I lost my virginity yesterday. What do I do?

Answer:

"Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?" (Proverbs 6:27-28).

You played around with the fire of sex and found out that it burns. Yes, you sinned. Technically, none of us deserve forgiveness of our sin because we all sin (Romans 3:23). But why do you think you are worse than any other sinner? You are not the first man to commit fornication, nor will you be the last. The wonder of God is that He considers everyone worth saving -- including you. "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8).

If you really want to please God, then stop giving excuses for why you can't do as He commanded. "If you love Me, keep My commandments" (John 14:15). Pick yourself up and start living righteously. As Paul said to the Corinthians who were guilty of similar sins, "And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God" (I Corinthians 6:11). If you have been baptized into Christ, you need to be. If you are in Christ, then you need to confess your faults to God. "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (I John 1:9).

In regards to this woman, you need to explain to me why your attitude changed toward her. Are you saying you had sex with her after you stopped loving her, or are you saying you stopped loving her because you had sex with her? This leads to the question of why did you have sex with her.

People break up all the time, so it isn't hard to do, but you may have obligations still. For instance, you might have gotten her pregnant.

One thing that I do want you to do is to go and get tested for STDs. I assume she has been with other guys, so I don't want you having physical problems along with your spiritual problems.

In regards to the future. You have to realize that you are a male. Being a Christian doesn't make you immune to physical desire. "Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it" (I Corinthians 10:12-13). The problem is that when you are caught up in sexual passion you don't think about escaping from sin; thus, you need to avoid situations that get you sexually aroused. You have to say "no" and walk away, even when you feel like your dying inside to stay. "Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts" (Romans 13:13-14). You have to make rules for yourself, such as I will not allow myself to be alone with a woman when no one else is around. Instead of counting on your ability to resist, you assume that you might not be able to resist, so you make the opportunities for sex unlikely.