What do I do? A friend propositioned me


One of my friends, who is also a male, has sexual desires for me. He says that he loves me a lot and this is something that will complete the cycle of love for him. He also says that he is not gay. He has never had sex with any other male, but he strongly wants to have sex with me.

How can I help him? I am a married man with a baby and he is a bachelor. Please help me with this, so that I can help him.


"Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted" (Galatians 6:1).

It is easy to get distracted by one sin that may appall us so that we don't clearly see the issues involved. Let's retell your story without the distraction of homosexuality. What would you do if a woman told you that she loves you and that having sex with you would complete the cycle of love for her? She also says that she is not an adulteress, but she strongly wants to have sex with you.

Hopefully, you would have no problem telling this woman, "No!" and realize that dealing with a woman who is trying to have sex with you would be dangerous. You should also realize that her claim that she is not an adulteress is in conflict with her expressed desire to have sex with a married man. In addition, while people who are in love and are married have sex, sex is not love. Therefore, the claim of love is not a reason to have sex. Your parents and siblings love you, but sex never enters into the relationships.

This makes your friend's arguments clear. His desire to have sex with you violates any respect for marriage covenants. He wants to involve you in homosexuality. He claims it is because of love, but love "does not rejoice in unrighteousness" (I Corinthians 13:6). A person in love wants his loved one saved, not condemned in sin. A claim that he has not been involved in sin before does not make sin acceptable.

The way to deal with the situation is to tell your friend that he is proposing that you break your marriage covenant and commit an act of homosexuality with him because of his own selfish desires. Be firm and plain that such a request means that your friendship must end. God and your marriage must come before any friendship.

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