Posts Tagged ‘sex’
Thank you for your posts regarding sex within a Christian marriage
Question: I just wanted to message you and thank you for the posts on your website. I had questions concerning intercourse in Christian marriage and was grateful to read your biblical perspective. Thank you again, and God richly bless you and the ministry, Answer: You’re welcome.
Read MoreI suggested a plan for overcoming sexual sin, but my girlfriend wants to take a break
Question: Hey, My girlfriend and I have been struggling with sexual sin. We’ve been praying for God to help us. I suggested a plan for us to get better: We should both ask God and each other for forgiveness individually. Read Psalm 38 together, thinking about each verse and writing down our thoughts. List all…
Read MoreCan you explain I Corinthians 6:16-17?
Question: Good day I have a question and would like some advice. A bit of background leading to the question: I was a fake Christian, committed fornication, and knew it displeased God, but I didn’t really know Christ at the time. But someone came and preached repentance. I decided to believe in Christ, give my…
Read MoreThe Direction of Your Life
The Direction of Your Life – Part 1The Direction of Your Life by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Matthew 6:19-24 I. Whenever I taught someone to drive, I was reminded that people have a tendency to go in the direction they are looking. A. When a person first learns to drive, they tend to look at things…
Read MoreMy wife refuses to be intimate with me
Question: I have been married for almost 15 years. I love her to the end of the world. She is going through menopause and it’s been two years since entering her. We have had years of good sex that didn’t involve intercourse but all of a sudden she said it’s a sin and I am frustrated.…
Read MoreSex, Preachers, and the Church
“The Bible does not hide from or obscure the power of the temptation to illicit sex. In language that is refreshingly clear and direct without itself indulging in titillation, the text warns the reader of the debacle that awaits him should he succumb in this area and at the same time promises profound sexual joy…
Read MoreWill we experience romantic love in heaven?
Question: If a person dies before getting to marry and experience sex and romantic love, will they experience that in heaven or the new earth? Will romantic love be done away with forever after death? I really enjoy that aspect of life and don’t want it to disappear forever. Forever seems like a long time…
Read MoreDoes impotency mean a person is not really married?
Question: I have been noticing that La Vista Church of Christ is one of the few congregations that tackle this sensitive issue. My question is in the case of the unconsummated marriage, does this indicate a de facto crisis within the marriage or is the marriage act incidental, solely the business of the husband and…
Read MoreIs there a proper way for Christians to have sex?
Question: Is there a proper way for Christians to have sex? Answer: The proper place for sex is within a marriage. “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). The proper ways to have sex are those…
Read MoreCould a husband demand sex too often?
Question: A woman has come to my wife asking if certain aspects of her marriage are normal. She was born and raised in the church. Her husband joined about five years ago. He has been using I Corinthians 7:3-5 to force her to have sex every night, regardless of how she feels. She has no…
Read MoreWhat does “uncover the nakedness” mean?
Question: In Leviticus 18:6-19, the phrase “uncover the nakedness” is used repeatedly. What is meant by this phrase? Answer: There are three sets of words in the Hebrew that are translated as naked or nakedness. The Hebrew adjective ‘arom refers to being without clothing. It can mean without any clothes or being inadequately clothed (Job 22:6).…
Read MoreThank you for dealing with issues regarding sexuality
Question: I appreciate the wisdom God has given you to have such a wonderful site where relationship issues, especially those regarding sex, is discussed. I have gained a lot of knowledge and I am very much blessed. Thank you sir. Answer: I’m glad that the information posted on this site is useful in your growth…
Read MoreMy husband wasn’t honest with me before our marriage
Question: I married and discovered my husband was unable to perform his marital duties. He knew but did not disclose it. Further, he said he had a job but was laid off months prior. I made every attempt to live by the law. When I discovered he still wasn’t working, had emptied the 401k, and…
Read MoreNotes on Sex
Fornication (Greek: porneia): Porneia, typically translated as fornication, sexual immorality, or sometimes just immorality is defined as follows: “Porneia, which is relatively rare in classical Greek (Moulton-Milligan), originally stood for “prostitution” … In other, later contexts it denotes “unchasity, illicit sexual relations” of any kind (“fornication” is a somewhat archaic but common translation).” [The Complete Biblical…
Read MoreYour class on Song of Solomon was one of the most awkward and painful classes I attended, and I really appreciate it years later
Question: Your work constantly impresses me. As a foster parent, I have discovered that there is a large group of brethren that dislike the nitty-gritty situations that come with helping people who are still of the world. It is sort of the “How can you eat with tax collectors and sinners” perspective. We have introduced…
Read MoreSometimes I feel like I’m the only person struggling with strong sexual temptations
Question: Hey Jeffrey, I see in the Scriptures that spiritual battles are spoken of, especially by Paul. What are spiritual battles? Would it constitute a strong temptation Satan places to go back to an old sinful habit? I feel sometimes that my strong temptations toward sexual things and lust make me an impure person, who…
Read MoreYour answer was a law school-quality dialogue
Question: I came across this exchange, Is marriage only bound after sex?, while researching the topic for personal reasons, and I had to thank somebody for publishing such a concise and information-dense exchange between these two. It really gave me the information I needed to work some things out. This was a Law-School-Quality dialogue. Answer: Thank…
Read MoreWhat exactly is sodomy?
Question: What exactly is sodomy? My understanding is that it is oral sex with either the same sex or between man and wife, but I have had many arguments with other people who say oral sex is OK between married people. This is such an embarrassing topic, but I really want to hear your opinion.…
Read MoreMy wife is no longer able to have sex. What is a Christian man to do?
Question: I appreciate the views you’ve expressed and have had questions about masturbation for a long time. My wife and I are in our seventies. For many years we had a good sexual relationship, except I wanted it a lot more often than she did. But sex was good and I recall often the special…
Read MoreIs it a sin to have sex via Skype with your wife?
Question: Hi, Is it a sin to have sex via Skype with your wife when you live far from each other? Answer: Technically, sex isn’t taking place since the two of you are not together. What is taking place is that each is masturbating while watching and talking to the other person. Since this is…
Read MoreDoes premarital sex make you married or cursed?
Question: I know you are super busy all the time, but if you get a chance sometime, could you help untangle my spiritual thoughts? I am asking for help regarding two theologies out there concerning marriage: One theology is that the first person you have sex with you are married to and any after that…
Read MoreReally informative stuff
Question: Wow! Really informative stuff in “Why is sex a sin?” You’ve addressed all the questions that always bothered me. Thank you so much. I also like the point you made that “sex before marriage is a sin because God said so.” It’s absolutely true that whatever He instructs us to do will benefit us…
Read MoreWhy did God say the woman’s desire would be for her husband when men seem to have the stronger sexual desire for the woman?
Question: One thing I have never understood is that God told Eve, the woman, that her desire would be for her husband, Adam, the man. Yet, it is a man’s desire for a woman — physically, romantically, and sexually — that has always been much stronger than a woman’s is for a man. As evidenced by…
Read MoreI was surprised that you accused a person of lying and why are sexual issues talked about so much?
Question: Hi brother Hamilton, I was on your website earlier and I was kind of shocked at a response. For the date of 7/8, you answered/addressed one question about spilling seed. You accused the author of lying in your response which I didn’t understand. Maybe you were having a bad day. It just seemed out…
Read MoreIs the only way to have sex is if one is married?
Question: Good evening, I’m sure you get a lot of questions that are related to sexual intercourse and the like; however, it is difficult to fully grasp and understand the word of God when it doesn’t match the heart’s desires. What I’m asking is if the only way that one can have sexual intercourse is…
Read MoreI appreciate the way you answered a delicate question
Question: I appreciate the way you answered the question that was asked, “Is it a sin for a Christian woman to use a sex toy?” I was afraid to ask my pastor that question, and it has really been bothering me, I had gone to other websites and typed the question in, but no one…
Read MoreIs it wrong for a husband to lust for his wife?
Question: Dear Minister, My wife and I have grown distant over the years because she has had many anger issues, substance abuse problems, and trouble with the law. We have several beautiful children and have been married for almost 20 years. Even though she committed adultery on me several years ago, I still love her.…
Read MoreWhat can I do? My husband seems to have no desire for sex
Question: Hello, I am a woman and my question is regarding sexual lust and perversion; therefore, you can understand my asking you and not my home pastor, especially when most churches still regard women who struggle with these sorts of issues with a certain type of disdain. As were most females with my issues you…
Read MoreI’m not interested in getting married, but how do I deal with my sex drive?
Question: I am a 19-year-old college student, have never dated in my life, and am never planning to. I plan to go into the mission field once I graduate, and I have decided that it would probably be best to never marry in order to be able to focus on my ministry. However, I have…
Read MoreAbstinence Is Reasonable
by David Diestelkamp via Think on These Things “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication” (I Thessalonians 4:3). Society is totally confused. It wants people to be reasonable (thinking, logically) about sex. It wants them to think about civil law, time and place (decency), disease, pregnancy, “protection,”…
Read MoreI’m thinking about withholding sex from my wife because she had sex with another guy before we dated
Question: My wife and I have been together for a long time. We dated for five years before marriage. I am thinking of withholding sex from her permanently because I feel dirty every time we have sex. I keep feeling dirty after having sex with my wife because she slept with one guy before she…
Read MoreIs Dominate Submissive role-playing bad?
Question: What I am doing does not involve sex. I just want to make that part of it clear This is something that brings in fast money, and I’ve been doing it for almost a year. I just don’t want people thinking I’m having sex for money. Everything done is consensual and agreed upon before…
Read MoreMy wife has refused to have sex with me for years and I’m weakening
Question: Hello, I feel very ashamed to even write this, but I’ve been doing Google searches and scouring the Internet for answers. I would normally just ask a pastor from church, but I have a learning disorder or mental disability and everyone just writes me off as strange or stupid. Even pastors don’t want to take the time to…
Read MoreThere is a difference between immorality and sex
Question: You answered a question on your site regarding men seeking prostitutes and quoted Proverbs 7:24-27 as the answer. However, that verse was denouncing an adulterous woman behaving like a prostitute. Why didn’t you offer a better example as the young man asking the question had a very serious dilemma about the sex drive of…
Read MoreSex was never fun and I stopped having sex with my husband. Can I divorce him?
Question: I just read your article, Can a man divorce his wife for not having sex with him? I am a reborn child of God and married. We have children together. We haven’t had sexual relations since my smallest kid. I refuse because: We had, and still have, a lot of problems together with bad arguments, fights,…
Read MoreHow can I convince my husband that marriage is not about sex?
Question: Hello, and God bless! My question is a hard question, but I desperately need an answer. I’m a Christian and so is my husband. I have the most wonderful husband ever. He does so much for me and has sacrificed so much for me. He even sold or gave away everything he owned and…
Read MoreSince sex isn’t discussed, how is a couple to know what is or is not allowed in a marriage?
Question: Hello, While I agree completely with everything you said, I struggle with one thing, not about your answer but about sex in marriage. Sex is not discussed, in a church forum, publicly or privately, whether because of modesty, or embarrassment, etc. But as young couples, who come out of a world of sin and…
Read MoreAddiction
by William C. Sexton The word addiction is one we usually associate with drugs. An “addict” is defined as “one who has a confirmed habit, as the overuse of drugs…” (Webster’s). If we look, however, we can see that one can be addicted to almost anything; that is, to have a “confirmed habit.” I suggest…
Read MoreWhy do women so often say they are not interested in sex?
Question: Just recently I started recognizing in our communities statements about sex that are weird, and they come out from women. When the issue of sex comes up, the wives response would be something like “don’t dream of it tonight (though it might sound sarcastic, yet they manage to say it out)” or “this is…
Read MoreWill there be sex in heaven?
Question: My friend and I were up late recently. We like to have conversations on spiritual matters or currents debates. We started talking about what we imagine Heaven to be like. He mentioned there would be sex in heaven. I was so surprised. I asked him if he really thought there to be sex in…
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