Posts Tagged ‘fornication’
My former girlfriend is threatening to ruin my current relationship. What do I do?
Question: I had a child out of wedlock and I am not with the mother of my child anymore. We have been parted for about half a year. In that time I found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with who is also a firm believer in Christ Jesus. We…
Read MoreWe’ve been involved in lewd behavior in the past, which we know is wrong. So how do we stop?
Question: Sir, We have been in a relationship since childhood. We grew up together and we both are Christians. We are now in our early twenties. We have been kissing, fondling, and touching our private parts for the past few years. But we have kept it very strongly in our minds that we will never…
Read MoreWill God cure us of herpes?
Question: Hi, I have made a lot of mistakes in my life and just one time in my life I felt like killing myself. I knew God existed all the while, but I never obeyed him. I have this long-distance boyfriend, and I visit him on vacation. The first time we had sex it was…
Read MoreCould I have gotten my girlfriend pregnant?
Question: Hi. I want to ask you an urgent question. I’ll get straight to the point: today my girlfriend and I had sex. I didn’t put my penis in her vagina, but I ejaculated in my pants and some sperm got into my finger. I wiped it with a cloth, but I didn’t wash with…
Read MoreI just don’t know whether to leave my boyfriend or stay
Question: I am so pleased to see that there is a question section here! I am so lost and stuck in a rut and need nothing but the word of God with proper direction. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years. We are in our early twenties. We are having premarital…
Read MoreHow do I help a friend who has gotten involved in fornication and drugs?
Question: Hello, I was hoping you could help me with a problem I have been struggling with for a couple of weeks. I have a Christian friend who has become involved in a relationship where she has started having sex with her boyfriend and occasionally smoking and taking drugs because he does too. Since she started…
Read MoreCan you give some guidelines for how to behave in courtship?
Question: During our courtship, my girlfriend and I kept making small compromises that almost led to sex. We know we want to marry one another; in fact, it took us about four months to get to know each other because we wanted to make sure God is being glorified in the midst of our relationship.…
Read MoreWhere does God say a man and woman have to be married?
Question: Where in the Bible does it say or indicate that a man and a woman have to be married? Adam and Eve coexisted there was no ceremony. Answer: One does not have to marry, but if one wants to have sex, then he must marry. “But I say to the unmarried and to the…
Read MoreI planned on marrying a virgin, but just before I proposed, I found out she had sex once before. Now I don’t know what to do
Question: The primary gist of this email is to simply thank you for your website. I stumbled upon it via Google queries. Ironically I myself attend a church of Christ. My Google searches centered around a whirlwind of emotion and biblical questions which I ran into recently. A while ago my mother was talking with…
Read MoreI lost my virginity to a prostitute and now I’m scared
Question: I just recently had sex with a prostitute. I was a virgin, it was late at night, and I gave in. I am deeply afraid of my salvation status. I am trying to follow God, but this sin is a big one, especially with the verses in Proverbs of this sin leading to death…
Read MoreWhy doesn’t God want us to have sex before marriage?
Question: Hi, I really would like to know why God doesn’t want us to have sex before marriage. What is His reason? It doesn’t make sense to me. It’s free will. We can all do whatever we want and sex is pleasurable. But what are his reasons? I don’t have the money to get married.…
Read MoreI’m living with a guy I know is involved with another woman
Question: I have been committing sins since I was 15. I’m now in my twenties and a single mother to a beautiful child. I and her father broke up because he was unfaithful to me; he got another girl pregnant several years ago. I also had an abortion when I was in my late teens.…
Read MoreI had sex with my cousin and got her pregnant, but I think I should break up with her. What do you think?
Question: Hi, I found this website extremely helpful when I was looking for people with the same problem with a girlfriend’s past as I did. I apologize in advance for writing a lot. Here is my story: My cousin is quite a bit older than I am. She had a baby with her ex-boyfriend. I…
Read MoreWe keep committing fornication and I’m losing my love for her. How do I start over again?
Question: Please bear with me; it’s a long story! Well, I’ve always asked the Lord for a girl that I can be with for good and worship Him. I even described to the Lord how I wanted her to look. I told Him how I wanted her to be. Soon the Lord answered my prayer…
Read MoreHow do I ask about my lover’s past relationships?
Question: I want to know how I can ask about past relationships of my lover. Answer: I assume that by “lover” you mean the one you love and not that you are having sex outside of marriage. If you are sexually involved, you are already off on the wrong path. See: Why Sex Outside of Marriage…
Read MoreWhat does it mean that a man is reduced to a piece of bread?
Question: In Proverbs 6:26, what does reducing a man to a piece of bread mean? Does this mean the appearance of a relationship, friendship, and love is so shallow that the reality is the man is viewed as nothing more than an object by which to make money? All thoughts of the man as a…
Read MoreAre men and women who dress immodestly urged toward promiscuity?
Question: Are men and women who dress immodestly urged toward promiscuity? Answer: Webster’s Dictionary defines immodest as: not modest; not decorous; indecent; not shy or humble; bold; forward. Immodesty doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand with promiscuity. It can lead to promiscuity, but it is not a given. A person can be fully clothed and still…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I keep breaking up because of sexual sins. Should I move on or try to make this work?
Question: I would first like to start that I enjoy reading your comments and tackling difficult questions that many people are afraid to address. My question is regarding my current relationship. My partner and I are both Christians and we have been together for less than a year. It has overall been a great relationship…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a woman to relieve her fiance using masturbation until they get married?
Question: Praise the Lord. I read your correspondence regarding oral sex and found it to be very enlightening. Does this reasoning also apply to a woman relieving her fiancé using masturbation on him until they marry? Answer: “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a…
Read MoreWe keep falling into sexual sins. Is the solution to break up?
Question: Hello, My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were teenagers. We are in our early twenties now. We have been in love with each other since we were teenagers but didn’t start dating until the last couple of years. So technically we have only been in a relationship for a few…
Read MoreI want a small wedding, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to spend even that amount of money
Question: Good evening! I so much enjoyed your website that I found tonight. I’ve saved it as a favorite. Thank you for this opportunity to email you. I’m hoping you can help me. My fiance and I have been engaged for about a year and a half. We have dated for over ten years. We…
Read MoreWas a woman forced to marry her rapist?
Question: So in Deuteronomy 22:28-29, it says “If a man finds a girl, a virgin not engaged, and lays hold on her, and lies with her, and they are found, then the man who lay with her shall give to the girl’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife. Because he…
Read MoreWhy do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website?
Question: Why do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website? It is very inappropriate and perhaps you are forgetting the Bible verse that states there are certain things you shall not discuss in public because they are so shameful. Answer: “For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor…
Read MoreI was baptized while my boyfriend and I were separated. I have since moved back in with him, but I’m told this is wrong. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am a member of the church of Christ. I was baptized while I was pregnant with my child. At the time my boyfriend and I were separated. But as time went on, I moved back in, against the advice of a fellow member. Although I knew it was not what the Bible…
Read MoreThank you for your article on sex before marriage
Question: I would just like to thank you for your article on sex before marriage. I am a young teen, and I was lost before I found your site. Thank you so much! I will never forget you! Answer: Glad to have helped. Thank you for letting me know.
Read MoreI’m not regretting my decision to have sex, but I’m worried that I might be wrong
Question: Hi, I’m in my early twenties, and I’m a Christian. I’m been with my Christian boyfriend for over two years now. Since we’ve been dating, we have pretty much been sexually active for a while now. I am not regretting this decision, but as a Christian, I’m worried if this is wrong. I am…
Read MoreHow do I stop myself from committing fornication?
Question: I am a Christian in my early twenties. I committed fornication when I was trying to help a lady. She wanted a place to sleep for the night before continuing her journey the next day. That was over a month ago. Last week she visited me. I couldn’t stop myself. Again I had sex…
Read MoreI repeated my fornication after getting baptized. Am I unforgivable?
Question: I once was living a very sinful life. I wasn’t going to church. I was committing fornication with my girlfriend as well as many other sexual sins. I was willfully and deliberately sinning. Over the winter break I realized that if I did not change my way of life, I knew where I was…
Read MoreCan God forgive the fornication I have done?
Question: Hi, I also fell through fornication many times with my girlfriend. Now I am working to stop because I know it’s evil before God. I must stop it. Can God forgive me for what I have done when we repent? Answer: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son,…
Read MoreIs it right that a mother doesn’t want the father involved in their child’s life?
Question: Good evening, I have a friend who had sex outside of marriage and she had a child out of it. She feels very strongly about not wanting the father to be in the child’s life at all because he’s not paying child support, he’s not coming to visit his son as the court advised, and…
Read MoreIf I keep committing fornication before marriage, will God continue to hold that against me after marriage?
Question: I will keep this short. My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have broken up four times, for maybe all together seven hours of being broken up. We are very in love with each other and plan on getting married. My question is if I have had sex with…
Read MoreI can’t seem to say “no” to guys wanting to have sex. I’m so ashamed
Question: I’m an addict. And I’m supposed to be a born again Christian. I’m so ashamed. I need help from God, real help. It’s actually not drugs but sex. I can’t seem to be able to say “no” to the opposite sex. After the whole thing, I always end up crying. Anyway, I really went…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a couple not married to stay under the same roof who will not be sexually active?
Question: Hello, I have a question: Is it wrong for a couple not married to stay under the same roof who will not be sexually active? To be truthful, my girl has nowhere to go, besides the fact that we both want to be together, that is the main factor to why we are under…
Read MoreI lost my virginity yesterday. What do I do?
Question: Hello sir, I am 22 years old and in college. I am having a certain relationship with a lady on campus. I used to love her but not anymore. Yesterday, I lost my virginity to her, and I feel so ashamed. I know in I Corinthians 6 that if I confess, God will forgive…
Read MoreI’ve been living with my boyfriend, but I can’t get him to even discuss marriage. What do I do?
Question: I have been in a relationship for almost two years. We’ve been living together almost like other married couples. But in all this time I never heard any plan nor talk about our future. Sometimes I get hurt when he talks about something good in his future, but he only says “me” and not…
Read MoreYour answer to a question really helped me
Question: I am enlightened by the message on your question board in regards to spiritual immorality. It helped tremendously. The preacher here preached about a similar topic years prior, but I have lost my notes to it. As time went on, I’ve entered into college as well as involved in sex with a woman. During…
Read MoreI committed fornication today. How do I cleanse myself?
Question: Hello, I am very sorry for my sins today. I just committed fornication this afternoon and my conscience has been pricking me and I don’t know what to do. I am afraid if I cannot live to forget this. I am very sorry. What do I do now to cleanse myself and be free…
Read MoreHow do I forget that my fiancee had sex with her former boyfriend?
Question: First of all, I want to thank God and ask Him to bless you for taking the time to advise everyone who came looking for answers. I need help forgetting and forgiving her past. I have tried really hard. I’m a fellow believer and I’ve been dealing with a big dilemma in my life…
Read MoreI broke up with my boyfriend when he got his ex-girlfriend pregnant, but now I’m having second thoughts. What should I do?
Question: The guy that I love got his ex-girlfriend of seven years pregnant. It’s a very complicated story. The guy’s family was close to the girl’s family. His family didn’t know I existed. They only knew about me when the guy made his decision to marry me instead of his pregnant ex-girlfriend. He wanted to…
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