Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Would it be wrong for my girlfriend to move in with me a few months before we get married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are engaged and about to be married in four months. We never had sex. We talked about it and the want that we have. But we have decided to live together because she turned 18 and was forced out of her house. She…
Read MoreMy fiance and I decided to marry, but we are of different religions. Will God accept such a marriage?
Question: My fiance and I decided to marry. She is Russian Orthodox, and I am not the same religion. We have been together for two years. We love each other so much, and we want to marry. I asked two priests, and she has also asked. They told us that we can marry with no…
Read MoreHow do I move on after breaking up with my boyfriend?
Question: Hi, I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend who isn’t a believer in Christ and it had already been several months. I can’t seem to forget him even though I know he is not the one for me. I can sense the Lord telling me he is not the one. He had a new…
Read MoreWe’ve been involved in lewd behavior in the past, which we know is wrong. So how do we stop?
Question: Sir, We have been in a relationship since childhood. We grew up together and we both are Christians. We are now in our early twenties. We have been kissing, fondling, and touching our private parts for the past few years. But we have kept it very strongly in our minds that we will never…
Read MoreI just don’t know whether to leave my boyfriend or stay
Question: I am so pleased to see that there is a question section here! I am so lost and stuck in a rut and need nothing but the word of God with proper direction. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years. We are in our early twenties. We are having premarital…
Read MoreCan you give some guidelines for how to behave in courtship?
Question: During our courtship, my girlfriend and I kept making small compromises that almost led to sex. We know we want to marry one another; in fact, it took us about four months to get to know each other because we wanted to make sure God is being glorified in the midst of our relationship.…
Read MoreI planned on marrying a virgin, but just before I proposed, I found out she had sex once before. Now I don’t know what to do
Question: The primary gist of this email is to simply thank you for your website. I stumbled upon it via Google queries. Ironically I myself attend a church of Christ. My Google searches centered around a whirlwind of emotion and biblical questions which I ran into recently. A while ago my mother was talking with…
Read MoreMy boyfriend is agnostic. I like him for many reasons, but his unbelief is getting in the way. Should I marry him?
Question: Hi, I am concerned about my current decision to be in a relationship with a particular man. We have been good friends for nearly a year now, and have recently discovered how compatible we are, in almost every way. However, this is not the case. The one thing that is of great importance to…
Read MoreIs my fiance in sin by marrying someone else?
Question: My fiancé left me for another woman and got married to her. Is it right for me to have someone and marry? Is he committing sin with the wife he married? Answer: An engagement is an intention to marry, but it is not a marriage. A marriage is formed by a covenant — part…
Read MoreHow do I ask about my lover’s past relationships?
Question: I want to know how I can ask about past relationships of my lover. Answer: I assume that by “lover” you mean the one you love and not that you are having sex outside of marriage. If you are sexually involved, you are already off on the wrong path. See: Why Sex Outside of Marriage…
Read MoreSeeking a Spouse
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by Robert Speer April 1-6, 2012 God’s Creation and the First Home God’s Home and Ours Husband and Wife (Recording Failed) Parents Mothers Fathers (Recording Failed) Seeking a Spouse Preparing for God’s Home and Ours
Read MoreMy boyfriend and I keep breaking up because of sexual sins. Should I move on or try to make this work?
Question: I would first like to start that I enjoy reading your comments and tackling difficult questions that many people are afraid to address. My question is regarding my current relationship. My partner and I are both Christians and we have been together for less than a year. It has overall been a great relationship…
Read MoreMy girlfriend broke up with me. I don’t know why. I thought God wanted us together
Question: Hi, I came across your website and read about what the Bible says about boyfriend and girlfriend relations. I have one question: I loved one of my classmates and she also loved me. We both are believers and born-again Christians. Before coming to this relation I prayed to God, “If you want, then allow…
Read MoreI want a God-fearing husband, but my boyfriend doesn’t seem to be that interested
Question: I have been seeking God more than I have before. My life for God has definitely strengthened. However, I have sought God about the situation of my boyfriend. To be honest it seems as if I have to keep my boyfriend in the Word. He sure wants to marry, loves me, and has no…
Read MoreI love this girl, but my pastor says she will be unfaithful to me. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I need help. I am a young man who loves God. There is a woman I love. She is younger than I. She knows that I am in love with her and she with me. We both have this fear that since we love God we should not act like people who do…
Read MoreI want to marry my girlfriend, but her mother objects. What am I to do?
Question: My question is simple. My girlfriend and I are fighting some because of her family. We have been together for seven years already. We just become Christians a few months ago. We were growing together so much, but her mother keeps telling her that she hates me, and she doesn’t want me. I told…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a couple not married to stay under the same roof who will not be sexually active?
Question: Hello, I have a question: Is it wrong for a couple not married to stay under the same roof who will not be sexually active? To be truthful, my girl has nowhere to go, besides the fact that we both want to be together, that is the main factor to why we are under…
Read MoreI think God has chosen an immoral girl to be my wife
Question: Hello, I would like to ask a question regarding marriage. There is this girl I know, and I think she may be immoral in a lot of ways, yet I feel like she may be the one whom God chose for me. I get the feeling that maybe He plans to plant the seeds…
Read MoreShould I go and see the man I love?
Question: Hello there, I need advice. I met a man through a Christian event a few years ago, and we became best of friends, which was fresh and exciting. I knew I was attracted to his godly nature and got so excited to see him every day for this event. He went to another country…
Read MoreShould I date a woman who divorced her husband because of his infidelity?
Question: There is a young woman who I’m interested in. Last year she divorced her husband because she found out through the woman he slept with and her friends that her husband was cheating on her. She said he also later confessed to her about sleeping around and that’s when she decided to file for…
Read MoreWhy do I fear I’m going to lose my girlfriend?
Question: Why do I keep getting these bad thoughts and fear that my girlfriend is going to cheat on me or leave me? I want to know why. I pray and they go away, then they come back again. I want to know why. Do I need help or is there something wrong? I’ve asked…
Read MoreHow do I forget that my fiancee had sex with her former boyfriend?
Question: First of all, I want to thank God and ask Him to bless you for taking the time to advise everyone who came looking for answers. I need help forgetting and forgiving her past. I have tried really hard. I’m a fellow believer and I’ve been dealing with a big dilemma in my life…
Read MoreI broke up with my boyfriend when he got his ex-girlfriend pregnant, but now I’m having second thoughts. What should I do?
Question: The guy that I love got his ex-girlfriend of seven years pregnant. It’s a very complicated story. The guy’s family was close to the girl’s family. His family didn’t know I existed. They only knew about me when the guy made his decision to marry me instead of his pregnant ex-girlfriend. He wanted to…
Read MoreShould my sister wait for her boyfriend to convert?
Question: I have a sister dating a non-Christian for over five years now. She has been teaching him, but he still hasn’t yet made a decision to get closer to Christ. She is deciding that in the next few years if he does not change to not get marry entirely. Honestly, I do not think…
Read MoreI can’t find anyone near my age who hasn’t been divorced
Question: My question is in regard to Matthew 5:32: “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” I am in my forties and have never married. There were times throughout my life that dating…
Read MoreMy boyfriend told me he has diabetes. Now I don’t know if I want to marry him
Question: Hello, A guy is deeply in love with me for the last several months. I like him too, but I am not sure of my feelings yet. Still, he remains the best guy I have ever met and could ever have in my life. Then the other day he told me that he has…
Read MoreWhy don’t people who have non-marital sex face immediate consequences?
Question: Hello, I have a question or two: The first one is: Why is it that people who have non-marital sex do not face consequences at that moment? And my second question is: How can I overcome my anger and sadness whenever I hear or see people having sex? I’m a female, in my early…
Read MoreIs it wrong to date a man, even though I can’t remarry?
Question: I left my husband in a situation where “the grass looked greener on the other side” situation. My husband was not a Christian. The man I’m now with is a Christian and treats me much better than my husband did. This being said, is it still wrong to even date this new man? Even…
Read MoreMy girlfriend was seeing another man while dating me. I broke up with her, but she wants to get back together. Should I forgive her?
Question: I am 21 male and I have been walking with the Lord for about three years with my fiancee. I love her, and I admit that we fell into temptation and began sexual relations. I can admit that, as a man of God, I put her first and the Lord second. With that said…
Read MoreI broke my promises to my boyfriend. Will God punish me?
Question: I am a girl in my mid-twenties. I had a boyfriend for about five years. I was deeply in love with him. We almost regarded each other as husband and wife. We saw our future together. I cared for him a lot and he always supported me at all times. He took the best…
Read MoreShould I continue seeing this divorced woman?
Question: I have a question that is tough for me to come to conclusion on. I hope you can reply after careful consideration, but in somewhat of a timely fashion. I am dating a woman who has divorced her husband. Initially, she did not tell me why and over time she revealed that her ex-husband…
Read MoreHow do I gain control over my sexual desire?
Question: I need help. I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. I love him very much, and soon he is going to ask my parents for my hand. I’ve always had a crush on this guy. He’s actually the stepson of my uncle. Since I met him when I was young, I’ve…
Read MoreI found a good man, but the chemistry isn’t there. Should I be concerned?
Question: Hi Minister, My question is this: Is there a particular gut feeling that comes your way when you meet with a person and decide he has to be your life partner? In other words: is chemistry necessary to decide if a person is to be your life partner? My marriage is being done in…
Read MoreIs God sending me signs?
Question: Does God send us signs? I have known this guy well for five years. He and I just clicked so well, and when we are together everything is so easy. However, he lives in a different state, though he still comes back to visit me and his family. We have talked about being together…
Read MoreI’m not certain if I should go through with this
Question: I am 24 and facing a serious problem managing my thoughts. I know you are a preacher and expect you to help me with Scripture. Several years ago I fell in love with a sister at a distant congregation. I exposed my mind to her, but then I was afraid. Later I called off…
Read MoreYour explanation of the friend zone helped greatly
Question: Thanks for your answer “If you become best friends, isn’t there a danger of the girl not wanting to marry you because she only sees you as a friend or a brother?” The “friend zone” is one of the questions I have had on my mind for the longest time. You answered it in…
Read MoreIf she was sent by God, isn’t she supposed to be a good person?
Question: I am in love with this girl who loved me too. We loved each other so crazily but at one point I realized that she had been lying to me for no reason to spend time with her friends and other mates. She liked spending time with boys, and she hid that from me.…
Read MoreWhy are all the guys I date bums?
Question: Good day minister, A man of God met me and introduced me to his brother saying God said he will be my husband. I met the guy. We talked, but I found out there was no compatibility between us. I don’t love him, perhaps “like” I will say. But along the way, we sinned…
Read MoreSometimes my fiance and I get too involved with each other and it is disturbing me
Question: I am in a situation that needs your help. There is this sister in my church. I have proposed to her and we plan to get married after her graduation from the university. We both love each other. We have never had intercourse, but sometimes we get involved in real body contact. I feel…
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