Posts Tagged ‘sensuality’
How do I move forward from a breakup?
Question: Good evening, I’m relatively new to this website, but I have found it particularly helpful for hearing Q&A’s specifically related to Christian life. I’m a freshman college student who dated a girl for around 4-5 months when college started. It has been almost three months since she broke up. I’ve been slowly getting better,…
Read MoreThe Root Cause of Sexual Sins
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I’ve become fascinated by the lists presented in the Bible when I came to realize that many of them are more than a collection of related items. Permit me to illustrate this with a list that Paul gave in Colossians 3. “Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead…
Read MoreDiscussion on Pre-Marital Sex
by Osamagbe Lesley Egharevba and Jeff Hamilton
Read MoreHow do you repent of childhood sins?
Question: My brother and I do not get along. When we were kids we experimented with sexual sins. It was years ago. My mother mentioned that maybe, because of the things that I confessed had happened between my brother and me, we opened some demonic portal and need to repent. How does one repent from…
Read MoreShould I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?
Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…
Read MoreI keep getting involved in lewd behavior that I know is wrong
Question: I need spiritual help, sir. I thank God for your life and ministry. Please, sir, I pray the Lord will use you to restore me to Himself permanently. Sir, I became born again several years ago. I have been growing through discipleship but for about two years my life has been fluctuating. The instrument…
Read MoreWhat is sensuality?
Question: Hello, I’m trying to find all the information I can on sensuality, but am coming up short on it, I get that it’s the gratification of the flesh’s desires but how does one repent of that, I’m not in any sexual immorality, I don’t eat too much, what else could I be missing? Answer:…
Read MoreWhat is the fate of a man who was involved with a sexually immoral woman?
Question: Is it good to be in a relationship that one knows will not end up in marriage? What must a lady, who made love with many men, do to be clean? What is the sin that God will never forgive? If a man, who is clean, is in a romantic relationship that results in…
Read MoreHow far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?
Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…
Read MoreWe are going too far sexually and can’t figure out how to stop
Question: I am 18 and I want to stop all this fooling around that my girlfriend and I keep getting sucked back into. Basically, we say, “okay, this can’t happen again so what are we going to do to keep ourselves from it?” Then we come up with things but next thing you know, the…
Read MoreOnly an Appearance of Religion
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/OnlyAnAppearanceOfReligion.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Amos 4:1-5 I. When you look at the religious world, there are many odd ideas about what constitutes a religious person. II. Exhibitionism as Religion A. Some people judge how religious a man is by the religious things that he does in public 1. Matthew 6:1-6 – Some people make sure everyone notices…
Read MoreI regret my sins, so why did my girlfriend dump me?
Question: Hello, I seem to have a very unique situation, as I cannot find anything like it other than on atheist websites and, well, that is advice I do not want. My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short amount of time (6 months) but due to my lease running up at my…
Read MoreIs my boyfriend the reason for my nightmares?
Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be…
Read MoreMy boyfriend doesn’t believe in complete abstinence, so we have come close to having sex too many times. What do I do?
Question: Hey, I really needed to pour out my mind to someone else, and I saw people with similar problems emailing you on the Internet. I really need help. I’m at a point in my life where I long to serve God more. I want to truly be His daughter this new year. I’m 20…
Read MoreI kept my boyfriend from penetrating me, but now he won’t talk to me
Question: Hi, I am 27 years old. I’ve kept myself a virgin all these years. I recently met my long-time chase. I told him I was already in a relationship three years ago (that relationship did not work out), so we started talking again and visiting each other. The first time I visited he tried…
Read MoreI feel so bad because I let a man touch me. Will God forgive me?
Question: I have a really difficult moment. I really need your help. I am 24 years old and I’m a Christian. I only had one boyfriend and with him, I had nothing more than a kiss, like a peck, and some holding hands and hugs. I was 16 years old at the time. After that,…
Read MoreI want to marry a godly man, but I seem far from it
Question: Hello and praise the Lord! I normally don’t do this but I am in need of help. First I am a born-again believer and have been living for God for over a decade. My issue is this: I gave my life to Christ early twenties and from that point on I vowed to save…
Read MoreWill God forgive me if I continue to mess up with my girlfriend?
Question: Sir, I am so conflicted that I do not know what to do. I’m a Christian and have been doing things to be able to come back to God because I had fallen away a bit. I have two things that have been bothering me for a long time. I am with a girl…
Read MoreWe’ve done pretty much everything but actual sex. How do we stop?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both Christians. We have been dating for about a year and a half now. For a while now we have been committing sexual sin. We have had oral sex and pretty much everything except for actual sex. It tears us both up. We both agree that we need to…
Read MoreI thought I was meeting a Christian, but he touched me inappropriately
Question: I feel so terrible about this. I have strictly been focusing on Christ for over a year now. I promised myself to wait on God until I can say “yes” to the man whom God has for me. I started talking to this guy who presented himself as a God-fearing man. He had devotion…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been pushing for things to go further, I resisted for a while, but recently I caved
Question: Hi, I want to ask for advice and for you to share the word of God with me. I am a sinner and I am repented of my rebellious ways. I have committed fornication with my first and current boyfriend. I have been a Christian for two years and was a Catholic since my…
Read MoreShould I break up with my boyfriend now, or wait until next spring?
Question: Hi, I read one of your articles on your site, and I wanted to ask a similar question concerning my non-believing boyfriend. I never had intentions of going out with a non-believer, and I’m not sure of how things turned out this way. I never intended this to happen, but somehow it happened. He’s…
Read MoreI engaged in immoral behavior with a woman. Does this mean I cannot marry?
Question: I’m a member of the church, but lately, I’ve made a poor, sinful choice by going somewhere I was tempted. I went to a massage parlor for the sole purpose of helping my body. Later during the massage, I engaged in some immoral foreplay activities with the woman there. I’ve been reflecting on my…
Read MoreIf I put my fingers in her private area, is that fornication?
Question: Hey, God bless. I have a question: My girl and I converted several weeks ago. Ever since then, we haven’t had sexual intercourse, but last night we started kissing and it go to a point where I had my hand on her private part. I sort of rubbed her for like 30 seconds and…
Read MoreHow do we avoid the temptation to have sex?
Question: I am 23 years of age and a college student. I have been in a relationship for over a year now. My motive for being in the relationship is to be with my partner now and stay with her until God blesses us to marry. My problem is how do I handle my sexual…
Read MoreAfter finding out a man acted lewdly toward me, my boyfriend wants to leave me. What do I do?
Question: Does it count as fornication if a man coerces you into touching his penis? I’ve recently repented of my sins and confessed to the appropriate people. But I wanted to know because when my boyfriend and I first got an apartment together, we had to have roommates — another couple I didn’t know very…
Read MoreDo fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage?
Question: Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage? My girlfriend and I have grown up in Christian families, but we haven’t followed our parents’ teachings, and we ended up in sinful relationships. I had a long-term relationship with a girl and we have had sex. My current girlfriend had a few…
Read MoreSure, we did some things wrong, but my boyfriend broke up with me for no valid reason
Question: Hi, I’m 22. I’ve been having a hard time because my boyfriend broke up with me for apparently no valid reason. We are both Christians. We almost had sex, we didn’t go all the way, but there were a lot of physical contacts. It was wrong, and we both knew it. We talked about…
Read MoreI don’t like the answers you give about sexual sins
Question: Dear Sir, I was reading on your website a letter that a young woman had written to you about feeling very guilty about going too far with her boyfriend. Being that she was away from home and at college with new friends she put God out of her life and that was how it was…
Read MoreI sinned with my girlfriend. I want to marry her, but my parents don’t agree. Will God support my marriage if I marry her anyway?
Question: Dear sir, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend. We have had all types of physical sexual relations except deep penetration. I know I am sinning and have been trying to get away from it, as I am going far from God. I acknowledge that God has been kind to me in many…
Read MoreAre the sexual things we do sinful if we plan on marrying?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years now, and it’s a given that we’ve faced sexual temptation. Though we have not gone “all the way” we have done mostly everything else. We’ve talked about marrying each other and think it’s a very real possibility. If this is the case, are…
Read MoreIs it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…
Read MoreThings have been going further than they should. I don’t know how to put a stop to them
Question: Hi, I’ve been a Christian for more than three years now. I was a youth leader for the girls, and then became the youth leader for boys and girls. I was also in charge of the children’s ministry. My relationship with God was going great! And I never ever thought this would happen to…
Read MoreI was removed from leadership because I behaved badly with my boyfriend
Question: Hello, I’m currently going through a hard time right now. l guess I just need someone to encourage me. My ex-boyfriend and I went too far. We went out earlier, but it didn’t last very long. I broke up with him, but not because I had an issue with him. It was mostly because…
Read MoreWhat intimacies are allowed or not allowed to engaged couples?
Question: My girlfriend and I are very grateful to the Lord for the love and gift we are to each other. We love the Lord and want to honor Him and His law for us as an unmarried but betrothed couple. We are committed to saving sex for marriage. I am searching deeper into His…
Read MoreI’ve been involved in acts of lewdness with a married man while leading a church. What do I do?
Question: I am born again and have been upholding purity and faithfulness to God. I did not have any dealings with men because I told myself I was waiting for the guy that God has destined for me. I would stick to that and really serve God to the fullest. I lead praise and worship…
Read MoreI haven’t been living the life of a Christian and now I don’t know if Jesus will accept me back
Question: Praise the Lord! I am 25 years old and hail from a Christian family. I knew and understood the Lord Jesus Christ with his spirit from the age of 16. After three years of proper confession and sanctification, baptism was given to me. It is not that I was leading my life as per…
Read MoreWhile we haven’t had sex, we’ve been sexually involved with each other. How do we stop?
Question: My boyfriend and I are very much in love, but I am afraid to say we have had sexual contact with each other. It is very sad because we both have grown up knowing the love, power, and grace of God. I feel lost. We didn’t actually have “sex” as the world defines it,…
Read MoreMy girlfriend has been raped in the past and every time we get intimate, her fears come back. I don’t know what to do.
Question: So here is my ultimate dilemma in life: I am currently following God’s lead to pursue this amazing woman. She is just incredible to me and she means the world. She is several years older than I am. We both are Christians — she was saved when she was 19, me since I was…
Read MoreCan Christians receive massages?
Question: Can Christians receive massages? Answer: It would depend on the purpose of the massage. There would be nothing wrong with a massage to loosen sore muscles, but a massage that arouses sexual feelings would be wrong. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each…
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