Posts Tagged ‘virginity’
Does the number of sexual partners make a difference?
Question: Hello, I was wondering about body count, as in multiple sexual partners. There have been recent talks about it, so I might as well ask since it has bothered me a bit. There have been videos and posts of people being proud of their body count, but there have also been several posts and…
Read MoreWhat if a virgin bride did not bleed on her wedding night?
Question: Good evening Jeff, I recently got into a discussion with someone regarding Deuteronomy 22:13-21, specifically verses 15-17. He seems to think that the evidence being talked about here was blood, something I do not disagree with. I told him that I have heard that not every woman bleeds when she has sex for the…
Read MoreYou should have trained counselors to answer questions about abuse
Question: [The original question was left unedited since the author feels qualified to comment on other people’s educational background.] I think the way you handled a question by someone who was abused who asked if they were still a virgin was awful. You need to train or have Christian counsellors answer those questions as no…
Read MoreAm I still a virgin?
Question: Am I still a virgin? Is God disappointed in me? Growing up as a child, I was raped when I was really little. But then Jesus found me when I became a teenager and I love him. I forgave the person who raped me. I even hated boys at some point. Now I’m in…
Read MoreMy wife lied about her virginity. Can I divorce her?
Question: Hello, I have gone through many of your articles and answers, but still, I am doubtful on the exception clause of Matthew 5:31-32. I have a few questions to ask you. It would be better to quote Bible verses so I can go by the word of God. The question is regarding my marriage…
Read MoreHow do I keep my virginity without him cheating on me?
Question: Good evening, I am a new member. Please, I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have a fiance who promised to marry me, He is always asking me to come to his place. Is it advisable? Answer: When I teach young people about sexual matters, I give extra emphasis to the young…
Read MoreThe Case for Virginity
by Alexis Williams I am a virgin for myself. I know that having sex is a choice that is not left up to anyone but me to make. I also know that there is so much pressure to make a decision right away when it comes to having sex, and, oftentimes, people make that decision…
Read MoreWill I be unhappy marrying a girl who is not a virgin?
Question: Dear Sir, I would like to ask a question about what I should do regarding my relationship. I am having difficulty deciding on a solution. Also, please consider our culture and community’s point of view. I have a girlfriend. We are both in our mid-twenties. We have been together for about a month. Before…
Read MoreI’ve become distant once I found out the woman I am dating is not a virgin
Question: I have this lady I love so much, but since the day I heard she is not a virgin any longer, I became disconnected from her in my heart. I’m beginning to think that I too should have sex with someone, so we can be equal. This thought is devilish. I’m not someone who…
Read MoreShould I marry a man who is not a virgin?
Question: Hi, Blessings to you! I’m having a difficult time accepting someone’s past. First I’ll start with that I’m a Christian, not a perfect one, but I do strive to be the godly woman God encourages me to be. As a Christian and follower of Christ, I should never shame someone over their past nor…
Read MoreDid I waste my time saving myself for my wife?
Question: Hi I have an issue that’s been eating me up for a while. I love my wife. She loves me. I don’t want to lose her and I’m sure she feels the same. The problem is about history. We were both virgins before we got married. However, she “did stuff.” She was involved with…
Read MoreAm I the only virgin left?
Question: Hi. I just need someone to talk to. I hope you have time to read this. It’s really confusing. It seems like I’ve been living in a fantasy world and reality is slowly creeping in. I’ve always studied and read the Bible since high school. I read all sorts of Bible study material. I’ve…
Read MoreI’m depressed that my girlfriend isn’t a virgin
Question: Hello, I am 21. I am not very sensitive. I can easily overcome any bad time, but these days something very bad happened to me — actually, I don’t know if it is bad, or if I’m making it worse. Starting with me: I like girls and I always wanted to have a female…
Read MoreYour comments about virginity brought me to tears
Question: I want to thank you for the Q and A on your website. When I read your comment about the topic of virginity it brought me to tears. Thank you so much! Answer: I’m not looking to make people cry, but I’m glad you found the information on the site useful.
Read MoreIf you are no longer a virgin, do you have to abstain from sex before marriage?
Question: As the Bible says sex before marriage is a sin, is it necessary for a person who is no longer a virgin to abstain until she or he gets married? Answer: Sin doesn’t happen just the first time you do it. A person who steals is not a thief just the first time he…
Read MoreI’m interested in a girl, but she is not a virgin
Question: Hi, I saw one of your answers to a guy who had trouble coming to terms with the fact that his girlfriend is not a virgin. The truth is I have the exact same problem only this time she is not my girlfriend yet, but I am a virgin. I met this girl four years…
Read MoreI found out my girlfriend has been lying to me
Question: I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year, and for about the first 10 months she lied to me that she is a virgin. She always told me that those who lose their virginity before marriage are sinners. I started loving her for her thoughts. She is Christian and I…
Read MoreDoes it matter if the man you are dating is a virgin or not?
Question: Good day, sir, Please, I have always wondered if when an individual starts dating if whether the man is a virgin or not is something to look into. Should a female Christian virgin be worried if her partner isn’t a virgin? I know there’s a lot of emphasis on women staying virgins and not…
Read MoreI lied about my virginity to keep my boyfriend. What do I do now?
Question: I have been in a relationship before, but it didn’t end well. My heart was broken from that moment. I felt miserable. But this nice Christian guy came into my life. He is very nice and he takes me to church. I started to know more and more about God. God healed all the…
Read MoreIf I marry a woman who is not a virgin, will I be guilty of adultery?
Question: I am a 26-year-old Christian who is in desperate need of some advice and biblical understanding. I am currently dating a lady I have been seeing now for over a year. I really love her and would like to marry her. She is also a Christian and a very beautiful woman inside and out.…
Read MoreI regret that I didn’t marry a virgin
Question: I accidentally came across your website and labored in mind whether I should seek some sort of “final” counsel. I don’t know where to start, so please forgive me as I resort to simple point form. When I was 17, I met a lovely girl my age and we dated for some time. Both…
Read MoreI’ve had oral sex with several girls, but I’m thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend because she is not a virgin
Question: My girlfriend is not a virgin. I’m a virgin but had oral sex with eight girls. Should I leave her? I need a Christian point of view on this unique situation. My girlfriend is 18 and I am 17. She repented and regretted having intercourse with her ex-boyfriend and wants to wait until marriage.…
Read MoreI really regret not being a virgin anymore
Question: I found your site a few weeks ago and quite frankly I wish I had come upon it sooner, especially regarding sexual purity. I was 18 when I “invited Jesus into my heart.” However, I was filled with lust, having no regard for fleeing sexual immorality. I didn’t seek to understand why God forbade…
Read MoreWhy were the sexual laws not applied equally between men and women in the Old Testament?
Question: Why was purity asked more of women than men in the Old Testament? A woman who slept with a man before marriage was stoned, but a man who slept with an unmarried woman was not and instead had to marry her! Also, there had to be proof of a woman’s virginity but not of…
Read MoreI just found out my girlfriend lied about being a virgin. I forgave her, but I find it difficult to forget
Question: I am a 22-year-old guy and have been dating a lady for the past two years. Two days ago she notified me that she lost her virginity three years ago. To me, this came as a deep shock in that I had trusted her and had asked her if she had had sex before,…
Read MoreI can’t accept that my girlfriend is not a virgin. What can I do?
Question: I can’t accept my girlfriend because she isn’t a virgin. I know her past because she told me everything. I have also done sexual things. it is not fair that I can’t accept her. I am also addicted to pornography. I have tried so much to get out. Each time I fall I get…
Read MoreI can’t get past the fact that my boyfriend is not a virgin
Question: Hello! Thank you so much for your website. It has helped a lot. However, I wanted to ask if you had any advice for a woman who has saved herself for marriage and is courting a man who hasn’t. I have found it extremely difficult to accept his past. I feel like he will…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend about being a virgin and it has been bothering me. What do I do?
Question: I have something that’s been bothering me lately, and I have to get it out somewhere. I started dating this girl four years ago for two years. While we were dating we were completely in love and agreed that we wouldn’t have sex until marriage. After we broke up my loneliness pressured me into…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My girlfriend told me she’s not a virgin and doesn’t regret it.
Question: Hi. First of all, I would like to say this website rocks and it’s the best thing ever. The advice you give comes from your heart and I like it, but it also comes from the Bible and that’s just amazing how you use the scriptures to help us. May God bless you. OK,…
Read MoreI planned on marrying a virgin, but just before I proposed, I found out she had sex once before. Now I don’t know what to do
Question: The primary gist of this email is to simply thank you for your website. I stumbled upon it via Google queries. Ironically I myself attend a church of Christ. My Google searches centered around a whirlwind of emotion and biblical questions which I ran into recently. A while ago my mother was talking with…
Read MoreI lost my virginity to a prostitute and now I’m scared
Question: I just recently had sex with a prostitute. I was a virgin, it was late at night, and I gave in. I am deeply afraid of my salvation status. I am trying to follow God, but this sin is a big one, especially with the verses in Proverbs of this sin leading to death…
Read MoreI lost my virginity yesterday. What do I do?
Question: Hello sir, I am 22 years old and in college. I am having a certain relationship with a lady on campus. I used to love her but not anymore. Yesterday, I lost my virginity to her, and I feel so ashamed. I know in I Corinthians 6 that if I confess, God will forgive…
Read MoreHow do I forget that my fiancee had sex with her former boyfriend?
Question: First of all, I want to thank God and ask Him to bless you for taking the time to advise everyone who came looking for answers. I need help forgetting and forgiving her past. I have tried really hard. I’m a fellow believer and I’ve been dealing with a big dilemma in my life…
Read MoreAm I still a virgin after giving oral sex?
Question: I had oral sex twice, but both times it wasn’t sexual at all. My intention wasn’t to please him. I panicked and did it. And being that I was sexually abused a lot of things cause me to panic, but I should have never put myself in that situation knowing I was weak. Am…
Read MoreWhat Keeps a Man Sexually Pure?
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton I ran across several interesting studies the other day dealing with the factors that lead teenage boys to engage in sex prior to marriage. One study is titled “The Transition of Adolescent Males to First Sexual Intercourse: Anticipated or Delayed?” The reason for the title is that the surveyed youths were divided into…
Read MoreHow can a girl get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin?
Question: How can a virgin get over the disappointment that her boyfriend isn’t a virgin? I am a female in her mid-twenties and a virgin. A childhood friend of mine moved back to the city we grew up in, and we became friends again, attending church and Bible study together. Over several months we became…
Read MoreI lied to my girlfriend, telling her I was a virgin when I am not. What should I do?
Question: My girlfriend and I recently talked a bit about our past relationships, and the subject of being virgins slowly came up. Although I have tried my best to live a good Christian life, there came a point where under pressure I lost my virginity. It only occurred once and never again afterward. I realized…
Read MoreDoes fornication not include sex between two virgins?
Question: I have read a lot of your articles that deal with sex and fornication. In my mind, I agree that sex does not create a marriage. However, it seems my heart believes that sex does create marriage. I have deep feelings my marriage is an adulterous relationship because neither I nor my wife were…
Read MoreWhat happens if you already lost your virginity? Where do you fit in? Will you always be second-class?
Question: Hello, I have been reading around your site for a bit and I wanted to ask a question. My question is about pre-marital sex. I know and I understand that it is wrong and shouldn’t be done. But the thing is, I had oral sex just once. I know oral sex is wrong and…
Read MoreWhen should I tell my girlfriend that I’m not a virgin?
Question: Hello. I have been looking over your site and have been blessed by it very much. I was looking for a question but couldn’t find it, so I thought I would ask myself. I know that going into details about my sinful past with my current girlfriend isn’t necessary, but I do feel I…
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