Is this appropriate clothing for worship?

Question: Good morning, Can you come to worship dressed like this? Over here it happens, but we are not in Africa. We are in Europe. This person has been a member of the congregation for decades and has his citizenship here in this country. His African tribal costume leaves a part of his chest completely…

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Should I marry a man who is less educated than I am?

Question: Good evening, I need counsel. I am a 28-year-old African lady, a Christian with a degree in Nursing Science, and currently working as a Registered Nurse in my country. I have deliberately mentioned my African origin, education, and professional qualification because my concern is around this aspect. I was raised in a Christian home with…

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You should have trained counselors to answer questions about abuse

Question: [The original question was left unedited since the author feels qualified to comment on other people’s educational background.] I think the way you handled a question by someone who was abused who asked if they were still a virgin was awful. You need to train or have Christian counsellors answer those questions as no…

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How do you repent of stealing when the victim has died?

Question: If a person stole money from their parent with the intention of paying it back, but the parent passed away before they could get the money back to them, plus their other parent has passed away, what do they need to do to make their life right?  It happened years ago. No debt was…

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Is the Bible left to each individual’s interpretation?

Question: A few questions I have: Is the Bible left to each individual’s own interpretation? How can we trust translations? Isn’t that just someone else’s interpretation(s)? How can I prove the Bible is correct if someone doesn’t even believe it in the first place? Thank you. Answer: “But know this first of all, that no…

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Was the angel at the pool of Bethesda from God or the Devil?

Question: Dear Sir, There appears to be a lot of confusion regarding whether the angel at the pool of Bethesda was from God or not. Can you give me your insight into where this “angel” came from? Some even go so far as to believe the angel was of the devil which confuses me further. Try…

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Why does an accusation against an elder require two or more witnesses?

Question: Could you explain I Timothy 5:19?  “Do not receive an accusation against an elder except on the basis of two or three witnesses.” I was studying this chapter with another Christian and we both have been confused about what exactly is prohibited in verse 19. Must any and all concerns about an elder be…

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Am I still a virgin?

Question: Am I still a virgin? Is God disappointed in me? Growing up as a child, I was raped when I was really little. But then Jesus found me when I became a teenager and I love him.  I forgave the person who raped me. I even hated boys at some point. Now I’m in…

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I’m afraid of being in a relationship

Question: Good day sir, I appreciate all you do to help people. Most importantly you do this only to please God and not man. I am in my 30s and I know I should be married by now. A major factor for being unmarried yet is nuclear family financial responsibilities. The more I try to…

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I fear I didn’t have the right attitude before I was baptized

Question: First off, I would like to say, I grew up in a church of Christ. A few years ago, I was struggling with hardcore sin in my life. My brother died that year, and it woke me up quickly. I was partying, drinking, smoking weed, cussing, having sex, and just not living right. I…

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My fiance’s family will never love me

Question: Dear sir, Please, I need your advice. I was dating this young guy, who I thought we would spend much time together for the rest of our lives. Instead, little did I know that he was just playing with me, after some time the communication just started breaking down. It came from nowhere. I…

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Why is more than faith required?

Question: I’m a bit confused about what Jesus is saying about how one gets to heaven. In John 3:16 he says that we just need to believe in God and we will be saved. And that there is no judgment for those who believe in Jesus. Yet, in Mathew 7:21 Jesus says that not everyone…

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Do we need her father’s blessing?

Question: I bring you greetings, Please, sir, I have a pressing question that demands an urgent answer. I proposed to a girl and she accepted after praying about it. We both belong to one group in our church and according to the ethics of the group, every member of the group must attend an interview…

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Is salvation a miracle?

Question: Hello Brother Jeffrey, Is salvation considered a miracle? I ask because the gospel is described as the power of God and in the Strong’s Concordance, the same word is used in some places for miracles. Also, Ephesians 2:1-10, Titus 3:4-7, II Timothy 1:9-10, John 6:44-45, Colossians 2:11-12, II Timothy 2:24-26, Acts 2:48, Philippians 1:3,…

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Is it wrong to love anything man-made or belonging to this world?

Question: Hi, Sorry for the numerous questions I’m about to ask, but they all revolve around the subjects of secular entertainment and materialism so it made sense to me to ask them together. I grew up with a love of playing video games, watching movies, reading comic books, etc. About a year ago I began…

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How do I convert my Hindu girlfriend?

Question: Hello sir, I have this question — it is more like a problem. I started dating this girl, but she’s of a different religion (Hindu). I am a Christian. I like this girl. What should I do? How do I convert her to Christianity? Please respond to me. Answer: Teaching anyone to become a…

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What would you do if your child came out as trans?

Question: I am a transgender woman and I listen to one of your sermons and have explored your site quite a bit, and I am just disturbed. I will be honest I am not a Christian, I am an atheist. I grew up a Southern Baptist, I used to hold Bible studies every morning in…

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Can a man be an elder if his adopted son is unruly?

Question: Hello, I have a question about the children in the qualifications for elders. If a man has a natural-born child and adopts a child, would this be plural children? What if the adopted child is unruly and irreverent and eventually moves away from home? To me, this does not fit the bill for believing children.…

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Who was the King of Tyre in Ezekiel 28?

Question: Who was the King of Tyre in Ezekiel chapter 28? Thank you for maintaining your site it has been most helpful to me. God bless. Answer: The king of Tyre at the time Ezekiel was written was Ithobaal III (sometimes spelled Ethbaal III) who reigned from 591–573 BC. His name connects him with the…

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What if the man I want to marry turns out to be a polygamist?

Question: Good afternoon sir, I’m in a relationship with a guy who comes from a polygamous family I love him and want to marry him but I’m scared of the future. His mother is harsh, and although I’ve been praying about it, I am worried about the future. What if he turns out to be…

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How do you deal with cultures that strongly believe in witchcraft?

Question: Hello sir, I’ve written to your site a few times, and I appreciate it very much. Thank you for trying to always look to the Bible for answers. If you don’t mind, I have another question I could use wisdom on. I am a member of the Lord’s Church, and for the moment I’m…

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Is It a Sin for Married Couples to Split the Bills?

Question: Hello sir, I know you are busy laboring for the Lord so I don’t want to take up too much of your time. I just want to thank you for your years of labor for the Lord and your website which is such a blessing to me as I study God’s word. To get…

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Am I wrong to let small group meetings bother me?

Question: Hi, The congregation where we are members is now having a “small group” meet separately on some Sunday nights while we still have a worship service at the building. It is designed for young families as some way to grow that group. This practice is being pushed by a few but tolerated by almost…

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Is Matthew 19:9 only for Jews?

Question: About the marriage and divorce issue in Matthew 19:9, Jesus was replying to the Jewish people. Does this mean that it does not apply to Christians but only Jews? Answer: You are missing an important implication. When laws were given to people there is an immediate audience and implied general audience. For instance, when…

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If One Verse Was All We Needed

by Terry Wane Benton If one verse said it all, and we needed no more than one verse to be saved, I would choose Ephesians 2:5. “By grace you have been saved.” That way, I wouldn’t have to believe, repent, confess, or be baptized. I would rest my case here and just tell people they have…

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I enjoy your site

Question: Hello, I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your website. It’s a great site for information on the Bible and I use it often. I am a member of what you might call a mainline church of Christ but I admire your stand for the truth and I use you often in searches for…

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How do I repent for buying stolen items?

Question: A few years ago, I bought stolen items from a friend’s friend. It was a mystery box containing a few items from a convention. I don’t know which convention. My friend’s friend wanted to sell me the mystery box with the items for 10 dollars, which I agreed to. Right after I bought the…

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I don’t think I am worthy of getting married

Question: Greetings to my brother in Christ, I am grateful for the many lessons available on your website and have found guidance in many of the points and critical illumination of God’s word. I have been a member of the body of Christ from a young age. The men in my extended family for generations…

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I’m struggling with the ideas of foreknowledge and free will

Question: Thank you for all your articles and answers. They are beneficial. I have recently been struggling very much with the idea of foreknowledge and free will. I have always believed that we have free will and that God can simply use whatever our decisions are to accomplish his will. However, there are a few…

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A breath of fresh air

Question: Dear Brother / Minister / Elder / as you prefer, I found this by accident (providence) during an online search. At 84 to read this site was a breath of fresh air and encouragement. Bible-based practice like this has become a rarity in the UK. How I miss the wonder, encouragement, correction, praise, and…

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Am I really saved if I didn’t understand Jesus’ resurrection?

Question: Lately, I’ve been struggling with wondering how long I’ve been saved. For a while, I think that I might’ve been under the impression that Jesus’ resurrection was just spiritual rather than both physical and spiritual. I don’t really know why I assumed that for a period of time, but I did. I was later…

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If babies are not sinners, then why do some babies die?

Question: Hello, The Bible says for the wages of sin is death. If you claim that babies are not born sinners why do babies die? Thanks Answer: “Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting…

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Am I able to remarry?

Question: Hi, I came across your church page while looking for an answer to a difficult question. I have found many different answers but as a member of the Church of Christ, I wanted to try to get a response that aligned with my religious beliefs. I read through quite a bit of the Q&A…

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How should the adultery of a minister be handled?

Question: My Dear Brother, I would like to express my deep grief because of what’s happening in our local congregation. I am in desperate need of guidance as my heart is so much troubled. We found out that our minister of many years has been hiding a horrible sin of adultery where a child has been…

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