Posts Tagged ‘divorce’
Does a person in an adulterous marriage have to get divorced first before he can be baptized?
Question: The following scenario has been presented to me by another person for my thoughts and guidance on it: I have a tough situation. A man I’ve known most of my life was baptized the other day. This man was in adultery. The church went ahead and baptized him. I don’t know all the details…
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Read MoreIf a couple divorce, and then reconcile, do they need to remarry?
Question: A married couple divorces, within a short time they reconcile, (in God’s eyes the wife would have been wrong, she repented and made it right with God and the church). This all happened many years ago, but they just never formally remarried, and the state in which they live it is legal for either…
Read MoreMy husband is living with another woman, should I divorce him?
Question: I am a member of the church of Christ. I am now battling with the decision to divorce my husband. I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been married for about five years. He got baptized while we dated. I was born and raised in the church, but he never…
Read MoreCan you remarry after a separation of seven years?
Question: I don’t doubt God’s forgiveness, but can a person remarry when he is separated from his spouse for over seven years? The marriage was not annulled nor have they divorced yet. Do both commit adultery if they have a new partner? Answer: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual…
Read MoreSince my husband committed adultery in the past, can I remarry even though I’ve been sleeping with a man before I divorced my husband?
Question: I was married at 20 years old. Two months after our marriage my husband admitted to making out with another woman and asked for a divorce. I dismissed his request as being childish and continued with the marriage. After a year of marriage, he admitted to making out with another woman plus he was…
Read MoreI’ve been living with a man while my divorce was going through, but now he is reluctant to marry me
Question: Hi, We have lived together for 7 years. We probably would’ve been married long ago, but I was going through a divorce for 6 of those years, and hospitalized due to medical illnesses for about a year or something like that, on and off. We are utterly and completely in love but don’t have…
Read MoreIf we straighten out ending our past marriages, would we still be in adultery?
Question: I have seen you talking about adultery on a website answering questions. I myself have the same issue. I’m living with my boyfriend of five years, and we have a child together. He is married to another woman, but they have been separated for ten years and he has not been able to afford a…
Read MoreSince my divorce, my children no longer believe in God. What can I do?
Question: Hello, Several years ago my wife became involved in a charismatic group and my marriage fell apart. As I dealt with this situation over the years, I see the effects on my children from what has happened. They were preteens and teenagers when the divorce happened. Throughout all of that time, I have made…
Read MoreMy wife just told me she filed for divorce. What can I do?
Question: Hi, My wife left for summer break with my two kids. Three weeks later I noticed that she was acting weird with me, so I had a long conversation with her. I found out she file for divorce and that she is not coming back. We have been married for three years but have…
Read MoreMy husband, who is an addict, left me. What do I do?
Question: I read the answer you gave regarding the woman who was still bitter as her husband left and she was still angry toward her mother-in-law although she had passed away. I wonder about my own situation and how your answers here apply. My husband left me and my two infants. Shortly after we married…
Read MoreI moved in with another woman before my divorce is final. Am I able to marry her?
Question: Dear brother, I am a member of the church of Christ and have been almost all my life. I married when I was 19 to my high school sweetheart. We were having some problems with money because I lost my job and things got hard, so one day she decide to leave me. Well,…
Read MoreDo I have to remain separated from my husband for the rest of my life?
Question: Mine is a difficult question. I am a Christian and have been separated for over 10 years. My husband and I are both Christians actually, I am faithful he is not. Our marriage has been terrible. Alcoholism, drug abuse, neglect left me alone for the first several years which ended up with me committing…
Read MoreMy husband returned to his first wife and now I’m confused
Question: Good day, I have been separated for over a year from my best friend of over 10 years and my husband for less than a year, though legally we were married for over a year. He had been married once before to a woman who continuously committed adultery with multiple people every time he…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My husband is a drug addict
Question: Dear sir, I have a question about my marriage. My husband is addicted to drugs. I’ve been praying and trying so hard to get him to stop. He keeps promising and goes back to it. We live overseas and things are getting so hard for me, more than I can handle. We have a…
Read MoreWhat do we do, now that a member has confessed to being a pedophile?
Question: A week ago a brother in Christ has confessed to his wife (our sister in Christ) that he’s been molesting several little kids. He came forward because he’s been caught. He repented in front of the church (not giving any details). He asked the congregation to pray for him regarding his sexual problems and…
Read MoreNow that I realize I am in adultery, how do I fix the problem?
Question: Good morning, I’ve recently come across this site and have received much clarity through other readers’ questions. I personally have realized that I am an adulteress. I have married (my first marriage) a man who divorced his first wife. I know that the divorce was not due to any infidelity on her part, thus…
Read MoreWhat if you don’t have concrete evidence that your spouse is committing adultery?
Question: Thank you for your web site. I have a question that you sort of touched on in a post, but I wanted to confirm. What if a spouse strongly suspects infidelities but has no concrete evidence? (The post I referenced involved a husband who may have been seeing prostitutes.) My husband has had at…
Read MoreCan I remain in my marriage and be forgiven?
Question: I have a question. About 20 years ago, I was married to a guy I had met, dated, and had sex with beforehand. After about two years of marriage, I was very unhappy and depressed. One day my husband at that time brought one of his co-workers home to give us an animal. Basically,…
Read MoreMy second husband left and now wants a divorce. What should I do?
Question: I have a past that I am not proud of. I was in and out of the church and never truly committed to God. I did ask for salvation when I was around 19 but was still not committed to God. I was married for the wrong reasons to my first husband and 11…
Read MoreMy marriage is ending in divorce because of my anger and I need advice
Question: Hello, I have a marital question and I am desperately seeking God’s guidance, hopefully through your advice. I have been married for about five years now. We are a young couple in our early twenties. Since the beginning of our relationship, we have always had a special bond and got along great prior to…
Read MoreI married a man, not realizing what he was like or what his past was. What do I do?
Question: I got married several years ago to someone that I really didn’t know. We met in the fall and married the following summer. It was one of the most foolish things that I have done, and have regretted it every single day. I believed he was a Christian. He lied about who he was…
Read MoreCan a man remarry after divorcing his wife for her admitted adultery only to find out decades later that she lied to him?
Question: I am a member of the Lord’s church, he is not (although he has been studying and attending services with me). I was engaged to him until I contacted his ex-wife to inquire about what ended their marriage. I wanted to make sure his claim that she committed adultery was correct. She wrote me…
Read MoreIs divorce only allowed during the engagement?
Question: Regarding How could a woman in an adulterous marriage have the right to remarry after a divorce? I believe there is something very important you are missing. Matthew was written to a Jewish readership, Mark and Luke were written for a Gentile readership. As you know from the nativity story, Joseph was betrothed to Mary. Their marriage had not…
Read MoreI divorced my husband because of his drug use. How will I know if he has died? Even his family has lost track of him
Question: OK, so my first marriage ended in divorce because of my husband’s adultery. Then my second marriage ended in a divorce, the reason for this was because of my husband’s drug use, alcohol addiction, stealing, and pawning everything we owned. I really tried to help him, but he refused to get help or to…
Read MoreI’m heartbroken that I have to end my marriage
Question: Hello Mr. Hamilton, I wrote to you a month or so ago and you were very helpful. I wanted to thank you again. Just a refresher. I found out after my husband and I were married for less than six months that he was viewing pornography. Of course, like the world seems to view, he…
Read MoreI left my husband after only six months. I realize I was wrong, but he won’t consider my returning.
Question: Of late, I have started following Jesus Christ, although I am not a Christian, and reading Bible has helped me overcome a lot of stress and depression. I need your help on my life’s greatest issue. I fell in love with a guy when I was 17. We were in a relationship for almost…
Read MoreDo I keep going even though my heart isn’t in it?
Question: I found your website just a few weeks ago, and I can’t stop reading it. My husband left our children and me over a year ago. He was committing adultery with a woman at his workplace, I found out about it, and he left to be with this woman. They currently live together, exposing…
Read MoreIf both are committing adultery, could either one remarry?
Question: Hello, I was wondering if you could help me with the following: How would you respond to a man who was married, and after four years of marriage his wife committed adultery. He decided to move out. The two remained legally married for another whopping 8 years, but both ended up living with other…
Read MoreIf the other spouse refuses to reconcile, can he remarry?
Question: I have a question. If someone divorces their spouse and then tries to reconcile with them, and in the middle of reconciling, the other decides they wanted to be with someone else. Is the one who tried to reconcile able to remarry? Answer: The only reason given that allows for remarriage after a divorce…
Read MoreMy husband says he wants to divorce me in order to have a polygamous marriage. What do I do?
Question: I am a Christian. I am writing because my husband wants a divorce. He has stated to me that he believes that he should be able to have more than one wife and live under one roof with them. I really think that he doesn’t believe that, but he just wants to be able…
Read MoreWhat do we do about the children’s father who doesn’t care for them well when he has them?
Question: I need your help. My fiancé and I are members of the church of Christ. We are dealing with a test right now. My fiancé’s ex-husband isn’t a Christian. The kids live with her, but they get to see him on the weekends. He likes to pawn them off on other people when he…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My ex-husband is about to marry his mistress
Question: I need your help. My ex-husband is marrying his mistress. According to the church, they are “shacking up” and need to be right by God. They getting married is the right thing to do, according to their church. I have departed from my husband (he divorced me), hoping we someday he will see his…
Read MoreI repented of my adultery, but my wife is still planning to divorce me. What do I do?
Question: My wife and I had a marriage that was in shambles. Instead of turning to the Lord, we continually relied upon ourselves. Our communication was bad, our respect for each other was low, and our intimate life was terrible to non-existent. Over the years I ended up having multiple affairs. Just last month I…
Read MoreIs the law of marriage and divorce that Jesus taught for the church or universal?
Question: My wife last husband wanted to divorce her on irreconcilable differences. He changed his mind and said to her he wanted to work things out, she refused and wanted to proceed with the divorce because of the abuse and adultery, he also had another child outside their marriage. They proceeded with the divorce under…
Read MoreMy husband is into porn and I suspect seeing prostitutes. What do I do?
Question: Hello, I am in dire need of biblical advice concerning my marriage. I have been married for almost two years but we have been separated for most of that time. I found out that my husband was watching porn several months into our marriage. Of course, he said he had only done it a…
Read MoreCan a man who divorced his wife for witchcraft marry again?
Question: Sir, How do I advise my sister? A man from our town is proposing marriage to her, but here is the issue. The man had been married last year to a lady. The marriage only lasted six months or so. Under the power of God, the lady confessed to being a witch and responsible…
Read MoreDoes the exception clause work the same in both Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32?
Question: This was purposed to me, and I was wondering your thoughts. The idea is the exception clause would have to work both ways since both are mentioned. I was wondering your thoughts about it. I am still studying the aspects of it, but it looks like a good challenge for me. Based on Matthew…
Read MoreEver since I committed adultery and lost my marriage, it seems like I’ve been stuck
Question: I am in my late forties. I had cheated on my ex-wife, she asked me for a divorce, and I gave it to her. I regret what I’ve done, since then nothing has gone good for me. I’ve repented and asked God for forgiveness. I have had so many jobs and can’t find a…
Read MoreI’m trying to hold my marriage together, but my wife won’t stay at home
Question: My wife has been inconsistently living at home. It’s been one excuse after the other. We have been divorced once before because she committed adultery. I fear God’s judgment on my head and know that I am no perfect person myself. Although I have never physically committed adultery, I have in my heart. I…
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