Posts Tagged ‘marriage’
Could children’s pretend marriage ceremonies be considered real?
Question: Hi, I can’t even believe I am asking this, but I’ve been anxious about doing the right thing lately and have been reading your page a lot. When my husband was a child, his parents held a joke wedding ceremony between him and another little girl. They were no more than 5 or 6…
Read MoreSince a couple can’t get married for a while, should they break up?
Question: Hello sir, I’ve always found your advice useful and I hope you may help out. There is someone who is in a long-distance relationship. At the beginning of the relationship, the lady went off to college in a different country while the guy stayed behind. At present, she has four more years to complete.…
Read MoreWhy doesn’t God restore my marriage?
Question: I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for putting the article, The Awful Aftermath of Adultery, on the Internet. My wife committed adultery over 30 years ago with a man while she was in the military. She told me she did nothing wrong. She places all the blame on me and then…
Read MoreShould I convert to marry my Muslim boyfriend?
Question: I am in my later twenties. I have a problem. I was born a Christian. My boyfriend is a Muslim. we’ve dated for almost 4 years now. We are at the level that we should get married now. My parents don’t like him and they wanted us to break up. And his parents stated…
Read MoreIs it a sin to marry after having sex?
Question: I have one question for you because I’m really confused about what to decide. Please help me. My question is that my girlfriend and I plan to marry next year. We are both Christian, but we have already been having sex. I never had sex with another woman and she has only had sex…
Read MoreHow do we handle getting married when we are from two different countries?
Question: Hi, God bless you! My girlfriend and I are Christians. We have been together for two years now, and everything is going great so far. We have never had any time of sexual intercourse or anything related to it. We are planning on getting married right after graduating from college, which is about three…
Read MoreDoes God choose spouses for us? Does the church decide who we marry?
Question: I’ve been wondering, does God really choose spouses for us, or does He show us the person who will marry us? My church leaders are against my boyfriend marrying me because they say I’m not good enough for him. He is now confused and doesn’t know whether or not to continue, I love him…
Read MoreWas it God’s will that I married this woman?
Question: Hello, I do not know if you’ll have time to reading and answer my email. Sincerely I hope you can. When I lived all alone in a foreign country the Lord arrested me from my folly and ignorant way of life and showed me salvation. I was in my thirties at the time, living…
Read MoreMy husband returned to his country and refuses to allow me to join him
Question: Hello, My husband left me a year ago. He returned to his country. He did not want me there, so he changed his mind and wanted me there. I went, spent some time with him, but I did not like it so I returned to my country. Eventually, I realized I should be obedient…
Read MoreMy parents won’t approve of my marriage. What do I do?
Question: Please, I am 23 and my girlfriend is 21. We are both Christians and do not do any silly thing that God is against. My parents are not Christians and uneducated but have put in all efforts for me to get a formal education. My problem is that they won’t endorse my relationship with…
Read MoreI sinned with my girlfriend. I want to marry her, but my parents don’t agree. Will God support my marriage if I marry her anyway?
Question: Dear sir, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend. We have had all types of physical sexual relations except deep penetration. I know I am sinning and have been trying to get away from it, as I am going far from God. I acknowledge that God has been kind to me in many…
Read MoreWhat do I do? My parents won’t allow me to marry the man I love
Question: I come from a Christian family. I’m lost, I’m confused, I’m miserable. It’s a very long story, hope you can bear with me. I’m 29 years old. Two years ago, I committed fornication with my boyfriend, whom I had known for about two years at that time. We just started a relationship not long…
Read MoreWhy Get Married?
https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/WhyGetMarried.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Genesis 2:18-24 I. Society’s attitude toward marriage has changed drastically over the last few decades. A. Fewer people are marrying while at the same time homosexuals are demanding the right to marry. B. I’ve been told in recent years: 1. “My parents divorced. I don’t want to put my kids through that,…
Read MoreWhy does my wife despise me?
Question: I desperately need godly counsel concerning my marriage. Let me start out by setting up the scenario first. I met my wife at church when I was a teenager. We were friends for the first few years, then started dating, and then got engaged. She is the only woman I have ever dated or…
Read MoreShould we move near each other before getting married?
Question: Hello, I need some advice. You see, my girlfriend and I have been friends for a while. We prayed together and made sure we were the ones for each other before we did anything. Our relationship is definitely God-centered. It’s so amazing! But we are in a long-distance relationship. I live in a different…
Read MoreMust you marry in the church you attend?
Question: Is it compulsory to marry in the church you attend? Why? Answer: Marriage has existed from the time the world was created (Genesis 2:24). It is not defined by any church or denomination. It was given to all of mankind and existed long before the church. Where a couple gets married makes no difference.…
Read MoreTraditional Marriage
by Doy Moyer What bothers me about “traditional” marriage is the terminology in the debate. There is nothing wrong with tradition. Tradition is something established that is handed down through time, and certainly, marriage is that. It is something that is customary, and marriage is surely that, too. But when we place something in the…
Read MoreWhat can a wife do to improve her marriage?
Question: I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your web site. I have read your notes on Solomon, the glue in a marriage, and lots of other things. Could I ask you to please give me some more information on how men truly desire to be treated in marriage?…
Read MoreIs it wrong to find your own mate?
Question: Hi, I am extremely thankful for your guidance in my spiritual life. But until we die, we have to keep fighting Satan. Things could have been gone easily, but they are not. I was brought up in a very reserved family. I am not comfortable talking freely to my parents. My parents are planning…
Read MoreMy wife is abusive and I cannot live with her anymore. What do I do?
Question: My wife of over thirty years and I have been working on serious relational issues for a long time. She was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive over most of those years, and counselors have suggested she has some light form of paranoia and other mental issues. I tend to think there is a stronger…
Read MoreI married a man, not realizing what he was like or what his past was. What do I do?
Question: I got married several years ago to someone that I really didn’t know. We met in the fall and married the following summer. It was one of the most foolish things that I have done, and have regretted it every single day. I believed he was a Christian. He lied about who he was…
Read MoreDo you need her parent’s blessing before marrying?
Question: Hi, I am 22, Christian, (raised and worshiping in a non-denominational church of Christ, actually), and have a bit of a conundrum. I apologize for the lengthy staging here. I met the girl I want to marry. She is a baptized Christian, also 22, but was raised in a stricter sect of the Mennonites.…
Read MoreIs it sinful to not want to have children?
Question: I was wondering if it’s sinful for a woman not to ever want to have children? Answer: A person has the right to choose to get married or not. That choice comes with consequences since sex is only allowed within a marriage. “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is…
Read MoreMy husband has gotten involved in drugs and gambling. What do I do?
Question: My husband and I have been married for twenty years. We have four children together. Two of them are grown with their own families now, but two of them are still at home. During the first part of our marriage, my husband was a wonderful father and husband but for the past seven years,…
Read MoreWe want to marry, but we can’t afford to lose benefits
Question: What does a very obedient Christian couple do when they are living together and willfully obeying God and not having sex, who desperately want to be married but cannot due to one of them being on SSI? The other person cannot support the other person and that money that is given every month, even…
Read MoreIf someone wasn’t in a good mental state when getting married, is the marriage still valid?
Question: If someone was diagnosed with depression, and post-traumatic stress, and were put on meds like Zoloft and Lyrica for chronic pain, and the meds made them crazy, are they really responsible for their actions? If someone got married in that kind of mental state is that marriage still valid in the eyes of God?…
Read MoreIs it a problem to marry a man of a different belief than your own?
Question: I’m 22 years old. The first time I was involved in sexual sin with a guy, I thought I would marry, but it didn’t work out. I have a different boyfriend now, and we have slept together a lot of times. But I decided I couldn’t continue this life of sin, and I decided…
Read MoreTwo Women
by Linda Maydell Sally Sally (not her real name) had just heard the gospel, and she realized that she was not saved! Sally really wanted to be baptized. However, what troubled her was that she first needed to repent (make a commitment in her heart to stop sinning). She knew if she were baptized without…
Read MoreWhat do you say to a person who couldn’t marry because of the financial costs from the loss of insurance?
Question: I was listening to a conversation between two people describing the situation of a new believer, a woman with many physical problems and high medical bills. The woman has been living with the father of her children for 30 years. They are not married because his insurance would never accept her, so in order…
Read MoreIs the law of marriage and divorce that Jesus taught for the church or universal?
Question: My wife last husband wanted to divorce her on irreconcilable differences. He changed his mind and said to her he wanted to work things out, she refused and wanted to proceed with the divorce because of the abuse and adultery, he also had another child outside their marriage. They proceeded with the divorce under…
Read MoreIs it useless to pray for a wife?
Question: When it comes to marriage, I know that we are the ones who chose who we are with. I know that God did not make nor designed a special person for you and there are millions of people on the planet with which we can possibly be happy. So is praying for a wife…
Read MoreNow that my husband has died, can I marry the man I committed adultery with?
Question: I have committed adultery against my husband. He has since died. If I marry the man that I committed adultery with, am I free to marry him? He is single. He knew I was married at the time this happened. Is he an adulterer? If we decide to marry will God recognize and accept…
Read MoreThis teaching on Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing!
Question: This teaching on the Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing! My husband and I have been married for six years and are going through some challenges sexually. Where can I find more teachings broken down just like this one but on other subjects? Answer: The entire website contains information on a wide variety of topics,…
Read MoreI encourage you to remove “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage” from your website
Question: The article by Mark Broyles, “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage,” on your website is spreading a myth – short of being able to mind-control your spouse, there is no way to prevent an affair. One’s partner can do anything they choose to do. I encourage you to remove the article. It’s poor to see shoddy theology…
Read MoreIs Paul talking only about unequal yoking in II Corinthians 6:14?
Question: I must question slightly your discourse about II Corinthians and marriage. I am pleased that you do not recommend anyone marry an unbeliever. And you are correct that many will ignore that advice. The part I question is that you read something into the scripture that isn’t there and have overlooked your own quote of…
Read MoreHow do I handle a husband with a drinking problem?
Question: Hi, I am a member of the Lord’s church, as well as my husband. We have been married for about five years with a couple of kids. When we first move to where we currently live, we both attended church; fast forward a year later, he started hanging out with friends who drank, and…
Read MoreIf a guy is drunk at his wedding, is he really married?
Question: My “soulmate” had gotten himself in a messy situation about ten years ago. We had been dating but had split due to distance. While I was gone he started seeing another girl (at the time he was 18) whom he slept with. When I returned, however, he told me that it was me he…
Read MoreWhat do we do if he can’t afford the dowry (Lobola)?
Question: I have been dating this man for the past three years, and I love him so much. We grew up together in the church but we started dating when I was in my early twenties. He was supposed to pay a dowry (lobola) but he lost his job. This happened again this year, but…
Read MoreIf I dream a woman wanted me, does it not mean we are married?
Question: I was in a dream one night and saw a lady in my church trying to sleep with me. I ran away from her but she was desperate. Her younger brother, with her in that dream, was asking me why I don’t want to marry his sister. Physically, she was not the one I…
Read MoreMy boyfriend has been cheating on me, but now he wants to get married and I don’t know if I should
Question: How do I continue with the father of my two children, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 13 years and just found out he might be the father of a baby whose mother is the person I found him cheating on me with two years ago? Do I believe his story about…
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