, I had nothing more than a kiss, like a peck, and some holding hands and hugs. I was 16 years old at the time. After that,…
Read MoreI want to marry a godly man, but I seem far from it
Question: Hello and praise the Lord! I normally don’t do this but I am in need of help. First I am a born-again believer and have been living for God for over a decade. My issue is this: I gave my life to Christ early twenties and from that point on I vowed to save…
Read MoreWill God forgive me if I continue to mess up with my girlfriend?
Question: Sir, I am so conflicted that I do not know what to do. I’m a Christian and have been doing things to be able to come back to God because I had fallen away a bit. I have two things that have been bothering me for a long time. I am with a girl…
Read MoreWe’ve done pretty much everything but actual sex. How do we stop?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both Christians. We have been dating for about a year and a half now. For a while now we have been committing sexual sin. We have had oral sex and pretty much everything except for actual sex. It tears us both up. We both agree that we need to…
Read MoreI thought I was meeting a Christian, but he touched me inappropriately
Question: I feel so terrible about this. I have strictly been focusing on Christ for over a year now. I promised myself to wait on God until I can say “yes” to the man whom God has for me. I started talking to this guy who presented himself as a God-fearing man. He had devotion…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been pushing for things to go further, I resisted for a while, but recently I caved
Question: Hi, I want to ask for advice and for you to share the word of God with me. I am a sinner and I am repented of my rebellious ways. I have committed fornication with my first and current boyfriend. I have been a Christian for two years and was a Catholic since my…
Read MoreShould I break up with my boyfriend now, or wait until next spring?
Question: Hi, I read one of your articles on your site, and I wanted to ask a similar question concerning my non-believing boyfriend. I never had intentions of going out with a non-believer, and I’m not sure of how things turned out this way. I never intended this to happen, but somehow it happened. He’s…
Read MoreI engaged in immoral behavior with a woman. Does this mean I cannot marry?
Question: I’m a member of the church, but lately, I’ve made a poor, sinful choice by going somewhere I was tempted. I went to a massage parlor for the sole purpose of helping my body. Later during the massage, I engaged in some immoral foreplay activities with the woman there. I’ve been reflecting on my…
Read MoreIf I put my fingers in her private area, is that fornication?
Question: Hey, God bless. I have a question: My girl and I converted several weeks ago. Ever since then, we haven’t had sexual intercourse, but last night we started kissing and it go to a point where I had my hand on her private part. I sort of rubbed her for like 30 seconds and…
Read MoreHow do we avoid the temptation to have sex?
Question: I am 23 years of age and a college student. I have been in a relationship for over a year now. My motive for being in the relationship is to be with my partner now and stay with her until God blesses us to marry. My problem is how do I handle my sexual…
Read MoreWhy has God given me such a miserable life?
Question: I am 24 years old, a single female, living in a liberal yet strict family. Since the age of 2 or 3, I had been molested by my grandfather until I was in 10th grade. In midst of my 6th to 10th grade, my cousin who is older than me also started molesting me.…
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