Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Should I have said something when I saw my sister and her boyfriend laying on her bed?
Question: My sister was in her room with her boyfriend, laying on her bed. I accidentally saw them when I let the dog into the room. I think I made a mistake by closing the door again. Should I say something, or is this okay? I feel like even though nothing might happen, it could…
Read MoreThank you for reaching out to guide me when I needed it
Question: Dear sir, It’s me again. I know you won’t remember me, as you probably get hundreds of emails from all over the world. But I still remember you. Around three years back, I reached out to you for help regarding my relationship with an unbeliever. They say love is blind. But sometimes love chooses…
Read MoreNeither of us has been good, but now that my girlfriend is trying to improve her faith, she is pulling away from me
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for six months. We have a past as well. We are both believers in the Lord and have been for a while. We both have children from past relationships, prior to becoming believers. We are currently struggling with our relationship, in part because we both have backsliding…
Read MoreI caught my fiance lying and now I can’t trust him
Question: Hi and good day, My fiancé and I have both been Christians for some years now; however, I strongly believe that he has a problem with lying. He lies and makes others look bad, and he looks like the victim. Accidentally, I found out the truth about a matter, and only when I confronted…
Read MoreI learned a lot from your post about avoiding sex before marriage
Question: Hello, I have read the post on avoiding sex before marriage. I have learned a lot. I hope that I will be able to stick to what the word says and that my relationship won’t fail because we are trying to stay pure. Thank you for the advice. Answer: You’re welcome.
Read MoreHow far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?
Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…
Read MoreDo you need a sign from God before you are able to date or marry someone?
Question: Hello, I am seeking godly advice on dating, but primarily on marriage. Advice about dating; and Do you need a sign from God to be able to marry, or can you choose your spouse yourself based upon biblical guidelines alone? To a 20-year-old guy who has never been in a relationship and never asked…
Read MoreReflections on Singleness
by Jonathan T. Engel Photo by Nick Adams on Unsplash Thanks to various factors, over the past few months I have, in some respects, felt more hopeful than ever about my prospects for marriage. A huge part of this is that I finally started convincing myself of what others have told me, namely, that it’s…
Read MoreI can’t figure out if God wants me to leave my boyfriend for another man
Question: Hello, I am struggling with knowing what God’s will is for my life. I read the Bible, attend daily masses a few times a week, and pray frequently asking God to clearly show me His will for my life. I have a severe anxiety disorder called agoraphobia (fear of crowded places) and have allowed…
Read MoreWe are going too far sexually and can’t figure out how to stop
Question: I am 18 and I want to stop all this fooling around that my girlfriend and I keep getting sucked back into. Basically, we say, “okay, this can’t happen again so what are we going to do to keep ourselves from it?” Then we come up with things but next thing you know, the…
Read MoreMy girlfriend lies about her past all the time
Question: Good evening sir, I am in a relationship with a girl whom I love. The only problem I have with her is that she lived a sinful sexual life in the past, and it makes her continually lie to me. Most of the time she tells me that she regrets her past and has…
Read MoreMy boyfriend is pushing to have sex
Question: Good day, Please, I have something bothering me about my relationship. I have been dating my spouse for a year and a half now, but he has been asking for sex recently, and I don’t wish to engage in such activities. For now, we can’t afford money for our wedding. My question is: can…
Read MoreMy bad past is affecting my current relationship
Question: Hello there, I have something on my heart and I saw your site and decided to reach out. I was raised Catholic and in high school was allowed to choose what religion I would be and went from Catholicism to non-denominational Christian. My reasons were that I believe God loves all of his people,…
Read MoreMy girlfriend just told me she had sex with her ex-boyfriend. What do I do?
Question: I am 20, and I am dating a girl since I went to college. She is also 20 now. Two days ago she confessed to me that she lost her virginity over five years ago with her ex-boyfriend. She had sex many times with him but said that she never did it for fun.…
Read MoreCan you explain “the way of a man with a maid”?
Question: Hi Jeff, Can you explain Proverbs 30:19, especially the statement: “the way of a man with a maid.” Answer: “There are three things which are too wonderful for me, yes, four which I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the air, the way of a serpent on a rock, the way of…
Read MoreI don’t trust my boyfriend anymore
Question: I started dating a guy, who I believed had a strong passion for Christ and teaching others about him. We’ve been dating for less than a year, but I have come to realize how lustful he is, and how much he thought about sex and mutual masturbation. A few days into dating he began…
Read MoreCan God tell you not to marry the person whom you are dating without a reason?
Question: Can God tell you not to marry the person whom you are dating without a reason? Answer: Underlying this question is an assumption that God directly communicates with people today. But that very assumption contradicts what God said He is doing. See: God is Speaking to You and Does God Speak Directly to Mankind Today? God has…
Read MoreDo I wait for my boyfriend to marry me?
Question: I am in my thirties. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 15 years now. We have a child who is 8 years old now. My boyfriend left for another country when I was four months pregnant. I went through my pregnancy and had our child in his absence. My child…
Read MoreI know fornication is wrong, but I don’t want to see my boyfriend in hell
Question: Hello, I have a question that has really been weighing on my conscience and my heart. This may be very long and I apologize, but here it goes. I have been dating my boyfriend for four years now. We are both currently in college. We most definitely have the intention of getting married. Unfortunately,…
Read MoreDid I act too fast when I broke up with my fiancée because she was seeing other men?
Question: I’m in my thirties and my fiancée is in her twenties. I’ve been in a relationship for three years with her, and we got engaged. She said I was the only one she was seeing, but within that period I forgave her twice for texting and dating other men. Yesterday, I found out that…
Read MoreI’m perplexed. We agreed not to have sex before marriage, but he keeps pushing
Question: Good evening, I first would like to say ‘thank you’ and God bless you for all the questions you have been answering. I have been on your websites and reading many of the answers, and all of them are answered using the Bible. Thank you for being truthful, blunt, and just outright saying what…
Read MoreHow do I nicely tell a guy that I’m not interested in him?
Question: I saw this website and saw people asking questions and I have one. There’s a brother in Christ, who seems like a good Christian guy. It seems like he has a relationship with God. This same guy has been telling me that he likes me. I told him I had no romantic feelings other…
Read MoreI’ve become distant once I found out the woman I am dating is not a virgin
Question: I have this lady I love so much, but since the day I heard she is not a virgin any longer, I became disconnected from her in my heart. I’m beginning to think that I too should have sex with someone, so we can be equal. This thought is devilish. I’m not someone who…
Read MoreCan I continue with the relationship without the sex?
Question: Good morning minister, Please, I am in need of your advice. I have been involved in premarital sex with my girlfriend. Although before all the sex stuff started, I didn’t build a friendship as part of the relationship. I guess I was carried away with the emotion of getting involved with the girl. Now…
Read MoreWhy is God giving me signs but not my former boyfriend?
Question: I have been with a man for six years whom I care deeply for, we split up by his choice. I have been distraught and praying to God to show me signs specific signs. I said, “God if I am supposed to be with him please let me win more than $1.00 on this…
Read MoreNow that I became a Christian, will he come back?
Question: I have a lot of questions. My former boyfriend lived in sin for four years. I was not saved yet, but he was. He called it off because he could no longer live in sin, and he has to get right in his heart and mind and with God. I am here 100% for…
Read MoreMy best friend thinks he should have sex because I sinned in my past
Question: Greetings for the day! My best friend is not a believer, but he wanted to marry me. He was good and had no wrong relationships, but he watches porn often. He thought I was good too. But when he came to know about my previous wrong relationship, he was broken. I have repented now,…
Read MoreI don’t think we can hold out for three years
Question: I met my girlfriend after a strong heartbreak from the previous relationship, and she helped me a lot to recover. I was a Catholic then, and I was not born again. When we met she was born again and she used to pray for me to see the truth, though I was not seeing…
Read MoreShould I marry a man who is not a virgin?
Question: Hi, Blessings to you! I’m having a difficult time accepting someone’s past. First I’ll start with that I’m a Christian, not a perfect one, but I do strive to be the godly woman God encourages me to be. As a Christian and follower of Christ, I should never shame someone over their past nor…
Read MoreI thought I loved a man, but I don’t. How do I break up?
Question: Sir, Unknowingly I fell in love with a guy who is divorced. He is more than ten years older than I am. He divorced his ex because she was an unbeliever. She wanted to separate from him. The guy is near my home. He has struggled a lot in his life. I was attracted…
Read MoreA Father’s Reply
by Dave Beckley Long ago, my husband wrote the following to one of our sons. To our many sons and daughters today, please read, for he longs the same for each of you. Joanne Beckley Dear son, Your letter was very revealing and open, a reflection of your honesty and confidence in us. We are…
Read MoreCan I not marry the woman my brother had sex with in the past?
Question: Bless you sir, I must confess you are doing a great job here. I have a pressing need and I’m disturbed. Is marring a lady your brother once had sex with in the past incest? There is a lady I’ve been dating for sometime now. My brother broke the ugly news that I can’t…
Read MoreI’m talking to a man who only wants to talk about disciplining children
Question: Hello Jeffrey, I hope you are fine. Please, I need your advice. I met a man online. He started initiating the conversation. He has a son and is very interested in children’s behaviors. We have been talking for several months, but he never talks about us — he only talks about children and how…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my future wife about my pornography addiction?
Question: Hi! I have been a porn addict since I was a teenager and I so far I have not managed to get rid of it. However, I admit that it is sin and am willing to deal with it when God wants to help me. Right now I have not managed to find a…
Read MoreMy boyfriend broke up with me because of a “deliverance ministry”
Question: My (ex)boyfriend, about a month ago, called an online live deliverance session. Basically what happened was that this pastor had delivered him from “sexual demons.” She also said that he should end our relationship because it was not from God. I also called in a couple of days after discovering his session because after…
Read MoreI want to marry my boyfriend, but he doesn’t until he can afford a nice wedding
Question: Hello, I have something major I need guidance with, and I’d like to warn you in advance that you may find my situation rather unique. I am 25, and I have two beautiful children. I came to Christ two years ago, but just this past year I prayed and asked Jesus into my life.…
Read MoreHow do I tell my boyfriend about my horrible past?
Question: I was raised in a broken family, so my mother took care of us though we were poor. I faced so many problems since I was young, like older relatives sleeping with me, but since I was young l didn’t realize how they were taking advantage of me. When I was in my twenties…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married
Question: Hey My boyfriend and I are in a relationship for almost five years. We had sex in the first year of the relationship but then decided to wait until we were married to have sex. We got baptized and went without sex for over two years then we had sex again. I told my…
Read MoreWhy did she leave me if God sent signs that we should be together?
Question: I have a girl who I have dated for a year. I have gone through a lot with her. She is a good person, always wanting the best for me. She made me stop drinking alcohol. When we quarrel it takes prayer for her to come back, and every time I ask God to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t want to get married and have a family, but I do
Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We are still young, in our early twenties, and have different goals in our life. We both live with his parents, in separate rooms of course, but I am ready to take the next step of commitment in our lives. I told…
Read More