I don’t think we are sinning by having sex before we get married

Question: I’m a 20-year-old girl and my boyfriend is 23. We have truly loved each other ever since we came together and yearn to marry each other. Not only that, we have accepted each other as husband and wife. We are sexually active since we came together. We have lost our virginity to each other…

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I have a bad habit of visiting prostitutes

Question: Hi Jeff, I am a baptized Christian. I am always committed to being a righteous man and walking in the fellowship of God, our Lord, and our Holy Spirit. But I have committed sins against my own body, against our God in heaven. I have visited prostitutes repeatedly. Every time I have committed this…

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Should I wait for this man to marry me?

Question: Hello, I read at your site the many questions and the answers you gave were based on the Bible which was beautiful to see. I wanted to tell you something. Over fifteen years ago, I made a choice not to have sex with a man until I get married. I met a man who…

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I keep repeating my sexual sins

Question: I am 27 years old. I am unworthy to say I am a Christian, but I have the knowledge of God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit. I was baptized and have been going to church for more than 20 years. I am working and received many of God’s blessings in my career. I…

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Abstinence Is Reasonable

by David Diestelkamp via Think on These Things “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication” (I Thessalonians 4:3). Society is totally confused. It wants people to be reasonable (thinking, logically) about sex. It wants them to think about civil law, time and place (decency), disease, pregnancy, “protection,”…

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What do I do? The girl I got pregnant wants me to marry her

Question: I had a girl I loved so much. I visited her parents and relatives and visited mine too. We agreed to marry, but before the marriage, it was found out that I had impregnated her. I left her silently and married another girl. I did this because I am a church officer. I was…

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I keep repeating the same sexual sins. How do I stop?

Question: Dear minister, I just want to thank those involved in this work at the La Vista congregation. I am a new Christian and am relieved to be able to find many answers through your website. I do, however, come to you with a heavy heart right now. I have some sexual immorality in my…

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Should I marry the girl I’ve been having sex with?

Question: God bless you, I am struggling with a decision. I have a girlfriend whom I have been with three years already. She is a very nice girl, her parents have raised her very well. She is respectful, not selfish, very polite, and not sloppy in terms of doing what a young 21 year old…

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Should we wait until after we finished school to get married?

Question: Hello, I am a 21-year-old college student, and currently about five months pregnant. I am not married to the father, but we are engaged and have been together a little under two years. My parents know (I still live with them) and although my mother is not a Christian, my father, my brothers and…

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I can’t bring myself to stop fornicating

Question: Hello, I have a difficult situation that I blame myself for. I have two children out of wedlock by two different men. I am very ashamed; however, I love my children. I got saved a year ago and just got baptized last week. Anyway, to make a long story short, I have stopped fornicating…

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Is it all right to stay living with someone until we get married?

Question: Okay so on the subject of living together before marriage: I chose this before I knew God. Now, I am stuck in this situation. I have repented for having premarital sex. My boyfriend and I will be getting married soon. Will I go to hell if I die? I have nowhere else to go…

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I’ve sinned with a girl, but our parents won’t let us marry

Question: I was deeply in love with a girl. She is a Hindu and I’m a Christian. We were deeply in love and lost control of our love. We had intercourse and oral sex. We learned that our parents are not willing to let us marry and live happy lives. In anger, I sexually harassed…

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I kept my boyfriend from penetrating me, but now he won’t talk to me

Question: Hi, I am 27 years old. I’ve kept myself a virgin all these years. I recently met my long-time chase. I told him I was already in a relationship three years ago (that relationship did not work out), so we started talking again and visiting each other. The first time I visited he tried…

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I don’t know how I got myself into this situation

Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I am 22 years old and he is 25.  Before I meet him, I was on fire for God. I used to tell people about the goodness of God. I am even an armorbearer for my pastor — I carry his Bible and travel…

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Does Matthew 19:9 only refer to fornication prior to marriage?

Question: Hi, I am confused about your definition of porneia in Mathew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9. In your answer to the question “My wife is leaving me after only seven months of marriage. Where does this leave me?” you said that: “One of the reasons for the divorce has to be because the other person…

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Is my boyfriend cheating on me or am I just being hormonal?

Question: Hi, I’m having trouble figuring out if I’m being paranoid, or if my soon-to-be husband is cheating on me. I’m 8 months pregnant. I had an episode of angina several days ago. My doctor said it was caused by excessive stress and it could happen again. Now my fiance is being careful with his…

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Should I turn myself in because I had sex with a minor?

Question: First of all let me start by saying, your site is amazing. Your answers remain as biblical as possible and I do appreciate that. I read another question that someone else had that was very similar to the situation I am going through now, and reading your response really helped shed light. Nonetheless, I…

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Should sex before marriage be encouraged in Christianity?

Question: Should sex before marriage be encouraged in Christianity? Answer: “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God” (I…

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I want to stop committing fornication, but I’ve lost control

Question: I want to stop fornicating. I have always prayed that I want to get married to the man I would be dating for the first time, and I thank God for giving me that. I have been with this guy for eight years, but my problem is that at first, he wanted sex and…

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Will God punish me for my fornication?

Question: I’ve recently committed an act of fornication. I disobeyed my morals severely. I’ve prayed to God, admitted my sins, in hope for His forgiveness and restoration of faith within me. I feel used and worthless and certainly unworthy of God’s love and of marriage in the future. I always hoped to save myself for…

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I need help. I keep returning to prostitutes

Question: Hello, I was a good, clever boy when l was growing up and l do remember that my life was very good. God gave me everything l wanted. But in the spring of last year l had sex with a prostitute. l felt very bad. Once home l asked my mother to pray for…

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