Posts Tagged ‘fornication’
I think sex before marriage is great and the Bible is an invented story. What are your opinions?
Question: Hello, I appreciate many of the subjects discussed on your website, but I must share my opinion that I think it is absurd to live your life that way. Sex before marriage is great. I believe the Bible is an invented story, designed to communicate important values in life so that each individual can…
Read MoreWhy can’t I get pregnant with my boyfriend? (2)
Question: My boyfriend and I been together for about 7 or 8 months. While we been together, we have been trying to get me pregnant but nothing has happened. We’ve been doing it a lot and nothing. Can you please help me out? Answer: First, get married so that your child will actually have a…
Read MoreAm I a real Christian?
Question: Lately, something’s been really bothering me and it’s been growing and growing and I’m afraid of where it might lead. Basically, I’ve been wondering if I’m a “real or true” Christian or not. This thought has been driving me nuts, leaving me depressed, and confused. From reading online and other sources about what being…
Read MoreHow do I keep temptation at bay just before my wedding?
Question: I am in need of your advice. I am in my early twenties. I grew up in a church and learned at a young age that I should wait until I got married before I had sex. When I was saved in my teens, I took a pledge that I would wait. However, when…
Read MoreAm I cursed by God?
Question: I need some prayer and guidance. I was in a marriage for over a decade and recently got a divorce because of my ex-husband’s constant infidelity a few years ago. I am in a new relationship and it’s been about a year. We both love each other, and he expresses wanting to get married…
Read MoreHow do I help my daughter see it is not good to be jealous of friends who are having babies out of wedlock?
Question: I am so concerned about my daughter who is in her early twenties and still lives with us. She is a faithful Christian, has kept herself pure, and tries to be what God wants her to be. However, she has seen a couple of her Christian friends choose the wrong path and ended up…
Read MoreWhat is the difference between fornication and adultery?
Question: Please enlighten me as to what the difference is between fornication and adultery. A few of us had quite a discussion about it after our midweek services this evening. Answer: The Greek word translated as fornication, or sexual immorality, is porneia. The Greek word translated as adultery is moicheia. In classical Greek, porneia was used to refer to…
Read MoreCan I get back my life after I repent of my sins?
Question: I have been a Christian almost all my life. My father pastors a church and I was brought up in the way of God. I have been engaged for several years, but my fiancé and I live in two different countries. Recently, I found myself engaging in sexual immorality with people with whom I…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend, telling her I was a virgin when I am not. What should I do?
Question: My girlfriend and I recently talked a bit about our past relationships, and the subject of being virgins slowly came up. Although I have tried my best to live a good Christian life, there came a point where under pressure I lost my virginity. It only occurred once and never again afterward. I realized…
Read MoreI love my girlfriend, but she does a lot of bad things. I want to follow God. What should I do?
Question: Hi, I have a question about what I should do with my girlfriend. She’s the love of my life, and I can’t imagine ever being without her, but ever since I got real serious about God, things she does bothers me so much more. She smokes weed and cigarettes, she dranks, she cusses up…
Read MoreWhy does my boyfriend seem so contradictory?
Question: My boyfriend and I met through a mutual friend several months ago. We both are very involved in church. He leads a youth group at a local high school, along with other ministries in our community. This attracted us to each other and was a major conversation starter when we started hanging out. We…
Read MoreDid God want me to have sex?
Question: Hi, I just discovered this website today, and I had a question. There is this girl that I have fallen in love with. She is everything to me. I prayed all the time asking what I should do with her and where I should go with this. I’m very close to God, and whenever…
Read MoreWhat is the consequence of going without sex after being experienced at it?
Question: I am a student at university. My question is like this: if I can spend a long time without doing sex while I was experienced before, what is the consequence? Answer: You make it sound as if sex was a can of soda — once you pop it open, you can’t reseal it. It is…
Read MoreDoes fornication not include sex between two virgins?
Question: I have read a lot of your articles that deal with sex and fornication. In my mind, I agree that sex does not create a marriage. However, it seems my heart believes that sex does create marriage. I have deep feelings my marriage is an adulterous relationship because neither I nor my wife were…
Read MoreI’ve messed up my relationships. What do I do?
Question: I have lost confidence in myself. I thought because I re-gave my life to Christ that I would not fall the next day. But I did a few weeks after trying to give my ex a second chance. I cheated. Before I met my ex I was pretty clear with males and not interested…
Read MoreI’ve sinned, living with a non-believer. I’ve repented, but do I marry this man?
Question: I am a Christian woman in my thirties. I have two children outside of wedlock for the same father who is a Muslim man. Now I know that having sex before marriage is wrong, making my children illegitimate. But I know the errors of my ways and I have come back to Christ through…
Read MoreI don’t agree with your answers, but should I wait until I get married to have sex?
Question: I am a young female, I am over the age of consent but have reservations as to whether I am ready to lose my virginity. I have read some of the questions from confused children concerning relationships and intimacy and don’t agree fully with your answers, however, I would like your help and guidance…
Read MoreI want to live righteously, but I’m living with my fiance. What should I do?
Question: I have been feeling guilty lately, I heard about fornication. I live with my fiance of five years and we have a child together. I’ve given myself completely to God and have been doing things right. But I feel something is not right. My fiance and I decided to solve certain issues that we have…
Read MoreIf you say pornography is not fornication, are you not accepting pornography?
Question: I’m sorry but I strongly disagree with “Is looking at pornography fornication?” Not that I would divorce my future husband if this was the case, but that I would totally support a lady who does because when you’re married to a man, he is the only person who should be able to satisfy you.…
Read MoreI’m shocked you would tell teenagers not to have sex!
Question: Wow, I’ve just read an answer to “Is it bad that I want to see my boyfriend naked” and was shocked, do you honestly want to ruin a relationship between two teenagers by saying they should end their relationship because they might end up having sex? Do you really believe that God wouldn’t let his…
Read MoreWhat right does anyone have to preach to others about not having the joy of intimacy when in a relationship?
Question: I am a 43-year-old woman who, yes, believes in God. I’ve been happily married for 20 years and have three wonderful, caring children of which one was born out of wedlock. My question is what right does anybody have to preach to other youngsters about them not having the joy of intimacy when in…
Read MoreNow that my wife left me for another man, should I give up living for God?
Question: I’ve been divorced over a year and a half. My then-wife started an affair with another man. We were married for almost a decade and been together years longer than that. I discovered the affair, by accident, seven months after the fact via emails and Facebook. How ironic, as these are social web sites…
Read MoreIs “dry humping” considered fornication?
Question: Is “dry humping” considered fornication? Does it count as sex before marriage? Answer: Dry humping is slang for rubbing or bumping the genitals against someone or something in order to gain sexual stimulation. It isn’t fornication, but fornication isn’t the only sexual sin that can be committed. Paul warned, “It is good for a…
Read MoreWhat happens if you already lost your virginity? Where do you fit in? Will you always be second-class?
Question: Hello, I have been reading around your site for a bit and I wanted to ask a question. My question is about pre-marital sex. I know and I understand that it is wrong and shouldn’t be done. But the thing is, I had oral sex just once. I know oral sex is wrong and…
Read MoreWe need encouragement to stay sexually pure
Question: My society frowns at early marriage and yet pretends not to notice the prevalence of premarital sex. I am 29, with a fiancee, and a Christian. I know the pressure, but God has been helpful. If I am allowed, I will marry, but we have to wait. Please, we need encouragement to stay sexually…
Read MoreWhat does it mean to be a fornicator?
Question: What does it mean to be a fornicator? Does it mean, “I committed it today, but I won’t tomorrow,” but doing it the next day anyway? If repentance is changing habits, then such a person remains as a fornicator and is a fallen brother or sister. That person can’t keep on being called a Christian. Or can…
Read MoreMy boyfriend says he regrets his past fornications, but he is pushing to have sex with me. How do I get him to change?
Question: I am a 22-year old girl who is just in love with a 26-year-old boy. We belong to different casts but the same religion. We share a good emotional connection, and as a person, I know he is a good one. He loves me and wants to marry me. However, in his past life…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I try hard, but we always end up in sexual situations. What should we do?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both Christians. We both try very hard to follow and do God’s will and word. So when I told him that I didn’t want to have sex till we were married, he was all right with it. Even though we have had sex before, I was at the point…
Read MoreShould I leave my marriage?
Question: I happen to find your web site on the Internet. I have a problem with the man I stay with. I was staying with my mom a few years ago and had one of his children. I had agreed into a traditional negotiation between our two families, his and mine. He had to pay…
Read MoreWhy do I feel used by the guys I had sex with?
Question: Hello. I am glad I found this web site. Now I know that prayer is the answer to this question, and I have already prayed many times, but I need to post this. I am in my late twenties. I was a virgin until three years ago. I had never even kissed a boy,…
Read MoreIs every divorce that is not for fornication a sin?
Question: “How it is possible for a requirement that if a woman divorces her husband, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband (a command by the Lord according to Paul) if the only allowed cause for divorce is fornication which gives by implication the non-fornicator the right to remarry?” Paul is repeating…
Read MoreIs it possible to step back after you think you are going too far?
Question: I’ve been reading this site and you give such meaningful advice to people, so I wanted to ask a question of my own: Is it possible to take a leap backward after you feel like you and your boyfriend have gone too far physically? We haven’t had any sexual contact, but I’m afraid that…
Read MoreAm I married?
Question: OK. Well, let me provide some background information. I am a believer. I met a girl who is also a believer. We became boyfriend and girlfriend. During the relationship, we would talk about marriage and getting married and the intent of the relationship was to one day get married. We would say things like…
Read MoreWho will be held accountable for committing adultery? A single woman or a married man?
Question: Who will be held accountable for committing adultery? A single woman or a married man? Answer: Adultery is when a married person has sex with someone to whom he or she is not married. The act is called adultery, whether the married person is having sex with another married person or with a single…
Read MoreIs honoring another person’s request submission?
Question: Good morning. I was reading your web page on submission. I am trying to find out more about submission and I have a specific scenario and I am wondering if you can help me. My boyfriend and I had an argument this morning about submission. We are in a committed relationship and seeking God’s will…
Read MoreHow can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend?
Question: How can I restrain myself from doing foreplay with my girlfriend? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The simple answer is to keep your hands off of her body. Rather than thinking about your desire…
Read MoreWhom do I marry, my current girlfriend or my former girlfriend?
Question: I have just been reading most of the answers under the topic of marriage and I have to say first of all thank you for answering questions from a biblical perspective. It’s all we need. My question is as follows: I got an older woman pregnant who is in her thirties. I am five…
Read MoreRed, yellow, or green light?
Question: I love your site. I sent the link to my girlfriend. We are not romantically involved; we just only touch the upper part of our bodies, and we keep our clothes on. I asked the pastor where I go to church and he told me that it is a good question, but if she…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my girlfriend that I’m not a virgin?
Question: Hello. I have been looking over your site and have been blessed by it very much. I was looking for a question but couldn’t find it, so I thought I would ask myself. I know that going into details about my sinful past with my current girlfriend isn’t necessary, but I do feel I…
Read MoreWhat If …?
by Ken Leach via Biblical Insights, Vol. 9, No. 11, November 2009 I am familiar with a situation wherein a young female college student became pregnant out of wedlock. This young Christian and her parents experienced a range of emotions unlike any others in their lifetime. It has now been more than twenty years since those…
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