I don’t think we can hold out for three years
Question:
I met my girlfriend after a strong heartbreak from the previous relationship, and she helped me a lot to recover. I was a Catholic then, and I was not born again. When we met she was born again and she used to pray for me to see the truth, though I was not seeing any sweet thing in salvation. Then something funny happened. I began to be sexually attracted to her. I ended up convincing her to have sex with me. I loved her very much then, though we were still having sex almost every time we meet. Later on, I got salvation. But my problem is that I had introduced her to sexual sin and she has got into it so much that she seems she can't do without it. We continue having it even in our salvation. What do I do?
Look, I go to church and stuff. I've heard you can't have sex. and I know that, but I can't stop having sex with my girlfriend. We have both tried really hard because we want to serve the Lord, but it's really hard. We even went to the extremes of having sex in private places like the kitchen, office, etc. when we committed not to have sex anymore. What can we do?
She is still young and in her first year in college. I am in the last semester of my final year. Can we really make it for the next three years and marry? Because we love each other so much.
Answer:
First off, to claim you are saved while sinning is a misnomer. "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God" (I Corinthians 6:9-10). While I know you understand this, it seems you don't appreciate the grave consequence of remaining in sin. Consider this: life is not guaranteed. You may not survive three years while waiting to marry. What would you say to the Lord if you appeared before him in Judgment with this sin unresolved?
Second, the answer is easy, though it probably means you'll have to put in some extra work financially. "But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (I Corinthians 7:8-9). There is no reason that you two can't get married this week. The only ones stopping this are yourselves by demanding restrictions that God never placed on your lives. Sure, you will probably have to get a civil marriage at the courthouse. True, it will change your status which will affect your finances. You might even have to get a job while finishing your schooling to make everything work. But as difficult as it may be, you won't be sinning!
