My girlfriend kissed another man. What do I do?
Question:
Something happened this week my girlfriend confessed that she kissed another man. She said it started as a game and they were teasing one another and they kissed for about two seconds and she pulled away and walked off. I don't know whether it's out of guilt, or if she was genuinely sorry, but she confessed the very same day. My worry is: if she is doing that now what will she do in the future? A kiss just doesn't happen. She has totally apologized and asked me for one more chance. As a man of God, what would you advise me? The guy she kissed even sent me a message and told me there is nothing going on between them. But what's your advice?
Answer:
"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15).
It isn't about the easy stuff. It's about the hard things. If you find in yourself the ability to forgive her, it must be complete -- no more mention of it, not holding it against her. Love "does not take into account a wrong suffered" (I Corinthians 13:5). If you are able to truly forgive her, then you have truly proven that you are in love with her.
By the way, you are worried about the wrong thing. If she didn't tell you and, when confronted, didn't seek forgiveness, then you would have a problem on your hands.
Response:
Wow! Thanks so much. This means so much to me. Thanks so much, minister. Though I have never seen you, you are the first person I think of. God bless you!
