Posts Tagged ‘fornication’
I decided to be baptized, but I’m not getting married for two years and we’re having sex. Can I ask for forgiveness after we get married?
Question: I have decided I will be getting baptized this Sunday. I have been very conflicted lately because my fiance and I have decided to be intimate, but I know it is a sin before marriage. I keep having these thoughts that if I repent once we are married everything will be okay, but that…
Read MoreAm I banned from Heaven because of my fornication?
Question: Hello, I am a strong believer in God and Christ. I try so hard to live a righteous life. I’m only 20. I have had sex before in the past, but now I’m saving myself for marriage because I want to please God. I previously slipped up with someone I was in a relationship…
Read MoreHow do I say no?
Question: I am having this difficulty with saying no sometimes to things like sex, partying, spending money, too much work, overwhelming myself in a way. What is the right way to say N-O to a man I am in love with without hurting his feelings? Answer: “Do not think that I came to bring peace…
Read MoreCan God accept a couple who committed fornication in the past?
Question: I accepted Christ three years ago, and I was committed to submit to him and to remain pure. After a while, I started flirting with temptation and eventually sinned. My boyfriend was in the same position. We both served God and we both have our own testimonies, but we fell into fornication. At this point, I feel spiritually…
Read MoreDo I have to kick my boyfriend out now that I’ve become a Christian?
Question: I am 21 and I have been in a relationship and living with my boyfriend for seven years. I have recently become a Christian. What are God’s views on sharing a bed together? So far, since becoming Christian, I have stopped any sexual activity with my boyfriend. He isn’t Christian but is willing to…
Read MoreHow do I move on?
Question: Please help me. I was wondering if you could help me out I been with my partner for over five years. We are both near thirty. That time has been a real long journey. The problem is I feel like our love is burnt. He changed into a total jerk — looking up porn,…
Read MoreIt’s not fair. My girlfriend decided to stop having sex
Question: Hello, I have a serious problem. I have been with this girl for more than one year, and she is a Christian as I am. But we have been having sex during this time and now she has decided to not do it anymore. We are the best lovers we can be, but she…
Read MoreI can’t accept that my girlfriend is not a virgin. What can I do?
Question: I can’t accept my girlfriend because she isn’t a virgin. I know her past because she told me everything. I have also done sexual things. it is not fair that I can’t accept her. I am also addicted to pornography. I have tried so much to get out. Each time I fall I get…
Read MoreCan you have sex before marriage if you are in a committed relationship?
Question: Some Christians, such as myself, do believe in sex before marriage if in a committed relationship. Answer: Jesus asked, “But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do the things which I say?” (Luke 6:46). Here you are directly violating the Lord’s command, and pretending that you are following Christ. “Do you…
Read MoreI want to repent. Can you tell me what I need to do?
Question: I am a sinner. I have suffered too much in this life. I have committed too many sins. The reason why I am writing to you is that I want to give my life to God. I love my boyfriend so much, and I told him my darkest secret, but I am scared that…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I can’t stop sleeping together.
Question: I have my ex. He is a strong believer. He was actually called to be a minister of God’s word. I also want to be a minister of God’s word. The thing is we had sex, got a baby and I aborted it. Now we can’t stop sleeping together. I love God most and…
Read MoreA man got me pregnant and now won’t marry me or support the child. What do I do?
Question: Good day sir, I am a single lady, in my late twenties, who was impregnated by a man in his early thirties. Initially, when he found out I was pregnant, he accepted responsibility and promised to marry me. But shortly afterward he changed his mind saying he never planned to marry me. However, my…
Read MoreI really messed up. How do I restore my relationship with my fiance?
Question: Hello, I am 24 years of age. I have been in a very serious relationship for over three years. We have had so many challenging times, but somehow we always pulled through. My boyfriend and I got engaged about a year ago. We are Christians, and he is such a good spiritual leader to…
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I have been living together for years. Now that I am a Christian, should I move out?
Question: Hi, I’ve been struggling with this question of cohabiting. My boyfriend and I have been living together for about five years. We have one child together who is four years old and I have a child who’s thirteen years old. I recently gave my life to the Lord back near the start of this…
Read MoreWhy can’t I repent of my fornication?
Question: I’m a 26-year-old female. I got saved at the early age of 10. My grandmother is the one that first took me and my sisters to church, taught us how to pray and read the word of God. I learned from that early age that as a woman I had to stay pure until…
Read MoreWhy is it so hard to get over an ex-boyfriend?
Question: Why is it so hard for me to leave my ex-boyfriend alone? I was involved with him at one time, but I came back to the Lord, got baptized, and am focusing more on Jesus. I thought I was delivered and set free it. There had been times I could do good when I…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been cheating on me, but now he wants to get married and I don’t know if I should
Question: How do I continue with the father of my two children, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 13 years and just found out he might be the father of a baby whose mother is the person I found him cheating on me with two years ago? Do I believe his story about…
Read MoreAccidents Don’t Happen
by Kent Heaton “Morning Afters Can Be Tough” the poster proclaims. The American College of Obstetricians & Gynecology announced a new plan to help women who do not want to become pregnant following a tryst with a lover with a drug called the “Morning After Pill.” A poster with the aforementioned heading has a cup…
Read MoreYou are not supposed to judge and you did
Question: In regards to “Can a girl get pregnant before her first period?” I really want to say that by reading this, you can no more tell if this is the person who may have sinned or someone who is uneducated and has a child who has been sinned against. Just as it is written,…
Read MoreWe want to get married, but we can’t even afford rings
Question: My partner and I want to get married so badly, but we don’t have money for anything, not even rings. I have a six-month-old baby with my partner and refuse any longer to sleep with him until we are married because the truth about how the children of God should live has been revealed…
Read MoreI sinned, but I’m afraid to tell my priests
Question: I am twenty-two years old, almost twenty-three. I did something a few days ago that has damaged my heart deeply and left a big emptiness. I have been dating a guy who is not a Christian. He started going to church when we started dating. I was baptized two years ago and had been…
Read MoreI was born again, but I still find myself committing fornication. What can I do to stop it?
Question: I am born again through the appearance of the Lord Jesus Christ, but I still sin. I find myself in a state of fornication and all kinds of sexual immoralities but each time I do pray I feel unworthy even to do so, despite the fact that I preach. Can God forgive me and…
Read MoreI moved in with my girlfriend for financial reasons, but lately, she is seeing another boy. What do I do?
Question: I have been in a relationship with this girl for about a year and a half now and now it’s starting to fall apart. First, let me lay out the facts: She was born and raised Christian, but in High School had a falling out since her Grandma died. She doesn’t drink or do…
Read MoreDoctors Push for Teenage Girls to Use Birth Control Devices
Source: Lindsey Tanner, “Teenage Girls Should Get IUDs or Hormonal Implants for Birth Control, Says American College of OBGYNs,” CNSNews.com, 20 September 2012 Logic has not been the strong point among liberal policymakers for decades. It seems that whenever it is found that people are ignoring moral common sense, the outcry is for society to give…
Read MoreI had oral sex when I was younger, and now I feel I’ll be condemned to have a miserable marriage
Question: I have a question. When I was in high school I was very socially shy and never had a boyfriend. I didn’t really go to church because we were Catholic and my mom thought it was boring. At 19 I had my first boyfriend and one day we kissed, and I gave in and…
Read MoreI had oral sex and I now feel so guilty. How do I overcome these feelings?
Question: I’m 21 and feel very guilty. I had oral sex two nights ago. I did this to avoid losing my virginity. According to what I read on your website, I’m no longer a virgin. I’ve worked so hard to keep it. I feel so sinful and bad. Please help me overcome these feelings. Answer:…
Read MoreSexting Is Associated with Risky Sexual Behavior
Source: Eric Rice, et al, “Sexually Explicit Cell Phone Messaging Associated with Sexual Risk Among Adolescents,” Pediatrics, 17 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “”Sexting” again linked to risky sex among teens: study,” Reuters, 18 September 2012. Source: Genevra Pittman, “Teen sexting: Strong link to risky sexual behavior,” Christian Science Monitor, 17 September 2012. Basic common sense has been once more confirmed.…
Read MoreWould a preacher or elder be allowed who had children involved in sexual sins?
Question: Hello, I have been reading some of your web-based information, and I have a few questions; If a youth pastor in the church of Christ (don’t worry, not yours) that has serious secrets in their family such as a gay son who is now out of the house, and a daughter who has had…
Read MoreThe Link Between Ungodly Entertainment and Fornication
by David Dann via Truth Magazine, Vol. 52, No. 2, Feb. 2008. The apostle Paul warned the young man, Timothy, saying, “Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (II Timothy 2:22). It is obvious from Paul’s instruction that in order to…
Read MoreI want to serve the Lord, but my boyfriend doesn’t care to get married
Question: I live with my boyfriend. We have two kids. I love the Lord; my desire is to serve Him, but I know living together without being married is wrong. Repeatedly I’ve told him how I feel about the whole situation. He doesn’t care to get married, and I am tired of living in sin.…
Read MoreI find myself repeatedly committing fornication when I know it is wrong
Question: I am a baptized member of the church of Christ. I am in need of your advice. I am 25 years of age. I have been in a relationship for some months. Within a few months, we engaged in sinful physical activities (sex) afterward I felt bad. In each episode, I felt so ashamed…
Read MoreI vowed to give up my sins, but I keep falling. Will God hold this against me?
Question: Good day minister, I greet you in the name of God. I have this issue bothering me. I have fasted, prayed, and asked for God’s mercy, but it still comes to my mind once in a while. It might sound foolish, but I am not going to lie to you, sir. Some time ago,…
Read MoreShould we break up because we haven’t been able to restrain ourselves?
Question: Hi, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months. We are both sophomores at a Christian university and met here at the beginning of our freshman year. In our relationship though, we have been having trouble with sexual sin. We have never “gone all the way” and had sex, we’ve just…
Read MoreShould I tell my husband I have herpes?
Question: Hi I am a Christian in the Lord’s Church and been baptized since I was 14. However, during my Army days, when I was in my early 20’s, I strayed and committed sin. While in the world, I contracted an STD (herpes). I was only 23 at the time and that was the worst…
Read MoreI feel so guilty because we broke down and had sex. Should I leave the man I love
Question: My boyfriend and I are strong believers. We started a relationship less than six months ago and put a strong principle that there would be no sex. In the last two weeks, the principle got broken when we got carried away in love and had sex. Right now I feel too guilty although we…
Read MoreI can’t get past the fact that my boyfriend is not a virgin
Question: Hello! Thank you so much for your website. It has helped a lot. However, I wanted to ask if you had any advice for a woman who has saved herself for marriage and is courting a man who hasn’t. I have found it extremely difficult to accept his past. I feel like he will…
Read MoreI know we’ve sinned, but my parents are controlling my life. Shouldn’t I be able to make my own decisions?
Question: I had sex with my boyfriend about 2 months after we got together. We were friends for about a year before we became a couple. I’m 28 and he is 30 years old. We are both Christians. I’m from a Christian family, but he is not. He has been a Christian for a little…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend about being a virgin and it has been bothering me. What do I do?
Question: I have something that’s been bothering me lately, and I have to get it out somewhere. I started dating this girl four years ago for two years. While we were dating we were completely in love and agreed that we wouldn’t have sex until marriage. After we broke up my loneliness pressured me into…
Read MoreMy fiancee is having trouble forgiving me for my past sexual sins
Question: I am having an issue with my engagement. Before I met my fiancee I was not a Christian. I had had sex with multiple partners. My fiancee, at times, has trouble forgiving me for these past sins. What can I do to help her? I know I’ve hurt her but don’t know how to…
Read MoreI must commend you for your advice to this young lady
Question: I read the chain of emails titled “Does God forgive Christians who commit fornication and sexual immorality?” and must truly commend you for your level of maturity, which is displayed in the way you advised this young lady. Really good counsel. Answer: Thank you for the encouragement. I do what I can to help…
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