Posts Tagged ‘lewdness’
Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage?
Question: Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage? My girlfriend and I have grown up in Christian families, but we haven’t followed our parents’ teachings, and we ended up in sinful relationships. I had a long-term relationship with a girl and we have had sex. My current girlfriend had a few…
Read MoreSure, we did some things wrong, but my boyfriend broke up with me for no valid reason
Question: Hi, I’m 22. I’ve been having a hard time because my boyfriend broke up with me for apparently no valid reason. We are both Christians. We almost had sex, we didn’t go all the way, but there were a lot of physical contacts. It was wrong, and we both knew it. We talked about…
Read MoreI don’t like the answers you give about sexual sins
Question: Dear Sir, I was reading on your website a letter that a young woman had written to you about feeling very guilty about going too far with her boyfriend. Being that she was away from home and at college with new friends she put God out of her life and that was how it was…
Read MoreI sinned with my girlfriend. I want to marry her, but my parents don’t agree. Will God support my marriage if I marry her anyway?
Question: Dear sir, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend. We have had all types of physical sexual relations except deep penetration. I know I am sinning and have been trying to get away from it, as I am going far from God. I acknowledge that God has been kind to me in many…
Read MoreAre the sexual things we do sinful if we plan on marrying?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years now, and it’s a given that we’ve faced sexual temptation. Though we have not gone “all the way” we have done mostly everything else. We’ve talked about marrying each other and think it’s a very real possibility. If this is the case, are…
Read MoreThings have been going further than they should. I don’t know how to put a stop to them
Question: Hi, I’ve been a Christian for more than three years now. I was a youth leader for the girls, and then became the youth leader for boys and girls. I was also in charge of the children’s ministry. My relationship with God was going great! And I never ever thought this would happen to…
Read MoreI was removed from leadership because I behaved badly with my boyfriend
Question: Hello, I’m currently going through a hard time right now. l guess I just need someone to encourage me. My ex-boyfriend and I went too far. We went out earlier, but it didn’t last very long. I broke up with him, but not because I had an issue with him. It was mostly because…
Read MoreWhat intimacies are allowed or not allowed to engaged couples?
Question: My girlfriend and I are very grateful to the Lord for the love and gift we are to each other. We love the Lord and want to honor Him and His law for us as an unmarried but betrothed couple. We are committed to saving sex for marriage. I am searching deeper into His…
Read MoreI’ve been involved in acts of lewdness with a married man while leading a church. What do I do?
Question: I am born again and have been upholding purity and faithfulness to God. I did not have any dealings with men because I told myself I was waiting for the guy that God has destined for me. I would stick to that and really serve God to the fullest. I lead praise and worship…
Read MoreI haven’t been living the life of a Christian and now I don’t know if Jesus will accept me back
Question: Praise the Lord! I am 25 years old and hail from a Christian family. I knew and understood the Lord Jesus Christ with his spirit from the age of 16. After three years of proper confession and sanctification, baptism was given to me. It is not that I was leading my life as per…
Read MoreWhile we haven’t had sex, we’ve been sexually involved with each other. How do we stop?
Question: My boyfriend and I are very much in love, but I am afraid to say we have had sexual contact with each other. It is very sad because we both have grown up knowing the love, power, and grace of God. I feel lost. We didn’t actually have “sex” as the world defines it,…
Read MoreMy girlfriend has been raped in the past and every time we get intimate, her fears come back. I don’t know what to do.
Question: So here is my ultimate dilemma in life: I am currently following God’s lead to pursue this amazing woman. She is just incredible to me and she means the world. She is several years older than I am. We both are Christians — she was saved when she was 19, me since I was…
Read MoreCould I have gotten my girlfriend pregnant when my penis touched her vagina?
Question: Yesterday I just touch my penis against my girlfriend’s vagina. I don’t think there was any sperm out from my penis, and I did not try to put it into her vagina. So, I want to know: is there any possibility of her becoming pregnant? Answer: The problem is that when a man is…
Read MoreHave I sinned sexually by grinding with my boyfriend? Should I stop wearing my purity ring?
Question: I don’t know if I feel guilty or not. Should I be wearing my purity ring? I am dating a man quite a bit older than me. We have known each other for nearly three years but have only begun dating in the past two months. I really liked this guy for a good…
Read MoreMy fiance and I engaged in foreplay. How do we answer the church if we are asked, knowing this will mean we cannot be wed in the church?
Question: How do we answer the church if I and my fiancé are asked if we have had sex before marriage when we have engaged in the foreplay of sexual activities? Knowing we cannot be wed in the church if we say yes, though we didn’t do the real act. Answer: First, there is no…
Read MoreSexting Is Associated with Risky Sexual Behavior
Source: Eric Rice, et al, “Sexually Explicit Cell Phone Messaging Associated with Sexual Risk Among Adolescents,” Pediatrics, 17 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “”Sexting” again linked to risky sex among teens: study,” Reuters, 18 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “Teen sexting: Strong link to risky sexual behavior,” Christian Science Monitor, 17 September 2012. Basic common sense has been once more confirmed.…
Read MoreWe started to have sex but didn’t complete it. How do we go back to purity in our relationship?
Question: My boyfriend and I committed a sexual activity, we started sex but didn’t complete it. We just were involved in foreplay. Anyway, I’m 19 and he’s 22. We are in a serious relationship and have been for almost three years. We met in college while taking the same program. I would say that our…
Read MoreWould it be wrong for my girlfriend to move in with me a few months before we get married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are engaged and about to be married in four months. We never had sex. We talked about it and the want that we have. But we have decided to live together because she turned 18 and was forced out of her house. She…
Read MoreI saw someone quote Psalms 37:4 to justify sexual foreplay. What does the passage really say?
Question: I read about foreplay and agree, but I was on a singles site and saw: “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalms 37:4). So what does this mean? Thanks and God bless you! Answer: “Do not fret because of evildoers, nor be envious of the workers of…
Read MoreDo I need to get her parent’s permission before marrying my girlfriend?
Question: I read the articles you had concerning “Fornication”. The woman I am courting is a virgin. I on the other hand am not. I was disciplined by the Lord on behalf of my actions from the flesh when I was indulging in pre-marital sex. My girlfriend and I know we want to marry, and we…
Read MoreWe’ve been involved in lewd behavior in the past, which we know is wrong. So how do we stop?
Question: Sir, We have been in a relationship since childhood. We grew up together and we both are Christians. We are now in our early twenties. We have been kissing, fondling, and touching our private parts for the past few years. But we have kept it very strongly in our minds that we will never…
Read MoreCan you give some guidelines for how to behave in courtship?
Question: During our courtship, my girlfriend and I kept making small compromises that almost led to sex. We know we want to marry one another; in fact, it took us about four months to get to know each other because we wanted to make sure God is being glorified in the midst of our relationship.…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreWhat is included in porneia?
Question: Hi! I have been studying sex and the Bible. What I am really confused about is that the Bible does not mention oral sex or mutual masturbation. It only mentions anal sex and vaginal sex. Thus, how are oral sex and mutual masturbation a sin? How is it sexual intercourse? In Greek, porneia means…
Read MoreI’ve vowed to be celibate until I get married, but I masturbate in front of my girlfriend. Is this wrong?
Question: I have taken a vow, and I have remained celibate for a year and a half now. I have remained resolved to be abstinent until I am married, even though I am constantly presented with several opportunities to fornicate. However, one thing that helps me out is masturbation. When I masturbate, sometimes my girl…
Read MoreIs it a sin for my girlfriend to give me a handjob and for me to finger her?
Question: Is it a sin for my girlfriend to give me a handjob and for me to finger her? We’ve already done both, and I’m starting to feel kind of guilty over it. I don’t know if it’s considered ‘sin’ or not because it isn’t sexual intercourse. We’re both Christians too, and we’re just blinded…
Read MoreIs “dry humping” considered fornication?
Question: Is “dry humping” considered fornication? Does it count as sex before marriage? Answer: Dry humping is slang for rubbing or bumping the genitals against someone or something in order to gain sexual stimulation. It isn’t fornication, but fornication isn’t the only sexual sin that can be committed. Paul warned, “It is good for a…
Read MoreWhat Boys, Girls, and Their Parents Need To Know
by Wendi Capehart The following is adapted from an old post the good blogger at Wit-nit wrote. He wished to illustrate just how heady and disorienting a brew lust can be, how dangerous in the hands of the immature, but he is not a believer and he wrote an R-rated post. He allowed me to…
Read MoreIs it wrong that my boyfriend and I satisfy each other through touching?
Question: Help, please. I am an adult female in her early thirty’s. I am also a virgin by choice. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and I love him. He is a good, honorable man who is not a virgin and has changed his way of life and tries to live right.…
Read MoreWe keep going over our boundaries. How do we prevent pre-marital sex in college?
Question: I am a university student. I have a problem regarding sex before marriage. I want to have a healthy relationship with God and also have God be happy with my healthy relationship with my girlfriend. We try not to have sex even though we have done it. We pray for forgiveness each the time…
Read MoreI’m so confused. My boyfriend and I broke up, but now he called me and wanted phone sex with his ex-girlfriend on the phone. I hung up, but what do I do?
Question: My relationship with my boyfriend is crumbling. We don’t live in the same state. We’ve never met face-to-face. But I’ve known him for over a year and I’m in love with him, but he is cutting me off. Officially we broke up, but I don’t want it to be permanent. I do not think…
Read MoreWhat types of touching are forbidden?
Question: I was just wondering, in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship what is considered “too far?” I’m referring to touching breasts, genital touching, oral sex, and the like. Is touching OK if all clothing is still on? Is seeing one’s undergarments a sin? For me, personally, all forms of sex are sex and are forbidden, but touching…
Read MoreDid my girlfriend and I sin by trying foreplay even though we will be married next year?
Question: Hello, I and my girlfriend tried foreplay a couple of times, but we have not had sex. She is not just my girlfriend, she is almost my wife. I will marry her next year; this will surely happen. Also, I didn’t have any sexual experiences before. I have gone through all the chapters in your…
Read MoreIs a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?
Question: Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it most definitely does not lead to sex? Answer: A “hand job” is slang for mutual masturbation; using the hand to stimulate the genitals. Saying that it does not lead to sex is a misnomer. It would be more accurate to state that in…
Read MoreIs kissing and fondling my boyfriend fornication?
Question: My boyfriend and I indulge in kissing and fondling only. Could this be fornication? Answer: The Bible states that sexual touching is not right prior to marriage. “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The reason is…
Read MoreIs seeing or touching private areas a sin?
Question: I went to your website and wanted to know a few things that I’m too embarrassed to ask anyone else about. I was wondering if the following were considered sins. So since you are a Bible site, I figured you’d know. Please be specific and everything. Is it a sin to show my boyfriend…
Read MoreHow can I show my brother that it is wrong to sleep with a woman even though you aren’t having sex?
Question: Hello! I have a question that I need some help with. My brother and his girlfriend have recently committed to a life of celibacy; however, this is after they have had sexual relations for over a year. Though I am grateful for their decision to cancel that out of their life and follow our…
Read MoreIs it wrong to perform masturbation and petting?
Question: I read your sermon about masturbation, but I didn’t find a Scripture that says it’s wrong. Is it wrong to perform masturbation and petting? Is tongue kissing wrong? I am confused because does it mean that masturbation is a sin? Do you have any elders that you could ask? I am a member of…
Read MoreWhat does lasciviousness mean?
Question: What does lasciviousness mean? And does it speak clearly in the Bible about homosexuality? Answer: Lasciviousness, licentiousness, lewdness, or sensuality, depending on the translation of your Bible, means being wanton, lewd, or lustful. William Barclay described it as “a love of sin so reckless and so audacious that a man has ceased to care…
Read MoreWhy do I feel like I don’t deserve to be cleansed?
Question: I was baptized as a baby in the church and have always been a Christian, but I have not been actively involved in fellowship as much as I’d like to be. My husband and I engaged in sexual acts (not intercourse) before marriage which I know are wrong. I have asked God for forgiveness…
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