My boyfriend is agnostic. I like him for many reasons, but his unbelief is getting in the way. Should I marry him?

Question:

Hi,

I am concerned about my current decision to be in a relationship with a particular man. We have been good friends for nearly a year now, and have recently discovered how compatible we are, in almost every way. However, this is not the case. The one thing that is of great importance to me -- being a devout Christian and prayerful to God -- is not there. He was an atheist who has recently turned agnostic, upon his comprehension that there actually exists a higher being, through the way I live my life.

I am in such great confusion, because I asked God for a man, and He sends me one -- complete with all the qualities that I had sought out for a future spouse -- but lacks the fervent devotion to God.

Now this man notes how much he adores and likes me for who I am as a person. He says that many girls should live their life the way I do, because I live according to the teachings of the Bible, most especially with retaining my morals. I feel as though I should look at him as "the one," on account of the fact that he possesses all the qualities that I have been wanting in a future husband, but for some reason, I cannot fully love him because of the fact that He does not match-up to my standards of loving God. I am thinking to myself that I should consider this man to be "the one," but I do not understand why I do not feel a "spark" to our possible relationship.

He is willing to wait for me and notes how I will eventually find the answer as time goes on. He lives his life as though he was obeying the commandments of God, and is actually sincere with every word he says. I feel so disgruntled for praying for another man because the man that He may or may not have intended to be my future husband, despite being compatible with me in every way, has his future with me jeopardized because of the fact that he is an agnostic. I cried one evening, asking God if I was being disgruntled for not being satisfied with a person that He has sent to me, and I told Him how I didn't know if I should keep praying for another man to come into my life because I felt as though I was pestering Him. At that instant, I suddenly spotted a shooting star in the night sky -- something that I have never witnessed in my life. I don't know if that was God's way of communicating with me, nor do I know what He means by flashing a shooting star across the night sky, if it was indeed, a sign from God for me. Another thing was that this man went all the way to consult his cousin, a pastor, who had advised him as to our possibility of being together in the future, and the next time I saw him, he pulled out a piece of paper with some notes and Bible passages about couples and began to elaborate on them and what he had learned from his cousin. I can see that he is doing everything to make "us" happen.

But even if he is everything I always wanted, why don't I get excited or feel that sensation of being in-love whenever I am with him? He claims that it is because we started out as friends, but even so, why aren't the feelings that he has for me mutual with the feelings I have for him? Should I drop this possible relationship completely because of the absence of his love for God or should I give him a chance? Is this a test from God? Help.