Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Did I act too fast when I broke up with my fiancée because she was seeing other men?
Question: I’m in my thirties and my fiancée is in her twenties. I’ve been in a relationship for three years with her, and we got engaged. She said I was the only one she was seeing, but within that period I forgave her twice for texting and dating other men. Yesterday, I found out that…
Read MoreI’m perplexed. We agreed not to have sex before marriage, but he keeps pushing
Question: Good evening, I first would like to say ‘thank you’ and God bless you for all the questions you have been answering. I have been on your websites and reading many of the answers, and all of them are answered using the Bible. Thank you for being truthful, blunt, and just outright saying what…
Read MoreHow do I nicely tell a guy that I’m not interested in him?
Question: I saw this website and saw people asking questions and I have one. There’s a brother in Christ, who seems like a good Christian guy. It seems like he has a relationship with God. This same guy has been telling me that he likes me. I told him I had no romantic feelings other…
Read MoreI’ve become distant once I found out the woman I am dating is not a virgin
Question: I have this lady I love so much, but since the day I heard she is not a virgin any longer, I became disconnected from her in my heart. I’m beginning to think that I too should have sex with someone, so we can be equal. This thought is devilish. I’m not someone who…
Read MoreCan I continue with the relationship without the sex?
Question: Good morning minister, Please, I am in need of your advice. I have been involved in premarital sex with my girlfriend. Although before all the sex stuff started, I didn’t build a friendship as part of the relationship. I guess I was carried away with the emotion of getting involved with the girl. Now…
Read MoreWhy is God giving me signs but not my former boyfriend?
Question: I have been with a man for six years whom I care deeply for, we split up by his choice. I have been distraught and praying to God to show me signs specific signs. I said, “God if I am supposed to be with him please let me win more than $1.00 on this…
Read MoreNow that I became a Christian, will he come back?
Question: I have a lot of questions. My former boyfriend lived in sin for four years. I was not saved yet, but he was. He called it off because he could no longer live in sin, and he has to get right in his heart and mind and with God. I am here 100% for…
Read MoreMy best friend thinks he should have sex because I sinned in my past
Question: Greetings for the day! My best friend is not a believer, but he wanted to marry me. He was good and had no wrong relationships, but he watches porn often. He thought I was good too. But when he came to know about my previous wrong relationship, he was broken. I have repented now,…
Read MoreI don’t think we can hold out for three years
Question: I met my girlfriend after a strong heartbreak from the previous relationship, and she helped me a lot to recover. I was a Catholic then, and I was not born again. When we met she was born again and she used to pray for me to see the truth, though I was not seeing…
Read MoreShould I marry a man who is not a virgin?
Question: Hi, Blessings to you! I’m having a difficult time accepting someone’s past. First I’ll start with that I’m a Christian, not a perfect one, but I do strive to be the godly woman God encourages me to be. As a Christian and follower of Christ, I should never shame someone over their past nor…
Read MoreI thought I loved a man, but I don’t. How do I break up?
Question: Sir, Unknowingly I fell in love with a guy who is divorced. He is more than ten years older than I am. He divorced his ex because she was an unbeliever. She wanted to separate from him. The guy is near my home. He has struggled a lot in his life. I was attracted…
Read MoreA Father’s Reply
by Dave Beckley Long ago, my husband wrote the following to one of our sons. To our many sons and daughters today, please read, for he longs the same for each of you. Joanne Beckley Dear son, Your letter was very revealing and open, a reflection of your honesty and confidence in us. We are…
Read MoreCan I not marry the woman my brother had sex with in the past?
Question: Bless you sir, I must confess you are doing a great job here. I have a pressing need and I’m disturbed. Is marring a lady your brother once had sex with in the past incest? There is a lady I’ve been dating for sometime now. My brother broke the ugly news that I can’t…
Read MoreI’m talking to a man who only wants to talk about disciplining children
Question: Hello Jeffrey, I hope you are fine. Please, I need your advice. I met a man online. He started initiating the conversation. He has a son and is very interested in children’s behaviors. We have been talking for several months, but he never talks about us — he only talks about children and how…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my future wife about my pornography addiction?
Question: Hi! I have been a porn addict since I was a teenager and I so far I have not managed to get rid of it. However, I admit that it is sin and am willing to deal with it when God wants to help me. Right now I have not managed to find a…
Read MoreMy boyfriend broke up with me because of a “deliverance ministry”
Question: My (ex)boyfriend, about a month ago, called an online live deliverance session. Basically what happened was that this pastor had delivered him from “sexual demons.” She also said that he should end our relationship because it was not from God. I also called in a couple of days after discovering his session because after…
Read MoreI want to marry my boyfriend, but he doesn’t until he can afford a nice wedding
Question: Hello, I have something major I need guidance with, and I’d like to warn you in advance that you may find my situation rather unique. I am 25, and I have two beautiful children. I came to Christ two years ago, but just this past year I prayed and asked Jesus into my life.…
Read MoreHow do I tell my boyfriend about my horrible past?
Question: I was raised in a broken family, so my mother took care of us though we were poor. I faced so many problems since I was young, like older relatives sleeping with me, but since I was young l didn’t realize how they were taking advantage of me. When I was in my twenties…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married
Question: Hey My boyfriend and I are in a relationship for almost five years. We had sex in the first year of the relationship but then decided to wait until we were married to have sex. We got baptized and went without sex for over two years then we had sex again. I told my…
Read MoreWhy did she leave me if God sent signs that we should be together?
Question: I have a girl who I have dated for a year. I have gone through a lot with her. She is a good person, always wanting the best for me. She made me stop drinking alcohol. When we quarrel it takes prayer for her to come back, and every time I ask God to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married and have a family, but I do
Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We are still young, in our early twenties, and have different goals in our life. We both live with his parents, in separate rooms of course, but I am ready to take the next step of commitment in our lives. I told…
Read MoreMy boyfriend wants to have another child, but I’m a Christian now
Question: I am a born-again Christian for just over five years. Since then I haven’t been involved in any sexual relationship, but before I became born again, I was involved with someone with whom I have a child. He moved to another country a few years ago. Now the thing is, he has been telling…
Read MoreWhat do you think about my moving in with my girlfriend and her parents if I was in a separate bedroom?
Question: Hi, I have a girlfriend who lives some distance from me. She goes to a non-denominational church and I go to a church of Christ. I’m going to try to convert her and hopefully her family too to a church of Christ. We live several hours apart, but we are super close to each…
Read MoreShould I stay with my boyfriend who has cheated on me?
Question: Hello sir, I’m a lady of 27 years, who has kept her moral standard until I met my boyfriend. During the course of this relationship, I have lost a lot of my virtues including virginity. I have been trying to retrace my steps, but it has been difficult. We both claim to share the…
Read MoreWhy can’t I marry my Catholic boyfriend?
Question: God bless you, Well, I have an issue in my life. My parents and I were introduced to Christianity a few years ago. My dad already had a background in it since his childhood, so he connected and loved it right away. My mom and I didn’t feel it right away. It was a…
Read MoreMy girlfriend, whom I thought I would be marrying, broke up with me
Question: I have reached out to you before. My girlfriend of two years and I recently broke up. We were involved in fornication. I am feeling so guilty and have asked God for forgiveness. I believe He has forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself. Will my choices have an impact on my future relationships…
Read MoreMy girlfriend is distancing herself from me, but she says nothing is wrong
Question: What does it mean when your fiancee suddenly seems to have lost interest in you? She no longer texts as often as she used to and whenever I ask her if anything is wrong she says no. I’ve told her it’s all right if she doesn’t love me anymore, tell me, but she insists…
Read MoreCan I ask God for help in finding a wife?
Question: Would it be proper to go to God in prayer and ask for help in leading you to the right person to marry? This of course would be someone you have not met, and you are well aware of God’s requirements for a godly and eligible person. Answer: “Now this is the confidence that…
Read MoreHow do I get my fiance to stop breaking up with me?
Question: My fiancé recently lost his mom. We are a blended family. We got into an argument at church and left. Our children got into an argument at church and when we came back inside from having a smoke, his daughter asked to talk to him privately. When he came back to the table he…
Read MoreWhat should a boy who is being forced to stay with a girl do?
Question: A boy and a girl were in a relationship. She got pregnant before marriage at an early age. They didn’t want the baby and she aborted the baby. With the passage of time, they started fighting and had no understanding. She lied that she was again pregnant. But the boy came to realize that…
Read MoreHow do we handle the mother of my fiancée’s former boyfriend?
Question: Hello, My fiancée and I are getting married soon. Recently, her grandfather has been going through trouble with cancer. It has brought up a few encouraging text messages. Here’s where my problem begins. One of the encouraging texts comes repetitively from the same person. That person is the mother of her ex-boyfriend. Although there…
Read MoreMy girlfriend left me twice and is now pregnant by the other man. How do I get past her past?
Question: I met this lady, several years ago. I loved her so much. I told her and we became friends. Later she dropped me and went with another person she loved, though she didn’t tell me. I still loved her so much that we got back together and this same incident happened again. She did…
Read MoreShould I wait until my boyfriend becomes a better Christian?
Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. He waited six months before we had sex. It was my decision, and I regret it to this day. I wish I knew back then what I know now. I’m afraid if I stop having sex with my boyfriend, he’ll leave me, and I’ve…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has difficulty with my past. Should we get counseling?
Question: I am 34 years old. I grew up in a Christian home and have always tried to follow the right path. I have failed God on many occasions and feel as if I have been forgiven for those wrongs. I was married right after high school and had a child a year later. After…
Read MoreWhat do you think about my moving to another country with my boyfriend?
Question: My boyfriend is thinking about moving abroad a few years from now. He wants me to come with him. I would have to find a job and start a new life because I don’t know anybody there. I would also want to live in separate apartments until we get married. He wants us to…
Read MoreI’ve made mistakes in the past. How do I know if this is the man I should date?
Question: I’m looking for guidance, please. This past year I found my faith after six long years as an atheist. I’ve made a lot of changes in myself through the power of God since then. I met a man during the summer who turned out to be a wolf in sheep’s clothing, he used the…
Read MoreHow do you pick a good boyfriend?
Question: God bless you, I am a born-again Christian lady who has been actively involved in the work of God. I’m 21 years of age. I fell in love with a guy who claimed to be a Christian. Actually, the first day we met he was recovering from a hangover. I thought I could help…
Read MoreI’m not certain I’m worthy of the girl I want to marry
Question: Hi, I am a Hindu by religion. I am 21 years old and a college student. However, I believe in the Lord Jesus. I have been praying to him every day for the last seven or eight years. My family doesn’t know about my faith in him. My problem is that I have committed…
Read MoreI’m depressed that my girlfriend isn’t a virgin
Question: Hello, I am 21. I am not very sensitive. I can easily overcome any bad time, but these days something very bad happened to me — actually, I don’t know if it is bad, or if I’m making it worse. Starting with me: I like girls and I always wanted to have a female…
Read MoreMy ex-boyfriend married someone else but wants to come back to me. What should I do?
Question: I have never been married, but I do have children. (I know — not good.) My child’s father and I broke up and a few weeks later he married the girl with whom he had cheated on me. After nearly a year of no communication, he reached out to me. We discovered that we…
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