Posts Tagged ‘fornication’
I just learned my wife had a sexual encounter before we met
Question: My wife of over forty years just told me when she was 16 years old and her boyfriend was 18 years old, they fooled around. He played with her until climax, and she also played with him but not to climax. They never had intercourse. Just before breaking up, they were at her parents’…
Read MoreI fell into fornication. I’ve broken up with her, but should I tell her why?
Question: Hi Sir, I have come across your site reading your articles on courtship and relationship matters while searching for articles on how to prepare myself for a godly relationship in the future. And I thank God for your sound advice and guidelines in how we should live our lives as God’s people. For background on…
Read MoreCan I be forgiven for fornication?
Question: I am 21 years of age and recently got baptized. Before I got baptized, I was in a relationship for over five years and still am. A short while after my baptism, my boyfriend and I went to a wedding and then ended up having sexual relations. We both weren’t in the right state…
Read MoreDid my sins prior to my marriage cause my husband to commit adultery after our marriage?
Question: I was at church yesterday and the topic was “Root Causes of Sin.” My marriage didn’t start well. Prior to getting married, I fornicated with another man. When I found out that my ex-husband was having an affair, he said he had affairs because of what happened prior to our marriage. Now that I’ve heard a sermon on the…
Read MoreBefore becoming a Christian, I committed fornication many times. My preacher says I need to wait before getting married. Isn’t it better to marry now?
Question: Greetings in the name of Jesus Christ. I write this e-mail with great shame over myself. I committed fornication with a girl who was not my girlfriend and got her pregnant. The girl whom I got pregnant knew that I already had a girlfriend whom I was planning to marry and had already paid…
Read MoreCan we be forgiven if we plan to have sex before we marry?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for eight months now and have been discussing having sex. We do plan on getting married because we are both loyal, honest and love each other very dearly. However, we both have very strong religious backgrounds and are not sure if we could be forgiven if we…
Read MoreWhen my boyfriend proposed to me, he said that he had a child when he was a teenager. If I marry him, will that make me an adulteress?
Question: Hi, We are two people in love and about to marry. He proposed to me but before I gave him an answer, he said, “I have a child by my ex-girlfriend. It was a mistake. I did it when I was a teenager, but now I love you and I will never do that…
Read MoreIslamists Stone a Couple Engaged in Fornication
Source: “Islamists in Mali stone young couple to death,” The New York Times, 31 July 2012 “Islamists stoned a young couple to death after accusing them of having children outside of marriage, said a local official who was one of several hundred witnesses. … They were forced into holes about 4 feet deep, with their heads…
Read MoreMy girlfriend committed suicide when I told her I would be marrying the girl my family chose for me. I feel so empty
Question: Dear sir, My girlfriend committed suicide one and a half years back. We had a relationship of five years. Both of us loved each other badly, and she got pregnant twice and had an abortion as I told her to do this. Due to my family pressure, I refused to marry her and got…
Read MoreOur 18-year-old step-daughter is into sex and alcohol. What do we do?
Question: Hello, I have a stepchild who was living with her mother’s side of the family until age 13 until we got full custody of her. She is now 18. She has been exposed to seeing her mother (my husband’s ex-wife) doing drugs and seeing her mother having sex with multiple guys at once. She…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband of 30 years for his fornications that took place before our marriage?
Question: Can I divorce my spouse because of his fornication with other women before our marriage? I was not guilty of the same. It bothers me after all these years and I find it hard to forgive. He says it was not a sin against me, but I feel the pain. And even though we…
Read MoreWhy wasn’t Judah punished for seeing a prostitute?
Question: Hi, There is something that has been nagging me for a long time. I am a young Christian man, and I have this question about the story of Judah and Tamar. As you know, Tamar tricked Judah into fathering a child with her by disguising herself as a prostitute. In the narrative, at least…
Read MoreI’m in love with a man who has a girlfriend whom he got pregnant. Should I marry him?
Question: Hi, I am 30 years of age, born again, having a boyfriend near my age also born again. We are related according to our culture as our mothers share the same clan name. We deeply love each other and all our conversations are always about God. We help each other to understand the word…
Read MoreDo I have to break off my engagement because we committed fornication?
Question: Hi, I need advice, please. I had been living as a born-again Christian for over a year before I fell into sin and committed fornication. I met the guy a year after my baptism and we were engaged a few months later; we are both in our thirties. He is not baptized and belongs…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My girlfriend told me she’s not a virgin and doesn’t regret it.
Question: Hi. First of all, I would like to say this website rocks and it’s the best thing ever. The advice you give comes from your heart and I like it, but it also comes from the Bible and that’s just amazing how you use the scriptures to help us. May God bless you. OK,…
Read MoreWhy don’t I feel guilty after committing fornication with my fiance?
Question: I became a true Christian about three years ago! I have Calvinist points of view, and I tried to be hyper-serious to keep a holy life. I’ve been raised in a Christian family, but I had committed fornication before Jesus touched my life. When I left my non-Christian boyfriend and I’ve been alone since.…
Read MoreWe started to have sex but didn’t complete it. How do we go back to purity in our relationship?
Question: My boyfriend and I committed a sexual activity, we started sex but didn’t complete it. We just were involved in foreplay. Anyway, I’m 19 and he’s 22. We are in a serious relationship and have been for almost three years. We met in college while taking the same program. I would say that our…
Read MoreIf you have sex before marriage, but you marry that person, is it still a sin?
Question: If you have sex before marriage but you marry that person, is it still a sin? If that’s the only person you had sex with is it still a sin? And another question: If you beg God to forgive your sins, how will you know if He forgives them? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among…
Read MoreAfter becoming a Christian, I started having premarital sex. I now found out that it is wrong. What do I do?
Question: Hey there, I’m a 21-year-old male who was baptized about four years ago. I confess I have had premarital sex with a non-Christian woman for three years now, and I finally realize I need to repent and possibly end the relationship. I just have two major concerns. Do I have to get re-baptized? I…
Read MoreMarriages in the U.S. Continues to Decline
Source: “Cut wedding spending? Hardly,” The Los Angles Times, Omaha World-Herald, 09 July 2012. “The ConvergEx Group report “points out that the number of U.S. marriages continues to drop, to 2.06 million last year from 2.21 million in 2007. That’s due partly to sociological factors but also may reflect couples postponing the big day for financial…
Read MoreWill God bless the marriage of someone who used to be a fornicator?
Question: Hello, I have a question for a very long time and haven’t been able to find the answer. This has brought much turmoil and discouragement to my soul. Now, I have heard that if a person commits fornication he or she will not have a blessed marriage. How true is this for the ones…
Read MoreYou Need Standards and Guidance to Reduce Risky Behavior
Source: “Research Finds Parallels Between Sexual Risk Avoidance Approach and Successful Public Health Campaigns to Prevent Teenage Drinking, Smoking, and Reckless Driving,” House Energy and Commerce Health Committee, 06 July 2012. Source: “A Better Approach to Teenage Pregnancy Prevention: Sexual Risk Avoidance,” U.S. House of Representative Committee on Energy and Commerce, July 2012. The Energy and Commerce Health…
Read MoreWhat is wrong with sexual acts with a partner you know you are going to marry?
Question: I have this huge question that’s been bugging me ever since…well, ever. I’m a 19-year-old Christian. I was saved a bit over five years ago, and I’m on fire for God. I’m a counselor, a street evangelist, and I do what I can to spread the Word. With the introduction out of the way, I…
Read MoreWill God refuse to bless our future marriage because we have been having sex?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We have had sex multiple times now. We started doing it because we decided how much we love each other and that we want to marry each other, but I’m worried now because people are telling me that our marriage will not be…
Read MoreWill I be punished for having a child out of wedlock?
Question: Hi, I am 21 years old and I have a daughter who is about a year old. She is my world, but I was not married when I had her, and I am not married now. I am a believer, but I am also a believer that everything happens for a reason. I just…
Read MoreI can’t believe that I, of all people, had sex with a prostitute
Question: I am a young man, aged 25. I have been involved in church leadership for almost 5 years now. I got myself into the habit of watching porn more than a year ago. I would feel bad, pray to God seeking forgiveness, but I would find myself doing it again and again. I have…
Read MoreThe father of my daughter has a thing for young girls. Did I make the right decision to keep him away from my daughter?
Question: Hello, I was recently in a relationship with a woman who is married. We never had sex, or at least what I consider to be sex. All we did was masturbate together. Have I committed adultery? I have another question as well: I have a daughter. I am 17 but the father is a…
Read MoreCould God’s prophets really tell my boyfriend that we would have an unhappy marriage?
Question: Hi, I would like to address an issue that’s troubling my heart. First of all, I am a Christian who has recently repented because I sinned against God through fornication. I am trying to get right with God and change my ways for good. Recently my boyfriend of nearly four years has ended our…
Read MoreIs sinning permitted if it serves a greater purpose?
Question: How do we reconcile Hosea 1:2, and I Corinthians 6:15-18? Is sinning permitted if it serves a greater purpose? e.g. Robin Hood scenario, etc. What makes something a “sin outside the body” compared to “against own body”, e.g. gluttony, etc. Answer: You appear to be assuming that Hosea sinned in marrying a prostitute. First,…
Read MoreI’m moving out because I don’t want to commit fornication any more
Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We love each other very much. This is not really a question, but a declaration. I’m leaving him to move into my own place or back with my mother because I truly want to serve the Lord and flee from fornication. He wants…
Read MoreMy friend and I are both engaging in fornication. Do you think God will hold this against us?
Question: Hello, I came across your website and was wondering if I could ask a question that I need some advice on. I have a friend who was been in a relationship for almost five years. She wants to get married but her boyfriend doesn’t want to marry. They loved each other but a relative…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I are in a foreign country, so how do we survive without living together?
Question: Hi, I have been reading your blogs regularly. I have a query on a couple living together before marriage. For one question regarding this, you advised them as they were willing to get married in near future to just become casual with each other and meet up in public to avoid any temptation since everyone…
Read MoreI can’t make up my mind about the guy I lost my virginity to
Question: I am from a Christian family. I have been taught God’s standards when it comes to sex and wished I wasn’t in this position. However, my own sexual desires and naďvety made me lose my virginity to a man I fell in love with last year back in college. He was in a relationship…
Read MoreI messed up and had sex with my girlfriend. Since then she has been having sex with several guys repeatedly. I forgive her, but how can I help her?
Question: Hi. I’ve read some of your answers and you clearly seem to be someone with much wisdom and knowledge of the word. That’s why I’m trusting you with this. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now and we’ve visited each other three times now. We’re…
Read MoreI confessed that I committed fornication before my marriage, but I lied about the details. What should I do?
Question: Hello Sir, I have done something terrible! Like others searching through your questions and answers section, I cheated on my wife while she was my fiance. The guilt of cheating and the guilt of cheating with this specific type of person is eating me away! I have always been close to the Lord and…
Read MoreWould it be wrong for my girlfriend to move in with me a few months before we get married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are engaged and about to be married in four months. We never had sex. We talked about it and the want that we have. But we have decided to live together because she turned 18 and was forced out of her house. She…
Read MoreI lied to my boyfriend about having oral sex with another man. What do I do now?
Question: Good evening, sir, I was reading information from your website. I have a little problem and need your help. My boyfriend is always busy with work, and I have complained several times. Unfortunately, I ended up cheating on him by engaging in kissing and oral sex. I apologized to my boyfriend but couldn’t go…
Read MoreDo I tell my children the truth, that their dad and I had sex before marriage?
Question: My husband and I are both Christians. However, we had sex before marriage (only with each other). I have been wondering what to tell my daughters if they ask me if we had sex before marriage. I am afraid if I tell them the truth, then they will think “well, mama and daddy did…
Read MoreWhat do I do? The woman I got pregnant wants to abort the child!
Question: Thank you for all the advice you’ve given me. I am now able to stop my lust for fornication, thanks to God Almighty. Thanks to the peace and love of Christ that has recently grown in me, I’ve seen the need for me to keep the child. But yesterday the woman called and told…
Read MoreI just found out my husband had committed fornication before our marriage during one of our break-ups. Now I’m afraid he’ll leave me when he gets bored with me
Question: I’ve been studying from this web site for years. Thank you for your sound scriptural lessons. They truly inspire me to continue to strive to be a faithful member of the church. I have a concern regarding my marriage and you would give an unbiased but sound response. My husband and I are a…
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