Posts Tagged ‘adultery’
I got myself into a mess and I’m not sure how to handle it
Question: I’ve been married for less than ten years. She left me a few years ago for the guy that took her virginity. I never divorced her, hoping she would come back. I honestly didn’t know where she was or if she was alive or anything. She called my mom over a year later to…
Read MoreHas God forgiven my friend who is living with a married man?
Question: Hello, I have a close relative who is in an illegal relationship. He was married, but he knew that the marriage was already broken. He was trying to fix the situation when he realized there was no more love in his heart for his wife. He then reunited with a long-time friend via social…
Read MoreI’ve been angry about my ex-boyfriend entering into an adulterous marriage
Question: Hello, My old boyfriend got into an affair with a married woman (with children). They have been pronouncing their love for each other for several years now, and they just got married this last weekend. During this time, I have been dealing with such deep anger toward the people who condone this. His family,…
Read MoreIs a single person who commits adultery prevented from getting married?
Question: There is much discussion and teaching within the church about divorce, adultery, and remarriage, but something I’ve never heard discussed is what about the person who commits adultery, but who wasn’t married? The Bible is clear that a spouse who commits adultery with someone else is not eligible to remarry another if that married…
Read MoreWhat is the penance for adultery?
Question: Hello, I would like to know what is the penance for adultery. If forgiveness is possible, does the “forgive and you shall be forgiven” apply? Answer: The idea that there are acts of penance done for sins is not taught in the Bible. It is merely a Roman Catholic tradition. See: Do we have to…
Read MoreCould God have sent a married man to be my husband?
Question: Could a man who is married be the husband God sent to me? The reason why I ask this question is that I have never felt this way about anyone, especially someone who is married. The shocking thing is that he feels the same way that I feel, and we both are trying to…
Read MoreWhere should I go from here? I’m an alcoholic, my wife has left me, and I doubt my baptism
Question: To start off, I was baptized at the church of Christ I attended. Before that time I was getting really bad into drugs, and my drinking was off the charts. I don’t remember what I knew of Christ, just that I needed to be baptized to enter Heaven. I managed to give up drugs…
Read MoreDo I need to walk away from this relationship?
Question: Good afternoon, I feel like I have backed myself into a corner and am not sure what I should do. About 15 years ago, I got involved with a married woman. As a result, she left her husband, and we have been living together (not married) ever since. A few years ago, she and…
Read MoreIf we can’t get married, we will commit suicide
Question: My age is 25 years old. I love a woman. She has two boys. We both are ready to get married, but she has not been separated from her husband. She is drinking alcohol every day and at home. Even when she had a baby in her womb, her family had killed them. I…
Read MoreWhen I confessed my adultery, I lost my marriage
Question: This isn’t a question. It is in answer to something you wrote to someone about adultery. Sadly, I went to a mature Christian and was told to confess. I have wrecked a 25+ year marriage and my kids are devastated. Answer: I’m sorry to hear this. Sadly, I can’t undo the damage already done.
Read MoreI told my wife I forgave her for her cheating, but I really haven’t
Question: Hello Minister, I write this with the hope that you’ll be able to help me to unshackle this chain that I’ve been hauling for many years. I’m a very angry man, and I find it difficult to forgive and let it go. I used to be a very kind and loving person, which I’ll…
Read MoreWhat do I do? A friend propositioned me
Question: One of my friends, who is also a male, has sexual desires for me. He says that he loves me a lot and this is something that will complete the cycle of love for him. He also says that he is not gay. He has never had sex with any other male, but he…
Read MoreWhat should be done about a woman who repeatedly has children by different men?
Question: Here is the situation: 4 years ago a member of our church got pregnant by her boyfriend and had a baby. She came forward and repented of her sins. 3 years ago the same member got pregnant by a different boyfriend and had a baby. She again came forward and repented of her sins.…
Read MoreIf a person is divorced for fornication, does that mean he cannot reconcile with his former spouse?
Question: Hi Jeff, I talked about the subject of divorce and remarriage with a preacher. I listened to what he said carefully but couldn’t prove him wrong. I don’t want to let my biases get in the way, but we’re not in agreement. I told him I won’t preach on the subject in the pulpit…
Read MoreAre we married when he never divorced his wife?
Question: Hi, I have a question. My boyfriend and I were in love, we loved God and wanted to be married, but he was married before. He married this woman, she cheated on him, he wanted a divorce but could not find her. They had been separated for seven years, so we sat in our…
Read MoreMy husband committed adultery repeatedly, then I too fell into sin and was beaten for it. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I have been in a relationship with my now-husband for over five years. About a year into the relationship, we moved in together. A few months later he proposed and sent his family to my family to ask for my hand in marriage as according to our culture. I accepted but nothing has…
Read MoreI moved in because I thought we would get married soon
Question: I moved in with my boyfriend and his grandma. Before I moved in we had talked about marriage, so I assumed that we would marry shortly after I moved in. After a few months my boyfriend said to me, “You know, we are like husband and wife, even though we aren’t legally married.” He…
Read MoreIf a man marries someone who lies about her right to marry, is he an adulterer for the rest of his life?
Question: Dear Jeff, I would so greatly appreciate hearing from you. I have read the material on your website regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. But I have a special situation I feel unable to sort through regarding a very dear brother in Christ. He was deceived by his first wife. She lied about why she…
Read MoreWith all the sexual sins in the world, there must be a lot of people in hell
Question: Hello, I think there are many people who are sinners nowadays, since more and more people do not marry or are no longer virgins before marriage, and many people have sex with several people in their life. There are also more and more children born out of wedlock. Does this mean there are already…
Read MoreWhat do you suggest I do?
Question: Hi, I badly need someone to talk to and someone to give me advice as I am really in extreme emotional pain. I’m several months pregnant. My boyfriend is separated and has children from his ex-wife. I have accepted that for he is getting his divorce this year after his ongoing trial. We were…
Read MoreWill God help us if we continue our adultery?
Question: I have been in a hard marriage for 14 years. I moved back to my home state and started college again. Within a month I was reunited by chance with a man I knew many years ago. He is also married. We have been sleeping together for six months now, and talk every day.…
Read MoreI moved out after my wife committed adultery a second time, but I don’t know what to do next
Question: Dear Sir, Here is my problem: I have been married for almost twenty years and dated for five years prior to getting married. We were both virgins when we got married, but we did do things that were not right, such as petting and mutual masturbation at times. I have separated from my wife…
Read MoreTo get money, I lied to a man that I’m pregnant with his child
Question: I searched about God and found this site. I am depressed and wondering what I should do. I just need prayers. I just finished college and because I haven’t gotten a job, I met this man who is 60 years old. He started providing for me. He is married to two wives, and he…
Read MoreShould I marry the father of my children?
Question: Hello, I am the mother of three children. Their father left us to go and look for green pastures (I mean daily bread) in another country. He promised to come back and we would marry since we lived in sin for a long time. Due to poverty, we couldn’t afford the marriage ceremony and…
Read MoreMy ex-boyfriend married someone else but wants to come back to me. What should I do?
Question: I have never been married, but I do have children. (I know — not good.) My child’s father and I broke up and a few weeks later he married the girl with whom he had cheated on me. After nearly a year of no communication, he reached out to me. We discovered that we…
Read MoreCan I be forgiven of purposeful adultery?
Question: Hi, I am in need of answers and guidance. I much appreciate it. I was in a relationship for five years and had a child. We were married. My former husband cheated and I forgave him but things didn’t work out. I cannot pay for a divorce and he refused to help me with…
Read MoreWhat do I do about my past affair?
Question: I have been married for almost 30 years. I got married in my early twenties to my high school sweetheart for all the wrong reasons. I have really never been happy in this marriage. I have grown children. I had an affair with a man for ten years. We both were Catholics and this…
Read MoreShould I go to the wedding of a brother who is committing adultery?
Question: Hello friend! I need help answering a question: One of the college students at my church asked me this and I’m stumped, so I figured a brother in Christ could help me. Here’s what she asked: “My brother is getting married through the court, but he has already been married through the church and…
Read MoreI found out that the man I married was already married two years prior
Question: After my marriage to a boy, I came to know that he is already married to a girl two years before my marriage. In my country, marriage is a big deal in a girl’s life. I haven’t made any decisions regarding what I’ll do as I am already married to him. Please give me…
Read MoreMy relationship with God has always been a roller coaster
Question: Hello and thank you for reading, I am a 25-year-old man. I was born in a Christian family, my father being a pastor. My relationship with God has always been a roller coaster. There have been times when my faith has been strong and my will was aligned with God’s. I would even speak…
Read MoreI found out months ago that my husband is having an affair, but I can’t bring myself to forgive him
Question: Hello, Almost two years ago I found out that my husband was having inappropriate conversations with women. I prayed for God to reveal to me what I needed to know. That’s when I spoke to one of the women that my husband was having an affair with last year. He insisted the affair stopped…
Read MoreWhat if someone didn’t realize they were divorced because of their spouse’s adultery?
Question: Many years ago a couple got married and after a short time the husband had a “secret affair” and for obvious reasons did not tell her about it. He just said their marriage was a mistake and he didn’t love her and divorced her. Some years later Betty married another man, Tom, and they…
Read MoreMy mother promised to divorce my drug-using, adulterous dad, but now she’s changed her mind
Question: Hi, I’m a 15-year-old member of the church. My father has gone into drugs and adulterous relationships. My mother promised me that she would get a divorce and that she thought it was best. I have prayed and studied about this matter for literally weeks. My father has now tried to return to our…
Read MoreCan a Christian who fell into sexual sin return to God?
Question: I want to tell you about my friend. He is facing some confusion regarding his Christian life. He had committed adultery after baptism having had sexual relations with a lady older than him. He was baptized at the age of 16, but according to him the real evil thoughts and evil work in his…
Read MoreMy daughter is engaged to a man that I found out is still married. What do I do?
Question: This is a complicated situation. The information I have comes from the young man. This young man got a young girl pregnant. They were together off and on for a couple of years. They applied for a marriage license but did not follow through. They applied the second time about three months later and…
Read MoreI haven’t been faithful in my marriage, but I can’t stop thinking about what my wife did before our marriage
Question: My wife cheated on me in the first month of our relationship while we were dating. She confessed to me immediately. I know she was really sorry, though I myself was sleeping around at the time too. I have strong images of her confessions in my mind even after four years after the incident.…
Read MoreI lied to my wife about my adultery. Do I have to tell her?
Question: Hi, I am writing this email to ask a serious question about my life. I’m a Christian. I have been married for three years. But I had a problem with sex “addiction” (I’m not that sure if it’s or not). I am highly drawn to girls since I was young just to have sex…
Read MoreCan I remarry if I encouraged my wife to see other men before I became a Christian?
Question: Before I was a believer I had encouraged my wife to have sex with another man in the twisted idea that it would bring a spark back into our poor sex life. In essence, I was encouraging her to become a “swinger”. Well, she eventually did just that but also fell in love with…
Read MoreI need help getting out of adultery and addiction
Question: Good evening sir, I need help with sin. I know Jesus is the only help, I gave my life to Christ initially two years ago. I’ve rededicated my life a number of times since then. God started blessing me, I basically have come from zero to something. God gave me a virtuous wife, a…
Read MoreAm I still an adulterer?
Question: I am writing to you because I’m trying to find what held me back from God’s blessings and promises. I was born in a Christian family, and ever since I was a Christian with strict standards. My parents taught me well. I never had a girlfriend until 18. Then I met her. We developed…
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