Posts Tagged ‘dating’
I can’t accept that my girlfriend is not a virgin. What can I do?
Question: I can’t accept my girlfriend because she isn’t a virgin. I know her past because she told me everything. I have also done sexual things. it is not fair that I can’t accept her. I am also addicted to pornography. I have tried so much to get out. Each time I fall I get…
Read MoreI’m dating a non-Christian, but what if she never becomes a Christian?
Question: All right, I am in a relationship with a non-Christian who I am trying to reach out to. She loves me, and I love her. We have a lot in common. Her parents love me. I am pursuing possibly going into youth ministry. Right now I’m taking general classes. The problem I am having…
Read MoreI really messed up. How do I restore my relationship with my fiance?
Question: Hello, I am 24 years of age. I have been in a very serious relationship for over three years. We have had so many challenging times, but somehow we always pulled through. My boyfriend and I got engaged about a year ago. We are Christians, and he is such a good spiritual leader to…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but she isn’t a strong Christian. Should I take a chance on her or not?
Question: Hello, I really don’t even know why I am here asking this when I probably already know the answer. I guess I just need a second opinion. You see, I met this girl a while back. I am a Christian and she is also, but she doesn’t really live the way she should. She…
Read MoreDo I have to give up my girlfriend to become a Christian?
Question: Hello, I am a 19-year-old young man studying with a church. I have been studying for over a year and a half and now I am ready to get baptized. I have made it my effort to not only learn the word of God, but to also apply it to my life. I pray…
Read MoreWhat do we do if he can’t afford the dowry (Lobola)?
Question: I have been dating this man for the past three years, and I love him so much. We grew up together in the church but we started dating when I was in my early twenties. He was supposed to pay a dowry (lobola) but he lost his job. This happened again this year, but…
Read MoreWhy is it so hard to get over an ex-boyfriend?
Question: Why is it so hard for me to leave my ex-boyfriend alone? I was involved with him at one time, but I came back to the Lord, got baptized, and am focusing more on Jesus. I thought I was delivered and set free it. There had been times I could do good when I…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been cheating on me, but now he wants to get married and I don’t know if I should
Question: How do I continue with the father of my two children, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 13 years and just found out he might be the father of a baby whose mother is the person I found him cheating on me with two years ago? Do I believe his story about…
Read MoreHow do I restrain myself with my girlfriend?
Question: Hi Jeffrey, I’m in a courtship with a lady and we both promised each other never to fornicate, which we have kept for three years now. But we do kiss and romance each other since a year into our courtship. I have tried to stop it but to no avail. She has self-control over…
Read MoreWhat do I do about a girlfriend who is being pressured to drop me because of “prophecies?”
Question: Hi, I came across your site while googling about prophets and marriage. I have been a Christian for over 25 years in a Congregational church. I met a beautiful woman on a social network. I wasn’t looking to hook up or anything bad. I was actually just looking for friends. She had her profile…
Read MoreIs it necessary for a Christian to marry a non-Christian?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ, but I have a question. Is it acceptable for a boy or girl to have a girl or boyfriend? And is it necessary for a member of the church of Christ to marry someone who is not in the church of Christ? Answer: Much depends…
Read MoreMy parents don’t like the guy I’m dating and I don’t know what to do
Question: Hi, I have a problem with my parents not being supportive when it comes to my relationships. They want to choose for me whom I date even if I hate the person. They don’t consider my feelings at all. I had to date one guy whom I will name Charles. I took him as…
Read MoreI moved in with my girlfriend for financial reasons, but lately, she is seeing another boy. What do I do?
Question: I have been in a relationship with this girl for about a year and a half now and now it’s starting to fall apart. First, let me lay out the facts: She was born and raised Christian, but in High School had a falling out since her Grandma died. She doesn’t drink or do…
Read MoreDo I need to tell the other woman that a man we were both unknowingly dating was two-timing?
Question: I greet you in the wonderful name of Jesus. I read the article about forgiveness and were to confess after sinning. I have a problem, which I hope you can help me with. I’m a Christian, and there was a time when I was interested in a brother at church, but I kept praying…
Read MoreI feel guilty that I didn’t tell my boyfriend that a year ago I kissed my ex-boyfriend
Question: I have been together with my current boyfriend for two years now. During our first six months together, there was one night I was out drinking with some friends when my ex, by surprise, was also there at the same place, and he sat at our table. We got to chat for a while…
Read MoreShould we break up because we haven’t been able to restrain ourselves?
Question: Hi, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months. We are both sophomores at a Christian university and met here at the beginning of our freshman year. In our relationship though, we have been having trouble with sexual sin. We have never “gone all the way” and had sex, we’ve just…
Read MoreI feel so guilty because we broke down and had sex. Should I leave the man I love
Question: My boyfriend and I are strong believers. We started a relationship less than six months ago and put a strong principle that there would be no sex. In the last two weeks, the principle got broken when we got carried away in love and had sex. Right now I feel too guilty although we…
Read MoreI can’t get past the fact that my boyfriend is not a virgin
Question: Hello! Thank you so much for your website. It has helped a lot. However, I wanted to ask if you had any advice for a woman who has saved herself for marriage and is courting a man who hasn’t. I have found it extremely difficult to accept his past. I feel like he will…
Read MoreI fell into fornication. I’ve broken up with her, but should I tell her why?
Question: Hi Sir, I have come across your site reading your articles on courtship and relationship matters while searching for articles on how to prepare myself for a godly relationship in the future. And I thank God for your sound advice and guidelines in how we should live our lives as God’s people. For background on…
Read MoreI found out the man I’m dating is living with his ex-wife. Should I wait until he moves out before marrying him?
Question: Hi, This man approached me, I had never seen him before and he worked next to the building I worked at. Well, one day, he stopped me and asked me out. I went and we started dating. He told me he was divorced and lived alone. Well, I believed him. Later on in this…
Read MoreBefore becoming a Christian, I committed fornication many times. My preacher says I need to wait before getting married. Isn’t it better to marry now?
Question: Greetings in the name of Jesus Christ. I write this e-mail with great shame over myself. I committed fornication with a girl who was not my girlfriend and got her pregnant. The girl whom I got pregnant knew that I already had a girlfriend whom I was planning to marry and had already paid…
Read MoreCan we be forgiven if we plan to have sex before we marry?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for eight months now and have been discussing having sex. We do plan on getting married because we are both loyal, honest and love each other very dearly. However, we both have very strong religious backgrounds and are not sure if we could be forgiven if we…
Read MoreMy girlfriend committed suicide when I told her I would be marrying the girl my family chose for me. I feel so empty
Question: Dear sir, My girlfriend committed suicide one and a half years back. We had a relationship of five years. Both of us loved each other badly, and she got pregnant twice and had an abortion as I told her to do this. Due to my family pressure, I refused to marry her and got…
Read MoreIs it OK to use online dating?
Question: Do you believe that it is OK for a Christian to use online dating if he does not currently have any options where he goes to church or where he works? The few whom I would be interested in at church are simply not interested in me. (I understand that I’m not everyone’s “type”)…
Read MoreI proposed to marry my girlfriend in two years, but she wants to wait four years. I don’t know if I want to wait that long
Question: Hi. I’m a male in my mid-twenties who has been dating a woman in her early twenties for over two years. I completed my degree last year, but she is still in school. She will complete her degree in four more years. I love her very much and proposed we marry in two years,…
Read MoreWhy didn’t my old girlfriend want me?
Question: Hello, I was 15 years of age and a girl lived just in front of our house. She proposed to me one day. She was 16 years of age at the time. She said to me that she loved me a lot. We exchanged flying kisses and smiles. This went on for three years.…
Read MoreI’m in love with a man who has a girlfriend whom he got pregnant. Should I marry him?
Question: Hi, I am 30 years of age, born again, having a boyfriend near my age also born again. We are related according to our culture as our mothers share the same clan name. We deeply love each other and all our conversations are always about God. We help each other to understand the word…
Read MoreMy family doesn’t like my girlfriend and her family doesn’t like me. Should I marry her or the woman my father wants me to marry?
Question: I love a girl. My dad does not like her because she is Russian and I am Indian. We both are Christians. Her father does not like me because I am an Indian. Should I marry her or marry the girl that my dad wants me to marry? At the same time, she is…
Read MoreWhy doesn’t he write me back?
Question: Hello. I never thought I’d have to do this, I always had my friends or my parents to ask for advice. But now, at this point of my life, I’m completely alone, and I have no one to turn to because none of them will ever understand what I’m going through. You can’t understand…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My girlfriend told me she’s not a virgin and doesn’t regret it.
Question: Hi. First of all, I would like to say this website rocks and it’s the best thing ever. The advice you give comes from your heart and I like it, but it also comes from the Bible and that’s just amazing how you use the scriptures to help us. May God bless you. OK,…
Read MoreHow can I make him want only me?
Question: My boyfriend is a Muslim, and I’m a Christain. He says he loves me but still flirts with other girls. Our graduation is fast approaching, but he prefers hanging out with his numerous friends. I do not know what to do, or how to make him want me more than anything. Answer: People don’t…
Read MoreIs it appropriate for someone who doesn’t have the right to remarry to be dating?
Question: I have a family member who is a Christian and has been unscripturally divorced for a long time. Recently she has been seeing someone who is also supposed to be a Christian and is unscripturally divorced. She claims they are just friends but has referred to their relationship as dating. You and I know…
Read MoreDid I do something wrong in telling my ex-girlfriend that her behavior wasn’t good?
Question: My ex-girlfriend and I met a few weeks ago and discussed things and we made peace in following Matthew 18:15. We didn’t get back together, that wasn’t my interest; I just wanted to be Christian brother and sister again so we could help each other spiritually. After she added me back on Facebook I…
Read MoreBefore I became a Christian, I had promised to marry a woman, but now that I’m a Christian I don’t think it will work out. What do I do?
Question: Hello, By the grace of God, I am saved and was baptized last year. And by His mercy, I am able to continue the race that is set before me with patience. Before my salvation, I made a promise to a girl that I would marry her. At that time I was hurting from…
Read MoreCould God’s prophets really tell my boyfriend that we would have an unhappy marriage?
Question: Hi, I would like to address an issue that’s troubling my heart. First of all, I am a Christian who has recently repented because I sinned against God through fornication. I am trying to get right with God and change my ways for good. Recently my boyfriend of nearly four years has ended our…
Read MoreWhy did she say she forgave me if she stopped talking to me?
Question: I met a girl online about a year ago. She lives in a different state where she was attending a Bible college. We talked all the time and became good friends. I became interested in her and tried to pursue her, but she insisted on staying friends because of the distance. A few months…
Read MoreI can’t make up my mind about the guy I lost my virginity to
Question: I am from a Christian family. I have been taught God’s standards when it comes to sex and wished I wasn’t in this position. However, my own sexual desires and naďvety made me lose my virginity to a man I fell in love with last year back in college. He was in a relationship…
Read MoreMy parents are against my dating a man, even though he has now become a Christian. What do I do?
Question: Hi! I’m in my early twenties, and I grew up in a Christian home. I met my boyfriend when he was not a Christian because we work in the same place. He was divorced about ten years ago. Until then, my parents, who are strong Christians, told me they would disown me as their…
Read MoreI messed up and had sex with my girlfriend. Since then she has been having sex with several guys repeatedly. I forgive her, but how can I help her?
Question: Hi. I’ve read some of your answers and you clearly seem to be someone with much wisdom and knowledge of the word. That’s why I’m trusting you with this. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now and we’ve visited each other three times now. We’re…
Read MoreDid I do the right thing dumping this guy I met online?
Question: Hello, I came across your website, and as I read I saw that there was great wisdom in the counsel being given. I have a situation that I need some scriptural clarity on. Several months ago I met a man on a Christian website who seemed very spiritually mature and kind. We spoke by…
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