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Why do I feel detached from those I forgive?
Question: Dear Jeff, I have a personal predicament on my hands: I don’t think I’m forgiving enough to the point of mending relationships or maintaining friendships. I mean, I can look at plenty of Bible verses about forgiveness, and I do, but at best it just makes me detach myself away from the person as…
Read MoreNow that my husband has died, can I marry the man I committed adultery with?
Question: I have committed adultery against my husband. He has since died. If I marry the man that I committed adultery with, am I free to marry him? He is single. He knew I was married at the time this happened. Is he an adulterer? If we decide to marry will God recognize and accept…
Read MoreWho is the god of this world?
Question: Who is the god of this world in II Corinthians 4:4? I thought it was Satan, but I was told that it was referring to Christ and was given Isaiah 6:8-13, Matthew 13:12-17, and Acts 28:25-28 as validation for that interpretation. If you could explain in a lay term why those are being taken…
Read MoreI’m really scared of how my body responses to strong emotions
Question: Hello! Thank you for considering a biblical answer to my question! I am a 37-year-old believer in Christ since childhood, mother and wife to my believing husband for over ten years. I have a spiritual conflict that has bothered me from just before my marriage. It has become like an obsessive-compulsive fear or disorder…
Read MoreThis teaching on Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing!
Question: This teaching on the Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing! My husband and I have been married for six years and are going through some challenges sexually. Where can I find more teachings broken down just like this one but on other subjects? Answer: The entire website contains information on a wide variety of topics,…
Read MoreHow do I overcome my attraction to men?
Question: Hi, Not sure if you can help me because I am older than the guys you are helping but any advice you could give would be much appreciated. I am a single, 32-year-old male and have struggled with gay thoughts and urges most of my life. I have never given into these urges and…
Read MoreI decided to be baptized, but I’m not getting married for two years and we’re having sex. Can I ask for forgiveness after we get married?
Question: I have decided I will be getting baptized this Sunday. I have been very conflicted lately because my fiance and I have decided to be intimate, but I know it is a sin before marriage. I keep having these thoughts that if I repent once we are married everything will be okay, but that…
Read MoreShould we visit my grandfather’s church when we are there even though we left that denomination for the true church?
Question: Hi, Okay, we have been in the Lord’s church for less than a year. My husband, our little son and I are going to visit my grandma and my mother for my son’s birthday. We will be there for almost two weeks and one of the days we will be there is a Sunday.…
Read MoreI found some statements on an atheist site that disturb me
Question: Good day, brother! I’ve found from an atheist site these statements. Is God really all-powerful? Omnipotent? Is it true that He can do anything? If this is the case, why has God not already defeated and destroyed Satan? Wouldn’t it have made more sense to conquer Satan before Adam and Eve could be tempted…
Read MoreYour article on Christian liberty was very good
Question: Dear Brother Hamilton, Thank you for your article on “Finding Liberty in Silence.” It was very good. I have been searching for articles and lessons on the topic of Christian liberty because recently I have encountered a few brethren who have commented to me that “we have Christian liberty that allows us to dismiss…
Read MoreWhy are your questions on prostitution so one-sided?
Question: Why are these questions to ask oneself regarding prostitutes so one-sided? Is the soul of a person ignorant of God’s laws any less valuable to God? Who are you to judge who’s ensnaring who? Answer: Let me apply your question to another topic: “Why are these questions about stealing so one-sided? Is the soul of…
Read MoreAm I banned from Heaven because of my fornication?
Question: Hello, I am a strong believer in God and Christ. I try so hard to live a righteous life. I’m only 20. I have had sex before in the past, but now I’m saving myself for marriage because I want to please God. I previously slipped up with someone I was in a relationship…
Read MoreDo I have any hope of being forgiven for my homosexuality?
Question: Hello, I have a question that has my hope chained to a sadness that I desperately want to be free from. I am a repented homosexual. I prayed, from the age of 13, for 30 years, desperately begging God to forgive me, promising that I would “Never let it happen again” Every time I…
Read MoreWhat made you want to preach?
Question: What made you decide to become a preacher? Some people talk about feeling called when they discovered that they wanted to preach, and some people just decide to do it. What made you want to preach? Answer: The decision to preach is one I arrived at when I was 16. It was born out…
Read MoreWhat if God told you to worship on the Sabbath?
Question: Hello, I have a hypothetical question for you. If God himself were to tell you (audibly speaking here) that your view of the Sabbath is incorrect, that it is in fact still valid (the biblical Sabbath of Friday sunset to Saturday sunset), would you take lightly to His decree, or would you humble yourself…
Read MoreDo I have to have my abusive step-father in my life and in my daughter’s life?
Question: Hello, I hope you can give me some good advice. I am a father of a young girl. My mom divorced my stepdad when I was a young teenager. He gave all of us a pretty hard life, my mom, my brothers, and sisters who are his kids. I am the only one who…
Read MoreI am Muslim and want to be a Christian, but I’m afraid my father will kill me
Question: Hello, I am a Muslim from an Islamic country. I want to convert to Christianity, but I will face some problems. I am 17 years old. My father is a leader. If he knows what I’m thinking about, he may kill me. So what should I do? Most of the people in our country…
Read MoreHow do I say no?
Question: I am having this difficulty with saying no sometimes to things like sex, partying, spending money, too much work, overwhelming myself in a way. What is the right way to say N-O to a man I am in love with without hurting his feelings? Answer: “Do not think that I came to bring peace…
Read MoreHow do I explain why I didn’t attend the wedding of my gay cousin?
Question: How do I respond to my sister regarding not attending my cousin’s gay wedding? I have been in the church for nearly twenty years. This past summer, I was invited to my cousins’ wedding. I choose not to attend. Now my cousin and his side of the family are choosing to not participate in…
Read MoreDoes God expect women to stay at home?
Question: Hi Jeff, I wanted to ask you a question about Christian women working. Do you believe the scriptures expect a woman to stay at home? I read Proverbs 31 and II Timothy 5 and they seem almost contradictory in the sense the woman works and sells and profits for her family and in the…
Read MoreI encourage you to remove “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage” from your website
Question: The article by Mark Broyles, “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage,” on your website is spreading a myth – short of being able to mind-control your spouse, there is no way to prevent an affair. One’s partner can do anything they choose to do. I encourage you to remove the article. It’s poor to see shoddy theology…
Read MoreWhat do you think of the Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)?
Question: I would like to know your opinion concerning the HCSB translation as to its accuracy and what was used to arrive at the finished manuscript. I read that the Southern Baptists were instrumental in doing the translation and attempted to buy the NASB as a base translation. I use eSword on my computer and…
Read MoreShould I participate in my parents’ Hindu burial ceremonies?
Question: Dear Sir, I am from Malaysia. I and my whole family accepted Christ as our personal savior. We submitted ourselves to him and in due time we will be having our water baptism by our local church pastor. But my parents have not accepted Christ as they are Hindu. My parent both are quite…
Read MoreWhy don’t I feel God?
Question: Hello, I’m 15 and I have accepted Christ. You see I always say I’m sorry for my sins. But my friend told me that when he repented he could feel God in him like all of him was being hugged like a warm feeling. I don’t understand. Why haven’t I felt that? I always…
Read MoreI just found out my girlfriend lied about being a virgin. I forgave her, but I find it difficult to forget
Question: I am a 22-year-old guy and have been dating a lady for the past two years. Two days ago she notified me that she lost her virginity three years ago. To me, this came as a deep shock in that I had trusted her and had asked her if she had had sex before,…
Read MoreHow long does it take to get over finding out your husband committed adultery?
Question: I could use help. My husband confessed he had a one-night stand while in another country. He told me six months later after he has been back, so it’s been a month now since I’ve known and it’s been horrible. I’m trying but then I have these moments when I want questions to be…
Read MoreIs your definition of tekna consistent?
Question: In light of the position you take with regard to Elders and the number of children they should have, I would like to know your thoughts with regard to the following scriptures. We are in the process of studying deacons and elders at the congregation I attend, and I am trying to further prepare for…
Read MoreWhy did Noah curse Ham’s child just because Ham saw Noah naked?
Question: Hi, I could not understand why Noah issued a curse on Ham just because Ham saw Noah naked in Genesis 9:22-27. Q1. Was there a law of the land regarding seeing someone naked and Ham did not follow it? Q2. What’s wrong with Ham telling his brothers? (If I was the youngest and saw…
Read MoreHave you heard about the World Mission Society Church of God?
Question: Hi Brother Jeff, On my way out of my apartment today, two ladies talked to me about “God our Mother” and pointed to Galatians 4:26 as evidence. I did some research on the belief and found out that they’re most likely from the World Mission Society Church of God. They want to have a…
Read MoreWhy can’t I feel repentance?
Question: Hello, I am in a similar situation as the man who asked you “How do I repent of adultery when I don’t feel sorry for doing it?” After reading your response, I am still confused about what to do. According to you, I feel sorrow but not repentance. I believe God exists, so honestly,…
Read MoreWhy are some churches using “bassing” in their worship?
Question: What is your opinion on one song leader bassing into the microphone (or beatboxing as I call it) while the other lead songs? It seems like a lot of our churches of Christ are starting to feel comfortable with this practice. I thought sing means singing. And if we are all supposed to be singing…
Read MoreCan God accept a couple who committed fornication in the past?
Question: I accepted Christ three years ago, and I was committed to submit to him and to remain pure. After a while, I started flirting with temptation and eventually sinned. My boyfriend was in the same position. We both served God and we both have our own testimonies, but we fell into fornication. At this point, I feel spiritually…
Read MoreCould Gentiles have been saved prior to Cornelius?
Question: In Acts 2, the Lord’s church was established. It’s my understanding that in Acts 10, the Gentiles were officially ushered into the church (with the conversion of Cornelius). My question is: if a Gentile wanted to be saved prior to Acts 10, what was his option? Could a Gentile be baptized and the Lord…
Read MoreAm I Jewish, Hebrew, or Gentile?
Question: Am I Jewish, Hebrew, or a Gentile? My mother was a German Christian. Her grandparents immigrated and were from Germany. What is known is that my father the son of his mother, who was the daughter of her mother, who was the daughter of her father, an Orthodox German Jew. Although I knew great-great-grandmother,…
Read MoreI want to go to a good university, but my reputation as a student is poor
Question: Hello, I want to get into a good university but my reputation in college is terrible. I am sure the teachers will predict low grades for me and all of them do not think of me as a good student. Now I am trying to behave as a Christian should do, but how can I ever…
Read MoreDoes the Ouija board actually work?
Question: Does the Ouija board actually work? Answer: James Randi, a magician and fraud buster, points out that when blindfolded, Ouija board operators are unable to produce intelligible messages [James Randi, An Encyclopedia of Claims, Frauds, and Hoaxes of the Occult and Supernatural]. Magicians Penn and Teller performed a similar demonstration in which the operators moved…
Read MoreDo I have to kick my boyfriend out now that I’ve become a Christian?
Question: I am 21 and I have been in a relationship and living with my boyfriend for seven years. I have recently become a Christian. What are God’s views on sharing a bed together? So far, since becoming Christian, I have stopped any sexual activity with my boyfriend. He isn’t Christian but is willing to…
Read MoreDid those who were killed by the angel know there was a God?
Question: My husband wants to know if the 70,000 killed by a plague by an angel knew there was a God? Answer: You are referring to those who died as a result of David’s sin in numbering the men of war in Israel. “So the LORD sent a plague upon Israel from the morning till…
Read MoreHow long do I pray for a cure for my TMAU?
Question: I clearly understand that Jesus Christ is absolutely under no obligation to heal anyone. He owes us nothing in the way of healing, health, prosperity, or posterity. If Jesus decides to heal anyone, He does so because it’s His will. I remember Paul’s thorn in his flesh. He prayed to God to remove this…
Read MoreIt is clear that masturbation is sinful. Why are you saying it is not?
Question: If you truly search the heart and mind of God and the Scriptures it is clear that masturbation is a sin. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Period. That’s how the Word of God defines it. Go a little deeper, please! Just because the Bible does not mention not to do something does…
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