Posts Tagged ‘sex’
What does the Nazarene church mean by “properly expressed” in regards to sexual intimacy?
Question: Regarding sexual intimacy between a married couple, what does the Nazarene church mean by the phrase, “properly expressed?” “…We stand firmly on the belief that the biblical concept of marriage, always between one man and one woman in a committed, lifelong relationship, is the only relationship within which the gift of sexual intimacy is…
Read MoreWhat are the differences between Catholicism and Christianity in regards to sex, abortion, and stuff?
Question: Ok. The thing is, I was baptized Roman Catholic. The information on the Internet is kind of confusing on the views of sex, abortion, and stuff. Is there any difference in these topics between Christianity and Catholicism? Answer: There are differences between what the Roman Catholic church teaches and what you find in the…
Read MoreI have a desire for sex and a fear of it at the same time. How do I handle it?
Question: I am a man 29 years of age. I was brought up in a very religious Christian family, and sexual relations were highly abhorred as a taboo. I grew up with this mentality and don’t know how to even relate to the opposite sex. Now, age (in terms of marriage) is telling on me.…
Read MoreThe Problem of Private Lust
by Connie Adams Lust has gone public in America. No subject is too delicate for a television or movie script. Pornography is big business. Absolutely nothing is left to the imagination. Yet, this business would utterly fail were it not for the fact that it feeds the private yearnings of corrupted hearts. It is from…
Read MoreWould masturbation be unacceptable between a husband and wife as a part of sexual intercourse?
Question: Hi, My husband and I have been married for a year now and really love God. I just wanted to find out what type of sex is acceptable in a marriage? Would masturbation be unacceptable in God’s eyes even if it was done during sexual intercourse? Hope to hear from you soon! I want…
Read MoreMarriage’s Glue
by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Glue is amazing stuff. You can take something that is broken or doesn’t hold tightly together and spread some of this liquid in the cracks. Sometime later the glue dries and what was broken is now held together, often more strongly than it was held before. So if glue is so…
Read MoreI’m teaching a group of 13-17 year girls and would like to address decision making, relationships, and sex. Do you have any suggestions?
Question: Hey! I’ve been put in charge of taking the girls’ night at a youth group and I am doing it on decision making, relationships, sex, etc. I would love it if you could give me some tips on what to say to them about it. Their ages are between 13 and 17. I was…
Read MoreI already made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex, but your article made it seem even more sensible to wait
Question: Thanks for writing the article on waiting: “Waiting for the Proper Time.” I’m 18 and I’ve already made the decision to wait to have sex before marriage, but this article provided encouragement and also made it seem more sensible to wait. People at college are asking me why I’m waiting, and now I can…
Read MoreIs it proper to talk about the details of sex with your intended before marriage?
Question: Hey, I have a quick question for you. I want to know your view on this. OK, well, you know how it is when you have a girlfriend and you have temptations from sexual desires. I love her so much and everything. I want to express my love for her. We talk about marriage…
Read MoreIs masturbation sinful or not?
Question: First of all, I would like to say that I really found your site a wealth of information on all subjects biblical — which I hold very dearly. I want to love God and obey his commands, but I have a problem with the subject of masturbation. It’s not that I want to lust…
Read MoreIs rough sex a bad thing?
Question: Is rough sex a bad thing? If so, why? Answer: Much is going to depend on how rough you think rough is. There have been numerous trials where someone was badly injured or even killed and the defendant claimed “We were just having rough sex. She liked it that way.” The flaw in that…
Read MoreHow could a good God allow sex to exist in the world?
Question: How could a good God allow sex to exist in the world? Answer: Your question implies that “sex” is oppositional to “good.” Just because man has found ways to corrupt the use of sex does not imply that sex is without a righteous purpose. See “Why is sex a sin?” for an earlier response…
Read MoreWhere are we headed?
Question: I have been reading your web site for some time. I have lots of questions but I will try to limit them to one subject: human reproduction. Every four years abortion is a huge subject, then after the election, it is soon forgotten. There is disagreement about using discarded “test tube” babies for stem…
Read MoreMy husband supposedly stopped viewing pornography, but he has stopped sleeping with me. How can I trust him?
Question: My husband used porn. He says he quit over a year ago but still can’t, or won’t, have sex with me or even try. We averaged sex two or three times a month for the first couple of years of marriage; then it dwindled to once or twice a year. We’ll be celebrating our…
Read MoreThe idea that a husband cannot rape his wife is a gross misrepresentation of what the Bible says
Question: In the chapter on Rape in your Growing Up in the Lord: A Study for Teenage Girls you stated: “Recently, some women have tried to redefine rape as any time a woman has sex and the woman did not want it at that time. This is an inaccurate definition by God’s standard. In a marriage, a woman is…
Read MoreIs it a sin to have sex with my ex-husband?
Question: Is it a sin if you are having intercourse with your ex-husband? The reason for divorce is adultery. He has a girlfriend but denies it. He is a born again Christian. I still love him but he never speaks about making up, we only have intercourse. Is this biblically wrong? Answer: “Marriage is honorable…
Read MoreIs mixing Scriptures with lectures about sex ridiculous?
Question: Christians mixing Scripture with lectures to young boys about sex is so ridiculous. You people are backward. Nobody today holds the superstitious beliefs written down by people 2500 years ago and is what you call today as “holy scripture”. There is no personal god and there is no devil. It’s all in your mind. Grow…
Read MoreShould you bleed more after sex?
Question: I just had sex with my boyfriend and I’m having my period, but afterward, it seemed like I bled a lot. Does this mean that he popped my cherry or is it standard? Answer: What it means is that you have sinned and placed your soul in jeopardy. By your own statement you had…
Read MoreAm I being selfish asking my wife for sex after having an emotional affair with another woman?
Question: Last year I became involved in an emotional affair with my ex-girlfriend. During that time I was very hurtful to my wife. The affair ended, I came to my senses and am in counseling right now. I know that I caused a lot of damage to our marriage and because of this, my wife…
Read MoreMust a man and woman face each other during sex?
Question: What does the Bible say about the man and woman facing each other during sex? Answer: To be sure we are on the same page, the Bible specifies that sex is to be limited to a husband and wife. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will…
Read MoreIs having sex while a woman is having her period a sin?
Question: Is having sex with a woman while she is having her period (menstrual cycle) a sin in the Bible? I know it is mention somewhere in the Old Testament that it is a sin. What does the New Testament say? Answer: Under the Old Testament, the Israelites were told the following: “If a woman…
Read MoreCan a man divorce his wife for not having sex with him?
Question: If a woman denies sex to her husband, is this unlawful sex and, therefore, fornication? If a twenty-year-old wife refuses to have sex with her twenty-one-year-old husband, does he have any grounds to divorce? Answer: As stated in a prior answer, when a person wants to do something, such as divorce their spouse in order…
Read MoreHow do we handle sexual intimacy when my husband has diabetes?
Question: My husband and I have been married for 43 years and I am thankful I love him with all my heart. We have a problem in our marriage we can’t be together sexually. My husband is a diabetic and has a problem with erectile dysfunction it really discourages him makes him feel less than…
Read MoreYour site has helped me understand God’s intention for sex
Question: Thank you for your site. It helped me understand what God intended me to fulfill in my life when it comes to sex. I have found many sites that have twisted God’s words about the boundaries of sex. I’m very happy I found your site because I was getting very mixed up with what…
Read MoreMy sexual relationship with my husband is awful, how do I fix the problem?
Question: My husband and I have been married for 7 years. I am 30 years old, my husband is 28, and we have no children. We lived together the first 2 years, then apart for the next 2 due to his military service. After he left the military, we were back living together for 2…
Read MoreCan you get pregnant from pre-nut?
Question: Can you plan to get pregnant off of pre-nut? When my boyfriend and I have sex, he pulls it out then puts it back in without wiping. He just found out that you could get pregnant off of it, so he`s telling me that I should have been pregnant because of how many times…
Read MoreA thank you for publishing material on sexual purity
Question: I just wanted to take the time to cheer on your mission! I am a young woman going into my first year of college. I come from a religious family that believes in being pure until marriage. I just wanted to commend your church for putting this out on the internet, so young men…
Read MoreI have a bend in my penis. Will that interfere with sex?
Question: Sir, I just want to know if it is advisable to wear loose clothing or even no underwear while sleeping at night? The thing is I have just noticed my penis is bending at an angle now (I haven’t measured the bend) and I have a scar on the underside of my penis. Is the…
Read MoreHow long should my wife wait after we have sex before moving if we are trying to have a child?
Question: My wife and I are starting the “let’s get pregnant phase”. She went to the doctor and everything looks good to go. My question is when we are done having sex, after I ejaculate into her, how long does she have to wait until she can get up, move around, and clean up? I…
Read MoreDoes a marriage begin when it is consummated?
Question: I have a friend who claims that only virgins can get married. If a couple is were not virgins at the time of their marriage, he says it is not a legitimate marriage and they must separate. His reasoning is that a marriage begins when a man and woman have sex. Therefore, the first…
Read MoreIs sex on the Sabbath a sin?
Question: Is sex on the Sabbath a sin? Answer: The Sabbath was the day of worship for the Israelites living under the Old Covenant. A part of the requirements for observing the Sabbath was the avoidance of work. “Observe the Sabbath day, to keep it holy, as the LORD your God commanded you. Six days…
Read MoreCan I divorce my wife because she sees sex, even in marriage, as sinful?
Question: I have been married for over 30 years. My wife has a sexual dysfunction and is not freely willing to have sex. We have not had sex in a year. However, she masturbates alone regularly. It is a chore to her to have marital sex and it is something she does rarely, and when…
Read MoreMy wife has lost interest in sex. What do I do?
Question: My wife and I have been married for less than five years, I am nearly 40, she is 35. This is our first marriage for both of us. We have three children under the age of five. My wife is reluctant to have any sex with me. While pregnant and for the first 6…
Read MoreIs oral sex between a married couple a sin?
Question: Is oral sex between a married man and woman a sin and if so where can it be found in the Bible? Answer: The act of sex is to be restricted to married couples. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). Such acts…
Read MoreShould I continue talking to a co-worker who only wants to talk about sex?
Question: People say I’m crazy when I say to them that married men should not think about the opposite sex other than their wives. As a single person, I can think of a person who is single like me, not in an unclean way of course, but a person who has husband and wife should be content…
Read MoreIs oral sex before marriage ok?
Question: Is oral sex before marriage ok? Answer: When people want to justify a behavior that deep down inside themselves they know they shouldn’t do, they will redefine terms that cast their actions into a better light. I’ve noticed in recent years that people, young people especially, are making the definition of sex more specific…
Read MoreMy wife no longer has a desire for sex. What do I do?
Question: My wife has an illness that has effectively killed her desire for intercourse. I’m certainly not going to force her to do something that does not feel right for her. However, I am at my wit’s end. I still have desires for intercourse and I don’t have any outlets right now for it except…
Read MoreHow do I prepare my nine-year-old daughter for puberty?
Question: I have a young 9-year-old girl and I’m trying to learn more about how to handle her upcoming puberty. It’s going to be hard for her to learn how to handle her young sexual desires. I have no idea what it’s like for girls. I’ll have to lean on my wife quite a bit.…
Read MoreWhat happens spiritually when a husband and wife have a sexual relationship?
Question: What happens spiritually when a husband and wife have a sexual relationship? Answer: When marriage was first instituted, we read, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The phrase “become one flesh” includes the idea of sexual union,…
Read MoreHow do I get girls to have sex with me?
Question: How do I get girls to have sex with me? Answer: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they…
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