Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Do I tell my girlfriend that I slept with her sister?
Question: Please sir, I strongly believe that it is not good to fornicate, but I did this some days ago. I’ve regretted what I’ve done. I want to start dating a woman whom I would like to marry, but the fact is that she is the sister of the girl with whom I had sex.…
Read MoreHow do I decide between two girls whom I like?
Question: Hi Mr. Hamilton, It’s always a pleasure writing to you. I’m currently in my late twenties. I had quite a number of heartbreaks, so I’d taken a break. I was just being friendly to the girls and in doing so I happened to like two of them. Surprisingly both of them happen to share…
Read MoreI’ve been avoiding dating, but there’s this girl I like who is of a different religion
Question: I have been attending a church of Christ since I was born, and I made the decision to be baptized when I was in my teenage years. I’m now in my early twenties and in grad school. My faith and my beliefs are a major part of my life. As such, I shied away…
Read MoreWisdom in Picking a Mate
Text: Genesis 2:18-24 I. The importance of selecting who you will marry A. Marriage is intended by God to be a lifetime commitment – Matthew 19:3-6 B. God hates divorce – Malachi 2:13-16 C. God law has marriage lasting the life of the parties involved – Romans 7:2-3 D. It is God’s intention that the time be spent happily…
Read MoreI plan to go to his church if we get married. Isn’t this enough?
Question: Hi! My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months now. The problem we are having is that according to his beliefs, he doesn’t practice ritual ceremonies and doesn’t believe in ancestor worship. On my side, I believe in these things, but that is not an issue for me because I know if…
Read MoreI broke up with my girlfriend because I dreamed she would be unfaithful to me after we marry
Question: There is a lady I loved. After some time, I told her about my feelings and she agree to marry me, after which I informed my pastor friend about her. He said I can marry her, but I should be careful about her friends as they may influence her to engage in extramarital affairs…
Read MoreShould I marry my atheist boyfriend?
Question: I was with this guy for over a year. We were friends and then started having sex and dating. He is an atheist. I am not. We broke up a month ago but still talk online a lot. We are still friends. He still claims he loves and still talks about wanting to be…
Read MoreI regret my sins, so why did my girlfriend dump me?
Question: Hello, I seem to have a very unique situation, as I cannot find anything like it other than on atheist websites and, well, that is advice I do not want. My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short amount of time (6 months) but due to my lease running up at my…
Read MoreDo I need to disclose my savings to my fiancee?
Question: Once again I come with a question that I hope you can assist me with. I’m on the verge of marriage, we have been going to counseling, and I wanted to know what advice you can give about the financial status of a married couple. I discussed with my fiancée about being open, and…
Read MoreMy boyfriend isn’t a strong Christian leader, so I don’t know if I should marry him
Question: Hello, I enjoy reading your posts. You bring glory to God and you really seek to help people who are astray by giving godly advice. You speak the truth, and it’s not yours but God’s. I am quite sure He is pleased with you and your work. I pray that He blesses you and…
Read MoreI love two girls, but I don’t know who I should marry
Question: Please help me. I am in my early twenties. I have been in a relationship for three years, but we did not have sex. Later when I moved away from the girl for my higher studies. I fell in love with another girl, who is not a Christian. I did not break up with…
Read MoreI thought I was her first boyfriend but found out she had been with two other guys
Question: I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past six months. I knew her for more than two years but never had her as my girlfriend. I love her very much, and I feel that she is the one. She also tells me that she loves me very much, more than I…
Read MoreI found out my girlfriend used to have a thing for one of her teachers
Question: I was searching the web earlier today trying to figure out if I should be mad about something or not. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We’ve had our ups and downs. A lot of them I would say. She had a thing when we first dated. There…
Read MoreMy girlfriend had sex with her former boyfriend and I don’t know what to do
Question: We are in a relationship for more than two years. She went back to her home during college vacation. While there she planned to go and meet her ex-boyfriend, who is also a school friend, to remember the old days. She went to his house to meet him, and they had sex together. Later…
Read MoreAm I being paranoid about a two-year-old text message?
Question: I have been with my fiance for nearly two years. I have always trusted him and thought the world of him. We are buying our first home together shortly and getting married later this year. I did something I have never done before yesterday: I went through his text messages. He never deletes his…
Read MoreMy girlfriend wants all of my attention focused on her
Question: Hello, I often have a hard time dealing with my girlfriend. She is 24 and I am 28. I chose her only because of her good character and good education — she is a medical doctor. Other than those reasons, both of us are Christians. I am not interested in other girls. My heart…
Read MoreHow do I overcome knowing my girlfriend had sex with other guys?
Question: There are some troubling things that I have questions about my girlfriend. I have known my girlfriend since senior high school. After she graduated she got into a relationship with a guy who was not attached to God. He pleased her flesh, but he also abused her at the end of the relationship. It…
Read MoreShould we marry without her parents’ blessing?
Question: Hi, I am facing a heartbreaking situation right now. I met my fiancee two years ago and I happily discovered we have the same vision: being totally consecrated to the Lord. She is a very good and spiritual person to me and we understand each other very well. When we met, we were in…
Read MoreMy girlfriend won’t get married in my church and I won’t get married in her church
Question: Hello, I have a question and need further advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and have been living together for 6 years. I have recently gotten saved. I was raised Catholic but have converted to Christianity. When I had found out about sexual immorality and it not being right…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but she is not a virgin
Question: Hi, I saw one of your answers to a guy who had trouble coming to terms with the fact that his girlfriend is not a virgin. The truth is I have the exact same problem only this time she is not my girlfriend yet, but I am a virgin. I met this girl four years…
Read MoreI am concerned about whether I should marry my fiancée
Question: Good day sir, I found this address online and I wish to seek your advice toward my growing life. I use to have a fiancee. We both planned to spend the rest of our life together but I kept feeling it was not working. Why? This is simply because it is my prayer to…
Read MoreMy father refuses to consent to my marriage because my girlfriend comes from the same clan, though we are only distantly related
Question: Hi, I just read a reply you made to someone about marrying without parental consent. I happen to be in a similar situation right now. I hail from a village in Nigeria where marriage within the same clan is considered taboo irrespective of how distant the relationship is. My fiancee and I are both from…
Read MoreIs the reason my life is going downhill because of my sexual sins with my girlfriend?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for some time now. We sought out advice from our pastor, who suggested we separate to refocus and rededicate our lives to Christ so that if and when reunited we would be better equipped to fight off temptation. We didn’t follow that advice. Instead, we fled.…
Read MoreI found out my girlfriend has been lying to me
Question: I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year, and for about the first 10 months she lied to me that she is a virgin. She always told me that those who lose their virginity before marriage are sinners. I started loving her for her thoughts. She is Christian and I…
Read MoreDoes it matter if the man you are dating is a virgin or not?
Question: Good day, sir, Please, I have always wondered if when an individual starts dating if whether the man is a virgin or not is something to look into. Should a female Christian virgin be worried if her partner isn’t a virgin? I know there’s a lot of emphasis on women staying virgins and not…
Read MoreI had sex with a coworker. I’m afraid my boyfriend will not forgive me. What can I do?
Question: I fornicated. I feel so horrible, especially the fact that it wasn’t with my Christian boyfriend. It was with someone at my job. I don’t know what to do. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I couldn’t control myself. Now I feel horrible because I haven’t told anyone what I’ve done,…
Read MoreIs my boyfriend the reason for my nightmares?
Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be…
Read MoreHow can I have a good marriage when my parents set such a bad example?
Question: I really need your insight into this situation. My parents have been married for over 25 years. However, it pains me to say that nearly 20 out of those 26 years my father has committed adultery continuously, whereas my mother has remained faithful. I must note that they are not Christians in the sense…
Read MoreShould I move on and let this man repair his family?
Question: Good day, sir! I’d like to thank you in advance for reading my letter. I’ve been quite troubled over my current situation and I hope you can offer me some advice. My guy and I have been together for some time now, and I’ve had hopes for an impending engagement. But as of late…
Read MoreHow do I deal with my mother who has shunned my non-Christian boyfriend?
Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He’s a good guy, but he is not a Christian. He is not an atheist and is still sitting on the fence about God. He wasn’t raised going to church and he’s quite open to going and learning when I started…
Read MoreThere is a girl I like, but I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship with her
Question: Good day, Thanks a lot for all the help you offer through this website. I met a girl in the area where I currently work. We live in the same building and we belong to the same group. We have been very close for the past six months and a lot of people even…
Read MoreI’ve become pregnant by a man I’ve been dating for two years, but he won’t leave his other girlfriend
Question: I am a young lady, aged 24 years. I have been dating a man for two years now. When we first met he told me he had a girlfriend and a child, and that he wasn’t happy where he was. We continued with our friendship up until it turned into a relationship. When our…
Read MoreShould I date a man who doesn’t believe baptism is essential to salvation?
Question: Hello, I am so grateful for your advice. Maybe you can help me with something that I have been trying to figure out. I have a friend I met in college last year and remained friends after I moved with my family about three hours away. We talked about God and life and what…
Read MoreShould my girlfriend share an apartment with an unmarried guy?
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a sticky situation and I would like some godly advice on this matter. We are currently in a long-distance relationship because of our education and live a few hours apart. She lives in an apartment with a roommate of hers. Her roommate can no longer afford to pay…
Read MoreShould I wait for this man to marry me?
Question: Hello, I read at your site the many questions and the answers you gave were based on the Bible which was beautiful to see. I wanted to tell you something. Over fifteen years ago, I made a choice not to have sex with a man until I get married. I met a man who…
Read MoreI can’t settle on who I want to marry
Question: Thank you so much for creating this platform, God bless you. I graduated from college a few years ago. I have tried to work in some organizations, but yet to be fulfilled. Presently, I am still looking for a good job to sustain my living. I am the firstborn of my family. I have…
Read MoreI love my girlfriend, but she won’t stop talking to her prior boyfriend who is also her cousin
Question: My girlfriend and I are in a strong relationship for about an year or so. I love her so much and she loves me. But there is a little problem that’s growing bigger in my mind and occupies a large part of my mind. The problem is she has been with a couple of…
Read MoreDid God send my boyfriend a sign that we should break up?
Question: Hi there, Recently at church, I met this man who right from the start was different from all the other guys I know. He had a deep passion for Christ and was so excited about getting to know him more. His excitement was contagious and I found that through hanging out with him and…
Read MoreI’ve sinned with a girl, but our parents won’t let us marry
Question: I was deeply in love with a girl. She is a Hindu and I’m a Christian. We were deeply in love and lost control of our love. We had intercourse and oral sex. We learned that our parents are not willing to let us marry and live happy lives. In anger, I sexually harassed…
Read MoreI don’t know what else to do. If my boyfriend doesn’t come back, I think I will kill myself
Question: I am 22 years and am a final year college student. I don’t know much about this site and when I googled I got this link. I am writing this email seeking help. First I am a Hindu, but I believe in Christ. I want something that convinces me and makes me believe that…
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