Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
What do you do when your spouse continually overspends?
Question: What do you do when your spouse will not stop overspending and puts you into debt risking financial problems? I do not believe in divorce for this reason. Thanks! Answer: There are limits to what can be done, but there are measures you can take to reduce the damage. Normally I would expect a…
Read MoreIs it adultery to marry a guy who has a child but was never married?
Question: Hi, I am talking to a guy who has never been married but is a single father, having a child from a previous relationship. Would it be considered the sin of adultery if I were to ever marry him? I ask because the Scriptures talk about two joining together and becoming “one flesh”. I…
Read MoreWere Adam and Eve married?
Question: Hello! This might be a dumb question but someone brought it up today at school and it was a little confusing. If premarital sex is a sin, Adam and Eve weren’t married, and they had sex. So is that why we are all born in sin? Answer: Actually, it is a very good question.…
Read MoreAm I obligated to marry my fiance?
Question: I somehow made a complete mess of my life and I am hoping to get some perspective on my situation. I am 21 years old. I have been with a man for 4 years. I love him a lot, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with him. We are engaged to be married.…
Read MoreMy mother threatens not to attend my wedding if I marry my Catholic boyfriend
Question: Hi, I am a 20-year-old daughter and student, currently living with my mother. I have a brother whose age isn’t far different than mine. My parents divorced when we were little, and my mother gained custody of both of us. We’ve been living together since. She is a proud mother with a good constant…
Read MoreShould I have our child in his country or mine?
Question: Hello, I came across your website recently and I found the articles I read very helpful. I used to be a Christian, but in the last year or so I walked away from it. Honestly, I’m not sure how to start back in the situation I’m in. People are aware that I’m not involved in…
Read MoreShould I stay with my husband or give my children a safe and stable home?
Question: Hello, I am in need of advice. My husband and I have been married for two years. We have two sons together and I have an older son from a previous relationship. My husband is my first husband and I’m his first wife. He has been addicted to crack for years now. The day…
Read MoreWhy shouldn’t “only in the Lord” mean only marry a Christian?
Question: I want to thank you for the lesson Because of the Present Distress. My concern is that of the widow’s decision in I Corinthians 7:39-40. If Paul was not categorical about the term “only in the Lord” as to marrying only a Christian, contrasting your earlier lesson on marriage where you took to the…
Read MoreShould I get married now or wait until I’m financially stable?
Question: I am 21 years and have never been in a relationship before because I wanted to commit myself to achieve my objectives in life especially about having a solid financial and educational background. I took this decision because I come from a poor background and had always wished to come out from that situation…
Read MoreMy wife has refused to have sex with me for years and I’m weakening
Question: Hello, I feel very ashamed to even write this, but I’ve been doing Google searches and scouring the Internet for answers. I would normally just ask a pastor from church, but I have a learning disorder or mental disability and everyone just writes me off as strange or stupid. Even pastors don’t want to take the time to…
Read MoreI decided to get married even though my parents object. Am I wrong in seeking my own desire?
Question: I am a 25-year-old Christian. I recently graduated from a university. A year before graduation I met the man of my dreams. He was picked by God for me from among many others who wanted a marriage relationship. I asked God to choose for me in prayer and fasting and He did. Ever since…
Read MoreHow can I convince my husband that marriage is not about sex?
Question: Hello, and God bless! My question is a hard question, but I desperately need an answer. I’m a Christian and so is my husband. I have the most wonderful husband ever. He does so much for me and has sacrificed so much for me. He even sold or gave away everything he owned and…
Read MoreThe urge is getting really strong. Should I marry my girlfriend because of this?
Question: Hey, I’m a brother in the church, I’m 21 and I’m a virgin. I am struggling far as thoughts, urges, etc. It’s getting harder each year to contain. Each year the urge gets stronger. I have a girlfriend, she is in the church. She is a great help to the church, and she encourages…
Read MoreI married a woman to do the right thing, but now I regret it
Question: To make a long story short, 17 years ago I got a woman pregnant. I was living in one state, she was in another. I was there on a visit and had grown up there. I was not saved at the time. I felt guilty because I knew that the woman would drag my…
Read MoreWe didn’t have a wedding ceremony. Am I married?
Question: My case is the same with Am I married? but the difference is I am a woman. I knew it was wrong, but still, I already committed it with my boyfriend. Maybe I loved him or maybe I was infatuated with him. I don’t know because he’s the first man whom I ever felt something.…
Read MoreI had sex before with a different woman. Does that mean I’m committing adultery with the woman I am with?
Question: Please. Please, I have many things I have to ask. A woman took my virginity, but it was only for a night. I’m with a different woman now and have been with her for five years. Is that adultery? Answer: Fornication is when you have sex with someone you are not married to. Thus,…
Read MoreMy wife told me she had sex before we were married, and I can’t let it go
Question: We have been married for nearly 40 years. About two years ago, in an argument over needing to enjoy each other in bed while we can because someday we want to be able to, somehow things I didn’t know came out. When we started dating, my wife played the organ in a Baptist church.…
Read MoreDo I marry the woman from my church or the woman I never met but have talked to for 10 years?
Question: There is one woman that I love since I met her last ten years ago, though we could never meet outside. It’s like love at first sight. I don’t know why I fell for her, we’ve never been together, except chatting online, since she works in another country. I even couldn’t get a chance…
Read MoreHow can I know if I am meant to get married?
Question: Hello, I have a question regarding marriage. I like very much the idea of adopting, I am 22 years old right now, but I can’t wait to adopt! I know, I know, I must first secure a good home for the children to come; that is why I am studying both a career and…
Read MoreI engaged in immoral behavior with a woman. Does this mean I cannot marry?
Question: I’m a member of the church, but lately, I’ve made a poor, sinful choice by going somewhere I was tempted. I went to a massage parlor for the sole purpose of helping my body. Later during the massage, I engaged in some immoral foreplay activities with the woman there. I’ve been reflecting on my…
Read MoreHow do I treat my husband who has left God and the church?
Question: My husband has recently decided he no longer believes in a God. He has stopped going to services or anything to do with God. We have young children we homeschool and most of our work centers around God and His word. How do I parent and teach our children, whose father has fallen? How am…
Read MoreEven though I am no longer a Catholic, my boyfriend’s mother insists that he cannot marry a Catholic or a former Catholic.
Question: Dear Minister, I have just read your page regarding the question, “Do you think a Protestant can marry a Catholic?” It answered some facets of my own question, but it is not exactly what I need to know. I was born and raised a Catholic, but never felt any deep and abiding spiritual nourishment…
Read MoreHow can I wait three years to get married?
Question: I have been dating my boyfriend for two and a half years now. We are both Christians and both want and work toward a marriage. We believe sex belongs in a marriage and want to keep it like this until we marry. I’ve come to a point where I want to get married because…
Read MoreAm I married because I did sexual acts with my girlfriend?
Question: I am 21 years old. I have been dating a girl my same age for about 6 months. We are both baptized Christians but have made serious mistakes. About a month ago, she gave me a hand-job. This happened three times but after the third time, I felt awful about it and have told…
Read MoreMy girlfriend can’t get an ID, so we can’t get a marriage certificate. Should we get married without the government being involved?
Question: Hello, I am concerned about a marriage oath before God. My girlfriend’s birth certificate and social security card have two different last names due to her mother’s error 20 years ago. Everyone in the system gives her the runaround and we cannot get this fixed. Because of this, she cannot obtain an i.d.; therefore,…
Read MoreDoes God join all marriages or only some?
Question: “What God has joined together let no man put asunder.” Because of this scripture, I recently heard someone say that God doesn’t join all marriages. Is this true and under what circumstances will He not? (This excludes gay marriage or people remarrying) And if God doesn’t join a marriage does that mean the couple is…
Read MoreIs it wrong to marry a non-believer?
Question: “While it is not generally advisable to marry someone who is not a Christian, it is not wrong either.” You mentioned this in your answer and this is the first time I heard a Christian advisor giving such advice. I came to know the Lord years ago. Several years ago I drifted away, and I was engaged…
Read MoreCould children’s pretend marriage ceremonies be considered real?
Question: Hi, I can’t even believe I am asking this, but I’ve been anxious about doing the right thing lately and have been reading your page a lot. When my husband was a child, his parents held a joke wedding ceremony between him and another little girl. They were no more than 5 or 6…
Read MoreSince a couple can’t get married for a while, should they break up?
Question: Hello sir, I’ve always found your advice useful and I hope you may help out. There is someone who is in a long-distance relationship. At the beginning of the relationship, the lady went off to college in a different country while the guy stayed behind. At present, she has four more years to complete.…
Read MoreWhy doesn’t God restore my marriage?
Question: I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for putting the article, The Awful Aftermath of Adultery, on the Internet. My wife committed adultery over 30 years ago with a man while she was in the military. She told me she did nothing wrong. She places all the blame on me and then…
Read MoreShould I convert to marry my Muslim boyfriend?
Question: I am in my later twenties. I have a problem. I was born a Christian. My boyfriend is a Muslim. we’ve dated for almost 4 years now. We are at the level that we should get married now. My parents don’t like him and they wanted us to break up. And his parents stated…
Read MoreIs it a sin to marry after having sex?
Question: I have one question for you because I’m really confused about what to decide. Please help me. My question is that my girlfriend and I plan to marry next year. We are both Christian, but we have already been having sex. I never had sex with another woman and she has only had sex…
Read MoreHow do we handle getting married when we are from two different countries?
Question: Hi, God bless you! My girlfriend and I are Christians. We have been together for two years now, and everything is going great so far. We have never had any time of sexual intercourse or anything related to it. We are planning on getting married right after graduating from college, which is about three…
Read MoreDoes God choose spouses for us? Does the church decide who we marry?
Question: I’ve been wondering, does God really choose spouses for us, or does He show us the person who will marry us? My church leaders are against my boyfriend marrying me because they say I’m not good enough for him. He is now confused and doesn’t know whether or not to continue, I love him…
Read MoreWas it God’s will that I married this woman?
Question: Hello, I do not know if you’ll have time to reading and answer my email. Sincerely I hope you can. When I lived all alone in a foreign country the Lord arrested me from my folly and ignorant way of life and showed me salvation. I was in my thirties at the time, living…
Read MoreMy husband returned to his country and refuses to allow me to join him
Question: Hello, My husband left me a year ago. He returned to his country. He did not want me there, so he changed his mind and wanted me there. I went, spent some time with him, but I did not like it so I returned to my country. Eventually, I realized I should be obedient…
Read MoreMy parents won’t approve of my marriage. What do I do?
Question: Please, I am 23 and my girlfriend is 21. We are both Christians and do not do any silly thing that God is against. My parents are not Christians and uneducated but have put in all efforts for me to get a formal education. My problem is that they won’t endorse my relationship with…
Read MoreI sinned with my girlfriend. I want to marry her, but my parents don’t agree. Will God support my marriage if I marry her anyway?
Question: Dear sir, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend. We have had all types of physical sexual relations except deep penetration. I know I am sinning and have been trying to get away from it, as I am going far from God. I acknowledge that God has been kind to me in many…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My parents won’t allow me to marry the man I love
Question: I come from a Christian family. I’m lost, I’m confused, I’m miserable. It’s a very long story, hope you can bear with me. I’m 29 years old. Two years ago, I committed fornication with my boyfriend, whom I had known for about two years at that time. We just started a relationship not long…
Read MoreWhy Get Married?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/WhyGetMarried.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Genesis 2:18-24 I. Society’s attitude toward marriage has changed drastically over the last few decades. A. Fewer people are marrying while at the same time homosexuals are demanding the right to marry. B. I’ve been told in recent years: 1. “My parents divorced. I don’t want to put my kids through that,…
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