I regret my sins, so why did my girlfriend dump me?

Question: Hello, I seem to have a very unique situation, as I cannot find anything like it other than on atheist websites and, well, that is advice I do not want. My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short amount of time (6 months) but due to my lease running up at my…

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Should I let the father of my child, who is a drug addict, see our baby?

Question: Hi, I am a recovering alcoholic. I started attending church while being a reckless fornicator, alcoholic and pothead. The Lord changed my life completely and eliminated all cravings and temptations to drink and smoke. I decided to leave all my friends and the life I had known because I did not want to be…

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I’m haunted by my sexual sin

Question: Dear Minister, There is this Christian lady that I admired so much at the university. She was so hospitable, hardworking, and nice. I become friends with her and used to visit her in school often. But then, due to some ill health, I left the university for a year. The lady had indulged in…

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I’m so ashamed of what we did

Question: I am up to my limit and have nowhere else to go for advice. I hope you can help me understand what is the right thing for me to do. My family and I started going to a church less than five years ago. I met my boyfriend while I was there. We began…

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I love two girls, but I don’t know who I should marry

Question: Please help me. I am in my early twenties. I have been in a relationship for three years, but we did not have sex. Later when I moved away from the girl for my higher studies. I fell in love with another girl, who is not a Christian. I did not break up with…

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Can a couple, who committed fornication, manage to have a good marriage?

Question: Hello, First of all, thank you for your site. It seems to have good advice on many issues. I have read your article “Dealing with the Effects of Pre-Marital Sex.” I have a question relating to the article, but which is not covered directly in the article: How should a couple, who are planning…

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Does God hate people born outside of their parents’ marriage?

Question: Does God hate people born outside of their parents’ marriage? Answer: Absolutely not! There has been confusion due to a passage in the Old Law: “No one of illegitimate birth shall enter the assembly of the LORD; none of his descendants, even to the tenth generation, shall enter the assembly of the LORD” (Deuteronomy…

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Can I be forgiven of my sins?

Question: I need advice. I am in my early twenties. I was born in a Christian family. I was a clever child and a good learner under the guidance of my grandparents, who raised me and my siblings after our mother passed away. Around age 14, my life changed. I started drinking alcohol and attempted…

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How do I overcome knowing my girlfriend had sex with other guys?

Question: There are some troubling things that I have questions about my girlfriend. I have known my girlfriend since senior high school. After she graduated she got into a relationship with a guy who was not attached to God. He pleased her flesh, but he also abused her at the end of the relationship. It…

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If I marry the man I’m living with, I’ll lose half my benefits

Question: I married at 15 to get away from an abusive father. That husband had an affair with our friend. I forgave him and took him back. He did it again. I divorced him for adultery. I later married an older man who was divorced, who committed adultery many times. I finally divorced him. Fifteen…

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Now that I’m pregnant, I’m being pressured into getting married

Question: Hello, I have a question about what the right thing to do is, in a way that pleases God, even though I’ve already gotten myself in a situation that is not pleasing to Him. First, I’ve been in a sexual relationship with my boyfriend since I was 18 (I’m 22 now). I am now…

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I have children with two different women. Who do I marry?

Question: Hello, I am currently going through a crisis for which I need your advice. I am a man with two kids from two different women. I dated one girl for two years and am engaged to her. But later, because of her decision to stop having sex with me, I decided to date another…

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Should I marry the woman my brother once slept with?

Question: First of all may God bless you for this site. I committed fornication for the first time when I was at the age of 21 years. Since then I have not been able to control myself from fornication. I always have regretted doing it. I want to stop it, but I can’t. The more…

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My husband left me and I’m not certain if I should divorce him

Question: I met my husband 21 years ago. We never married until last year. We have two children 9 and 11. When I met him, we had a great seven years, after that things went downhill, we left each other several times and then we had our first son, he left me when I was…

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Do I leave the woman I had children with or stay?

Question: OK, so I’m in a position where every move or option I have to take seems like the wrong one. I currently have two kids with a woman that I’m unequally yoked with. I can’t see myself marrying this woman, so I’m thinking about moving out, but then I don’t want to be away…

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Can I still have a church wedding if we committed fornication?

Question: I grew up attending Bible studies and was even a Sunday school teacher at one point, a choir member, and a member of the ladies association. But most of all I believed I had a good relationship with God. Then, I met someone at church and we started dating. After some time our relationship…

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I got a girl pregnant. Have I ruined my career as a preacher?

Question: I have been seeking counseling over an issue, but I realized that the counselor was euphemizing the ignominy of my action. Recently, my pastor advised me to consider marriage. Prior to giving me this advice, I messed up and impregnated a girl. I have been supporting her secretively, not wanting my pastor or even…

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How do I talk to a friend who has started experimenting with sex?

Question: Good evening sir, Sadly I write to you seeking some sort of advice as I am not only troubled but do not know how to handle this situation. One of my friends throughout high school and now college (although she is closer to my girlfriend) just did something I absolutely cannot believe. Despite her…

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I am a pastor’s son and got a woman pregnant

Question: I am a pastor’s son, but I got a lady pregnant. I don’t know how to face my parents because they always preach against pregnancy before marriage. Moreover, I am afraid of how the congregation will react to the situation. I have prayed to seek the face of God for forgiveness?. Please advise me…

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I can’t stop fornicating

Question: I am 21 yrs and I can’t stop fornicating, even though it’s against my wish. Sometimes I cry after the act. I hate myself for this. My life is crumbling, and I want repentance. I want to repent of my sins, but any time I try I find myself in the same act. Please,…

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I just want a happier environment for my child and me

Question: Hello, I am currently unemployed and have been for 6 months. Four years ago I fell in love with someone else. My goal is to find another job, then my child and I will move, or whatever we as the parents decide. We had a huge argument a few days ago. He said he…

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How do I stop the curse of women in my family not marrying?

Question: The issue I am about to ask might be foreign in your part of the world. However, if you can understand, I would like to get some help. In my family, there has been an issue of girls not being able to get married. Some of my cousins have run off with married men.…

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