Why can’t I marry my Catholic boyfriend?

Question: God bless you, Well, I have an issue in my life. My parents and I were introduced to Christianity a few years ago. My dad already had a background in it since his childhood, so he connected and loved it right away. My mom and I didn’t feel it right away. It was a…

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Vessels Unto Honor and Vessels Unto Dishonor

by L.A. Stauffer via Son Rays, Vol. 30, No. 23, Sept. 7 2008 Paul writes to the young preacher, Timothy, and urges him to flee immorality so that he might be a “vessel unto honor.” His reference is to Timothy’s person or body and how he should engage in honorable conduct (II Timothy 2:20-21). The…

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My girlfriend, whom I thought I would be marrying, broke up with me

Question: I have reached out to you before. My girlfriend of two years and I recently broke up. We were involved in fornication. I am feeling so guilty and have asked God for forgiveness. I believe He has forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself. Will my choices have an impact on my future relationships…

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I know it is wrong, but I keep wanting to have sex with my boyfriend

Question: What happens if you fornicate with the person you intend on marrying? You know how secret sins are- very addictive! And you acknowledge that it is a sin and you wish to stop! I’m 21 years old. I never had sex before I came to Christ. I’d always believed in God from a young…

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Does premarital sex make you married or cursed?

Question: I know you are super busy all the time, but if you get a chance sometime, could you help untangle my spiritual thoughts? I am asking for help regarding two theologies out there concerning marriage: One theology is that the first person you have sex with you are married to and any after that…

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Teaching Children About Fornication

by Mark Roberts “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body” (I Corinthians 6:18). Perhaps no precept of scripture is as widely ignored as this one. Our society is absolutely obsessed with sex. Advertising, movies and television, printed material,…

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Should I get married without a bride price being paid?

Question: Hello, my brother, I am told your bride price must be paid before marriage and you can get married before your bride price is paid. My question is I want to get married and be clean before God because I have children with my fiancé and we are not married.  My friends have arranged…

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How do I get my fiance to stop breaking up with me?

Question: My fiancé recently lost his mom. We are a blended family. We got into an argument at church and left. Our children got into an argument at church and when we came back inside from having a smoke, his daughter asked to talk to him privately. When he came back to the table he…

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Can you calm my fears?

Question: To start it off: I am born half Christian, half Jewish, so my parents never really raised me on religion. We celebrate the holidays of both religions, but I never went to church. I personally do not know what I believe, and honestly speaking, maybe I do believe in God, but I am not…

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What should a boy who is being forced to stay with a girl do?

Question: A boy and a girl were in a relationship. She got pregnant before marriage at an early age. They didn’t want the baby and she aborted the baby. With the passage of time, they started fighting and had no understanding. She lied that she was again pregnant. But the boy came to realize that…

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I got a young woman pregnant and I know I sinned horribly

Question: This is going to take time and months to fully play out. I in no way want to come off as flippant or not realizing the magnitude. It is only for the sake of your time that I will be matter-of-fact and leave out the emotional turmoil and long history of my sin. I’m…

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If we have sex one more time before our baptisms, will God forgive us?

Question: Hi, I recently converted to Christianity and so did my girlfriend. We both have been in a very sexual relationship before we found God. We have been trying hard not to do anything sexual, but we messed up once, felt horrible, and asked for forgiveness. We’re getting baptized soon, and we’re both excited. We…

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Should I wait until my boyfriend becomes a better Christian?

Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He waited six months before we had sex. It was my decision, and I regret it to this day. I wish I knew back then what I know now. I’m afraid if I stop having sex with my boyfriend, he’ll leave me, and I’ve…

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Should I wait until after I get married to be baptized?

Question: Hi, I am in the process of getting baptized and being confirmed as a Catholic. At the same time, I am engaged and my fiance and I live together. We will be getting married next year. Should I wait to be baptized after we are married? Answer: To be clear upfront, I’m not a…

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Should I marry the father of my children?

Question: Hello, I am the mother of three children. Their father left us to go and look for green pastures (I mean daily bread) in another country. He promised to come back and we would marry since we lived in sin for a long time. Due to poverty, we couldn’t afford the marriage ceremony and…

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I keep having sex with my boyfriend. Will God keep forgiving me?

Question: Hello, I don’t even know where to start. (Deep breath) Well, I have been going to church for five years. I met this guy who isn’t Christian, and we have been together two years. We have been having sex all this time. Every time I feel worse. I ask God to forgive me all…

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How do you pick a good boyfriend?

Question: God bless you, I am a born-again Christian lady who has been actively involved in the work of God. I’m 21 years of age. I fell in love with a guy who claimed to be a Christian. Actually, the first day we met he was recovering from a hangover. I thought I could help…

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Maybe another man will make me happier

Question: I’m a 20 year old girl who’s engaged to a man more than 15 years older than me. He is my first boyfriend, and I’m physically and emotionally intimate with him. But I’m afraid of marriage because I have only dated him and no one else. He is a great man who is a…

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I’m depressed that my girlfriend isn’t a virgin

Question: Hello, I am 21. I am not very sensitive. I can easily overcome any bad time, but these days something very bad happened to me — actually, I don’t know if it is bad, or if I’m making it worse. Starting with me: I like girls and I always wanted to have a female…

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I broke my promise and committed fornication. What can I do?

Question: Hi Jeff, I am happy I found your site and I have a question. I am in my late thirties, single, and had sex with just my ex-boyfriend in the past probably twice after four years. I have been through a lot in the past couple of years and God has blessed me in…

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Do I tell my girlfriend that I slept with her sister?

Question: Please sir, I strongly believe that it is not good to fornicate, but I did this some days ago. I’ve regretted what I’ve done. I want to start dating a woman whom I would like to marry, but the fact is that she is the sister of the girl with whom I had sex.…

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I don’t think I can wait to get married

Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than three years. Purity is draining me and I’ve suggested we get married as soon as possible. You said this in an answer to a question: “One of the interesting things I’ve learned in life is that if you look at the hard numbers, no one…

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Does fornication not include sex before marriage?

Question: I would like to address a post on your site: Does God forgive Christians who commit fornication and sexual immorality? Your reply to this woman is typical of every misguided Christian when it comes to the question of “fornication.” You brought down the hammer on this girl quoting from I Corinthians 6:9 in one translation. I looked…

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My boyfriend left me and his child. Any advice?

Question: I have been in a relationship for 11 years. We have a child and used to get into it about my other kids sometimes. He’s been cheating on me for over a year. I found out earlier this year, but he said he was sorry and I was the one he wanted to marry.…

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Do you think God brought us together so we can live together?

Question: I have a lot of unanswered questions. I am not at peace in my current living situation. Recently I agreed to live with a Christian man whom I’ve known for a long time, and I’ve grown very uncomfortable with the arrangements. Let me start by saying that my ex-husband and I were friends with…

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I thought I had changed, but then I sinned and had sex

Question: Hello, I’d like to ask a question. But I must first tell you that I grew up going to the church of christ and my grandfather was a preacher. I got into drugs at a young age as my stepfather abused my mother and I when I was growing up. I finally surrendered all…

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Is paying lobola equivalent to marriage?

Question: Greetings, I would like to know if lobola (bride price) is equivalent to marriage with regards to sexual relations.  I have recently paid lobola (bride price)  but not the full amount, I am saving money and will pay the full price next and then get married.  My curiosity is: Is it ok still sinful…

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Will having sex outside of marriage keep me out of heaven?

Question: Hello Minister, My question is regarding sex before marriage. I want to be clear that I know it is against God’s Word to partake in such activities. I am 21 and have been a virgin all my life, avoiding temptations wherever I go. Last week my mates and I drank too much. By the…

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I keep on doing what I don’t want to do

Question: I am a Christian, though I keep on fornicating. I feel so ashamed to talk to you about my life and what I’ve gone through. I’ve led a promiscuous life from the age of 16 years. I entered into a relationship barely three years ago. I still keep on fornicating and as a result,…

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Should I marry my atheist boyfriend?

Question: I was with this guy for over a year. We were friends and then started having sex and dating. He is an atheist. I am not. We broke up a month ago but still talk online a lot. We are still friends. He still claims he loves and still talks about wanting to be…

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How do I correct the mess I’ve made with my life?

Question: My question is regarding sex outside of marriage. I know God tells us not to do it. And I have regrettably led a life thus far where I knew God’s commands, but chose to ignore them thinking I knew what was best. I’m struggling to find my way back to the straight and narrow.…

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