Posts Tagged ‘fornication’
Is there any hope for me?
Question: I went through your article, “A Sin Leading to Death.” Like so many other articles on the sin that leads to death and apostasy, there seems to be no final consensus on what are these sins, what are their consequences, and the chances of reversing these consequences. So the article held some hope for…
Read MoreShould I tell the leadership in my old church that I committed fornication with one of their leading men?
Question: I have a question. I know it may seem silly or absurd. I recently became involved with a man who is an ordained minister at a megachurch. He serves as armor-bearer to his pastor and plans on starting a church himself. For two years we talked and eventually went out. This man and I…
Read MoreIf you repented of past sexual sins, is it wrong to wear a purity ring?
Question: If you have had “relations” with someone, but have asked forgiveness and seen the errors of your ways and want to rededicate yourself to God, would it be considered wrong to wear a purity ring or something along those lines? Answer: If you are doing so to make it appear that you are something…
Read MoreDo I tell my boyfriend that I had a one-night stand?
Question: Hello. Well, first of all, I came across your site by asking the question: “By not telling my boyfriend about a one night stand am I sinning even though I have cried and prayed to God to ask for forgiveness?” I have been living with my boyfriend for several years and we have been…
Read MoreMust I marry the girl I had sex with?
Question: Praise the LORD! I have read some of your replies to other questions and I perceive that you have knowledge. So, I come to you in regard to a question of mine. But, first let me explain: At one time in my walk with God, I was struggling, and instead of leaning on God,…
Read MoreWhat Boys, Girls, and Their Parents Need To Know
by Wendi Capehart The following is adapted from an old post the good blogger at Wit-nit wrote. He wished to illustrate just how heady and disorienting a brew lust can be, how dangerous in the hands of the immature, but he is not a believer and he wrote an R-rated post. He allowed me to…
Read MoreDo I let my son and his live-in girlfriend come for Thanksgiving?
Question: My son is in his late twenties, a college graduate, and in the military. He is very responsible and has had a Christian upbringing. He has just returned from deployment, and his wife has left him. He is now “serious” about someone else and living with her. Now says that he believes this is all…
Read MoreHow do I turn myself around?
Question: I am a 30-year-old single man. I lost my virginity about the age of 15, but the girl couldn’t stay with me as she was a foreigner and had to return home. Having sex with women became a priority in life for me, but I have been single for most of my life and…
Read MoreMy girlfriend caught me cheating with my former girlfriend. What do I do?
Question: I had a girlfriend, but then I started loving another girl. But I could not let go of the first one because she was satisfying my sexual needs. One day the other girl caught me cheating. I am madly in love with her and promised that I will never ever do something so cheap.…
Read MoreHow do I keep my desires from getting out of control?
Question: Hi My fiancee told me that she’d sent a question to you about me, and showed me your response today. Her email wasn’t exactly truthful, so I decided to email you myself and hope for advice about my situation. Sex was never a problem for me; I was in my early twenties when I did it,…
Read MoreIs my fiance a real Christian?
Question: I’ve been dating for a year, and now I’m engaged, but it still will take two years for us to marry. My fiance and I have strong sexual temptations, it seems like I have a lot more control than him. Sometimes it scares me because he seems to want sex too much. He’s not…
Read MoreWe want to marry, but my girlfriend isn’t old enough. What should we do?
Question: Hi, I hope you don’t mind answering. I’ve tried to find answers in the Bible, but I’m a little confused about what my options are and what is best. Firstly I’ll write a background on the situation: I’ve been dating my girlfriend for just over a year. I love her very much, and we…
Read MoreHow do I get past the fact that my girlfriend is not a virgin, but I am?
Question: Hello. I want to start this email by just saying that I am not good at spelling, and I hope you understand what I’m saying. I saw a note on your site about a boy who lost his virginity to a girl. I was trying to get answers about virginity. I am a virgin, and…
Read MoreI’ve been having dry sex with my girlfriend. I know it is wrong. She wants to marry me, but she isn’t a Christian and I don’t know what to do.
Question: While researching sexual sins, I came across this web site. Some of the points mentioned in the answers regarding sexual sins have really touched my heart. As a brief background about me: I am 24 years old. I have been dating a non-Christian girl for the last several years. I realize that it is…
Read MoreHow do I stop my 14-year-old son from sneaking out at night to see a girl?
Question: My 14-year-old son has just started sneaking out of our house in the middle of the night. Two times in the last month he left our house at 2 am and walked over one mile to his girlfriend’s house. My son is very sneaky, and he will wait until I’m asleep and then leave…
Read MoreShould we marry now or when we are in a better financial situation?
Question: My girlfriend and I intend to get married in the future and want to wait until we are in a better financial situation to marry. Also being in a long-distance relationship would mean that if we did marry, we would be unable to live together straight away just yet. But I’m in fear of…
Read MoreI had unprotected sex with my boyfriend a few weeks ago and now I’m not feeling well. What could be wrong?
Question: Hi. This the first time I have felt like this. My boyfriend was here a couple of weeks ago and we had unprotected sex. Six days later I started feeling dizzy, not eating a lot, and everything smells bad. I’m not in the mood to do anything and underneath my belly button, it’s hard.…
Read MoreIf just thinking about doing oral sex with a woman is as bad as doing it, then why not just do it?
Question: If just thinking about doing oral sex with a woman is as bad as doing it, then why not just do it? Answer: To illustrate why your argument fails, let me make a similar one: “If hatred is just as bad as murder (I John 3:15), then why not just commit murder?” The answer…
Read MoreCan my bride wear white even though we committed fornication?
Question: Please, sir, I need your advice on what to do. I have dated my partner for over a year. We trust and love each other very much, but we fell into the sin of fornication. My questions are: Can she still wear a white dress on her wedding day? Is it right to tell…
Read MoreI’m about to have sex with my boyfriend. Will God still hear my prayers?
Question: I am about to start having sex with my boyfriend of nine months. Will God still hear my prayers if I do that? I really am confused. I feel that I’m ready, but I’m afraid of destroying my relationship with God. Please help. Answer: Here is the true test that you and your boyfriend…
Read MoreIf a virgin marries a non-virgin, will he be condemned to hell?
Question: If a pure man marries a woman who he thinks is a pure woman (virgin), and he finds out later she wasn’t a virgin when they married, is he condemned to hell because it wasn’t a pure and holy marriage, even though he is a member of the true New Testament church? Answer: God…
Read MoreWhy didn’t you say that the girl who was living with her boyfriend could be forgiven of her sins?
Question: I just read over your response to a girl who lives with her boyfriend and she asked why you called it a sin. You gave her reasons, but then you listed reasons for her to consider. The second heading was “It Can Keep You Out of Heaven.” If you are preaching the truth as you…
Read MoreShould my friend pursue a relationship with a boy who had sex in the past?
Question: This question is for my friend’s situation: A boy recently started to pursue more-than-friends moves on my friend. She’s liked him on-and-off for three years, but in those three years, he’s had a girlfriend. She just found out that the boy had sex a few times several months ago with his girlfriend. Since that…
Read MoreHow can I help my boyfriend with his sexual desires?
Question: I’m 25 years old and a Christian. I am in my first relationship as a Christian. My boyfriend is a backslider. We had sex once. I know it was wrong. I repented and I believe God has forgiven me. I am not going to do it again until we are married. I have downloaded…
Read MoreDoesn’t sex create a marriage?
Question: Hello, it’s me, the same girl who had sent you a message before asking about sex without marriage. I know God’s laws, and I know he made them in order to keep us safe and happy. The thing is, the person and I have already done it, we’ve had sex. Now Jesus said that when…
Read MoreHow do I recover from pre-marital sex?
Question: I was reading your articles about waiting for marriage and why sex outside of marriage is wrong. Your advice is something I wish I had understood sooner. Unfortunately, I have already sinned sexually. Now I am trying to discern God’s will so that I may do what is right in His eyes. I have a girlfriend…
Read MoreI posted a picture of a girl I loved and me kissing. Was that wrong?
Question: I truly loved a girl. We had sex. We made a kissing picture and I put that picture on a web site. That was my mistake. Is that a wrong thing to do? Answer: I hope I understand your question accurately. If I misunderstood, please help me to understand better so I can help…
Read MoreIf we had committed fornication, would God judge us and force us to divorce?
Question: Of late, I have been pouring over the articles on the La Vista church website. I came across a number of articles that have left me a bit confused. I wonder if my girlfriend and I can still get married even though we committed fornication. According to “Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong,”…
Read MoreCan my girlfriend and I get married after committing fornication?
Question: I have some issues I want to share with you so you can pray with me and give me some advice. I was searching the web for some answers on some Christian web sites when I came across your answer to a question that I had, and I am in a similar situation. My…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My boyfriend doesn’t want to get married and I do
Question: My boyfriend and I live together. We’ve been living together for two years. He doesn’t want to get married. I do. Also, I am Christian, he is agnostic. I have tried to talk to him about God, but he wants proof. I don’t know what to do. When we first got together, I was…
Read MoreDoes “sexual immorality” (porneia) include masturbation?
Question: I would like to just say in some previous answers you have said that masturbation is not mentioned as a sin, but it is. We are told in Acts 15:20 to flee from sexual immorality. Today, most of the world sees masturbation as sexual immorality, and it has always been considered that. Because the term isn’t…
Read MoreWe can’t get married right now, but we can’t keep from engaging in sexual acts. What do we do?
Question: My girlfriend and I have a very serious problem. But first, a little history. When we met, I was not a Christian. She has been one for her entire life. In meeting her, she showed me the way to God, and I was baptized a few months ago. Together we have grown immensely in…
Read MoreMy boyfriend proposed to me. Are we sinning if we have sex?
Question: My boyfriend proposed to me. I’m not pregnant and I do love him. Does this make me a sinner, if we have sex? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). Sex outside of marriage is a sin. A proposal to marry doesn’t…
Read MoreI found my husband locked in his bedroom with our daughter and only partially clothed. What do I do?
Question: I really don’t know where to go with this question, but having been a regular reader of your web site, I hope you can help. My husband and I have a 10-year-old daughter. We do not share a bedroom per his insistence. A few days ago I came home from work early and heard…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I made a commitment to each other before a friend. Are we really married?
Question: I am in college, and so is my boyfriend. We have been dating for about two years and have known each other for about six. I am in love with him and know he is the one for me. A few months after we started dating, we fell into temptation and had sex with…
Read MoreDo I need to be withdrawn from because my girlfriend gave me a handjob?
Question: My girlfriend and I are both virgins, but last month she gave me a handjob. We know it is bad. We asked for forgiveness and have decided we will stop sexually touching each other. My question is do I need to be taken out of the church? Like the brother in I Corinthians chapter…
Read MoreI thought I was married but found out I wasn’t. I had cheated on the man I thought was my husband. Does that prevent me from marrying him?
Question: I have a question about committing adultery while being married. My boyfriend and I believed that we were married and had sexual intercourse. But during that time I strayed and committed adultery with another guy. I know this is a sin and I continually asked for forgiveness from God and my boyfriend forgave me…
Read MoreI’m pregnant. The stress is getting to me. I don’t know what to do
Question: I know I’m making a habit out of writing to you when life gets to me, but I know your advice helps so I do. I seem to get myself in situations that are always hurtful to me. I know I told you when I last wrote that I wouldn’t know if I was pregnant until the…
Read MoreMy boyfriend broke up with me and I don’t know what to do
Question: Writing because I seem to be fighting feelings right now, and I don’t know where to turn. My boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me last week. This time I didn’t even see it coming because we got along so well. His reason was he can’t stand not being with me every…
Read MoreI’m in love with a man who lives in another country and I don’t know what to do
Question: Hello, my problem is not as serious as other askers’ problems. I don’t live in this country, I’m not even religious, but it’s been eating me alive little by little and I don’t know where to turn to. I can’t write them on blogs since friends would know. I can’t write it down otherwise…
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