Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Counting the Cost: Using Biblical Principles to Guide our Children in Spouse Finding
by Sally Ann Perz Choosing a spouse is the second biggest decision in one’s life—this is surpassed only by choosing to follow Christ. We must guide our children in this effort just as we lead them to Jesus. We often leave this important choice to them—somehow they are ‘on their own’ when it comes to…
Read MoreWhy do guys keep leaving me?
Question: If a person walks away from you, and you haven’t done anything wrong in the relationship, should you let them walk away? My reasoning behind this question is that the men I meet keeping walking away from me. This was before I was saved and it is still happening now after I was saved.…
Read MoreHow do I know if God wants me to marry this girl or what career I should take?
Question: Hi, I have been reading the questions and answers on your web site since shortly after being baptized into the Church of Christ and really appreciate the insightful and godly answers you are able to give. I was just reading your answer to, “If a person doesn’t follow God’s specific will for his life,…
Read MoreMy girlfriend caught me cheating with my former girlfriend. What do I do?
Question: I had a girlfriend, but then I started loving another girl. But I could not let go of the first one because she was satisfying my sexual needs. One day the other girl caught me cheating. I am madly in love with her and promised that I will never ever do something so cheap.…
Read MoreHow do I keep my desires from getting out of control?
Question: Hi My fiancee told me that she’d sent a question to you about me, and showed me your response today. Her email wasn’t exactly truthful, so I decided to email you myself and hope for advice about my situation. Sex was never a problem for me; I was in my early twenties when I did it,…
Read MoreIs my fiance a real Christian?
Question: I’ve been dating for a year, and now I’m engaged, but it still will take two years for us to marry. My fiance and I have strong sexual temptations, it seems like I have a lot more control than him. Sometimes it scares me because he seems to want sex too much. He’s not…
Read MoreShould I break up with my boyfriend who is about to file for a divorce?
Question: Well, my boyfriend is fixing to file for a divorce and I have no idea what to do. I feel like I should break up with him because we committed adultery. I feel terrible about it. I feel like the Lord is telling me that he isn’t the “ONE.” But I don’t know anymore…
Read MoreWe want to marry, but my girlfriend isn’t old enough. What should we do?
Question: Hi, I hope you don’t mind answering. I’ve tried to find answers in the Bible, but I’m a little confused about what my options are and what is best. Firstly I’ll write a background on the situation: I’ve been dating my girlfriend for just over a year. I love her very much, and we…
Read MoreI blew it again. What do I do?
Question: Here is my problem: I was in a very distracting and painful relationship that totally drew me away from God. The relationship ended with me close to suicide. I couldn’t understand how this could be because I loved this person very much. I moved to a different country because the pain was too much…
Read MoreHow do I get past the fact that my girlfriend is not a virgin, but I am?
Question: Hello. I want to start this email by just saying that I am not good at spelling, and I hope you understand what I’m saying. I saw a note on your site about a boy who lost his virginity to a girl. I was trying to get answers about virginity. I am a virgin, and…
Read MoreI’ve been having dry sex with my girlfriend. I know it is wrong. She wants to marry me, but she isn’t a Christian and I don’t know what to do.
Question: While researching sexual sins, I came across this web site. Some of the points mentioned in the answers regarding sexual sins have really touched my heart. As a brief background about me: I am 24 years old. I have been dating a non-Christian girl for the last several years. I realize that it is…
Read MoreMy girlfriend kissed another man. What do I do?
Question: Something happened this week my girlfriend confessed that she kissed another man. She said it started as a game and they were teasing one another and they kissed for about two seconds and she pulled away and walked off. I don’t know whether it’s out of guilt, or if she was genuinely sorry, but…
Read MoreShould we marry now or when we are in a better financial situation?
Question: My girlfriend and I intend to get married in the future and want to wait until we are in a better financial situation to marry. Also being in a long-distance relationship would mean that if we did marry, we would be unable to live together straight away just yet. But I’m in fear of…
Read MoreShould I keep waiting for God to find me a husband?
Question: I have questions regarding marriage: My mom wants me to get married so badly, she even got me a fiance. Nevertheless, I am a Christian and I want to wait on the Lord for the right person He has for me. I am 25 years old. My mom just wants to have grandkids. She…
Read MoreShould I ask my girlfriend to marry me when we tend to argue a lot?
Question: I have a question which you may know a little about. In my relationship with my girlfriend, we tend to argue a lot. She will say something and I will explode or vice versa. This has left me without peace and asking if this relationship is God’s will. I wanted to ask my girlfriend…
Read MoreI’m about to have sex with my boyfriend. Will God still hear my prayers?
Question: I am about to start having sex with my boyfriend of nine months. Will God still hear my prayers if I do that? I really am confused. I feel that I’m ready, but I’m afraid of destroying my relationship with God. Please help. Answer: Here is the true test that you and your boyfriend…
Read MoreWhy was I lied to about finding a wife?
Question: I see that you are of the Church of Christ. I don’t know much about the Church of Christ. I was raised Baptist and for the last ten years, I have been in the Pentecostal faith. Of course, I love all my brothers and sisters in the Lord. My story is a unique one,…
Read MoreShould my friend pursue a relationship with a boy who had sex in the past?
Question: This question is for my friend’s situation: A boy recently started to pursue more-than-friends moves on my friend. She’s liked him on-and-off for three years, but in those three years, he’s had a girlfriend. She just found out that the boy had sex a few times several months ago with his girlfriend. Since that…
Read MoreHow can I help my boyfriend with his sexual desires?
Question: I’m 25 years old and a Christian. I am in my first relationship as a Christian. My boyfriend is a backslider. We had sex once. I know it was wrong. I repented and I believe God has forgiven me. I am not going to do it again until we are married. I have downloaded…
Read MoreHow do I make my relationship more God-centered?
Question: I know romantic relationships should be God-centered, but I’m having trouble doing this with my boyfriend. He’s a Christian, but not too strong of a Christian. I tried to put God into our relationship by suggesting reading a Bible chapter together each day. We read only two times. I wanted to pray with him…
Read MoreDid I drive my ex-girlfriend away from God?
Question: I’m 20, a Christian, and clearly unsure if I can make up for my possibly callous words. I was in a relationship until a few days ago. She and I had been together for about a month. Early on in the relationship, I was feeling some pressure in that she isn’t a Christian and…
Read MoreIs having a boyfriend or girlfriend the biblical way to find a spouse?
Question: Could you please explain what is the biblical way to find a spouse? Many people today choose a girlfriend or boyfriend (some choose more than one) before marriage. But it seems that the Bible never mentioned “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.” So what is the biblical way of finding a spouse? Is it wrong to have…
Read MoreMy girlfriend and I fear we will lose each other, even though we aren’t fighting. What are we doing wrong?
Question: I hope you don’t consider me a whiner, but I know you are one person who gives me straight answers. My girlfriend and I are engulfed with this fear of losing one another or breaking up. We are not fighting, but the fear is there. Is this normal? What are we doing wrong? Kindly…
Read MoreHow do I teach my girlfriend the truth?
Question: You have helped me in the past, and I’m very happy to be asking you a question on much better and different terms. I am a Christian and attend a church of Christ. I believe in what the Bible teaches and like to think the church I worship at does as well. I have been…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My boyfriend doesn’t want to get married and I do
Question: My boyfriend and I live together. We’ve been living together for two years. He doesn’t want to get married. I do. Also, I am Christian, he is agnostic. I have tried to talk to him about God, but he wants proof. I don’t know what to do. When we first got together, I was…
Read MoreWe can’t get married right now, but we can’t keep from engaging in sexual acts. What do we do?
Question: My girlfriend and I have a very serious problem. But first, a little history. When we met, I was not a Christian. She has been one for her entire life. In meeting her, she showed me the way to God, and I was baptized a few months ago. Together we have grown immensely in…
Read MoreIs it good in a relationship to express our true feelings so we can know each other better?
Question: Your advice is really solid. One thing we’ve decided to do in our relationship is to give each other the freedom to express our true feelings and reaction so we can know each other better. Sometimes things get too bad, and we end up emotionally hurt. But we don’t let it sleep with us.…
Read MoreHow long should an engagement last?
Question: First, I want to thank you for a beautiful, wonderful site. I’m a young Christian, growing in the Lord. I have a girlfriend. We love each other and I desire to marry young, as soon as possible. We’ve been dating for two months now, but we have known each other for three years. I…
Read MoreMy boyfriend proposed to me. Are we sinning if we have sex?
Question: My boyfriend proposed to me. I’m not pregnant and I do love him. Does this make me a sinner, if we have sex? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). Sex outside of marriage is a sin. A proposal to marry doesn’t…
Read MoreMy girlfriend constantly complains and I’m getting drained. What do I do?
Question: Hello. I have a girlfriend who has a big attitude problem. She’s always complaining about life, and she tends to take it out on me a lot. The funny thing is that we both Christians, and I have plenty of patience with her. It’s come to the point where I get tired because she…
Read MoreMy boyfriend broke up with me and I don’t know what to do
Question: Writing because I seem to be fighting feelings right now, and I don’t know where to turn. My boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me last week. This time I didn’t even see it coming because we got along so well. His reason was he can’t stand not being with me every…
Read MoreI’m in love with a man who lives in another country and I don’t know what to do
Question: Hello, my problem is not as serious as other askers’ problems. I don’t live in this country, I’m not even religious, but it’s been eating me alive little by little and I don’t know where to turn to. I can’t write them on blogs since friends would know. I can’t write it down otherwise…
Read MoreIt is getting hard not to have sex. I want to marry my boyfriend, but I don’t want to give up my independence. Can we get married so we can have sex, but still live apart?
Question: Didn’t people get married during or soon after puberty in Biblical times? It seems like it would be a lot easier to abstain from premarital sex if people were getting married as teenagers. In our society, people usually get married in their mid to late 20s, 10 or more years after sexual maturity. People…
Read MoreIt seems like I argue with my boyfriend every other day. How do I get peace in my life?
Question: I love my boyfriend so much, but lately, we’ve been arguing every other day. I know I say hurtful things but I just can’t control my anger. I feel as if he just doesn’t understand me. It seems as if he doesn’t care. Sometimes I get so angry at him, even if it’s just…
Read MoreI want to see a girl, but I think God wants me here. What should I do?
Question: I have liked, probably loved, a girl for going on seven years, and never really tried to pursue her. There is a problem, she is definitely a desire of my heart, I do desire her, not in a lustful way, I just want to be around her. The problem is she is two hours…
Read MoreMy boyfriend said he won’t have sex with me before marriage, but then he gave me a handjob. What should I do?
Question: I am 23 years old and have been dating a 31-year-old guy for four months now. At first, there was no problem, but after a few days, he started showing a desire to have sex. Honestly, this is my first boyfriend in my life and I didn’t know anything about real dating. I am…
Read MoreWhy do I get so angry at my boyfriend all the time?
Question: Why do I get so angry at my boyfriend all the time, he doesn’t do anything negative? I feel as if I should control him. I can’t stand him not listening to me. I know this is wrong. How can I change? Answer: There isn’t enough to go on, but it appears you see your…
Read MoreHow do I talk to my Catholic girlfriend about Catholicism?
Question: I absolutely loved this page: “What is wrong with Catholicism?” I feel like there are much more political based things wrong with Catholicism, but I like how you kept it as “What is wrong with the teachings.” I loathe the Catholic church for the many reasons posted on your page. I am deeply saddened…
Read MoreSince I had sex with my girlfriend, does this mean I am married to her?
Question: Hello brother. Thank you for the good web site and for the questions and answers that you have posted. I have a question and a problem that I want you to help me to solve. I have been dating a girl for three years. She has been really close to me and I love…
Read MoreI’ve liked this girl for a long time, but I can’t figure out my feelings as to whether she is the one God wants me to marry
Question: I have a question about marriage and a girl. I have liked this specific girl for going on 6-7 years. Yes, I said 6-7 years, and for some reason, I continue to look at her as the greatest thing in this world. I keep telling myself that I will get over it, but I…
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