Posts Tagged ‘sex’
Addiction
by William C. Sexton The word addiction is one we usually associate with drugs. An “addict” is defined as “one who has a confirmed habit, as the overuse of drugs…” (Webster’s). If we look, however, we can see that one can be addicted to almost anything; that is, to have a “confirmed habit.” I suggest…
Read MoreWhy do women so often say they are not interested in sex?
Question: Just recently I started recognizing in our communities statements about sex that are weird, and they come out from women. When the issue of sex comes up, the wives response would be something like “don’t dream of it tonight (though it might sound sarcastic, yet they manage to say it out)” or “this is…
Read MoreWill there be sex in heaven?
Question: My friend and I were up late recently. We like to have conversations on spiritual matters or currents debates. We started talking about what we imagine Heaven to be like. He mentioned there would be sex in heaven. I was so surprised. I asked him if he really thought there to be sex in…
Read MoreWhy were the sexual laws not applied equally between men and women in the Old Testament?
Question: Why was purity asked more of women than men in the Old Testament? A woman who slept with a man before marriage was stoned, but a man who slept with an unmarried woman was not and instead had to marry her! Also, there had to be proof of a woman’s virginity but not of…
Read MoreIs it wrong to talk about sexual things before we are married?
Question: My girlfriend and I have had a long-distance relationship for a while we really love each other. With God’s help and guidance, we plan on getting married in the future. But we occasionally like to talk about kissing and other related activities. We were feeling confident with each other and we even talked about…
Read MoreYou shouldn’t be discussing sex on a church’s website
Question: To whom it may concern: I recently searched for information regarding elders and your site came up on my search. I am very disturbed to know that there is an evangelist who seems to think it is OK to publish very explicit material regarding sexual subjects that way you are. I am sure this…
Read MoreI’m really scared of how my body responses to strong emotions
Question: Hello! Thank you for considering a biblical answer to my question! I am a 37-year-old believer in Christ since childhood, mother and wife to my believing husband for over ten years. I have a spiritual conflict that has bothered me from just before my marriage. It has become like an obsessive-compulsive fear or disorder…
Read MoreThis teaching on Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing!
Question: This teaching on the Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing! My husband and I have been married for six years and are going through some challenges sexually. Where can I find more teachings broken down just like this one but on other subjects? Answer: The entire website contains information on a wide variety of topics,…
Read MoreDoctors Push for Teenage Girls to Use Birth Control Devices
Source: Lindsey Tanner, “Teenage Girls Should Get IUDs or Hormonal Implants for Birth Control, Says American College of OBGYNs,” CNSNews.com, 20 September 2012 Logic has not been the strong point among liberal policymakers for decades. It seems that whenever it is found that people are ignoring moral common sense, the outcry is for society to give…
Read MoreMy husband has stopped having sex or being affectionate with me. What do I do?
Question: Good evening. My husband and I are in the Lord’s church but are suffering and I just don’t know what to do. He has a very strong addiction to his electronics, his cell phone, Xbox, and iPad. He spends all day every day on them for years now watching every sport known to man…
Read MoreI was sexually abused as a child and now the idea of sex with a man scares me. What do I do?
Question: Hi, I first want to say that I think it is awesome that you guys are answering questions like this. Anyway, I kind of have two questions and they require a little bit of back story. When I was about 8, I was involved in this group that we called truth or dare. In…
Read MoreWe never had sex in our marriage and I’m about to call it quits
Question: I need some advice. My husband and I have been married for three years. We have not had sex within our marriage. I am angry. I beg for him to love me but he won’t. He will find time to do everything under the sun but to make time for us in that way.…
Read MoreAre Bondage/Discipline/Sadism/Masochism practices moral?
Question: My query pertains to the practice of “Bondage and Discipline”, “Dominance and Submission”, “Sadism and Masochism”, which collectively make up the acronym “BDSM”. Specifically, I am curious whether or not the Bible has anything to say on the morality of “Master/Slave (Dominant/Submissive)” relationships? Quite frequently, elements of pain are involved in these types of…
Read MoreDue to circumstances we never had sex after our wedding. Does this mean we are not married?
Question: After our wedding ceremony, we did not have had a chance to have sexual intercourse during our honeymoon due to some circumstances that could not be avoided. Also, we only had less than a week to be together during our honeymoon because he needed to go back home right away to his country because…
Read MoreWhat are all the types of sexual sins?
Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…
Read MoreWhy do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website?
Question: Why do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website? It is very inappropriate and perhaps you are forgetting the Bible verse that states there are certain things you shall not discuss in public because they are so shameful. Answer: “For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor…
Read MoreIs sex sinful when you are separated?
Question: I’ve looked over all the answers in the divorce section and haven’t been able to find an answer to my question. My husband and I are currently separated because he is going through a midlife crisis of sorts. He is unhappy and unfulfilled and is searching for something to fill his void. I believe…
Read MoreCan someone there talk to my son?
Question: I am a single mom with a 14-year-old son who is starting to become curious about sex. I caught him masturbating, which was awkward for both of us, to say the least. I decided this was a perfect opportunity to have “the talk” with him, but he doesn’t want to talk with mom about…
Read MoreCounterfeit Sexuality: Sexuality as Reduced to Animal Impulse
by Ethan R. Longhenry Few topics prove as sensitive and yet as controversial as sexuality. The topic generates a lot of interest; sadly, few conversations regarding sexuality prove very profitable. Most people understand their sexuality according to the terms of their culture and the world; few challenge the perspective and the narrative they are told regarding…
Read MoreShould sex be expected when you are separated?
Question: Hi, and God bless you. Over two years ago my husband cheated and committed adultery with a married woman. After I found out, he was very mean about it and repeatedly humiliated me by saying that he loved her, and he never loved me. That all he wanted was to be with her. We…
Read MoreThe article “Waiting for the Proper Time” was excellent
Question: I was preparing a Sunday school lesson for teen girls, here in India, about relationships and came across your page, Waiting for the Proper Time. It’s excellent. Just what I needed. Thanks a lot. Answer: You’re welcome.
Read MoreWhat do you think about a Christian having a party where sex toys are being sold?
Question: I am a believer who was searching the Web for information on something that, frankly, was a shock to me. I will try to express my thoughts clearly, but I tend to jump around a bit. I attend a church near my home and feel God has drawn me to this specific church. Yesterday…
Read MoreWhat is the consequence of going without sex after being experienced at it?
Question: I am a student at university. My question is like this: if I can spend a long time without doing sex while I was experienced before, what is the consequence? Answer: You make it sound as if sex was a can of soda — once you pop it open, you can’t reseal it. It is…
Read MoreIs a marriage only bound after sex?
Question: I had a question I was hoping you could help me with. Often the debate is focused on the major problem area when it comes to the marriage, divorce, and remarriage debate, which is the divorce and remarriage. But there doesn’t seem to be a large pool of information on the marriage side. What…
Read MoreCan sexual instructional videos be viewed to learn better techniques in a marriage?
Question: Is it possible to view sexual instructional videos with the true intent of learning techniques to increase intimacy with one’s wife, without falling prey to lust? I know that many men fall into addiction to this type of content, but if the intent is positive, can this be done? Answer: First, we must establish…
Read MoreCan I divorce my husband because he refuses to be intimate with me?
Question: I am quite torn as to what to do. My first husband and I divorced because he was very abusive and repeatedly unfaithful. My second marriage is proving to be a nightmare as well. He is cold, cruel, and emotionally abusive. He has not slept in the same bed with me in two years…
Read MoreWe need encouragement to stay sexually pure
Question: My society frowns at early marriage and yet pretends not to notice the prevalence of premarital sex. I am 29, with a fiancee, and a Christian. I know the pressure, but God has been helpful. If I am allowed, I will marry, but we have to wait. Please, we need encouragement to stay sexually…
Read MoreWaiting for sex is difficult, but your web page got me to hold on to my purity
Question: Hi! I just read Waiting for the Proper Time and I think it is wonderful information. I try my best to stay pure and have been in a relationship for almost a year now. I love him and he loves me, and I do want sex, but I will refrain because I know when we…
Read MoreMy husband and I live apart. Should I still have sex with him?
Question: Hello, I am concern about what can happen to me spiritually if I have sex with my husband who has committed adultery a number of times. He was once a Christian sold out for God and then, over time, he started not to care about being in right-standing with God as he should. We…
Read MoreYour answers to guys’ questions about things related to sex helped me as well
Question: I recently came across your website when googling issues about sex. The page that opened went to one in which you addressed various questions asked by boys and men. In as much as the information was directed at them, it helped me, too. Being human, we suffer or encounter similar challenges. I could identify with…
Read MoreIs it wrong to fantasize about my wife when she refuses to have sex with me?
Question: Is it wrong to fantasize about my wife? My wife and has refused to have sex with me for over five years now. She considers me a best friend and the father of our children but not much else. She is not a Christian, so she has no concern for what the scriptures teach…
Read MoreIs the use of sex toys sinful?
Question: Are sexual toys, or other things to excite sex, sinful? For example, if a woman isn’t being pleased by her spouse, could she use sex toys to provide her the pleasure she desires (and vice versa for the husband)? What about sex toys being used by singles? Answer: I can’t think of any passage…
Read MoreShould married couples abstain from sex before partaking of the Lord’s Supper?
Question: Can married couples have sexual intercourse before Lord’s Supper? Answer: Upon what passage do you base this conclusion? What I suspect has happened is that someone is trying to blend Old Testament laws with the Law of Christ. The Law of Moses had requirements about not being unclean when approaching God in worship. Those…
Read MorePeople don’t want to hear about sex from a religious point of view, do they?
Question: I am sorry to say that I, personally, disagree with many of your teachings. I am not here to argue with you; I just feel that some of the things you are saying to children seem terrifying. Mostly I refer to your words about sexual relations. I am not a particularly religious person and that…
Read MoreCan I have sex with my ex-husband before our reconciliation?
Question: My husband divorced me, but not for biblical reasons. We are working on restoration. Neither of us has had an adulterous relationship. My question is can we have a sexual relationship before remarrying each other through the court? Answer: “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is…
Read MoreHow can I help my boyfriend with his sexual desires?
Question: I’m 25 years old and a Christian. I am in my first relationship as a Christian. My boyfriend is a backslider. We had sex once. I know it was wrong. I repented and I believe God has forgiven me. I am not going to do it again until we are married. I have downloaded…
Read MoreDoesn’t sex create a marriage?
Question: Hello, it’s me, the same girl who had sent you a message before asking about sex without marriage. I know God’s laws, and I know he made them in order to keep us safe and happy. The thing is, the person and I have already done it, we’ve had sex. Now Jesus said that when…
Read MoreYour web site helped my wife understand that sex is clean for married couples
Question: I would like you to know that your web site helped my wife very much today in understanding sex is clean for married couples and that sex is good because of Him! Thank you so much. Please pray for us. My wife is a very private person who is dealing with a lot of…
Read MoreCan a married couple talk dirty during sex?
Question: Hi, I have read through a lot of your Answered Questions and wanted to throw one out at you. Do you think it’s improper for a married Christian couple to “talk dirty” during sex, using words and language they would ordinarily not use in daily conversation? (If no one else is around and the…
Read MoreWhat does the Bible say about infertility?
Question: I am a Christian and want to know what verse should I read to encourage me about infertility. Answer: The inability to have children has long been a problem for couples. The first mention of barrenness was with Sarah, Abraham’s wife (Genesis 11:30). In their case, it was a situation God left unchanged until…
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