How do I move forward from a breakup?

Question: Good evening, I’m relatively new to this website, but I have found it particularly helpful for hearing Q&A’s specifically related to Christian life. I’m a freshman college student who dated a girl for around 4-5 months when college started. It has been almost three months since she broke up. I’ve been slowly getting better,…

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The Root Cause of Sexual Sins

by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I’ve become fascinated by the lists presented in the Bible when I came to realize that many of them are more than a collection of related items. Permit me to illustrate this with a list that Paul gave in Colossians 3. “Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead…

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How do you repent of childhood sins?

Question: My brother and I do not get along. When we were kids we experimented with sexual sins. It was years ago. My mother mentioned that maybe, because of the things that I confessed had happened between my brother and me, we opened some demonic portal and need to repent. How does one repent from…

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Should I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?

Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…

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I keep getting involved in lewd behavior that I know is wrong

Question: I need spiritual help, sir. I thank God for your life and ministry. Please, sir, I pray the Lord will use you to restore me to Himself permanently. Sir, I became born again several years ago. I have been growing through discipleship but for about two years my life has been fluctuating. The instrument…

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What is sensuality?

Question: Hello, I’m trying to find all the information I can on sensuality, but am coming up short on it, I get that it’s the gratification of the flesh’s desires but how does one repent of that, I’m not in any sexual immorality, I don’t eat too much, what else could I be missing? Answer:…

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How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy?

Question: Hi Jeff, How far can you go with your girlfriend in regard to intimacy? Answer: Let’s start with what most people would agree would be going too far: sexual intercourse or fornication. Sexual acts outside of marriage are sinful and are covered under the word “fornication.” In Greek, the word is porneia. It is…

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We are going too far sexually and can’t figure out how to stop

Question: I am 18 and I want to stop all this fooling around that my girlfriend and I keep getting sucked back into. Basically, we say, “okay, this can’t happen again so what are we going to do to keep ourselves from it?” Then we come up with things but next thing you know, the…

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Only an Appearance of Religion

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/OnlyAnAppearanceOfReligion.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Amos 4:1-5 I.         When you look at the religious world, there are many odd ideas about what constitutes a religious person. II.        Exhibitionism as Religion             A.        Some people judge how religious a man is by the religious things that he does in public                         1.         Matthew 6:1-6 – Some people make sure everyone notices…

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I regret my sins, so why did my girlfriend dump me?

Question: Hello, I seem to have a very unique situation, as I cannot find anything like it other than on atheist websites and, well, that is advice I do not want. My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short amount of time (6 months) but due to my lease running up at my…

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Is my boyfriend the reason for my nightmares?

Question: I had a boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for a while. We were involved in sexual things, but we didn’t have sex. But I had some spiritual issues, and I got delivered, but I went back to it. I had a dream that if I continued with the sins, I wouldn’t be…

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I kept my boyfriend from penetrating me, but now he won’t talk to me

Question: Hi, I am 27 years old. I’ve kept myself a virgin all these years. I recently met my long-time chase. I told him I was already in a relationship three years ago (that relationship did not work out), so we started talking again and visiting each other. The first time I visited he tried…

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I want to marry a godly man, but I seem far from it

Question: Hello and praise the Lord! I normally don’t do this but I am in need of help. First I am a born-again believer and have been living for God for over a decade. My issue is this: I gave my life to Christ early twenties and from that point on I vowed to save…

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Should I break up with my boyfriend now, or wait until next spring?

Question: Hi, I read one of your articles on your site, and I wanted to ask a similar question concerning my non-believing boyfriend. I never had intentions of going out with a non-believer, and I’m not sure of how things turned out this way. I never intended this to happen, but somehow it happened. He’s…

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I engaged in immoral behavior with a woman. Does this mean I cannot marry?

Question: I’m a member of the church, but lately, I’ve made a poor, sinful choice by going somewhere I was tempted. I went to a massage parlor for the sole purpose of helping my body. Later during the massage, I engaged in some immoral foreplay activities with the woman there. I’ve been reflecting on my…

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If I put my fingers in her private area, is that fornication?

Question: Hey, God bless. I have a question: My girl and I converted several weeks ago. Ever since then, we haven’t had sexual intercourse, but last night we started kissing and it go to a point where I had my hand on her private part. I sort of rubbed her for like 30 seconds and…

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How do we avoid the temptation to have sex?

Question: I am 23 years of age and a college student. I have been in a relationship for over a year now. My motive for being in the relationship is to be with my partner now and stay with her until God blesses us to marry. My problem is how do I handle my sexual…

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Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage?

Question: Do fornication and other sexual sins cause damage later in marriage? My girlfriend and I have grown up in Christian families, but we haven’t followed our parents’ teachings, and we ended up in sinful relationships. I had a long-term relationship with a girl and we have had sex. My current girlfriend had a few…

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I don’t like the answers you give about sexual sins

Question: Dear Sir, I was reading on your website a letter that a young woman had written to you about feeling very guilty about going too far with her boyfriend. Being that she was away from home and at college with new friends she put God out of her life and that was how it was…

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Are the sexual things we do sinful if we plan on marrying?

Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years now, and it’s a given that we’ve faced sexual temptation. Though we have not gone “all the way” we have done mostly everything else. We’ve talked about marrying each other and think it’s a very real possibility. If this is the case, are…

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Is it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?

Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…

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What intimacies are allowed or not allowed to engaged couples?

Question: My girlfriend and I are very grateful to the Lord for the love and gift we are to each other. We love the Lord and want to honor Him and His law for us as an unmarried but betrothed couple. We are committed to saving sex for marriage. I am searching deeper into His…

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Can Christians receive massages?

Question: Can Christians receive massages? Answer: It would depend on the purpose of the massage. There would be nothing wrong with a massage to loosen sore muscles, but a massage that arouses sexual feelings would be wrong. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each…

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